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Homophobia totally the fault of straight women, according to Men’s Rights Redditors

Men forced into macho straightjacked by straight women's expectations, out cruising for chicks.
Men forced into hypermasculine role by straight women, out cruising for chicks.

So we learned the other day from that Man Going His Own Way that male violence was, like, totally the fault of evil sexy ladies. Now, from this Men’s Rights Redditor, we learn that homophobia — or at least homophobia directed at gay men — is all the fault of straight women and their desire for macho dudes. Because straight men don’t ever express any sort of hostility towards gay or effeminate men — it’s just those darn ladies!

I've said this many times in different circumstances, but I fully believe the push for hyper-masculinity is not caused by a desire to prove masculinity to ones peers or caused by some latent homophobia. The cause of hyper-masculinity and its associated homophobic undertones is caused by straight women and what they as a group have deemed "totally unacceptable" in a mate.  Appearing gay (I'm gay) has never really caused me any heartache within a group of men. Even if those men don't know I'm gay and just think I'm an effeminate weirdo. In mixed groups of men and women, it has. I think it stems from female judgement of men who aren't "masculine enough" to be inferior for relationships, men pick up on it and boost up the masculinity and inter-male aggression/intolerance of behaviors not considered normal.  It also comes from widespread female intolerance of any sort of homosexual or "appearing homosexual" behavior in potential mates, an intolerance which isn't found among men. Ask any straight man you know if he would dump his girlfriend/wife if he found out she had lesbian sex before they were dating. Now ask any straight woman you know if she would dump her boyfriend/husband if she found out he had gay sex before they were dating. I have asked these questions to many people. The answers have always backed up my position. I actually had a couple women tell me that they would leave their husbands if they found out that he had fooled around with a guy as young as highschool.
But, huh, what about all those straight dudes who are always calling other dudes “gay” and, you know, that other word that starts with an “f?”

Well, apparently that’s just playful joshing. No harm, no foul! If anything, it shows how wonderfully tolerant of gayness these guys are. I mean, come on, if you can’t see this, you must be stupid, or something. Or so says this other Men’s Rights Redditor:

It takes some advanced cognitive ability to comprehend why most men tease one another for being gay. It has little to do with homosexuality, real or perceived. It is about acceptance. It is also about challenging perception. When one man calls his friend "gay", he is playfully asserting his own dominance over his friend. He is also insinuating not only that he would still accept and love his friend, but also that he recognizes that everyone's at least a little gay, and that they have both grown out of any childish notions of homosexuality being bad and thereby being hurt by being called "gay". They are sharing a bonding experience of mutual acceptance, playfulness, and even affection through this social ritual. One could even suggest that faux male gay shaming is a method of expressing homosexuality in a manner that rates low enough on the kinsey scale to suit their comfort.  Or we could just take it at face value and refuse to explore the psychodynamic behind the process. It seems more convenient when obtuseness is a preferred weapon.

They’re just having a little fun. You’re not against fun, are you?

Thanks to the AgainstMen’sRights subreddit for pointing me to these quotes.

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Kittehserf
11 years ago
Kittehserf
11 years ago

Also, this. Because Patrick Stewart. And kitties.

neuroticbeagle
11 years ago

@Kittehs
LOL. I think it is too late for me (though my furry overlord is canine).

Wetherby
Wetherby
11 years ago

I can’t imagine being in a relationship with someone who considers you subhuman.

Neither can I. So it’s probably just as well that that’s never happened to me.

God knows I have to face enough hideous challenges every day merely through being a white heterosexual male from a reasonably comfortable background. I can barely walk to the end of my street without feeling oppressed.

Aruba
Aruba
11 years ago

I see Clyde hasn’t answered my question. I’m not surprised.

spukikitty
11 years ago

MRAs – Poster children for “INSANE TROLL LOGIC”.

pecunium
11 years ago

Clyde: it’s very difficult for men- especially white men- to engage in a heterosexual relationship without accepting emotional abuse and demeaning behavior from a misandrist partner who sees them as less than fully human.

Dafuq?

Apparently, in roughly thirty years of engaging in romantic/sexual relationships with feminist women, all I’ve found are the outliers, who think men are people too.

Or, you’re full of shit.

Perhaps it’s harder for men who see women as somehow inferior to find women who see that as a virtue, and so treat them with the slavish, and self-abnegating, attentions those men demand.

Howard Bannister
11 years ago

Clyde started from this point.

it’s very difficult for men- especially white men- to engage in a heterosexual relationship without accepting emotional abuse and demeaning behavior from a misandrist partner who sees them as less than fully human.

Needless to say, this is purest projection.

Who’s trying to take the right to vote from men? Hmm, nope, nobody.

MRAs, though? Here, have a few posts from this very blog documenting MRAs who are against the right of woemn to vote.

Oh, hey, there’s a tag! You can look up examples yourself!

Tell me again who sees who as “less than human.”

