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Hypergamy: How the harebrained notions of white nationalist F. Roger Devlin took the Manosphere by storm

Hypergamy in action?
How manosphere doofuses think the world actually works.

Another in an ongoing series of posts on seminal works in the manosphere canon, as it were. At some point, I’ll make a page for these.

Like Warren Farrell’s The Myth of Male Power, F. Roger Devlin’s 2006 essay Sexual Utopia in Power (downloadable here) is a kind of Manospherian urtext, an original source of many of the terrible ideas that are now accepted as gospel wherever misogynists gather in large numbers online. Though the name of Devlin is hardly as well known as that of Farrell, many of his ideas, most notably his reworked notion of “hypergamy” — which we will get to in a minute — are omnipresent in the manosphere.

Among misogynists with intellectual pretensions, Devlin’s Sexual Utopia is considered a must-read. Originally brought to the attention of fellow manospherians by PUA pseudointellectual Roissy — now Heartiste — in 2007, the essay has received lavish praise on such familiar sites as The Spearhead (where WF Price praised Devlin’s “critiques of feminism” as “some of the best out there”) and A Voice for Men (where one post described the essay as “supremely indispensable.”)  It’s listed in the sidebar of The Red Pill subreddit as “required reading.” And Norwegian MRA Eivind Berge gushed that the essay was

possibly the best article I have ever read. My blogging against feminism is almost redundant after F. Roger Devlin has put it so well.

So what exactly are all these guys falling over themselves to praise so highly? To put it bluntly, a strange and sprawling compendium of ideas that range from frankly abhorrent to merely silly, motivated by misogyny and racism. Virtually none of the essay’s many gross generalizations about women (or men) are supported by any sort of evidence.

And did I mention that it originally ran in a white nationalist journal?

Yes, “Sexual Utopia in Power” originally ran in The Occidental Quarterly, an explicitly racist journal that described its mission as protecting “the civilization and free governments that whites have created” from the rise of the evil non-white hordes. Indeed, Devlin is on the editorial advisory board of the journal, which currently features an article on its site praising Disney’s Snow White as “a White Nationalist classic.”

While the bulk of Devlin’s essay deals with gender, not race, it is framed — in the very first sentence — by his concern over what he calls the “catastrophic decline” of “white birthrates worldwide.” In other words, no one who has read his article, even if they don’t know what the Occidental Quarterly is, can possibly miss Devlin’s fundamental racism (which is spelled out even more explicitly at the end of this piece).

There is so much in Devlin’s essay that is so objectionable that it cannot fit in a single post, so today I will focus only on his reworked notion of “hypergamy.”

The term was originally a technical way of saying “marrying up” — that is, “the act or practice of marrying a spouse of higher caste or status than oneself,” as Wikipedia rather unromantically puts it.

In Devlin’s hands, the term comes to mean something entirely different:

It is sometimes said that men are polygamous and women monogamous. …

It would be more accurate to say that the female sexual instinct is hypergamous. Men may have a tendency to seek sexual variety, but women have simple tastes in the manner of Oscar Wilde: They are always satisfied with the best. By definition, only one man can be the best. These different male and female “sexual orientations” are clearly seen among the lower primates, e.g., in a baboon pack. Females compete to mate at the top, males to get to the top.

This may sound vaguely familiar to you. Brian Eno once said of the Velvet Underground’s first album that only 30,000 people may have bought copies of it, but “everyone who bought one of those 30,000 copies started a band.” Similarly, everyone who has read Devlin seems to have started a blog or YouTube channel.

Women, in fact, have a distinctive sexual utopia corresponding to their hypergamous instincts. In its purely utopian form, it has two parts: First, she mates with her incubus, the imaginary perfect man; and, second, he “commits,” or ceases mating with all other women. This is the formula of much pulp romance fiction. The fantasy is strictly utopian, partly because no perfect man exists, but partly also because even if he did, it is logically impossible for him to be the exclusive mate of all the women who desire him.

