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Big Manosphere Reveal: Matt Forney was Ferdinand Bardamu

Matt Forney's a dick, so here are some goats in a tree.
Matt Forney’s a dick, so here are some goats in a tree.

Longtime readers of Man Boobz may remember “Ferdinand Bardamu,” the pseudonymous blogger behind the thoroughly despicable In Mala Fide blog. How despicable? Well, once upon a time, “Bardamu” wrote a post with the lovely title “The Necessity of Domestic Violence,” in which he set forth the proposition that “[w]omen should be terrorized by their men; it’s the only thing that makes them behave better than chimps.” Yeah. It was that kind of a blog. You can find some more of Bardamu’s terrible thoughts in the MB archives.

You may also remember that Bardamu took down his blog about a year ago, and seemingly vanished from the face of the earth.

Except it now turns out he hasn’t been gone at all. Indeed, he’s been hiding in plain sight the whole time. For, just about the same time that Bardamu vanished off the face of the earth, a new and almost-if-not-quite-as-thoroughly-despicable new Manospere blogger appeared, writing under his real name: Matt Forney.

He’s perhaps best known for a post in which he “jokingly” offered advice on how to get away with rape by murdering your victim. Ha ha! What a card! (Ultimately, Forney deleted his post, and offered a half-hearted, feminist-baiting “apology” for it.)

Forney came out as the Artist Formerly Known As Ferdinand Bardamu on his blog last week.

His explanation for his vanishing act? In part, he explained, it was because he had started getting disgusted by some of his own followers.  “Surround yourself with the worst humanity has to offer and it will inevitably wear on you,” he wrote.

 It got to the point where I dreaded reading my own site because it was becoming dominated by basement dwelling neo-Nazis, MRA permavirgins and other losers I would never bother with in real life.

As much as I hate people who bitch about “hatred” and “negativity,” they were right in the end: I didn’t want to be associated with those freaks.

Yep, the rank and file of the right-wing Manosphere actually disgusts the guy who came up with “[w]omen should be terrorized by their men; it’s the only thing that makes them behave better than chimps.” Yikes.

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serrana
serrana
8 years ago

Aaliyah, you’re not responsible for your father’s feelings, but I know you know that.

Also, I’ll bet there are lots of people who you can move in with who are pretending to be more devout to their parents than they are, who might be acceptable to your dad and you both, but for different reasons. Your specific problem might not be common, but your general one (controlling parents and culture clash) is more common than you think! I went through it, although the details were quite different.

Argenti Aertheri
8 years ago

Aaliyah — this may be the time to start lying through your teeth. Cassandra’s got a point (and is right btw, being able to wake up 15 min before class and still get there on time was a godsend) but also, you can’t find an apt that’s just Muslim men // you found a cheaper/closer place // they all like Monopoly as much as you do and don’t party much (insert whatever hobby/fandom/thing that might work — this is the desperate lie).

I know that wall of “but lying is wrong” is a glaring “should I really do this?” wall, but dealing with asshole parents? Yes, yes you should; truth is based on the predicate of mutual trust, which is clearly lacking here. And really, there comes a point where you lie about the little things (the apt is cheaper than any all Muslim ones you could find) to not have to lie about the big things (being forced to live as a Muslim male). Maybe I’m just justifying my own habit of lying to my parents though.

In any case, I’ll vouch for pecunium, y’all get like a third of the late night depressive rants that he listens to! (More useful than my psych he is!)

katz
8 years ago

Aaliyah, I’m sorry your dad is being such an asshole 🙁

I wonder if there’s someone at UCSC who could help. They’re plugging on-campus living pretty hard; maybe if you explained the situation it might be possible to get the dean of students or whoever to write your dad a nice but firm letter explaining why it is very very important that you live on campus.

pecunium
8 years ago

Aaliyah: If you wanted a good job (in terms of money), I have people in the Mountain View Area who could teach you unix sysadmin.

Other than that, I don’t have a whole lot of advice (from here, being in the NYC area now), other than to say trusting your instincts as regards your father.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
8 years ago

I second the suggestion of talking to the school administration and trying to get them to back you up or find our if they can create a work-around for you. Your situation is in some ways quite a common one, and given that this is the UC system a. they probably have some experience working around conservative parents who’re attempting to control their more liberal kids and b. they’re going to be on your side and want to help. I’m actually really glad in a sense that it’s UCSC that you’re heading to, because the people there are going to be very much on your side ideologically.

pecunium
8 years ago

cloudiah, in re books:

The Beak of the Finch (about Galapagos). The Language Wars. The Napoleon of Crime. Mycophilia. Assembling California. To Control Nature.

