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Hypergamy: How the harebrained notions of white nationalist F. Roger Devlin took the Manosphere by storm

Hypergamy in action?
How manosphere doofuses think the world actually works.

Another in an ongoing series of posts on seminal works in the manosphere canon, as it were. At some point, I’ll make a page for these.

Like Warren Farrell’s The Myth of Male Power, F. Roger Devlin’s 2006 essay Sexual Utopia in Power (downloadable here) is a kind of Manospherian urtext, an original source of many of the terrible ideas that are now accepted as gospel wherever misogynists gather in large numbers online. Though the name of Devlin is hardly as well known as that of Farrell, many of his ideas, most notably his reworked notion of “hypergamy” — which we will get to in a minute — are omnipresent in the manosphere.

Among misogynists with intellectual pretensions, Devlin’s Sexual Utopia is considered a must-read. Originally brought to the attention of fellow manospherians by PUA pseudointellectual Roissy — now Heartiste — in 2007, the essay has received lavish praise on such familiar sites as The Spearhead (where WF Price praised Devlin’s “critiques of feminism” as “some of the best out there”) and A Voice for Men (where one post described the essay as “supremely indispensable.”)  It’s listed in the sidebar of The Red Pill subreddit as “required reading.” And Norwegian MRA Eivind Berge gushed that the essay was

possibly the best article I have ever read. My blogging against feminism is almost redundant after F. Roger Devlin has put it so well.

So what exactly are all these guys falling over themselves to praise so highly? To put it bluntly, a strange and sprawling compendium of ideas that range from frankly abhorrent to merely silly, motivated by misogyny and racism. Virtually none of the essay’s many gross generalizations about women (or men) are supported by any sort of evidence.

And did I mention that it originally ran in a white nationalist journal?

Yes, “Sexual Utopia in Power” originally ran in The Occidental Quarterly, an explicitly racist journal that described its mission as protecting “the civilization and free governments that whites have created” from the rise of the evil non-white hordes. Indeed, Devlin is on the editorial advisory board of the journal, which currently features an article on its site praising Disney’s Snow White as “a White Nationalist classic.”

While the bulk of Devlin’s essay deals with gender, not race, it is framed — in the very first sentence — by his concern over what he calls the “catastrophic decline” of “white birthrates worldwide.” In other words, no one who has read his article, even if they don’t know what the Occidental Quarterly is, can possibly miss Devlin’s fundamental racism (which is spelled out even more explicitly at the end of this piece).

There is so much in Devlin’s essay that is so objectionable that it cannot fit in a single post, so today I will focus only on his reworked notion of “hypergamy.”

The term was originally a technical way of saying “marrying up” — that is, “the act or practice of marrying a spouse of higher caste or status than oneself,” as Wikipedia rather unromantically puts it.

In Devlin’s hands, the term comes to mean something entirely different:

It is sometimes said that men are polygamous and women monogamous. …

It would be more accurate to say that the female sexual instinct is hypergamous. Men may have a tendency to seek sexual variety, but women have simple tastes in the manner of Oscar Wilde: They are always satisfied with the best. By definition, only one man can be the best. These different male and female “sexual orientations” are clearly seen among the lower primates, e.g., in a baboon pack. Females compete to mate at the top, males to get to the top.

This may sound vaguely familiar to you. Brian Eno once said of the Velvet Underground’s first album that only 30,000 people may have bought copies of it, but “everyone who bought one of those 30,000 copies started a band.” Similarly, everyone who has read Devlin seems to have started a blog or YouTube channel.

Women, in fact, have a distinctive sexual utopia corresponding to their hypergamous instincts. In its purely utopian form, it has two parts: First, she mates with her incubus, the imaginary perfect man; and, second, he “commits,” or ceases mating with all other women. This is the formula of much pulp romance fiction. The fantasy is strictly utopian, partly because no perfect man exists, but partly also because even if he did, it is logically impossible for him to be the exclusive mate of all the women who desire him.

It is possible, however, to enable women to mate hypergamously, i.e., with the most sexually attractive (handsome or socially dominant) men. In the Ecclesiazusae of Aristophanes the women of Athens stage a coup d’état. They occupy the legislative assembly and barricade their husbands out. Then they proceed to enact a law by which the most attractive males of the city will be compelled to mate with each female in turn, beginning with the least attractive. That is the female sexual utopia in power.

And yes, we are rapidly moving towards the manosphere myth that virtually all women are having sex with the same tiny number of men.

Although there may be only one “alpha male” at the top of the pack at any given time, which one it is changes over time. In human terms, this means the female is fickle, infatuated with no more than one man at any given time, but not naturally loyal to a husband over the course of a lifetime.

From here, it seems, comes the widespread manosphere myth that women are inherently amoral creatures who will instantly dump whatever man they’re with whenever an alpha strolls by.