It is possible, however, to enable women to mate hypergamously, i.e., with the most sexually attractive (handsome or socially dominant) men. In the Ecclesiazusae of Aristophanes the women of Athens stage a coup d’état. They occupy the legislative assembly and barricade their husbands out. Then they proceed to enact a law by which the most attractive males of the city will be compelled to mate with each female in turn, beginning with the least attractive. That is the female sexual utopia in power.

And yes, we are rapidly moving towards the manosphere myth that virtually all women are having sex with the same tiny number of men.

Although there may be only one “alpha male” at the top of the pack at any given time, which one it is changes over time. In human terms, this means the female is fickle, infatuated with no more than one man at any given time, but not naturally loyal to a husband over the course of a lifetime.

From here, it seems, comes the widespread manosphere myth that women are inherently amoral creatures who will instantly dump whatever man they’re with whenever an alpha strolls by.

Devlin is also the apparent source of the related manosphere myth that most men live lives of quiet celibacy.

An important aspect of hypergamy is that it implies the rejection of most males.

Indeed, Devlin is so convinced by this notion that he simply hand-waves away all data to the contrary.

Survey results are occasionally announced apparently indicating male satisfaction with their “sex lives” and female unhappiness with theirs. This creates an impression that there really is “more sex” for men today than before some misguided girls misbehaved themselves forty years ago. …

It is child’s play to show, not merely that this is untrue, but that it cannot be true. … What happens when female sexual desire is liberated is not an increase in the total amount of sex available to men, but a redistribution of the existing supply. Society becomes polygamous. A situation emerges in which most men are desperate for wives, but most women are just as desperately throwing themselves at a very few exceptionally attractive men.  …

Sexual liberation really means the Darwinian mating pattern of the baboon pack reappears among humans.

And …. scene!

Devlin is sometimes described as an “independent scholar,” but even aside from its misogyny and racism “Sexual Utopia in Power” is anything but scholarly. There are only a relative handful of footnotes, which don’t come close to backing up Devlin’s numerous factual claims. Most of the footnotes refer to the writings not of scholars but of conservative and far-right journalists. One links to an article on the racist hate site VDare.com; another favorably cites this article by Henry Makow, an early Men’s Rights Activist turned conspiracy theorist who literally believes that feminists are in league with an evil Satanic-Illuminati cult that rules the world.

Devlin offers precisely zero evidence to back up his claims about hypergamy — aside from a couple of surveys, whose conclusions he rejects, and several quotes from literature, including that one from Oscar Wilde. The rest is, to use the formal term for it, assdata.

Nonetheless, the manosphere has adopted Devlin’s new-and-not-improved version of “hypergamy” with enthusiasm. I won’t even bother citing examples; a Google search for “manosphere” and “hypergamy” brings up 17,700 results. Hell, there are several dozen articles about hypergamy on A Voice for Men alone. And of course I’ve written about the manosphere obsession with hypergamy many times before.

But so far essentially the only people who have picked up on this particular definition of hypergamy have been misogynists, pickup artists, MRAs and others vaguely associated with, or around, the manosphere. The only academic I know of who has ever even addressed Devlin’s peculiar thesis is libertarian economist Tyler Cowan, who wrote about it briefly, and I think accurately, on his blog several years back.

This essay is not politically correct and at times it is misogynous and yes I believe the author is evil (seriously).  The main behavioral assumption is that women are fickle.  So they are monogamous at points of time but not over time; Devlin then solves for the resulting equilibrium, so to speak.  The birth rate falls, for one thing.  The piece also claims that the modern “abolition” of marriage strengthens the attractive at the expense of the unattractive.  Some of you will hate the piece.  I disagree with the central conclusion, and also the motivation, but it does seem to count as a new idea.

As an actual idea, new or old, this is probably all the consideration  Devlin‘s version of “hypergamy” really deserves. But as a case study in the history and sociology of bad ideas, the strange story of Devlin’s hypergamy is a bit more interesting, and I no doubt will return to it in future posts.

