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Hypergamy: How the harebrained notions of white nationalist F. Roger Devlin took the Manosphere by storm

Hypergamy in action?
How manosphere doofuses think the world actually works.

Another in an ongoing series of posts on seminal works in the manosphere canon, as it were. At some point, I’ll make a page for these.

Like Warren Farrell’s The Myth of Male Power, F. Roger Devlin’s 2006 essay Sexual Utopia in Power (downloadable here) is a kind of Manospherian urtext, an original source of many of the terrible ideas that are now accepted as gospel wherever misogynists gather in large numbers online. Though the name of Devlin is hardly as well known as that of Farrell, many of his ideas, most notably his reworked notion of “hypergamy” — which we will get to in a minute — are omnipresent in the manosphere.

Among misogynists with intellectual pretensions, Devlin’s Sexual Utopia is considered a must-read. Originally brought to the attention of fellow manospherians by PUA pseudointellectual Roissy — now Heartiste — in 2007, the essay has received lavish praise on such familiar sites as The Spearhead (where WF Price praised Devlin’s “critiques of feminism” as “some of the best out there”) and A Voice for Men (where one post described the essay as “supremely indispensable.”)  It’s listed in the sidebar of The Red Pill subreddit as “required reading.” And Norwegian MRA Eivind Berge gushed that the essay was

possibly the best article I have ever read. My blogging against feminism is almost redundant after F. Roger Devlin has put it so well.

So what exactly are all these guys falling over themselves to praise so highly? To put it bluntly, a strange and sprawling compendium of ideas that range from frankly abhorrent to merely silly, motivated by misogyny and racism. Virtually none of the essay’s many gross generalizations about women (or men) are supported by any sort of evidence.

And did I mention that it originally ran in a white nationalist journal?

Yes, “Sexual Utopia in Power” originally ran in The Occidental Quarterly, an explicitly racist journal that described its mission as protecting “the civilization and free governments that whites have created” from the rise of the evil non-white hordes. Indeed, Devlin is on the editorial advisory board of the journal, which currently features an article on its site praising Disney’s Snow White as “a White Nationalist classic.”

While the bulk of Devlin’s essay deals with gender, not race, it is framed — in the very first sentence — by his concern over what he calls the “catastrophic decline” of “white birthrates worldwide.” In other words, no one who has read his article, even if they don’t know what the Occidental Quarterly is, can possibly miss Devlin’s fundamental racism (which is spelled out even more explicitly at the end of this piece).

There is so much in Devlin’s essay that is so objectionable that it cannot fit in a single post, so today I will focus only on his reworked notion of “hypergamy.”

The term was originally a technical way of saying “marrying up” — that is, “the act or practice of marrying a spouse of higher caste or status than oneself,” as Wikipedia rather unromantically puts it.

In Devlin’s hands, the term comes to mean something entirely different:

It is sometimes said that men are polygamous and women monogamous. …

It would be more accurate to say that the female sexual instinct is hypergamous. Men may have a tendency to seek sexual variety, but women have simple tastes in the manner of Oscar Wilde: They are always satisfied with the best. By definition, only one man can be the best. These different male and female “sexual orientations” are clearly seen among the lower primates, e.g., in a baboon pack. Females compete to mate at the top, males to get to the top.

This may sound vaguely familiar to you. Brian Eno once said of the Velvet Underground’s first album that only 30,000 people may have bought copies of it, but “everyone who bought one of those 30,000 copies started a band.” Similarly, everyone who has read Devlin seems to have started a blog or YouTube channel.

Women, in fact, have a distinctive sexual utopia corresponding to their hypergamous instincts. In its purely utopian form, it has two parts: First, she mates with her incubus, the imaginary perfect man; and, second, he “commits,” or ceases mating with all other women. This is the formula of much pulp romance fiction. The fantasy is strictly utopian, partly because no perfect man exists, but partly also because even if he did, it is logically impossible for him to be the exclusive mate of all the women who desire him.

It is possible, however, to enable women to mate hypergamously, i.e., with the most sexually attractive (handsome or socially dominant) men. In the Ecclesiazusae of Aristophanes the women of Athens stage a coup d’état. They occupy the legislative assembly and barricade their husbands out. Then they proceed to enact a law by which the most attractive males of the city will be compelled to mate with each female in turn, beginning with the least attractive. That is the female sexual utopia in power.