Devlin is also the apparent source of the related manosphere myth that most men live lives of quiet celibacy.

An important aspect of hypergamy is that it implies the rejection of most males.

Indeed, Devlin is so convinced by this notion that he simply hand-waves away all data to the contrary.

Survey results are occasionally announced apparently indicating male satisfaction with their “sex lives” and female unhappiness with theirs. This creates an impression that there really is “more sex” for men today than before some misguided girls misbehaved themselves forty years ago. …

It is child’s play to show, not merely that this is untrue, but that it cannot be true. … What happens when female sexual desire is liberated is not an increase in the total amount of sex available to men, but a redistribution of the existing supply. Society becomes polygamous. A situation emerges in which most men are desperate for wives, but most women are just as desperately throwing themselves at a very few exceptionally attractive men.  …

Sexual liberation really means the Darwinian mating pattern of the baboon pack reappears among humans.

And …. scene!

Devlin is sometimes described as an “independent scholar,” but even aside from its misogyny and racism “Sexual Utopia in Power” is anything but scholarly. There are only a relative handful of footnotes, which don’t come close to backing up Devlin’s numerous factual claims. Most of the footnotes refer to the writings not of scholars but of conservative and far-right journalists. One links to an article on the racist hate site VDare.com; another favorably cites this article by Henry Makow, an early Men’s Rights Activist turned conspiracy theorist who literally believes that feminists are in league with an evil Satanic-Illuminati cult that rules the world.

Devlin offers precisely zero evidence to back up his claims about hypergamy — aside from a couple of surveys, whose conclusions he rejects, and several quotes from literature, including that one from Oscar Wilde. The rest is, to use the formal term for it, assdata.

Nonetheless, the manosphere has adopted Devlin’s new-and-not-improved version of “hypergamy” with enthusiasm. I won’t even bother citing examples; a Google search for “manosphere” and “hypergamy” brings up 17,700 results. Hell, there are several dozen articles about hypergamy on A Voice for Men alone. And of course I’ve written about the manosphere obsession with hypergamy many times before.

But so far essentially the only people who have picked up on this particular definition of hypergamy have been misogynists, pickup artists, MRAs and others vaguely associated with, or around, the manosphere. The only academic I know of who has ever even addressed Devlin’s peculiar thesis is libertarian economist Tyler Cowan, who wrote about it briefly, and I think accurately, on his blog several years back.

This essay is not politically correct and at times it is misogynous and yes I believe the author is evil (seriously).  The main behavioral assumption is that women are fickle.  So they are monogamous at points of time but not over time; Devlin then solves for the resulting equilibrium, so to speak.  The birth rate falls, for one thing.  The piece also claims that the modern “abolition” of marriage strengthens the attractive at the expense of the unattractive.  Some of you will hate the piece.  I disagree with the central conclusion, and also the motivation, but it does seem to count as a new idea.

As an actual idea, new or old, this is probably all the consideration  Devlin‘s version of “hypergamy” really deserves. But as a case study in the history and sociology of bad ideas, the strange story of Devlin’s hypergamy is a bit more interesting, and I no doubt will return to it in future posts.

There is also a good deal in Devlin’s essay that’s a good deal worse than his discussion of hypergamy, and I’ll be coming back to that as well.

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Darth Conans
Darth Conans
11 years ago

As far as natural white knighting (may I never have to use pua language again) depending on your definition, this is shockingly common in the natural world. If you use the broadest definition (favored by the most hateful pua dickheads) of just generally being nice to people unless they give you a reason not to be, it’s called reciprocal altruism, and you can find it in every complex social species in the world, from vampire bats to wolves to humans (indeed, I find the argument that it is the basis for all social interaction in the animal kingdom). If you mean “taking on unnecessary burdens to help females”, it’s slightly rarer, but still happens (emperor penguins are the most famous example, but I rather like prairie dog lookouts as well).

cloudiah
11 years ago

Proposed new Man Boobz testimonial: Come for the mockery, stay to learn about chimp menstrual cycles.

😀

An Inconvenient Truth
An Inconvenient Truth
11 years ago

If you’re so in to evo psych and biological determinism, shouldn’t you just accept that women are what their biology dictates (I know, but we’re taking this on its own terms right now)? What’s the point in railing against it? It’s like being angry that people eat or sleep.

That’s the difference between MRA/MGTOW and PUAs. The former complain and the latter adapt.

GreySky
GreySky
11 years ago

@Darth
Well, I know for sure that gorilla ladies flirt with their male zoo keepers, when they think the silverback isn’t looking – and when he does spot it it’s quite problematic, as it obviously makes him hostile – so I’d imagine that they aren’t adverse to a little something on the side, when they’re in a setting where they have the opportunity.

