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Hypergamy: How the harebrained notions of white nationalist F. Roger Devlin took the Manosphere by storm

Hypergamy in action?
How manosphere doofuses think the world actually works.

Another in an ongoing series of posts on seminal works in the manosphere canon, as it were. At some point, I’ll make a page for these.

Like Warren Farrell’s The Myth of Male Power, F. Roger Devlin’s 2006 essay Sexual Utopia in Power (downloadable here) is a kind of Manospherian urtext, an original source of many of the terrible ideas that are now accepted as gospel wherever misogynists gather in large numbers online. Though the name of Devlin is hardly as well known as that of Farrell, many of his ideas, most notably his reworked notion of “hypergamy” — which we will get to in a minute — are omnipresent in the manosphere.

Among misogynists with intellectual pretensions, Devlin’s Sexual Utopia is considered a must-read. Originally brought to the attention of fellow manospherians by PUA pseudointellectual Roissy — now Heartiste — in 2007, the essay has received lavish praise on such familiar sites as The Spearhead (where WF Price praised Devlin’s “critiques of feminism” as “some of the best out there”) and A Voice for Men (where one post described the essay as “supremely indispensable.”)  It’s listed in the sidebar of The Red Pill subreddit as “required reading.” And Norwegian MRA Eivind Berge gushed that the essay was

possibly the best article I have ever read. My blogging against feminism is almost redundant after F. Roger Devlin has put it so well.

So what exactly are all these guys falling over themselves to praise so highly? To put it bluntly, a strange and sprawling compendium of ideas that range from frankly abhorrent to merely silly, motivated by misogyny and racism. Virtually none of the essay’s many gross generalizations about women (or men) are supported by any sort of evidence.

And did I mention that it originally ran in a white nationalist journal?

Yes, “Sexual Utopia in Power” originally ran in The Occidental Quarterly, an explicitly racist journal that described its mission as protecting “the civilization and free governments that whites have created” from the rise of the evil non-white hordes. Indeed, Devlin is on the editorial advisory board of the journal, which currently features an article on its site praising Disney’s Snow White as “a White Nationalist classic.”

While the bulk of Devlin’s essay deals with gender, not race, it is framed — in the very first sentence — by his concern over what he calls the “catastrophic decline” of “white birthrates worldwide.” In other words, no one who has read his article, even if they don’t know what the Occidental Quarterly is, can possibly miss Devlin’s fundamental racism (which is spelled out even more explicitly at the end of this piece).

There is so much in Devlin’s essay that is so objectionable that it cannot fit in a single post, so today I will focus only on his reworked notion of “hypergamy.”

The term was originally a technical way of saying “marrying up” — that is, “the act or practice of marrying a spouse of higher caste or status than oneself,” as Wikipedia rather unromantically puts it.

In Devlin’s hands, the term comes to mean something entirely different:

It is sometimes said that men are polygamous and women monogamous. …

It would be more accurate to say that the female sexual instinct is hypergamous. Men may have a tendency to seek sexual variety, but women have simple tastes in the manner of Oscar Wilde: They are always satisfied with the best. By definition, only one man can be the best. These different male and female “sexual orientations” are clearly seen among the lower primates, e.g., in a baboon pack. Females compete to mate at the top, males to get to the top.

This may sound vaguely familiar to you. Brian Eno once said of the Velvet Underground’s first album that only 30,000 people may have bought copies of it, but “everyone who bought one of those 30,000 copies started a band.” Similarly, everyone who has read Devlin seems to have started a blog or YouTube channel.

Women, in fact, have a distinctive sexual utopia corresponding to their hypergamous instincts. In its purely utopian form, it has two parts: First, she mates with her incubus, the imaginary perfect man; and, second, he “commits,” or ceases mating with all other women. This is the formula of much pulp romance fiction. The fantasy is strictly utopian, partly because no perfect man exists, but partly also because even if he did, it is logically impossible for him to be the exclusive mate of all the women who desire him.

It is possible, however, to enable women to mate hypergamously, i.e., with the most sexually attractive (handsome or socially dominant) men. In the Ecclesiazusae of Aristophanes the women of Athens stage a coup d’état. They occupy the legislative assembly and barricade their husbands out. Then they proceed to enact a law by which the most attractive males of the city will be compelled to mate with each female in turn, beginning with the least attractive. That is the female sexual utopia in power.

And yes, we are rapidly moving towards the manosphere myth that virtually all women are having sex with the same tiny number of men.

Although there may be only one “alpha male” at the top of the pack at any given time, which one it is changes over time. In human terms, this means the female is fickle, infatuated with no more than one man at any given time, but not naturally loyal to a husband over the course of a lifetime.