And yes, we are rapidly moving towards the manosphere myth that virtually all women are having sex with the same tiny number of men.

Although there may be only one “alpha male” at the top of the pack at any given time, which one it is changes over time. In human terms, this means the female is fickle, infatuated with no more than one man at any given time, but not naturally loyal to a husband over the course of a lifetime.

From here, it seems, comes the widespread manosphere myth that women are inherently amoral creatures who will instantly dump whatever man they’re with whenever an alpha strolls by.

Devlin is also the apparent source of the related manosphere myth that most men live lives of quiet celibacy.

An important aspect of hypergamy is that it implies the rejection of most males.

Indeed, Devlin is so convinced by this notion that he simply hand-waves away all data to the contrary.

Survey results are occasionally announced apparently indicating male satisfaction with their “sex lives” and female unhappiness with theirs. This creates an impression that there really is “more sex” for men today than before some misguided girls misbehaved themselves forty years ago. …

It is child’s play to show, not merely that this is untrue, but that it cannot be true. … What happens when female sexual desire is liberated is not an increase in the total amount of sex available to men, but a redistribution of the existing supply. Society becomes polygamous. A situation emerges in which most men are desperate for wives, but most women are just as desperately throwing themselves at a very few exceptionally attractive men.  …

Sexual liberation really means the Darwinian mating pattern of the baboon pack reappears among humans.

And …. scene!

Devlin is sometimes described as an “independent scholar,” but even aside from its misogyny and racism “Sexual Utopia in Power” is anything but scholarly. There are only a relative handful of footnotes, which don’t come close to backing up Devlin’s numerous factual claims. Most of the footnotes refer to the writings not of scholars but of conservative and far-right journalists. One links to an article on the racist hate site VDare.com; another favorably cites this article by Henry Makow, an early Men’s Rights Activist turned conspiracy theorist who literally believes that feminists are in league with an evil Satanic-Illuminati cult that rules the world.

Devlin offers precisely zero evidence to back up his claims about hypergamy — aside from a couple of surveys, whose conclusions he rejects, and several quotes from literature, including that one from Oscar Wilde. The rest is, to use the formal term for it, assdata.

Nonetheless, the manosphere has adopted Devlin’s new-and-not-improved version of “hypergamy” with enthusiasm. I won’t even bother citing examples; a Google search for “manosphere” and “hypergamy” brings up 17,700 results. Hell, there are several dozen articles about hypergamy on A Voice for Men alone. And of course I’ve written about the manosphere obsession with hypergamy many times before.

But so far essentially the only people who have picked up on this particular definition of hypergamy have been misogynists, pickup artists, MRAs and others vaguely associated with, or around, the manosphere. The only academic I know of who has ever even addressed Devlin’s peculiar thesis is libertarian economist Tyler Cowan, who wrote about it briefly, and I think accurately, on his blog several years back.

This essay is not politically correct and at times it is misogynous and yes I believe the author is evil (seriously).  The main behavioral assumption is that women are fickle.  So they are monogamous at points of time but not over time; Devlin then solves for the resulting equilibrium, so to speak.  The birth rate falls, for one thing.  The piece also claims that the modern “abolition” of marriage strengthens the attractive at the expense of the unattractive.  Some of you will hate the piece.  I disagree with the central conclusion, and also the motivation, but it does seem to count as a new idea.

As an actual idea, new or old, this is probably all the consideration  Devlin‘s version of “hypergamy” really deserves. But as a case study in the history and sociology of bad ideas, the strange story of Devlin’s hypergamy is a bit more interesting, and I no doubt will return to it in future posts.

There is also a good deal in Devlin’s essay that’s a good deal worse than his discussion of hypergamy, and I’ll be coming back to that as well.

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WonderWoman
WonderWoman
11 years ago

re: jobs: I once quit a job by telling a co-worker who was mean to me that I was going to go get a soda and then never returned. My husband (who was not yet my husband at the time but my boyfriend) said I should have gone back 2 weeks later and said the line was really long.

Though honestly… she was SO mean to me that I don’t think I even really feel bad or embarrassed about that though I’m sure I should.

