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Hypergamy: How the harebrained notions of white nationalist F. Roger Devlin took the Manosphere by storm

Hypergamy in action?
How manosphere doofuses think the world actually works.

Another in an ongoing series of posts on seminal works in the manosphere canon, as it were. At some point, I’ll make a page for these.

Like Warren Farrell’s The Myth of Male Power, F. Roger Devlin’s 2006 essay Sexual Utopia in Power (downloadable here) is a kind of Manospherian urtext, an original source of many of the terrible ideas that are now accepted as gospel wherever misogynists gather in large numbers online. Though the name of Devlin is hardly as well known as that of Farrell, many of his ideas, most notably his reworked notion of “hypergamy” — which we will get to in a minute — are omnipresent in the manosphere.

Among misogynists with intellectual pretensions, Devlin’s Sexual Utopia is considered a must-read. Originally brought to the attention of fellow manospherians by PUA pseudointellectual Roissy — now Heartiste — in 2007, the essay has received lavish praise on such familiar sites as The Spearhead (where WF Price praised Devlin’s “critiques of feminism” as “some of the best out there”) and A Voice for Men (where one post described the essay as “supremely indispensable.”)  It’s listed in the sidebar of The Red Pill subreddit as “required reading.” And Norwegian MRA Eivind Berge gushed that the essay was

possibly the best article I have ever read. My blogging against feminism is almost redundant after F. Roger Devlin has put it so well.

So what exactly are all these guys falling over themselves to praise so highly? To put it bluntly, a strange and sprawling compendium of ideas that range from frankly abhorrent to merely silly, motivated by misogyny and racism. Virtually none of the essay’s many gross generalizations about women (or men) are supported by any sort of evidence.

And did I mention that it originally ran in a white nationalist journal?

Yes, “Sexual Utopia in Power” originally ran in The Occidental Quarterly, an explicitly racist journal that described its mission as protecting “the civilization and free governments that whites have created” from the rise of the evil non-white hordes. Indeed, Devlin is on the editorial advisory board of the journal, which currently features an article on its site praising Disney’s Snow White as “a White Nationalist classic.”

While the bulk of Devlin’s essay deals with gender, not race, it is framed — in the very first sentence — by his concern over what he calls the “catastrophic decline” of “white birthrates worldwide.” In other words, no one who has read his article, even if they don’t know what the Occidental Quarterly is, can possibly miss Devlin’s fundamental racism (which is spelled out even more explicitly at the end of this piece).

There is so much in Devlin’s essay that is so objectionable that it cannot fit in a single post, so today I will focus only on his reworked notion of “hypergamy.”

The term was originally a technical way of saying “marrying up” — that is, “the act or practice of marrying a spouse of higher caste or status than oneself,” as Wikipedia rather unromantically puts it.

In Devlin’s hands, the term comes to mean something entirely different:

It is sometimes said that men are polygamous and women monogamous. …

It would be more accurate to say that the female sexual instinct is hypergamous. Men may have a tendency to seek sexual variety, but women have simple tastes in the manner of Oscar Wilde: They are always satisfied with the best. By definition, only one man can be the best. These different male and female “sexual orientations” are clearly seen among the lower primates, e.g., in a baboon pack. Females compete to mate at the top, males to get to the top.

This may sound vaguely familiar to you. Brian Eno once said of the Velvet Underground’s first album that only 30,000 people may have bought copies of it, but “everyone who bought one of those 30,000 copies started a band.” Similarly, everyone who has read Devlin seems to have started a blog or YouTube channel.

Women, in fact, have a distinctive sexual utopia corresponding to their hypergamous instincts. In its purely utopian form, it has two parts: First, she mates with her incubus, the imaginary perfect man; and, second, he “commits,” or ceases mating with all other women. This is the formula of much pulp romance fiction. The fantasy is strictly utopian, partly because no perfect man exists, but partly also because even if he did, it is logically impossible for him to be the exclusive mate of all the women who desire him.