So chimps basically function the same way as lions in this regard. Vaguely related it reminds me of a study of a (human) tribe, where it was believed that children had several fathers and inherited something from each of them. Not really biologically sound of course, but I find it an interesting example because evo psych explanations always rely so heavily on the narrative of competing for the one best mate and provider for the survival of the offspring, when there are so many ways to tackle the upbringing of the next generation, and I’m inclined to think that during most of human evolutionary history it was probably more of a community effort than about individual couples.

Rei
Rei
11 years ago

“Men may have a tendency to seek sexual variety, but women have simple tastes in the manner of Oscar Wilde: They are always satisfied with the best. By definition, only one man can be the best.”

Er. Or “the best” is a totally abstract and subjective concept, so one woman might be satisfied with only one man (her best-case scenario) while another might only be satisfied by three men, four women and a Jack Daniels every night before bed. (Which I personally think is disgusting, but then I really hate Jack Daniels.) So…your entire premise is flawed?

cloudiah
11 years ago

A highly relevant discussion is happening on r/mr, where hypergamy is discussed in the context of the friend zone. My favorite comment so far:

I think these women’s contempt towards good men, and implicitly their manipulation of men’s volitions, is one of the few things I would genuinely call misandry.

I also call it suitor abuse, in that such a woman tends to manipulate men for fun and profit by encouraging them to pursue her, then pretend she hadn’t a clue they were interested in her and shoo them away. It’s setting people up for failure, creating strong motivations and dismantling them for a perverse sense of power. Women who do this are monsters, plain and simple, and deserve to be treated accordingly. They know very well what they’re doing, and only shout the “you’re only nice to get sex” tirades to create a smokescreen while inflicting further abuse. What they don’t count on is that the men’s movement will eventually be able to, and indeed must eventually, ensure that either laws or community standards (or both) are enforced against them.

56 points!

Darth Conans
Darth Conans
11 years ago

@greysky I’m dubious about ego psych in general. Leaving aside a few remarkable successes (The moral sense test) it seems to me to be at least 10 years out from offering anything more than interesting suggestions, as the difficulties with trying to separate culture from underlying biology are so monumental. Still, group and cultural selection theories certainly explain far more than just genetic selection.

Karalora
11 years ago

Why is it that when these guys examine the behavior of female animals, they always apply it to human women in the least flattering way? Oh, right, it’s because they hate women.

I am reminded of the time I had an online argument with a guy who tried to convince me that women were “naturally” prostitutes because female chimps had been observed having sex with a male chimp who had earlier given her some fruit he found. To my unworthy opponent, this was clearly a transaction; it didn’t even occur to him that maybe the two chimps were friends, and he gave her food because friends do nice things for each other, and she had sex with him because she liked him.

(And that’s not even getting into the inherent dodginess of using non-human animal behavior to make any sort of in-depth point about human behavior.)

kirbywarp
kirbywarp
11 years ago

@cloudiah:

They know very well what they’re doing, and only shout the “you’re only nice to get sex” tirades to create a smokescreen while inflicting further abuse.

Er, how would this be a smokescreen if it were true? Seriously, the guy has, as his premise, men doing nice things for a woman as part of the act of pursuing her, with the implication that if the woman weren’t enticing them or encouraging them, the men wouldn’t do those nice things. They are literally only being nice in order to get the sex they believe they’ve been promised.

Bob Goblin
Bob Goblin
11 years ago

What they don’t count on is that the men’s movement will eventually be able to, and indeed must eventually, ensure that either laws or community standards (or both) are enforced against them.

Um, so is this guy saying the goal of the MRM is to install a social order in which women will be required to have sex with men they don’t want?

Rape culture, FTW.

cloudiah
11 years ago

kirbywarp,

Logic is misandry!

~cloudia

Bob Goblin
Bob Goblin
11 years ago

That’s the difference between MRA/MGTOW and PUAs. The former complain and the latter adapt.

And both are full of shit.

I mean, adapt to what? Building a your life around a fantasy world is delusional, thus arguably maladaptive.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

Ehh, I haz a wary on your logic Bob, it needs the note of “if you’re hurting people in the process” — see that conversation on the trans* thread (the thread is trans*!) about otherkin. I really don’t care as long as they aren’t hurting anyone. So, arguably, MGTOW, if they’d just go, are much better adapted even if delusional. Only affects them after all, and if it’s what they want, I have no issue.

As for the actual post, the fucking fuck? Like, they get that much of historical hypergamy was father’s marrying their daughters off to higher status men? Like, male choice not female? (Also, bonobos are way more comfortable with both homosexual sex, and oral, than MRAs will ever be)

Amused
11 years ago

What they don’t count on is that the men’s movement will eventually be able to, and indeed must eventually, ensure that either laws or community standards (or both) are enforced against them.