WonderWoman
WonderWoman
11 years ago

Oh GROSS “kino escalation” is a PUA tactic that is fully endorsed as normal and good? What is WRONG with these men?

Dvärghundspossen
11 years ago

I think this extrapolating from your own experience to everyone else and coming up with loads of reasons happen a lot when discussing poly/mono too. If you’re gonna use these words as orientation labels, I guess I “am” poly, since I’ve been in a poly relationship, I felt zero jealousy, and I do feel sexually attracted to loads of people. Still, I’ve been in a mono marriage now with the love of my life for 12 years, and I’m very happy that way. I could start giving reasons why, and I’m often tempted to do so among poly people (whom sometimes seem to think that you’re “allowed” to have a monogamous relationship if you have a “mono orientation”, but not otherwise), but why should I? Isn’t “I want to be in this relationship and it makes me happy” sufficient?

Likewise; I don’t want to have babies. Sufficient reason to abstain!

I don’t feel like having one-night-stands/I like one-night-stands – sufficient reasons!

Kittehserf
11 years ago

“@Cassandra Well, that’s just negligence on Walsh’s part… where is her Cat anger consequence!?!?! I mean… women should be warned about potential cat anger.”

Cat Anger Consequence.

Best. Term. Ever.

Especially given Cassandra’s example of it!

Gah, the “you’ll change your mind” thing – last time I copped that, or something like it, was only three years ago. I was buying a maternity bra, because I’d found a line that were comfortable and pretty. The woman at the bra shop was all “When are you expecting?” and I pointed out that I wasn’t, nor wanting to be, and I’m 47, thank you. Her response? “There’s still time!” FUCK NO, a baby at my time of life, even if Mr K were earthside? What a horrible thought!

WonderWoman
WonderWoman
11 years ago

oh on that site, on Walsh’s latest post: “Recognize that guys will care about your sexual history, and behave accordingly.”

Where is her warning: “But all of them will call you bitches if you don’t sleep with them casually?”

It’s like some of these men just do NOT get the math of what they are requesting/bitching about… women who are sluts are worthless I say!!! But… if you don’t sleep with me you’re a bitch.. obviously! Ummm. I guess I’m supposed to expect this guy to be the ONLY one that the woman will sleep with? I’m trying to grok how it even works. Because all the PUA stuff actually working, won’t he automatically assume she’s done this before?

Oh YEAH… men want some “sluts to play with” (and really seem very hostile if ANY woman is NOT that “slut to play with”), but then… when they get ready to settle down, they expect all women to magically re-virginize.

It’s not just that there’s a double-standard going on… it’s that there is an illogical standard that doesn’t actually work at all. If there is no allowance for a woman to say no to you… presumably because she’s one of these “nice girls”, then why are you later complaining at the lack of “chaste women”. Wow.

WonderWoman
WonderWoman
11 years ago

And I should have said “most of them” not “all of them”, my implication here isn’t that “all men” think or do anything… I DO recognize the misandry of such an idea (in the sense of man hatred), I’m thinking in terms of the “kinds of women Walsh is talking about here”. i.e. the ones really really concerned to the point of waking up in fevered sweats over a woman’s “number”.

Kittehserf
11 years ago

Dvärghundspossen, I saw your related comment about not being required to be poly at all times on Cliff Pervocracy’s recent post – liked it very much.

Wow, that Hooking Up Smart thing is a steaming pile, isn’t it? PUA for women, urgh, bleargh, gross. “Sexual market value” and so on. Seriously, don’t any of these people have any feelings? I mean don’t they feel liking or love or affection or anything like that for other people? It’s all just reducing human relationships to numbers and points. It’s like they’re dead inside.

::goes back to constructing new picture::

WonderWoman
WonderWoman
11 years ago

re: mono/poly… isn’t that also like… if you are bisexually oriented it doesn’t mean you MUST be with a member of the same sex? I’ve had people say “you’re not bi because you’ve never been with a woman”. Well, not fully but… isn’t that a little bit like telling a teenage virgin that he isn’t gay because he hasn’t had sex yet so how the hell does he know if he sexually prefers men and isn’t attracted to women?

