In a post ostensibly about the imminent arrival of female Viagra, our dear friend JudgyBitch weighs in on yet another subject about which she knows shit: the reasons that women who are not her might not want to have sex with their husbands:
Loss of libido in women, excepting rare medical conditions, in my opinion, is a direct result of not seeing men as emotionally complex beings. If you’re married, at some point, your husband probably stood in front of you and promised to love you forever. Rejecting him physically is a very wounding thing to do. It hurts. Sex is one of the most important, intimate ways married couples show that they love one another. Refusing to have sex with your husband is telling him, in a very painful way, that you don’t love him. That you don’t care for him or about him.
Huh. If I hadn’t seen her on video, thus confirming her status as an adult human female, I would have a hard time believing that it was an actual woman saying this and not some horny, creepy teenage boy in the process of trying to manipulate his girlfriend into “going all the way.”
Oh, but she’s got more:
I guess the only way to justify that is to think of men as emotionless. It doesn’t hurt men to be rejected because they don’t feel anything to begin with.
Really? The only way to justify saying “no” to your husband when you don’t want to have sex with him is if you convince yourself he’s emotionless? But women should just force themselves to say “yes” to sex when they don’t want to and simply endure what follows?
That’s the ugly little reality behind female viagara. Will it actually boost women’s libido? Who knows. What difference will it make, though, if women are going to continue to see men as less than completely human? That’s the real problem.
Does anyone know where to get irony meters at a reasonable price? Mine just leapt off the table, ran around the room screaming, and exploded.
augzz — that’s awful, but there’s no way of knowing what he’s done, call a suidice helpline — they may have advice on how to get in touch with people who can help in his area
Also I can’t do international calls. Fuck.
called suicide hotline. They didn’t know what to do. I did however find his sister on facebook. I messaged her asking if he was OK, and I really don’t want to remind her, if he is actually dead.
I haven’t tried it for a few months, but maybe you can use google phone? (or whatever it’s called)
I used to make international calls for free with it when I was broke, you can call directly unto a phone line unlike free skype.
I don’t know your situation, but I hope this helps.
*virtual hugs*
Thank you all for your help and concern though.
So, basically, she believes that women have no internal life at all? Everything we feel, think, or do is just a reaction to something some guy did?
“I called suicide hotline. They didn’t know what to do. I did however find his sister on facebook. I messaged her asking if he was OK, and I really don’t want to remind her, if he is actually dead.”
I wouldn’t worry about reminding her. If he did kill himself and she knows about it yet I’m sure that’s all she’s thinking about anyway. At the very least I think you contacting her know someone outside the family cares, and/or you clued her into what is going on with him, and whether he’s alive or dead that can be hugely helpful. I send healing vibes to you and them . . .
augg, let us know when you hear back. and hugs if you want them.
“let her know someone” that should read . . I really need to be more careful about this non-editable comments . . .
auggziliary, all the hugs. 🙁
On JB … has it ever occurred to her that people’s libido levels vary? Not just between individuals, but over one person’s life? Or is she up there with that more mealy-mouthed misogynist Bettina Arndt, who so kindly acknowledges that women might be tired or stressed or simply not in the mood, but should have sex whether they want to or not because otherwise they’re being cruel to their poor husbands? What sort of gobshites do they think the men in these scenarios are, who are so focussed on their precious erections that they don’t care whether they’re raping someone or not? Yeah, it’s not women-in-general talking as if men are sexbots with no feelings, JB. It’s misogynists talking about men that way but making women suffer for it.
This particular JB rant could be summed up as “men are emotionally complex beings, and women who are emotionally complex beings are misandrist bitches”.
No sex from wifey? That’s a Male’s Right Issue®
By the way I hope you’re okay and he’s okay, Auggz. Why is he suicidal?
auggziliary, we should probably move this discussion to the open thread for personal stuff, so it won’t get mixed up with discussion of the post,
http://manboobz.com/2013/05/06/open-thread-for-personal-stuff/
hope you’re doing ok.
::reads title::
Oh joy this won’t be good…
@auggziliary
Oh fuck that’s horrible. 🙁 All the internet hugs if you want them.
The truth is that female sociopaths manipulate a males natural sexual desire in order to deceive him into placing himself into a position of being raped of his financial resources. Unfortunately her deception – intentional sexual fraud – only comes to light after the marriage ceremony; when there is no longer any incentive for the female sociopath to actually engage in the sex for which her husband has been induced – hoodwinked – into paying dearly for.
Of course what frightens today’s female sociopaths – feminists – more that anything else is that, as men become more aware of the modern day female sociopath’s propensity to financially rape the men in their lives, they tend to walk away from not just marriage but intimate relationships with women who are not sociopaths as well. Thus severely curtailing the power these female sociopaths have over their lives by simply choosing to not want them and by refusing to let them wreck havoc on their personal lives. Which has of course forced more female sociopaths then ever to rely upon false accusations of sexual harassment and rape; in order to “Financially Rape’ by proxy those males who refuse to be financially taken advantage of under normal circumstances.
Auggz, I’m so sorry. If it were me I’d drop his sister a line and ask if he’s OK. If not you’re unlikely to make it worse by offering condolences and e-hugs and if he is then she’ll be able to put your mind at rest.
I know that lines on a page are all we can offer a netfriend but you’d be surprised how helpful those words can be. I speak from experience here.
“Financially rape?” Fuck off.
Wow, boring troll here:
Grownups use their words, fool. If a man isn’t getting as much sex as he wants he can say so. Also, learn what rape means. Also, step on a lego
Funny little imaginary world you live in.
and bla bla bla you’re boring.
David M. Green, Yes, there are like a dozen American men boycotting all American women, and obsessing about it on the internet. The rest of the human race is going about our business, completely unaware of you all.
But… nice vest.
Don’t be so harsh Marie, he’s an artist in torment. He’s got a poem about this on his blog:
zzzz…
“female sociopaths – feminists”
I’m sorry, but I am not a sociopath. I am a feminist.
And given that the National Institute of Mental Health says only 1% of the population are sociopaths……I’d say that all feminists are NOT sociopaths. Way to ignore the points made in this thread.
Mr. Green does more than just poetry. He’s got a wonderful short story too about how a man finally gets the freedom he deserves after his wife and mistress die in quicksand.
You know a story is good when it’s got quicksand.
Wow David, I’m not sure If I should be laughing or horrified by this post.
The idea that anyone is in any way obligated to have sex regardless of their own desires…well, frankly I don’t get it. Saying “no” to your partner for whatever reason is the right of every human being. It’s not a rejection it’s just a “later when I’m feeling like it, or when
I’m not so tired, or not so ill ” or whatever. What kind of person would want to have sex with a partner who’s not into it or is only doing it as some kind of marital duty? Ugh!
And yes, there are a great many illnesses and medications that can shut your libido down completely. Some anti-depressants can do it, chemotherapy probably will do it (I can attest to that one personally) and I’m sure there are plenty of others. It means nothing other than that you don’t want sex right now. And to be frank, if my husband had asked for sex while I was on chemotherapy or after surgery I’d have been both angry and hurt. But, like the decent and loving man he is he did no such thing and that strengthened our marriage (along with all the other things he did for me), it didn’t damage it.
But people really don’t need to make excuses, either partner can say no at any time, for any reason and that’s a good thing, not some kind of rejection or betrayal. It’s just part of the give and take that exists within a good marriage.
I really don’t think that JB has a clue what she’s on about.
He’s single ladies!
(quicksand reached its apogee on Mario Bros. 3, it’s been going downhill ever since)