It is possible, however, to enable women to mate hypergamously, i.e., with the most sexually attractive (handsome or socially dominant) men. In the Ecclesiazusae of Aristophanes the women of Athens stage a coup d’état. They occupy the legislative assembly and barricade their husbands out. Then they proceed to enact a law by which the most attractive males of the city will be compelled to mate with each female in turn, beginning with the least attractive. That is the female sexual utopia in power.

And yes, we are rapidly moving towards the manosphere myth that virtually all women are having sex with the same tiny number of men.

Although there may be only one “alpha male” at the top of the pack at any given time, which one it is changes over time. In human terms, this means the female is fickle, infatuated with no more than one man at any given time, but not naturally loyal to a husband over the course of a lifetime.

From here, it seems, comes the widespread manosphere myth that women are inherently amoral creatures who will instantly dump whatever man they’re with whenever an alpha strolls by.

Devlin is also the apparent source of the related manosphere myth that most men live lives of quiet celibacy.

An important aspect of hypergamy is that it implies the rejection of most males.

Indeed, Devlin is so convinced by this notion that he simply hand-waves away all data to the contrary.

Survey results are occasionally announced apparently indicating male satisfaction with their “sex lives” and female unhappiness with theirs. This creates an impression that there really is “more sex” for men today than before some misguided girls misbehaved themselves forty years ago. …

It is child’s play to show, not merely that this is untrue, but that it cannot be true. … What happens when female sexual desire is liberated is not an increase in the total amount of sex available to men, but a redistribution of the existing supply. Society becomes polygamous. A situation emerges in which most men are desperate for wives, but most women are just as desperately throwing themselves at a very few exceptionally attractive men.  …

Sexual liberation really means the Darwinian mating pattern of the baboon pack reappears among humans.

And …. scene!

Devlin is sometimes described as an “independent scholar,” but even aside from its misogyny and racism “Sexual Utopia in Power” is anything but scholarly. There are only a relative handful of footnotes, which don’t come close to backing up Devlin’s numerous factual claims. Most of the footnotes refer to the writings not of scholars but of conservative and far-right journalists. One links to an article on the racist hate site VDare.com; another favorably cites this article by Henry Makow, an early Men’s Rights Activist turned conspiracy theorist who literally believes that feminists are in league with an evil Satanic-Illuminati cult that rules the world.

Devlin offers precisely zero evidence to back up his claims about hypergamy — aside from a couple of surveys, whose conclusions he rejects, and several quotes from literature, including that one from Oscar Wilde. The rest is, to use the formal term for it, assdata.

Nonetheless, the manosphere has adopted Devlin’s new-and-not-improved version of “hypergamy” with enthusiasm. I won’t even bother citing examples; a Google search for “manosphere” and “hypergamy” brings up 17,700 results. Hell, there are several dozen articles about hypergamy on A Voice for Men alone. And of course I’ve written about the manosphere obsession with hypergamy many times before.

But so far essentially the only people who have picked up on this particular definition of hypergamy have been misogynists, pickup artists, MRAs and others vaguely associated with, or around, the manosphere. The only academic I know of who has ever even addressed Devlin’s peculiar thesis is libertarian economist Tyler Cowan, who wrote about it briefly, and I think accurately, on his blog several years back.

This essay is not politically correct and at times it is misogynous and yes I believe the author is evil (seriously).  The main behavioral assumption is that women are fickle.  So they are monogamous at points of time but not over time; Devlin then solves for the resulting equilibrium, so to speak.  The birth rate falls, for one thing.  The piece also claims that the modern “abolition” of marriage strengthens the attractive at the expense of the unattractive.  Some of you will hate the piece.  I disagree with the central conclusion, and also the motivation, but it does seem to count as a new idea.

As an actual idea, new or old, this is probably all the consideration  Devlin‘s version of “hypergamy” really deserves. But as a case study in the history and sociology of bad ideas, the strange story of Devlin’s hypergamy is a bit more interesting, and I no doubt will return to it in future posts.