From here, it seems, comes the widespread manosphere myth that women are inherently amoral creatures who will instantly dump whatever man they’re with whenever an alpha strolls by.

Devlin is also the apparent source of the related manosphere myth that most men live lives of quiet celibacy.

An important aspect of hypergamy is that it implies the rejection of most males.

Indeed, Devlin is so convinced by this notion that he simply hand-waves away all data to the contrary.

Survey results are occasionally announced apparently indicating male satisfaction with their “sex lives” and female unhappiness with theirs. This creates an impression that there really is “more sex” for men today than before some misguided girls misbehaved themselves forty years ago. …

It is child’s play to show, not merely that this is untrue, but that it cannot be true. … What happens when female sexual desire is liberated is not an increase in the total amount of sex available to men, but a redistribution of the existing supply. Society becomes polygamous. A situation emerges in which most men are desperate for wives, but most women are just as desperately throwing themselves at a very few exceptionally attractive men.  …

Sexual liberation really means the Darwinian mating pattern of the baboon pack reappears among humans.

And …. scene!

Devlin is sometimes described as an “independent scholar,” but even aside from its misogyny and racism “Sexual Utopia in Power” is anything but scholarly. There are only a relative handful of footnotes, which don’t come close to backing up Devlin’s numerous factual claims. Most of the footnotes refer to the writings not of scholars but of conservative and far-right journalists. One links to an article on the racist hate site VDare.com; another favorably cites this article by Henry Makow, an early Men’s Rights Activist turned conspiracy theorist who literally believes that feminists are in league with an evil Satanic-Illuminati cult that rules the world.

Devlin offers precisely zero evidence to back up his claims about hypergamy — aside from a couple of surveys, whose conclusions he rejects, and several quotes from literature, including that one from Oscar Wilde. The rest is, to use the formal term for it, assdata.

Nonetheless, the manosphere has adopted Devlin’s new-and-not-improved version of “hypergamy” with enthusiasm. I won’t even bother citing examples; a Google search for “manosphere” and “hypergamy” brings up 17,700 results. Hell, there are several dozen articles about hypergamy on A Voice for Men alone. And of course I’ve written about the manosphere obsession with hypergamy many times before.

But so far essentially the only people who have picked up on this particular definition of hypergamy have been misogynists, pickup artists, MRAs and others vaguely associated with, or around, the manosphere. The only academic I know of who has ever even addressed Devlin’s peculiar thesis is libertarian economist Tyler Cowan, who wrote about it briefly, and I think accurately, on his blog several years back.

This essay is not politically correct and at times it is misogynous and yes I believe the author is evil (seriously).  The main behavioral assumption is that women are fickle.  So they are monogamous at points of time but not over time; Devlin then solves for the resulting equilibrium, so to speak.  The birth rate falls, for one thing.  The piece also claims that the modern “abolition” of marriage strengthens the attractive at the expense of the unattractive.  Some of you will hate the piece.  I disagree with the central conclusion, and also the motivation, but it does seem to count as a new idea.

As an actual idea, new or old, this is probably all the consideration  Devlin‘s version of “hypergamy” really deserves. But as a case study in the history and sociology of bad ideas, the strange story of Devlin’s hypergamy is a bit more interesting, and I no doubt will return to it in future posts.

There is also a good deal in Devlin’s essay that’s a good deal worse than his discussion of hypergamy, and I’ll be coming back to that as well.

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WonderWoman
WonderWoman
11 years ago

oh and kittehserf you were LOOKING AT A MATERNITY BRA, so of course you secretly longed to feed a wee little lad or lass from your breast… which means… MOTHER! 🙂

Get with their program!

@Cassandra in my experience “Nice Guys” and genuine kindness have no relationship to each other at all. (at least not positive. One could argue for a negative relationship.)

Kittehserf
11 years ago

Bob – you nailed it with those maroons.

Even the “good looking” bit has an added value of Dumb, because contrary to MRA notions, it does not mean “Brad Pitt clone”. We’ve all had this conversation here before, but the idea that women have individual tastes and that what one woman finds attractive another doesn’t, is something that goes WHOOSH straight over their pointy little heads.

Bob Goblin
Bob Goblin
11 years ago

Yeah, I’ve been told the good looking = asshole thing before, too. I’ve also been called an asshole by a Nice GuyTM. So, I guess I must look like Brad Pitt.

Or maybe it’s just that I practice good hygeine, eat healthy, and exercise regularly. I’m certainly not a male model. And the funny thing is, most of the Nice GuysTM I’ve actually talked to weren’t particularly ugly, either. The ones I’ve met are usually average-looking, at worst (I realize that’s a subjective judgment, though; I just mean they’re not burdened by any obvious physical drawbacks, and appear to be no less conventionally attractive than many of the men around them who all do well with women).