Isn’t orientation what you’re sexually attracted to, not a list of what you have done or are currently doing? But I’m married to a man and don’t have a girlfriend so… must not be bi. I will admit that one has stung a little before because it’s saying I don’t know what I’m sexually attracted to, I’m just “confused”, but that’s the same thing people have said to gay people forEVER. It was wrong then, too.

WonderWoman
WonderWoman
11 years ago

@Kittehserf among the commenters here we could all run a pretty slick T-shirt business but nobody would get it but us.

Dvärghundspossen
11 years ago

@Kitten: Yeah, I’ve been mulling this over in my head for quite some time, and it’s taken me time to be able to formulate what really rubs me the wrong way about lots of poly/mono discussions. But I think I’ve finally nailed it, and that is that “I’m happy in this kind of relationship I’m having” should be seen as SUFFICIENT reason to have that kind of relationship, but often it’s not. So many people in Cliff’s “Sex at Dawn” post started commenting about how they totally CAN’T get attracted to anyone else but their spouse, and that’s perfectly fine, and it’s also worth pointing out in response to a book claiming that everyone is born with deep-seated poly-feelings. So there was nothing wrong with these posts. But then some people seem to think that you NEED that very specific reason to be, um, morally allowed to be mono. And THAT’S wrong.

WonderWoman
WonderWoman
11 years ago

There’s “still time” at 47? Not for most women. Who gets pregnant without any help at all at 47??? I mean I’m sure it’s happened “before”, but that doesn’t mean “s’s still time” makes any kind of sense to say at 47 as if procreating is some statistical likelihood still.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

If I accidentally got pregnant at 47 I’d wonder what I’d done to have such a curse inflicted upon me. I mean, if someone has just told you that she doesn’t want kids…

Dvärghundspossen
11 years ago

@Wonderwoman: But you see, hetero is the default state. Everyone is born hetero, and only becomes bi/gay after having had gay sex. However, you don’t need hetero sex to be hetero since hetero is default, and therefore virgins are hetero.

Really, this annoyed me no end when the movie “fucking Åmål” (think it’s called “show me love” in English) played at theatres in the late nineties. It was a hugely popular movie here in Sweden, and it’s about a teenage girl who’s an outcast at school and unhappily in love with the most popular girl in class. The popular girl does play around with the idea of lesbianism. She does date a guy and has sex with him, but seems decidedly “meh” about both dating him and sleeping with him. Eventually they do become a couple. Now LOADS of people has said that probably popular girl wasn’t really a lesbian, she was probably a hetero girl who just wanted to object against the repressive small town they were living in by going lesbian. Seriously, I can’t count how many people I’ve met who made that interpretation of the movie. That’s despite the fact that there’s NO indication whatsoever in the entire movie that popular girl is into boys – it merely takes her a little longer to admit that she’s in love with another girl.
I think this really shows how hard-wired lots of people are to see hetero as default, and then there needs to be tons of evidence before you’re inclined to even entertain the possibility that someone is NOT hetero.

WonderWoman
WonderWoman
11 years ago

I also don’t get women viewing themselves in terms of “sexual market value”. Shocking truth: Women find love and get married at ALL ages. I know plenty of them personally. They are not magic or imaginary. This idea that men will only want women in this age range and that sexual experience level is just bonkers. No, PUA and MRA types only want that… but… not garnering their affections is not exactly a horrible life outcome.

If I were rendered single again (because I really assume my husband and I are going to make it til the big D [death the REALLY big D] Statistically it’s looking good for us based on our current marital longevity) I don’t think that being single would necessarily be some horrible thing. I think I would want to find someone else to share my life with (don’t know if i would go for a man or a woman), but I also don’t think I’d be flipping out trying to make it happen. I’d just go about life and try not to be too much of a hermit and if it happened great, and if it didn’t, I’d rather be single than with someone who won’t respect and love me.

But… Walsh acts like singlehood is a horrible disgrace for any female.

WonderWoman
WonderWoman
11 years ago

LOL Cassandra, I know! But you know… deep down they think you really want them but are infertile or something so this is how you cover your pain! Brave little soldier!!