Howard Bannister
11 years ago

Woemn–that’s women who are crying currently, right?

pecunium
11 years ago

Clyde: I can’t imagine being in a relationship with someone who considers you subhuman.

Then why do you think women (esp. feminist women) would want to be in a relationship with an MRA?

What do you think this, “men, esp. white ones are full human,” means?

How are white men made inferior?

What are the forms of their oppression?

pecunium
11 years ago

Clyde: Let me help you. I did some (minor) editing of your thought:

I would ask people to seriously consider, if they want to enter into an intimate heterosexual relationship with someone who considers them subhuman privileged/oppressors. It’s not emotionally healthy. Consciousness raising is the first step.

Does that help? You think women are privilege oppressors. That’s your problem.

As I said, I’ve been having relationships with women (a lot more than you would think… many of them are completely a-romantic, just colleagues/friends/coworkers/students/teachers), and I’ve not suffered from this problem you aver is so widespread.

It causes me to think you might be in error.

auggziliary
auggziliary
11 years ago

Dude, men are not the oppressors, patriarchy is.

GreySky
GreySky
11 years ago

It’s amusing to me that he can’t comprehend a difference between being given an advantage and actively working to take and keep advantages for yourself.

Also, as a white woman with an education and a job, I’m pretty privileged too. Doesn’t make me subhuman – just means I’m privileged compared to a lot of other people in this world, and I recognize that.

GreySky
GreySky
11 years ago

Erhmm, meant to say “Spot on, Katz”

The Black Fedora
The Black Fedora
11 years ago

The underlying truth that comes from this thread is that women cannot understand what happens withing all male groups. It is not their fault particularly but it is so.

Healthy women realize this and are curious to a degree but feminists are threatened by it because these groups are outside of their control. They therefore seek to shut them down and/or make up things about them.

It used to work. Not now.

Aruba
Aruba
11 years ago

Clyde, I’ll ask again. How has anybody treated you (or straight white men in general) as less than human?

pecunium
11 years ago

Blacky: The underlying truth that comes from this thread is that women cannot understand what happens withing all male groups. It is not their fault particularly but it is so.

Whoa… so I’m a woman now? My beloved will be so surprised to learn this.

Aruba
Aruba
11 years ago

Ha! Fedora, we’re all asking Clyde what is he talking about. I am being curious. I actually used this word -curious- the first time I asked Clyde what makes him think that straight white men are treated as less than human. I am skeptic about his reasons to think that way, but I’m not shutting him down, I want him to explain.

Aruba
Aruba
11 years ago

Also, Fedora, you never answer to Pecunium’s questions. Why is that?

kiki
kiki
11 years ago

As he’s here, I’d just like to say that Fedora’s comment the other day that ‘You never see MGOTWs organising slutwalks’ is a definite frontrunner for Stupidest Thing I Have Ever Read On The Internet – and as I’m sure you’re all aware, this is a pretty crowded field. In fact, Stupidest Thing Fedora Has Ever Said is a pretty crowded field. Or Stupidest Thing Fedora Has Said Today, for that matter.

The Black Fedora
The Black Fedora
11 years ago

Aruba

Clyde has already told you what he is talking about. He is giving you a look into the way life appears to many men. It is clear enough to me because I share his experiences.

You have shared some of yours. They are outside of my experience but I took the trouble of considering them.

Unfortunately because you have taken the feminist toxin you cannot consider that men have the same internal lives as women. We are all supposed to be a bit less human I suppose.

Actually men hurt too.

Howard Bannister
11 years ago


Blacky: The underlying truth that comes from this thread is that women cannot understand what happens withing all male groups. It is not their fault particularly but it is so.

Whoa… so I’m a woman now? My beloved will be so surprised to learn this.

There’s going to be some confusion around Casa Bannister as well.

(house Bannister: we may pay our debts, if we can find the money!)

Shiraz
Shiraz
11 years ago

Wait, what?

“The underlying truth that comes from this thread is that women cannot understand what happens withing all male groups.”

Did you mean, “…what happens within male groups…” ? If so, what happens within male groups? What are you talking about?

“It is not their fault particularly but it is so.”

What is so?

“Healthy women realize this and are curious to a degree but feminists are threatened by it…”

Threatened by what? Go ahead and be as descriptive as you want.

“…because these groups are outside of their control. They therefore seek to shut them down and/or make up things about them.”

Do you mean when MRAs or whatever post sexist things? And then uppity women respond by saying/posting, “Hey, that’s sexist, buddy.”

Please, use your words.

Howard Bannister
11 years ago

Healthy women realize this and are curious to a degree but feminists are threatened by it because these groups are outside of their control. They therefore seek to shut them down and/or make up things about them.

BlackHat, a challenge: who’s shutting down who? Who is trying to take the vote from men? Why do men keep trying to take it from women? Why do MRAs harp on it?

YOU ARE PROJECTING.

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