But then they open their mouths about women, and I have that “ah-ha” moment…

WonderWoman
WonderWoman
11 years ago

“But then they open their mouths about women, and I have that “ah-ha” moment…”

But…. the womminz is too dumb to smell the contempt on a man. No wait… they aren’t.

Though I’m actually starting to believe that some MRAs/PUAs are too stupid to realize they are misogynists. Like I honestly feel like some of them “don’t get how what they are doing is bad”. And how if you think what they are doing is bad… that’s just because you are the enemy and evil and have been brainwashed and didn’t take the red pill like they did.

Bob Goblin
Bob Goblin
11 years ago

@kitteh:

And yes yes yes about individual preferences.

I once tried to counsel a Nice GuyTM in my research group with this observation, and he looked at me like I was an idiot.

Bob Goblin
Bob Goblin
11 years ago

@Wonder Woman:

Yeah, I’m sometimes convinced they don’t realize it, too. But other times, it’s so malicious I just can’t imagine it’s not calculated.

I guess a lot the too-dumb-to-get-it types evolve into the consciously and proudly misogynist PUAs and MRAs later on.

Kittehserf
11 years ago

Plus the other thing they’ll never, never get about individual preferences is that “I think X is very good-looking” doesn’t necessarily mean “I’d have sex with him given the chance.” Maybe I’m an outlier, but it doesn’t matter HOW good looking I think a guy is – even if he looks a bit like Mr K* – I wouldn’t have sex with him.

*Weird moment the other day: sat down on the train and found I was next to a young feller with long, slightly curly black hair, neat moustache and specs like the ones Mr K occasionally wears. It was amusing-odd seeing someone moderately similar to him at close quarters, with common-or-garden peripheral vision. 🙂

WonderWoman
WonderWoman
11 years ago

I think it depends on the person. At least that’s how I’ve seen it. Like some of them are just flat out Grade A assholes. And then it seems like others feel like they’ve finally found “the answer” that explains things, so it’s really comforting, and it’s really easy to rationalize why it’s “not really misogyny because I like women”. But… then… all the attitudes expressed continue to be misogynistic. I thing someone can get sucked into the whole MRA thing thinking it’s a little different than what it is and then rationalize staying because they find other sites and learn things that “sort of sound right” and seem to help them somehow so it’s easy to just pretend it’s not as bad as it is. But I wonder if the good intentions some of them seem to still really feel they have toward women won’t just eventually erode away as they continue to fill their minds with more and more negative ideas about women.

And LOL I have a bad habit of replying piece meal to a comment. I’ll read a few lines and then type what I want to say and read a few more lines and continue on that way… your second part of your post is the same thing as what I typed haha. Basically. I mean you said it with fewer words and less rambling.

Kittehserf
11 years ago

Welcome to the world of being ninjaed! 😀

WonderWoman
WonderWoman
11 years ago

what’s being ninjaed? (Why don’t I know this stuff??? LOL)

Kittehserf
11 years ago

I don’t know if it’s an Internet Comment Thing or just this site, but it means you type an answer, hit Post and find … someone’s already said the same thing. Usually better. 😛

WonderWoman
WonderWoman
11 years ago

oh haha. Yes I was ninjaed. But I want the nuance consolation prize.

Kittehserf
11 years ago

You’re coming up with some great themes/memes/whatever they are tonight – Nuance Consolation Prize. 😀

Cat Anger Consequence still wins, though.

Totally irrelevant, I haz finished the pic I was working on: Ivy and knitwear.

WonderWoman
WonderWoman
11 years ago

That pic was totally unexpected.

And thanks re: stuff and things.

It’s late… I need to sleep. Thanks guys for the awesome chat. See you tomorrow sometime for another episode of Manboobz!

Kittehserf
11 years ago

Niters, WonderWoman! Been a great thread. 🙂

pecunium
pecunium
11 years ago

I know women who have “casual” sex. They do it because they enjoy it. They enjoy it because they know what they want to get from it, and they know how to get it. They are so not what the PUA crowd would like in bed.

Because they would insist on things. They screen partners (in various ways). They ask for what they want when fucking. If they aren’t getting enough of what they want, they leave. These days a lot of them use dating sites.