Holy crap, so it’ll be what, a felony not to sleep with a man who is hitting on you?

kirbywarp
kirbywarp
11 years ago

@Amused:

See, the way they see it, women are taking advantage of social custom to extort shit out of the men they “entice,” that social custom being men buy women shit, and women put out. So in their world, women must never “lead a man on” unless she is seriously considering having sex with him.

Since you can’t judge intentions, and you can’t know for sure whether intentions change or if they were real in the first place (can’t differentiate between a woman initially interested and later not versus a woman never interested but pretending to be to get free shit), they would have to conclude that any woman who accepts anything from a dude must follow through with sex.

So yeah, pretty much.

cloudiah
11 years ago

@David, The comments on the reddit thread that he linked to are pretty classic too. Like,

after every woman in your life has used you or fucked you over one way or another, I couldn’t blame him if he became a real misogynist or never wanted to be with another woman while he lives; I’ve seen it happen, men driven to suicide due to what divorce courts do with men….

cloudiah
11 years ago

And,

That’s because a machine responds to logic. Women , or maybe in a broader sense, emotions, do not. this is the one flaw of the friendzone theory: it expects everyone to be perfectly reasonable.

“Women, or maybe emotions” is my new favorite equivalency.

freemage
freemage
11 years ago

Pear_Tree:

The whole ‘hypergamy/alpha male’ thing is, in part, an attempt to reduce women to some monolithic and mysterious Other. It’s a cheap trap of binary thinking. The theory literally only allows for men who get lots of women, and men who get none–the notion that, for instance, some men get some women, completely breaks the theory. So, too, does the idea that not all women use the same criteria for evaluating men; while some criteria are more common than others, there’s no ‘universal ubermensch’ who can literally have any woman just by walking into the room.

And it’s motivated mostly by fear. If these twits were to acknowledge that yes, women have differing standards, and yes, they have the right to their own personal preferences, then they’d have to acknowledge that if a given man does not live up to the standards of many women, then it’s likely he’s either failing at one big thing really badly, or that he’s failing at a whole broad spectrum of things.

Which would then place the onus on himself to do the work to make some changes.

However, if he can instead blame some non-existent, unobtainable ‘alpha-ness’ that you either have or don’t have, then it becomes not his fault that he can’t find a woman who wants to put up with his bullshit, and so he’ll never have to re-evaluate his own habits.

Kittehserf
11 years ago

I have to laugh at his whole whining about women seeking the apparently nonexistent “perfect” man. Never strikes him that an ordinary person can be perfect to someone else in the sense that they love them for who they are, and as they are, and don’t want anyone else. Perfect in that sense doesn’t mean flawless, it means “perfect for me“.

But once again, love is something this creep and his followers know nothing about. They may mouth off about it, but that’s it.

Also who wouldn’t take the red striped trousers over the boring black striped ones? I mean come on, guyzzzzz!

cloudiah
11 years ago

And from the grandmaster douche,

Of course, no women ever lead men on with the intention of taking their emotional support and intimacy without offering anything back. That never happens.

And I’ve never known a young woman to enjoy playing around with guys feelings just to get them to put their cards on the table and admit they have feelings for her – before pocketing the ego boost and casting the

An Inconvenient Truth
An Inconvenient Truth
11 years ago

there’s no ‘universal ubermensch’ who can literally have any woman just by walking into the room.

They don’t have concerts where you live?

wordsp1nner
wordsp1nner
11 years ago

The irony is that the patriarchal systems (particularly any that involved polygamy) are much more “hypergamous” than the feminist system, and it isn’t the women who were doing the deciding.

But it all makes sense: if women can’t really earn money or own property of their own, and aren’t really deciding who they marry, and if polygamy is allowed… yeah. Richest men get first dibs despite what the women involved might think.

On the other hand, if women can earn money, they don’t need to marry someone who can support them, and are free to go with their desires. Which, ironically, means that MRAs are less likely to get laid: MRAs might be able to earn money, but their personalities are distinctly off-putting.

cloudiah
11 years ago

Oops, that got cut off and I’m too lazy to go find it again, but basically he crows about how now he’s an asshole to women and that works for him.

boumbette
boumbette
11 years ago

“That’s the difference between MRA/MGTOW and PUAs. The former complain [sic] the latter adapts.”

Truthy is such a cute troll. 1-accepts biological determinism. 2-Therefore, women cannot circumvent their hypergamous nature, that’s the law. 3- A miracle occurs, voiding biological determinism only for the Chosen Ones, or Roosh’s disciples. 4-PUAs circumvent their own nature by “adapting” (negs and peacocking = pinnacle of manhood).

I introduce you to the special pleading argument.