There is also a good deal in Devlin’s essay that’s a good deal worse than his discussion of hypergamy, and I’ll be coming back to that as well.

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Gametime
11 years ago

I think the errors are in the absolutist claim to universality. But Devlin may be right about the USA now.

Yeah, the issue is surely in the “claim to universality,” not in the complete lack of citation or evidence or any kind of critical thinking beyond “well women are definitely all like this.”

Honestly, Eurosabra, is it tiring being this dense?

pecunium
11 years ago

Eurosabra: Agriculture means warfare, no?

Correct, Agriculture does not mean warfare.

Did any “Westerners” live as hunter gatherers more recently than ca. 10,000BCE?

Yes.

pecunium
11 years ago

Troofy: They don’t have concerts where you live?

Those guys can’t actually get, “any women they want,” just ask Cassandra.

I have an two exes who used to work rigging iron for concert tours… they could tell you stories about asshole rockstars, and how they got turned down.

Having worked in Hollywood, rich movie stars can’t do it either. The word gets around about dicks in The Industry.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

Oh we’re playing the definitions and shifting goalposts game. I’m not down with that shit Eurosabra and you ought to know that by now. Do note that the two South American tribes I listed are still, currently, to-fucking-day hunting and gathering. But how do you feel about some semi-nomadic folks from the Sweden, Finland, Norway region?

pecunium
11 years ago

Argenti: *cheers* But you forgot the funny people who want to learn and think people ought to be treated well. This isn’t Mensa after all, there’s no test for entry besides passing “being a decent human being 101″

Smart =/= educated. Brz is educated, but smart he ain’t.

The folks who thrive are those who like to share, and find things which are interesting worth sharing. Think Boing-boing as the model. “Look at this thing I know! Isn’t it cool!”.

Yes, yes it is.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

Lol, that works then!

Utterly tangentially, my day tomorrow will be spent sorting through the stuff in the POD from my grandfather’s, expect a report on all the good finds. Like my smith corona “anchor” 🙂

nerdypants
nerdypants
11 years ago

I’m pretty sure the idea has older roots in the evo psych literature. Although not named hypergamy (from what I remember), the idea that feminism leads to an effectively polygamous society, in which some men will necessarily miss out entirely, appears in The Moral Animal by Robert Wright from 1995. I remember I typed out a bunch of it in the comments here previously. When I get a chance I’ll check what Wright’s references are.

princessbonbon
11 years ago

They often write about how hypergamy is so ingrained in us that we can’t help ditching our hubbys just for the chance of finding someone better.

This makes me wonder if they ever pulled what they say is “the natural order of things” and ditch their husbands the second a slightly “higher status” man wandered by.

And by wandered by, I mean they happened to walk past. Just all day long having to suddenly drop everything and chase after some slightly higher status male.

princessbonbon
11 years ago

They don’t have concerts where you live?

Only ones we take these kittehs to:

http://www.buzzfeed.com/chelseamarshall/worst-types-of-cats-to-take-to-a-concert

Kittehserf
11 years ago

Too funny, princessbonbon! 😀

Eurosabra
Eurosabra
11 years ago

I don’t think the Sami are “Western” as their language is Finno-Uralic, meaning it is in a different group from the Indo-European languages that produced the “West”, although let us say that (the larger nations of Baltic) Finno-Uralic speakers joined the “West” via um, and yes it pains me to say this, Christianity. I think the above a relatively innocuous point. And the Sami are a colonized people.

I think my own people (Ashkenazi-Mizrahi hybrid Israelis) are Western despite ourselves and generally only through the stranger linguistic theory of Hebrew, which some call a Slavic language with Semitic words and morphology, so the most disconcerting part of it is the colonization of Falastin.

Eurosabra
Eurosabra
11 years ago

It’s not a game. Tens if not hundreds of thousands of men believe it, PUAs teach it as the fundamental structure of the universe, and although it is not useful in a utilitarian sense, many men have a great experience of loneliness in the form of women only desiring something they (the men) are not.