Those are all good, and I can recommend them wholeheartedly.

Kittehserf
8 years ago

I wasn’t mentioning genetics as in you thinking about them, but in the sense that the accident of genetics is what made you father and daughter. It doesn’t create an obligation from you to him, imo; he had the obligation to care for you and the rest of your family, and he blew it completely with his abuse.

It’s the “he’s still my father” thought I can’t really help with, because I don’t look on blood relatives that way, and it’s something one can only work through in one’s own way. I confess I cannot imagine feeling what you are, feeling pain and loss at the thought of being estranged from someone like him. Fearful of him, yes, despairing of escaping, but not anything remotely like love or affection or even a child’s dutifulness. I come from a place of despising my father and having cut of contact with him decades ago, and he was nowhere near as bad as yours, at least not to the family. I wish I could help you, Aaliyah, beyond internet hugs.

Kittehserf
8 years ago

“cut OFF contact”

Oy.

serrana
serrana
8 years ago

Aaliyah — this may be the time to start lying through your teeth.

Exactly. You need to live at place because the other tenants all in awesomeITorganization.org and you need to make contacts. You need to live place because 8 o’clock class and 6 pm class or I’ll never graduate. You need to live at place because future intern job. You get the idea.

I never wanted to lie to my parents, but I did. I claim self-defense.

Kittehserf
8 years ago

cloudiah, re science reading for your friend: what about good science magazines? They’re automatically in bite-size chunks.

Aaliyah
8 years ago

Aaliyah: If you wanted a good job (in terms of money), I have people in the Mountain View Area who could teach you unix sysadmin.

Thank you, that would be such a big help. All I have in my favor is a working knowledge of languages like JavaScript and libraries like jQuery. If I could do what you’re suggesting that would really help me. Do you want me to contact you via Dreamwidth?

Shiraz
Shiraz
8 years ago

Oh, pretty little lies…how they save one from the parental units’ hangups.

Argenti Aertheri
8 years ago

Will your student ID get you bus fare? If not that shit adds up fast! Play the money angle, and the excel at your studies angle.

And idk if he’d be worried about it, but the “what if I get out of class at 9pm? Take the bus at that hour?” angle. At least at Pitt 6-9 pm classes were totally a thing. (Dear gods did I hate having 9-9 days and then hours of studying, insomnia ftw)

General college things: the closer you are to campus, the easier it is in general — not wasting precious time commuting (because yes, when you’re doing 15+ credits and working, every hour counts, learn to eat while reading if you can’t yet) — not having to carry all your books all day (those fuckers are heavy!) — being able to squeeze in work hours between classes when you can run home and change for work (this works particularly well if work isn’t formal but a uniform). And the food situation, being on campus all day means eating absolute shit, either fast food or cafe food…actually, play the religion angle, if he keeps halal you can use it to your advantage to say that you actually need a kitchen you can make yourself lunch in.

And if you do intent to party, do it before classes start and on breaks, you won’t get much time otherwise (like, scheduling an acid trip around spring break…been there, done that…twice)

Shiraz
Shiraz
8 years ago

“And if you do intent to party, do it before classes start and on breaks, you won’t get much time otherwise (like, scheduling an acid trip around spring break…been there, done that…twice).”

Hahahaha. Argenti. You are wise.

Argenti Aertheri
8 years ago

And I see that katz posted a UCSC list of reasons to lie on campus while I was typing mine!

Oh and learn php, HTML and CSS. W3C has good guides on all of them and if you can figure out fucking JS, you can handle them. They’re basically the standard web designer “package” so to speak. Unix sysadmin definitely pays more though!

Aaliyah
8 years ago

Will your student ID get you bus fare? If not that shit adds up fast! Play the money angle, and the excel at your studies angle.

