Longtime readers of Man Boobz may remember “Ferdinand Bardamu,” the pseudonymous blogger behind the thoroughly despicable In Mala Fide blog. How despicable? Well, once upon a time, “Bardamu” wrote a post with the lovely title “The Necessity of Domestic Violence,” in which he set forth the proposition that “[w]omen should be terrorized by their men; it’s the only thing that makes them behave better than chimps.” Yeah. It was that kind of a blog. You can find some more of Bardamu’s terrible thoughts in the MB archives.
You may also remember that Bardamu took down his blog about a year ago, and seemingly vanished from the face of the earth.
Except it now turns out he hasn’t been gone at all. Indeed, he’s been hiding in plain sight the whole time. For, just about the same time that Bardamu vanished off the face of the earth, a new and almost-if-not-quite-as-thoroughly-despicable new Manospere blogger appeared, writing under his real name: Matt Forney.
He’s perhaps best known for a post in which he “jokingly” offered advice on how to get away with rape by murdering your victim. Ha ha! What a card! (Ultimately, Forney deleted his post, and offered a half-hearted, feminist-baiting “apology” for it.)
Forney came out as the Artist Formerly Known As Ferdinand Bardamu on his blog last week.
His explanation for his vanishing act? In part, he explained, it was because he had started getting disgusted by some of his own followers. “Surround yourself with the worst humanity has to offer and it will inevitably wear on you,” he wrote.
It got to the point where I dreaded reading my own site because it was becoming dominated by basement dwelling neo-Nazis, MRA permavirgins and other losers I would never bother with in real life.
As much as I hate people who bitch about “hatred” and “negativity,” they were right in the end: I didn’t want to be associated with those freaks.
Yep, the rank and file of the right-wing Manosphere actually disgusts the guy who came up with “[w]omen should be terrorized by their men; it’s the only thing that makes them behave better than chimps.” Yikes.
I just wanted to leave this here: http://www.heraldsun.com.au/leader/cat-ladies-snatch-australian-christian-lobbys-name/story-fngl0wql-1226631165790
@Aaliyah, I don’t have any advice to give but I just wanted to express my admiration for you, and my hope that things get better for you very soon.
Aaliyah, there’s very little I can say except to keep coming here and saying the things you need to, especially if it helps you be strong in front of people who will not support you, like your father. For now, focus on yourself, on keeping safe and making the most of your education. In this effort, it’s good to know you have those who will support and validate you, especially as you will most likely have a difficult future. When you are ready, I am sure you will make a positive difference in the world, and make a wonderful mother.
I know this probably makes me sound silly (perhaps even narcissistic), but reading this actually made me tear up. Thank you. I guess validation (for lack of a better word) is soothing for me these days. Either that or I’m just very sensitive to everything right now.
@Aaliyah
You are a strong, compassionate and loving woman, and I have no doubt that that will carry over into being an amazing mother. I have no helpful advice to give you, except to suggest stopping by the UCSC LGBT centre sometime soon, or hitting them up over the phone or e-mail if you can’t make it down there, and seeing if they have any helpful advice to give you.
Aaliyah – my heart goes out to you. You are so poised and thoughtful at such a young age, I have no doubt you will go on to do wonderful things with your life.
Aaliyah, you’re a very brave young woman, and I have no doubt that you will make it through this. Don’t be shy about reaching out to us; we’re here for you.
Nope, neither. Just a human being facing a difficult situation under a lot of stress. Like all people in such a situation, you feel lonely and isolated, all the more because some members of your family are not being as supportive as we’d all hope they could be. But the important thing to remember is that you are not alone. You have a community where you belong and where you are valued and accepted.
You are a remarkable young woman and your thoughtfulness and articulateness will serve you well. Be brave, be amazing, and when you need the support and validation of your community, be here and you’ll get it. The folk here are some pretty amazing people themselves.
Well, not our trolls. They’re pretty much the standard issue idiots.
I’m sorry you’re going through all that, Aaliyah. I don’t really have any advice, but I think your goals are very admirable, and hope you will find a way to live as you want to.
Nthing what everyone else said, Aaliyah. You’re twice the adult I was at your age. Or now, come to that!
Pfft. I’m considered the “baby” of the family for a reason. =P
We see that certain practices of (certain types of) Islam (at certain times in certain places) allow men certain perks unknown to the West, like the fact that Muslim Israeli men can legally marry multiple women, whereas I (as a Jewish Israeli) cannot. [Further Islam fail deleted, I’m making a minimal claim.] So I’m seeing some dudes get a family life that I can’t, because Muslim, particularly since Sephardi Jewish Israelis (who are still allowed it in some wacky religious interpretations) find the law stamping out the practice. Add to that the decline in SMV and masculinity of Israeli-Jewish men in general due to modernity and feminism…if I didn’t belong to an elite on paper, I’d be pissed.
Also Roosh may be technically Muslim-in-culture-only, so it’s possibly a path not taken from his viewpoint. He sees the “power-over” Others but not the binding ties of the culture which limit men. But it’s freakery to miss something your religious law and culture parted with a milennium ago and admire it in others who still have it. And I guess I am a freak, my cousins are all happier with traditional Orthodox Jewish marriages and the Cousins, Abna al-Balad, seem happier too, whether with one woman or more.
Aaliyah, you’ve a heck of a lot more life experience (good and bad) and knowledge than I did at eighteen, fersure!
Eurosabra is still an ass.
Crud, I just realized that Forney can’t be more than, what, 24-25, if he started IMF when he was at university. Impressive guy. I think he’ll be big some day.
Interesting. I think he’ll be in jail.
So, P-EMRA, you agree that domestic violence is “necessary?” But you’re not part of a hate movement?
Also, it’s clear you’re a sock.
And PEMRA is also still an ass!
Shocking!
Maintaining an extremely low opinion of women and advocating beating them up – oh yeah, he’s a big deal all right. And at such a young age too! What a hero.
The fact you consider this impressive is why I don’t like you and wish you would go away, Pemra, and it’s got nothing to do with your ethnicity or gender. I feel the same way about GWW for the same reasons.
He said that women should deal with domestic violence.
IMPRESSIVE GUY for sure!
Permacrud’s last post just reeked of Mr Al. Or his Steele sock, who was always sucking up to other trolls. Very much his style, one of his little tells.
@Aaliyah: I wasn’t around much over the weekend, but I want to nth what everyone said. It’s a horrible situation but you’re a wonderful young woman and I am confident that you’ll work out a solution.
I have got my fingers crossed for you!