Women may experience loneliness too, but at least straight women can generally find someone to f**k quite easily, if they search for partners among straight men. I suppose the demographics of the elderly may change that somewhat, given differences in life expectancies.

Fade
11 years ago

I forget, how’d we get from supposed hypergamy to Eurosabra comparing women to property to debating the westerness or unwesterness of people?

Fade
11 years ago

*facepalm*

and he’s back at women have it so easy to find someone to fuck…

Hey, Eurosabra, why’s getting laid matter so much?

Kittehserf
11 years ago

“Women may experience loneliness too, but at least straight women can generally find someone to f**k quite easily, if they search for partners among straight men.”

Hey sleazebag, what makes you think we’ll have sex with just anyone? You talk as if we don’t care two hoots who we go to bed with. You also talk as if the danger or rape were not something a woman who enjoys casual sex (particularly with men, since men are the majority of rapists) has to think about. What about women who aren’t conventionally attractive? You’re quick to moan about your own physical shortcomings – what makes you think that sort of thing doesn’t affect women even more, given there are far more demands made on us about our appearance than there are on straight men?

And as Fade said – why are you so fixated on sex anyway? If it’s just your precious orgasm, why don’t you masturbate or use sex toys? If it’s more than that, what’s the point of running around chasing one-night-stands? Way to emphasise your isolation and loneliness, I would think, especially given that sleazy, selfish creeps aren’t likely to have anyone coming back for seconds.

I’ve been plenty lonely at times in the last few decades. Humping some stranger wouldn’t have cured that, and it sure as hell wouldn’t have made for good sex, given first partners’ first times are likely to be fairly ordinary even if they have an established relationship (ie. aren’t strangers). Why on earth would I risk my safety for the sake of unsatisfactory sex with someone who is of no interest to me anyway?

Your whole scenario is just stupid. It’s so far from reality.

Dvärghundspossen
11 years ago

Yeah, the idea that an “ugly” woman could find someone decent for a one-night-stand any time she wants to is just ridiculous. (And by “decent” I don’t mean Orlando Bloom or anything like that, just not-super-creepy-and-probably-a-rapist, hygienic, sort of in the right age-span, not-WAY-too-shy (since our imagined woman may not have the required confidence herself to basically drag a super-shy wall-flower home) and so on.)

Eurosabra
Eurosabra
11 years ago

It’s nice to have the option, and straight women generally have the option, all else being equal. You keep bringing up safety concerns as if that addressed (rather than discarded) the issue of *attraction*, which is what *I’m* getting at.

I have some disability issues and I’m relatively poor and depressed, in a particularly expensive and cheery (for those who can afford it) town. Sex has generally been the only way I’ve been able to experience bodily pleasure, besides food and being protected from the elements. I was an academic and I had some intellectual pleasures before the lupus got really bad and I began working exclusively from home, as a translator of particularly challenging and dubious legal documents, which pays the bills but yields no pleasures of the mind. I know many people superficially and scrape together funds to attend a few wine-tasting events from time to time. I’m involved with a liberal arts school on the development side, meaning I volunteer in lieu of contributions. Perhaps some clubbing from time to time. So I am absolutely obsessed and pretty aware of how it distorts my experience and how I have to make sure I’m not imposing sexually, socially, or aesthetically on other people, particularly potential partners. Well, you asked. I also, by some quirk of the nervous system, markedly prefer partnered sexual activity to solo, like lots humans. I don’t think ONS are necessarily hostile and because I can restrain my worst “chasing” behaviors I don’t think I get there hostilely, at least not now. J’en passe et des meilleurs since the person calling me “sleazebag” apparently sleeps with a spirit, which is a bit odd as kink but has a certain purity to it which means that practically anyone having fleshly sex is a sleazebag, relatively speaking. It’s like you win all the romance, and I claim my five pounds.

Eurosabra
Eurosabra
11 years ago

Maybe the “ugly” women I know are just not that ugly, because I truly, truly don’t have any experience of women not being in constant demand, relatively speaking, except for the truly dangerous (because openly harmfully violent and with a known past history of violence) ones. Note that I distantly know a few openly violent non-harmful kinky people, so it’s harm and history that’s the distinction and not the violence.