And idk if he’d be worried about it, but the “what if I get out of class at 9pm? Take the bus at that hour?” angle. At least at Pitt 6-9 pm classes were totally a thing. (Dear gods did I hate having 9-9 days and then hours of studying, insomnia ftw)

General college things: the closer you are to campus, the easier it is in general — not wasting precious time commuting (because yes, when you’re doing 15+ credits and working, every hour counts, learn to eat while reading if you can’t yet) — not having to carry all your books all day (those fuckers are heavy!) — being able to squeeze in work hours between classes when you can run home and change for work (this works particularly well if work isn’t formal but a uniform). And the food situation, being on campus all day means eating absolute shit, either fast food or cafe food…actually, play the religion angle, if he keeps halal you can use it to your advantage to say that you actually need a kitchen you can make yourself lunch in.

Argenti, thank you for all of these suggestions. I’m afraid they won’t work with him, though. I told him about the waste of time. He just said that an hour-long bus ride is nothing. I told him about how it would be so much easier if I stayed close to campus. He told me that if I’m so concerned about the length of the bus ride and the ease of living close to campus, I should just go to another state college close to where I currently live.

I tried. But he won’t budge. I’m not sure what else I can do, but I’m still thinking.

cloudiah
8 years ago

Are there really good science magazines? Not a sarcastic question, I just know there are some bad ones.

pecunium, I love John McPhee, and have some to lend her. Beak of the Finch is probably more in line with her interests, and I have that somewhere here too. Before she got sick, I once lent her Steven Johnson’s Ghost Map and she loved it.

katz
8 years ago

And study groups! They’re always from, like, 10 PM to midnight. My quantum study group started at midnight and, let me tell you, that was the only way I passed that class.

BTW, if you ever get tired of everyone throwing ideas at you, please say so; I definitely know people who immediately get into Solve Mode whenever you have a problem and they totally get on my nerves so if you ever just want people to listen, I will understand.

cloudiah
8 years ago

Keep thinking Aaliyah, and we will too. There is an answer, and things will work out.

serrana
serrana
8 years ago

There is an answer

Quoted for truth.

Aaliyah
8 years ago

And study groups! They’re always from, like, 10 PM to midnight. My quantum study group started at midnight and, let me tell you, that was the only way I passed that class.

I’m almost 19 and he sill hates the idea of me being out late at night without family members. Thank you for the suggestion but it won’t fly with him.

katz
8 years ago

Are there really good science magazines? Not a sarcastic question, I just know there are some bad ones.

Scientific American and Discover are both good (SciAm is written at a slightly higher level). Popular Science is fluffy but sometimes entertaining. Stay away from New Scientist at all costs.

pecunium
8 years ago

Aaliyah: Drop me a line via DW, and I’ll reach out to people. We shall see what we can arrange.

Kittehserf
8 years ago

cloudiah, it’s a good question, one to which I don’t have an answer, alas. I was going on the premise that there’d be a bigger choice in the US, at any rate.

Apropos of nothing, kitties.

Kittehserf
8 years ago

Glad to hear Scientific American’s a good one, katz – Mum buys it sometimes. (Yes, it’s on sale here in an outer ‘burbs newsagent.)

pecunium
8 years ago

The other thing, the “hour on the bus” is more than an hour, between the time to the stop, form the stop to the campus, and the reverse; as well as the less than adequate scheduling of that bus route. As I recall it was more than an hour, and the way the timing worked means that classes you need will not be available to you.

But it seems he has some serious problems with allowing you to be an adult.

Aaliyah
8 years ago

Oh and learn php, HTML and CSS. W3C has good guides on all of them and if you can figure out fucking JS, you can handle them. They’re basically the standard web designer “package” so to speak. Unix sysadmin definitely pays more though!

I already know HTML5 and CSS. I also know a little bit of Ruby in addition to jQuery and JS; I’m thinking about learning Ruby on Rails as I’ve heard that’s very powerful and popular these days.

It wouldn’t hurt to try looking at PHP, though.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
8 years ago

Actually, if he really hates the idea of you being out alone late at night, that might be a fruitful angle if you keep at it. There’s no way that if you’re an hour away from your university you won’t be out late alone on a regular basis. It’s just not possible. So, unless he wants to go pick you up…

cloudiah
8 years ago

Aaliyah, UCLA hires students to do programming. If you were to get a job on campus, would that help?

And katz has a good point. Maybe we should stop offering solutions you can come up with yourself, and just tell you you have our complete support. Let us know what is helpful and what isn’t, and don’t worry about hurting our feelings.

cloudiah
8 years ago

By which I mean, if UCLA does it, maybe UCSC does too. In case my leap of logic isn’t clear.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
8 years ago

I’m going to stop making suggestions too per cloudiah’s suggestion other than to repeat – talk to the campus student advisory offices. That’s what they’re there for, and they want to help students.