Bob Goblin
Bob Goblin
11 years ago

Re: the “women love assholes” meme:

Is it just me, or are PUAs, MRAs, and NiceGuysTM, simply incapable of telling the difference between a genuine asshole, and a relatively well-adjusted, confident straight male? Because NiceGuysTM of my acquaintance always seem to be mad at the nice men who also happen to be considerate and confident and flirty, and never at any genuinely assholy dudes.

WonderWoman
WonderWoman
11 years ago

@Dvärghundspossen I know you’re being sarcastic about “everybody is born hetero” (NO, you think, wonder woman?! 😛 ) but, I have always thought of sexual orientation (and a lot of things, actually) as less of a binary and more of a continuum. Some lesbians and gay people seem to hate bisexual people because they feel like it invalidates them because “if a bi person can choose than morons will think that lesbians and gay people can, too.”

I think obviously there are people who are either STRAIGHT or LESBIAN/GAY (all caps because there is no chance in hell they are straying from that orientation even a little bit) but then there is all this fuzzy stuff in the middle that makes life all complicated and crap.

I also have a personal theory which may be right or wrong where I think a lot of fundamentalist types who seem to think sexual orientation is a “choice” are not actually 100% on the straight end of the continuum themselves… i.e. they are somewhat bi and so they think since THEY can make a choice that everybody can.

Bob Goblin
Bob Goblin
11 years ago

And the men they emulate are always the assholy ones.

WonderWoman
WonderWoman
11 years ago

@Bob that’s a really good point. I think they don’t really know what an asshole is. Any guy getting laid more than them is an asshole so… by that standard of measure isn’t it sort of recursive? Women only want assholes because men who get laid frequently are automatically assholes… then PUA teaches them “how to be assholes”. One thing PUA gets right… teaching someone how to be an asshole. Pity they don’t figure out the other “assholes” they were griping about mostly probably weren’t actually assholes.

When their new status as assholes doesn’t seem to help as much as they’d hoped they just default back to women are bitches and all is right in the world.

WonderWoman
WonderWoman
11 years ago

PUA sounds more and more like a cult to me. You pretty much have to be a true believer to stay in it very long.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

I’ve had this conversation with Nice Guys before and been informed that one of the ways you can tell that a man is an “asshole” is that he’s good looking. All good looking men are evil bastards, apparently.

When I point out that this has not been my experience they usually don’t take it very well.

WonderWoman
WonderWoman
11 years ago

HA! No! Not good looking! So basically they are admitting they are ugly… methinks I might have found PART of the source of their discontent with partner count.

Kittehserf
11 years ago

“@Kittehserf among the commenters here we could all run a pretty slick T-shirt business but nobody would get it but us.”

How about this for a design, then?

http://i.imgur.com/ZhpfmoB.jpg

Yeah, that “there’s still time” was just bizarre – and gross. I was making it pretty clear that children were NOT something I wanted, but what if I’d been infertile and wanted kids? How would that crap have sounded to someone who’d been on IVF, for instance?

Dvärghundspossen – oh goes, that whole Sex at Dawn. I’m glad I read Cliff’s post, just in case I was ever silly enough to read the book. I guess the clowns who wrote it don’t think asexuality is a thing, either.

So much of it comes down to “ur doin it rong”, doesn’t it? If you’re poly, you should be mono. If you’re mono, you should be poly. If you’re asexual you should be sexual. If you’re bisexual you should be hetero/homosexual. If you’re homosexual you should be heterosexual. If you’re heterosexual it goes back to poly or mono, you’re either doing it too much or not doing it enough, depending who’s trying to pick your life apart.

This is partly why I harp on how happy I am with the Mister: it’s outside the norm and I take some satisfaction in saying (well, typing) that here, throwing it at the MRA cretins who want to put everyone into their tiny pigeonholes and dictate how women in particular can live, and seem to think everyone’s as hateful and miserable as they are. I’d be much the same if anyone did the “you should be poly/kinky/whatever” line, too.

Gawd, I’m rambling, and it’s not even late here!

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

In my experience beauty and niceness have no relationship to each other at all, either positive or negative. You’ll never convince the Nice Guys of that though – trust me, I’ve tried.

WonderWoman
WonderWoman
11 years ago

LOL @ the cat. Cat Anger Consequence really IS a thing. All of us who have cats know this!

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