There is also a good deal in Devlin’s essay that’s a good deal worse than his discussion of hypergamy, and I’ll be coming back to that as well.

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LBT
LBT
11 years ago

RE: Orion

So, and I am trying to be as neutral about this as possible, why should I be kind to a woman if behaving like a dick will get my dick wet?

*pulls out popcorn* But sir, tell me, what are your opinions on yaoi?

Also, your dick ain’t the bloody sun. The world don’t revolve around it. I don’t be nice to people to get fucked; I’m nice to people because it’s the right thing to do.

You are putting the DC character to SHAME, son.

LBT
LBT
11 years ago

RE: Orion

You do realize this is a mockery site, right? Also that you’re an asshole?

Why on EARTH would I want to have a dialogue with you? Seriously, incentivize it a bit, eh? (Also, if this is you being a dick, I don’t see you getting laid here. Go neg elsewhere, like at the bottom of a deep well.)

orion
orion
11 years ago

Well LBT, I will take that as the most honest offer I can get.

I started out as you all did.

However, the more dominant, the more “not giving a fuck” I got, the more I got laid.

That is in fact a re-inforcement system, entirely operated by women.

I agree with you that what ought to be and what is, cannot be the same , but I dont know about you, but getting my dick wet might not be the center of THE universe, but it is pretty close to the center of MY universe.

And, I was specifically asking why I should act a certain way if I get punished for it by the very same women that demand it.

orion
orion
11 years ago

I am not negging, not everything that rattles yiou is a neg,

Why you should engage with me?

To grow as a human being?

Unless you believe you have it all right and I have it all wrong?

katz
11 years ago

Unless you believe you have it all right and I have it all wrong?

All evidence is pointing in that direction.

orion
orion
11 years ago

What evidence?

I encouraged you to look it up?

You could also look up womens attraction to the dark triad, or how 80% of all women reproduced but only 40% of all men.

I am not afraid of data, hit me with it.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

If we talked about yaoi I wonder if that would be more or less effective than the bra sizing method of troll fumigation.

LBT
LBT
11 years ago

RE: orion

Ah hell, I’ll bite.

However, the more dominant, the more “not giving a fuck” I got, the more I got laid.

That’s your experience. My experience is the reverse–my husband’s dommey, but he gives a LOT of fucks. He cares about me and I care about him. It’s why we’re together.

I dont know about you, but getting my dick wet might not be the center of THE universe, but it is pretty close to the center of MY universe.

This honestly saddens me, as a man and as a human being. Sex is nice, but it’s not more important than being decent to people.

I feel like we’re talking past each other here. Could you explain what you mean by ‘not giving a fuck’ and ‘dominant?’ I suspect we have different definitions.

And, I was specifically asking why I should act a certain way if I get punished for it by the very same women that demand it.

I’ll tell you my own story here. My first sexual experience was rape. A lot of rape. I’m lucky you see. It was used to punish me for a LOT of things–from not having sex with him enough, to going to Harvard where he couldn’t reach me.

I’m not telling you this in interest of your reaction so much as to say–sometimes, there’s a difference between an INDIVIDUAL punishing you, and a GENDER punishing you. My rapist (and the other guy who didn’t rape me, but said he should) weren’t punishing me because they were men, and men are assholes. I’m a man who knows wonderful men; those men were assholes, acting on their own issues. I can choose how I respond to my past, and I prefer to only have sex with people who are kind. If that means I get laid less… that doesn’t really bother me. My values > libido.

Kittehserf
11 years ago

I agree with you that what ought to be and what is, cannot be the same , but I dont know about you, but getting my dick wet might not be the center of THE universe, but it is pretty close to the center of MY universe.

What an empty life, then. I’d feel sorry for you if you weren’t patently a piece of shit who thinks half the human species isn’t actually human.

Argenti Aertheri
Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

*tries not to think of the snark going on in the background* too bad Mac doesn’t see the point in engaging trolls, it would be hilarious!

Excel is being all “fuck you Argenti” so break time…for more math.