Aaliyah
8 years ago

The other thing, the “hour on the bus” is more than an hour, between the time to the stop, form the stop to the campus, and the reverse; as well as the less than adequate scheduling of that bus route. As I recall it was more than an hour, and the way the timing worked means that classes you need will not be available to you.

But it seems he has some serious problems with allowing you to be an adult.

And I’ve just confirmed that the bus route is as long as you say it is.

Well, shit.

And katz has a good point. Maybe we should stop offering solutions you can come up with yourself, and just tell you you have our complete support. Let us know what is helpful and what isn’t, and don’t worry about hurting our feelings.

It’s all right. I really appreciate the help – I feel completely lost right now so even the suggestions that won’t help me are helpful somehow (think “process of elimination”). And of course pecunium’s suggestion about me learning Unix sysadmin is extremely helpful. So while I’m not going to pressure anyone to help, I do appreciate all the advice. I only get upset by advice-giving when it’s done in a really condescending and patronizing way. But none of you are like that. Quite the opposite.

katz
8 years ago

Actually, if he really hates the idea of you being out alone late at night, that might be a fruitful angle if you keep at it. There’s no way that if you’re an hour away from your university you won’t be out late alone on a regular basis. It’s just not possible. So, unless he wants to go pick you up…

I was thinking of that too. For instance, if you take any lab science class, you’ll have to take a lab that will say that it ends at 5, but it will go to 6 or 7 or god knows when, and you can’t leave until your goddamn reaction actually works or else you’ll get a zero, and by the time you’re done with everything it’s still an hour bus ride and you have to wait at a bus stop all by yourself…

The risk is just that he might eventually go “Well, if you can’t make it work, then you can’t go to UCSC at all!” But Aaliyah knows her dad and will have a better sense of where that line is than we do.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
8 years ago

It’s also possible that you may have to start the first term living at home and then go “well, looks like this commuting thing isn’t working out”.

Aaliyah
8 years ago

The risk is just that he might eventually go “Well, if you can’t make it work, then you can’t go to UCSC at all!” But Aaliyah knows her dad and will have a better sense of where that line is than we do.

Unfortunately, there’s a 90% chance he’ll say that if I bring up the inconvenience of the bus route. But perhaps there’s a chance he’ll change his mind. I’ll ask him tomorrow.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
8 years ago

This is why I’m saying that you might end up having to wait until the term is already underway – less chance of him pulling the plug and demanding a change of college once you’ve already started.

Aaliyah
8 years ago

It’s also possible that you may have to start the first term living at home and then go “well, looks like this commuting thing isn’t working out”.

He told me that he will only let me live on or near campus during my senior year at UCSC. So I know that things will be easier then.

But I’m not happy with that at all. I’m sorry if I’m sounding rash or immature, but I don’t want to live like this any longer, even if it’s for only one quarter at UCSC. To the best of my ability, I want to ensure that I move out by the time I’m going to UCSC. If I have no choice, I’ll compromise and stay at home for my first quarter, but I absolutely hate that idea.

Kittehserf
8 years ago

That doesn’t sound at all rash or immature – just the opposite.

Argenti Aertheri
8 years ago

Pecunium’s right, your core problem here is the not treating you like an adult bit. Do you have any relatives he’d respect the opinion of that could remind him that you are an adult now?

If he’s anything like my family, don’t try having that conversation under his roof unless you’re prepared for the inevitable “as long as you’re under my roof” line.

At a more basic level, can you reason with him that you’re going to need adult skills sooner or later and an apt will help build those? And really, just treating you like an adult would help since you can be a dependant child forever? (Word that carefully if you try it, the risk of “well then go be independent now!” exists)

And um, I imagine it’s the last card you want to have to play, but if he’s going to treat you like a Muslim man, play it up, point out how that means you’ll need to be a head of household and take care of a wife etc etc. Yes, it royally fucking sucks, but it’s a lie to avoid having to continue living a lie.

If I thought smacking him might help, I’d suggest it at this point (lol, no, seriously, responding to his attempts to “teach me self-defense” by randomly assaulting me with proof I knew self-defense, caused my father enough bruises that he learned to fucking stop — some people cannot be reasoned with). But I have the perk that my mother is usually reasonable and controls the money, more or less.