Odds are, if one of them decides to go on a “date” the person they go out with is going to bed with them. The hurdle is getting past the, “isn’t going to be a good lay” part of the decision process. The PUAs, having decided women aren’t actually interested in sex, have undercut their ability to pass that aspect of the equation.

pecunium
pecunium
11 years ago

Wonderwoman: What’s wrong with just saying: “I don’t want to have casual sex, I’m not into it?” This reads to me like… she doesn’t like or want it for whatever reason, but whatever her reason was wasn’t ENOUGH so she had to make like 42 other reasons to show how she’s “right”.

It’s because she’s not making reasons for herself; she’s making reasons everyone else has to live their lives by her rules. She isn’t afraid she will be pressured; but that other people won’t be (again, to live by her rules).

Oh YEAH… men want some “sluts to play with” (and really seem very hostile if ANY woman is NOT that “slut to play with”), but then… when they get ready to settle down, they expect all women to magically re-virginize.

They want the reverse of their present myth (the “bad girl” who puts out for everyone, so that dudes don’t get blue balls, and virgins don’t lose their shine). It can’t work; but they think it used to, and so they pine for what never was.

pecunium
pecunium
11 years ago

That is the “bad girl” is the reverse of the present where they argue all women are having sex, but only a small number of men are the beneficiaries of this “largesse”.

cloudiah
11 years ago

Ha, I was so worried about Cat Anger Consequences when I had to board Hazel and Buster for 2 weeks because all my other options fell through. When I dropped them off, they were so angry, hissing at all the other cats, and the lady who ran the place, and even ME. But when I got there to pick them up, they heard me talking and came running to see me, and then spent the rest of that day curled up next to me.

Which makes me think they’re probably plotting something really bad to do to me later, once they’ve lulled me into a false sense of security.

Dvärghundspossen
11 years ago

@Wonderwoman: Yeah, I agree it’s more of a continuum, and there are probably LOADS of people who are neither completely straight nor completely gay.

I don’t really get any biphobia nowadays, what with being in a straight marriage since many years and all… But when I was young and single, lots of people seemed to think that I was either in the process of coming out completely as a lesbian or else just some kind of extra sexy version of a straight girl (the latter was definitely most common). And I get that this is still a problem.

However, it still seems as if it’s less dramatic to call oneself “bi” nowadays than when I came out seventeen years ago. At least for women. It seems to me that it’s much more common among twenty-something women to call oneself bi than among women my age. If that observation is correct, a likely explanation would be that women my age who are just, like, TEN percent lesbian, tend to call themselves straight and think of the occasional attraction to another woman as some kind of anomaly that doesn’t have to be taken seriously, while ten percent lesbian women in their twenties tend to say that they’re bi. (Not that you could actually be “ten percent lesbian”, but… I hope you get my point.) Because it’s a bit less dramatic nowadays.

Auggie
Auggie
11 years ago

Dvar- It’s funny that you say that. In middle school I discovered I was bi, and called it 54% lesbian, 46% straight when people asked which I preferred. It’s still that way, since I still prefer women a tiny bit more.

Dvärghundspossen
11 years ago

@Auggie: 🙂 I’m probably more like 70 % straight and 30 % lesbian. A ratio which makes it possible for you to go “lalalah I’m completely NORMAL” for a few years, but not forever.

WonderWoman
WonderWoman
11 years ago

LOL @pecunium “They would insist on things”. Well, this sets up quite a conundrum and may explain the boner rage… the women who are really into casual sex, don’t want them because they offer them nothing… and are assholes, and the women not into casual sex don’t want them because they want relationships… and are not into assholes. And yet… they like to argue that “women only want assholes.”

Am I then to assume that men who want relationships and men who know where the clitoris is… and care about their partner’s sexual pleasure… are assholes? PUA’s have an “interesting” view of the world. To say the least.

It’s boggling why a man who thinks “women aren’t all that interested in sex” thinks it’s not completely evil and douche-y to try to manipulate women into bed.

WonderWoman
WonderWoman
11 years ago

re: reasons everybody else has to live by her rules. That’s just insecurity. Sex isn’t a zero sum game.

Also, where you’re quoting me about the men and sluts thing… I hope you’re paraphrasing me and I didn’t say “men” want this or that. If so, I apologize for the generalization, because i don’t think “men” are like that. I think “assholes” are like that. Maybe I should just always say “assholes” so we know what type of man I’m talking about and I’m not indicting the entirety of the gender.

re: the time that never existed… one wonders why these guys want to go back to the 1950’s since it would have been much much harder for them to find one night stands back then than even now. Maybe it’s a case of “Nobody should do this, but if other people are… I should be able to.” So as long as all the other men have to live in boner rage I guess it’s okay. *tries hard to understand their logic and fails.*

WonderWoman
WonderWoman
11 years ago

@cloudiah Never let down your guard with Cat Anger Consequences!

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