“You could also look up womens attraction to the dark triad, or how 80% of all women reproduced but only 40% of all men.”

So wait, do all women have kids by two men?

*puts SCENTED FUCKING CANDLES* around the thread. Hope that helps with the sock smell, excel seems to be over it!

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

So wait, do all women have kids by two men?

Finally, the connection between women and cats explained!

orion
orion
11 years ago

Seriously?

Naaaaaa, rape, ……. not good.

Really, really, not good.

That should not have happened to you, and I doubt that it will make any of the following easier.

I noticed that when I started to lead women, like telling them when and where to met up, taking them gently by the arm and guiding them around it had a huge impact.

I noticed that if I did not caress them with my penis but took them, sometimes hard, they loved it too.

And no, those were not some insecure waifs, they could more than hold their own,

Women react to male dominance,

Very, very much so.

They react to male leadership.

Very, very much so,

However, if I am all all loving and nurturing they mistake me foe a whimp and any sexual attraction goes out of the window,

I will admitt that being an aloof asshole is the cheapest way of conquering a woman, its not a way I admire really, but if you look around you, does it not work?

orion
orion
11 years ago

@Kittehserf

Excuse me, where do you get this from?

This is pure projection.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

Oh, you’re a rape victim? Lemme tell you all about how women love being forced into things, because I’m a classy guy.

(Trolls have genders, right?)

Fibinachi
Fibinachi
11 years ago

Women do not respond to kindness.

They respond to other things and you can be kind and nice and whatnot, but it does not get their panties wet.

So, and I am trying to be as neutral about this as possible, why should I be kind to a woman if behaving like a dick will get my dick wet?

Thats not something for me to sort out, seriously, its not,

Thats something women have to sort out among themselves,

Hold up, you’ve gone a step too far
You’ve blasted past the point you were making
Instead you’ve made a statement dense as a neutron star
Women don’t respond to kindess, they start flaking?

Uh, of course – sorry, is that what we’re debating?

Obviously! Why would anyone respond to kindness
in some visceral, libidious way?
I don’t react with desire to someone taking the time
to say
something like “Have a nice day”.

Orion, dude, like your name-sake star
You’ve gone far too far
You’re not kind to get someone in your bed
You’re kind to not mess with their head
If someone “Doesn’t respond” to you being nice
That’s not some nebolous price
paid by a society standard that forces you
To make do
And not get laid unless you’ve paid
some asshole tax
Your attacks are missing facts.

(Sorry)

You’re kind… To be kind
It’s an end in itself
You’re nice to make nice with the people you help
You say “Have a great day!” because you wish
For people’s day to be full of fucking bliss
And, if you want fucking, bliss
You’re kind AND ALSO OTHER THINGS, is this amiss?

Merely being kind is not some… Magic answer
To get people “Wet”, share a moment with a horizontal dancer
(I’d jest that you’d need an enchancer, but it’s just a joke, as unfunny as cancer)

Sorry, where was I?

Oh right.

… Dude, people’s preference and the way they think about dicks
anatomy reference!
Is not based entirely on kindness, and deference
made in some pretense to turn bed into bedded (the post tense)

Toss off.

Or tell me about the specific bits that you do that aren’t “Kindness” and you started doing like an “asshole”, and I’ll tell you – it’d work better if you were *also* nice…

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

I see orion brought a knife (his sad little intellect) to a gun fight.

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

LOL at “dark triad.” We had another sad bastard who was into that shit, maybe this is the same one.

Orion: what’s your morning height, sweetie?

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

A dark triad is what happens when a group of Chinese gangsters are having a meeting and there’s a power cut in the building.

LBT
LBT
11 years ago

RE: Argenti

Excel is being all “fuck you Argenti” so break time…for more math.

Aw man, let me tell you, OpenOffice just shat the bed on me. I sold another story, and it frickin’ LOST THE SPELL CHECK. This means it’s underlined MY ENTIRE DOCUMENT with the wavy red line. FUCKING MOTHERSUCK. Have you ever tried to type up a document when literally EVERY WORD is redlined? And I can’t TURN IT OFF. D:

orion
orion
11 years ago

@Fibinachi

Nonono, I entirely agree with you, when it comes to your main point.