GreySky
GreySky
11 years ago

I honestly don’t know if I could get laid just walking into a bar with no reservations about what I’d be prepared to tolerate.
I also don’t know what good that would do me?

And I’ve completely lost track of what that all has to do with the discussion at hand.

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

how I have to make sure I’m not imposing sexually, socially, or aesthetically on other people,

I’m going to call bullshit, because you have zero problems imposing yourself on us after being repeatedly told to beat it. You are a social imposition.

You’re even creepier when you make a sympathy play.

titianblue
titianblue
11 years ago

since the person calling me “sleazebag” apparently sleeps with a spirit, which is a bit odd as kink but has a certain purity to it which means that practically anyone having fleshly sex is a sleazebag, relatively speaking.

I defy you to find anywhere Kittehserf either saying or implying that fleshly sex is sleazy. Only your nasty little mind came up with that, Euroshit

pecunium
11 years ago

Eurosabra: I have some disability issues and I’m relatively poor and depressed, in a particularly expensive and cheery (for those who can afford it) town.

This shit again. It’s a huge town. Depending on just where you draw the line, it’s between 9-15 million people. I was homeless there (briefly, and I was never without someplace to shower). I’ve been poor/underemployed. If you have a job, and are blaming it on “the town”, it’s not the town. It’s you, because you choose to go to the places which cost more than you have.

I’d commend you to some social groups I know, which are the sort of people you’d be likely to find interesting, but I like those groups, and I don’t think letting you loose to “mildly gaslight” the women there would be a decent thing to do. In fact I think it would be downright wrong.

pecunium
11 years ago

Euro Sabra: I don’t think the Sami are “Western” as their language is Finno-Uralic,

Ignoring that Agriculture is more recent than 10,000 BCE, that it didn’t immediately take over the world, and pretending the base claim is still valid (when it’s not), we now see some No True Scotsman to the various bits of specific disproof offered; with extra bonus racism.

Add a bit of special pleading (I think my own people (Ashkenazi-Mizrahi hybrid Israelis) are Western despite ourselves To make himself one of the “Western” people. Again, more bonus racism.

The we have the stupid: It’s not a game. Tens if not hundreds of thousands of men believe it

Those two facts are not exclusive. Tens of thousands of people have believed the SCA was worth doing, and taken part in training, and workshops, and weekslong excercises in living it to the full. Many make their living providing the needed tools, books, and equipment other people who practice it need to take part (and there are more people making their lving doing that then are making their living selling PUA).

There are publishing houses devoted to providing books for them. They convene collegia to study and to train.

And it’s a game.

Women may experience loneliness too, but at least straight women can generally find someone to f**k quite easily, This is essentialist bullshit, and the stupidist sort of confirmation bias.

When women tell you they have this problem you dismiss it. You do it in the most insulting; and yes, degrading of terms. You say that all they need to do is sleep with a sleazebag like you. You posit that since there are men as desperate as you are, that women must be able to just go out to a bar and say, “I wanna fuck” and boom they will have to fight off the horny dudes lining up to have sex with them.

No idea that the women might have standards (as you do) never enters the picture.

Douchebag much? Why yes. This is classic gaslighting; telling women that what they know to be true isn’t true.

So it’s more than doucecanoeing, it’s absuer behavior.

titianblue
titianblue
11 years ago

I love Eurosabre’s circular arguments:

no “Westerners” live as hunter gatherers more recently than ca. 10,000BCE
therefore any people living as hunter gatherers more recently that cannot be “Westerners”
therefore no “Westerners” live as hunter gatherers more recently than ca. 10,000BCE
And that’s real

Med
Med
11 years ago

*sigh* Not this again.

I’m a woman (kind of) and yes, any woman can get laid any time she wants. So what? That’s just the way life is. Do you think sexual autonomy is misandry?

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