In any case, work backwards. You want an apt, with trans* friendly people. Work backwards to how you make that happen. The bus isn’t a problem if nothing you say will be taken seriously — the not being taken seriously is the problem. Etc.

But as for the bus, I’ll end this with a joke (that probably half of you will get) — “And while you guys are dragging your candy asses half way across the state and back, I’ll be waiting on the other side, relaxing with my thoughts.” — an hour+ there is an hour+ back is probably nearly 3 hours not spent studying. And anyone who thinks you can study on a bus has never tried it (if it comes up, the inability to juggle three colors of highlighters, post it note flags, and index cards is why)

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
8 years ago

Intention – I will work during my commute!

Result – plays Angry Birds, reads Oh Not They Didn’t.

Argenti Aertheri
8 years ago

I must keep it shorter than that, sorry!

“I was thinking of that too. For instance, if you take any lab science class, you’ll have to take a lab that will say that it ends at 5, but it will go to 6 or 7 or god knows when, and you can’t leave until your goddamn reaction actually works or else you’ll get a zero, and by the time you’re done with everything it’s still an hour bus ride and you have to wait at a bus stop all by yourself…”

Or says it’ll end at 9 and you find yourself at a vending machine at 9:30 before you starve to death because it turns out you have an hour more to go over before the midterm. Night classes suck. And even if it gets out at 9, add an hour on the bus and you have, at absolute best, two hours to study. Pretty sure they still recommend two hours of studying per hour in class (how the fuck you’re supposed to actually do that is beyond me though)

freemage
freemage
8 years ago

Aaliyah: Yeah, by all means, talk to the folks on-campus. Ask them flat-out, if your father were to cut you off, what sort of financial aid would you actually be able to qualify for? I won’t even pretend that this would be an easy road–but whether it’s ‘easier’ than living under your father’s control for another year is one of those things you can only decide for yourself, after learning all your options.

You might also see if there’s a student group for ex-Muslims; they’re becoming more common now, but I don’t know if there’s going to be one on your campus or not.

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serrana | April 27, 2013 at 4:21 pm

Someone called the MRM a social justice cargo cult once. (Was it here?) I thought that was brilliant.

amandajane5 | April 27, 2013 at 4:50 pm

That was definitely here, because I’d never heard of a cargo cult before, very accurate, though.

That was me, earlier this week! Thanks for the kind words for my analogy. I’ll admit, I’m fairly proud of that one.

Aaliyah
8 years ago

Argenti, no need to worry about the long responses. It’s not like you’re sending me diatribes or anything,

Pecunium’s right, your core problem here is the not treating you like an adult bit. Do you have any relatives he’d respect the opinion of that could remind him that you are an adult now?

He’s like that with everyone. He’s the oldest brother of the family, and so he thinks that he has the right to tell everyone what to do. He often says something like “If you want to be treated like an adult, act like one!” whenever I voice my objection to what he tells me to do or whenever I’m consistently not doing exactly what he says.

And actually, I do. One of my uncles, in fact, is all for me living away from home. I’ll go ask for his help – thanks for the suggestion. He was the same uncle who warned against me becoming a pot-head if I live there, but I think he’s still fond of the idea of me moving out. It won’t hurt to ask.

If he’s anything like my family, don’t try having that conversation under his roof unless you’re prepared for the inevitable “as long as you’re under my roof” line.

He’s exactly like that, unfortunately. X_X

At a more basic level, can you reason with him that you’re going to need adult skills sooner or later and an apt will help build those? And really, just treating you like an adult would help since you can be a dependant child forever? (Word that carefully if you try it, the risk of “well then go be independent now!” exists)

And um, I imagine it’s the last card you want to have to play, but if he’s going to treat you like a Muslim man, play it up, point out how that means you’ll need to be a head of household and take care of a wife etc etc. Yes, it royally fucking sucks, but it’s a lie to avoid having to continue living a lie.

He’s probably not going to listen to that because his other reason for not wanting me to live there is that he wants to pay for my living expenses, and he currently can’t afford it. I’ll try my best to persuade him to eventually let me take care of my living expenses, but that’s going to be rather difficult.