If you can overcome this whole madonna/whore thing and be sexually aggressive because you like her. not inspite of liking her, you blow the average bad boy asshole out of the water.

Then you can be kind too, and it will be seen as a positive,

However, if you approach women deferentially, on your knees basically, which IMO is the norm these days, your kindness will be interpreted as weakness.

And that is deadly.

Negotiate from a position od strength and do whatever you want, negotiate from a position of weakness, which IMO is the cultural default position and its over before it began.

Kittehserf
11 years ago

@Kittehserf

Excuse me, where do you get this from?

This is pure projection.

Oh, I get it from this thing called r-e-a-d-i-n-g c-o-m-p-r-e-h-e-n-s-i-o-n.

Someone (who could it be?) who says

Women do not respond to kindness.

They respond to other things and you can be kind and nice and whatnot, but it does not get their panties wet.

So, and I am trying to be as neutral about this as possible, why should I be kind to a woman if behaving like a dick will get my dick wet?

Thats not something for me to sort out, seriously, its not,

Thats something women have to sort out among themselves,

and follows it with getting his dick wet being almost the centre of his universe, has painted himself very clearly as a piece of shit.

Fibinachi
Fibinachi
11 years ago

I noticed that when I started to lead women, like telling them when and where to met up, taking them gently by the arm and guiding them around it had a huge impact.

I noticed that if I did not caress them with my penis but took them, sometimes hard, they loved it too.

And no, those were not some insecure waifs, they could more than hold their own,

Oh! That actually makes a lot of sense
And in your defense
I can see the mistake that was casually made

So to help you, I’ll trade!
My snark, which I’ll employ in the passage
To rewrite your statements so they make me feel less like eating TEN THOUSAND ACID ASSES.
(… Shit that was a bad rhyme, wow)
All for the low price of not making me squirt blood from eyes.

So when you started to state your personal opinion
When you made clear the intentions you had
People responded in a more predictable way
And listened to the things you had to say?

When you took them (Hard) as you write
They thought that was awesome and just right?

And this is your grand conjecture, on which you’ll lecture
the rest of us? That if you have great sex, people will like it?

… That’s your proof? That’s a lot, mate, it’s not a proper debate
It’s hardly an argument
But you can augment your statement with some little elaboration
For instance: This declaration:
(Nested semi colons!)

“When I started doing fun things in bed
I found I got into the head
Of people I wanted to go ahead
and get with!”

If you show people a great time, if you hold their hands and lead them down some line
of thought and action, gently, but with intense focus
You’ll find they often like it
It’s not magic, it’s not some wild eyed hocus pocus

It means nothing about the thoughts that women
might have
and it means even less about their lives
and this is not sad.

Dude, when I started banging people I rather fancied
I do proclaim – it all turned out rather dandy
(But at least I didn’t also ascribe to the idea that they were somehow
less people
and I still remember to say “Thank you Ma’am”, after the wham and the bam
So here’s my final slam:

Redirect your eyes to a proper source of information
And try, just on probation
to think less like “Women are foolish for responding to force!”
and more like
“Having a personality helps in every endeveaour, including sex, of course”

Kittehserf
11 years ago

Fibinachi –

“Toss off.”

I’m sure he does. Constantly.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

How else would you define what he’s doing here? I have nothing against wanking, but doing it in the presence of non-consenting strangers is impolite.

orion
orion
11 years ago

Ladies and Gentlemen, I have been nothing but polite so far.

The shame and condescension rained down upon me is a means of of trying to make me lash out so that you can say to yourselves “see, I knew he was like that all along”.

However, I am not like that.

I just see the word in a different way than you do.

That does not make me an idiot, that does not make me an asshole, that does make me someone who deliberately seeks out different opinions.

How long will you keep this up and feel smugly superior?

Hint:

The longer you can, the less you are.

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