If I thought smacking him might help, I’d suggest it at this point (lol, no, seriously, responding to his attempts to “teach me self-defense” by randomly assaulting me with proof I knew self-defense, caused my father enough bruises that he learned to fucking stop — some people cannot be reasoned with). But I have the perk that my mother is usually reasonable and controls the money, more or less.

He is one of the scariest people I know. Only recently was I able to defend myself from him the first time, and that made everything even worse.

I was in the car with him, and he was arguing about my eating habits. I raised my voice and said “hey” (literally that’s all) and then, WHILE DRIVING, he put me in a fucking headlock taunting me to say that again because he was furious about me disrespecting him. I pushed myself away from him and telling him that putting me in headlock while in the car (the car was at a stoplight, but still) is extremely dangerous, but he just tightened his grip and got angrier.

In any case, work backwards. You want an apt, with trans* friendly people. Work backwards to how you make that happen. The bus isn’t a problem if nothing you say will be taken seriously — the not being taken seriously is the problem. Etc.

I’ll try to think about it that way, thanks.

Kittehserf
8 years ago

The more I hear about your father, Aaliyah, the more I think “intervention order” or straight out “this bastard should be doing time”. 🙁

Aaliyah
8 years ago

Yeah, by all means, talk to the folks on-campus. Ask them flat-out, if your father were to cut you off, what sort of financial aid would you actually be able to qualify for? I won’t even pretend that this would be an easy road–but whether it’s ‘easier’ than living under your father’s control for another year is one of those things you can only decide for yourself, after learning all your options.

You might also see if there’s a student group for ex-Muslims; they’re becoming more common now, but I don’t know if there’s going to be one on your campus or not.

I’ll ask them that, sure. I’ll either email them or go to the campus myself.

Joining such a group this quarter is probably one of the worst thing I can do considering that I’m afraid of my father finding out, and there are few things that piss him off more than apostasy. Thank you for the suggestion, though. I’ll consider it some day.

Aaliyah
8 years ago

The more I hear about your father, Aaliyah, the more I think “intervention order” or straight out “this bastard should be doing time”.

I’m not trying to be apologetic, but he hasn’t been violent to me these days (although he still likes to threaten me a lot). Right now he’s a lot nicer to me because he’s proud of my admission into UCSC and the fast pace of my web development training. And I really, really don’t want to deal with getting him arrested or anything at this time. I’ll just crumble if I have to deal with that on top of everything I’m dealing with right now.

gillyrosebee
gillyrosebee
8 years ago

I don’t know… I used to prepare my lecture notes for TA sections while on the bus, aided by really good headphones and traveling at off hours.

More seriously, though, I know that it can feel intolerable not to handle basic issues, like wanting to be free of the emotional manipulation or blackmail of family, but a UC quarter is 10 weeks at a time, and it might be possible to push for a little more freedom each quarter until you reach a point where the balance of connection and separation is tolerable…

katz
8 years ago

I hope you will be OK even if you can’t make it work right now. Yes, it really sucks, but even though it feels like it’s going to be forever until you’re a senior, it’s not actually going to be that long and I don’t want you to get discouraged.

Argenti Aertheri
8 years ago

Argle fucking bargle = my only response to your father. The corollary to “then act like an adult” is “if you want respect, act like I should respect you”…but that went poorly when I tried it. Granted my mother did say that I was right, but in the end I got a round of “are you taking your pills?” (being completely dismissed because crazy is so much fun)

gillyrosebee — off hours would help I guess. Pittsburgh has um, a variety of homeless people. The drunk and potentially dangerous ones come out at night, so I was never comfortable wearing headphones after dark, and my daylight hours were generally in class or elbow deep in software (discs, machines making them, such fun things)

Utterly tangentially, the disc storage module broke once, dropped two discs in one slot and refused to acknowledge the second one, it was effectively lost. I said “just turn it upside down and shake it”, my boss got that pale “oh heavens no” expression and said he was going to find the manual…it said to turn it upside down and shake it. Luckily we had the sort of relationship where that was hilarious and I was laughing with him. Laughing at your boss is unwise after all 🙂

Argenti Aertheri
8 years ago

Speaking of “it won’t be that long” get a real paper calendar, figure out when this mythical semester when you can move out starts, number backwards. The concrete reminder that it is going to happen helps somewhat. (Like, having my plane ticket to Pittsburgh, and a count down til I left, was basically why I didn’t kill myself after rapist ex #1, the effect on your mental state is stronger than you’d think)