UPDATE: Elam has retracted his original story. See the end of this post for more details.
Men’s Rights Activists often insist that false accusations of rape are literally as bad as rape itself, and that false accusers of rape should spend as much time in prison as actual rapists.
Presumably they feel the same way about false accusers of other crimes, from murder to check kiting.
So in the wake of Paul Elam’s reckless false accusations against recent Georgetown graduate Arianna Pattek, one would expect other MRAs to rise up en masse to demand that Elam turn himself in.
Elam, you may recall, accused Pattek of serious violations of civil rights laws, claiming that she, as an employee of Georgetown’s admissions office, showed clear bias against white men. Indeed, Elam didn’t even qualify his accusations with an “alleged,” as journalists routinely do when writing about those accused but not convicted of crimes. Here’s what he wrote about her:
Pattek, who clearly has issues with sexual and racial bigotry, decided she would not only trash the applications of white males on sight, she also decided to blog about her activities under what she assumed was anonymous conditions. Writing for a web blog called The Feminist Conservative, Pattek laid out precisely what she was doing in very clear terms. …
Clearly this is a person not only warped by ideology, but who also holds deep seated prejudices that guided her unscrupulous actions. Her targets were selected by sex, race, political beliefs and perhaps even religion. Her identity was traced after she referenced the subject of her master’s thesis at Georgetown in some of her writing, including the “about” page at the Feminist Conservative.
The trouble is that absolutely none of this is true. There’s nothing linking Pattek to the blog, which seems to be a hoax, and numerous things suggesting that she is NOT the author of the blog any more than Paul Elam is.
As Georgetown has made clear, Pattek never worked for the school’s admissions office. She never wrote a Master’s thesis; she graduated from Georgetown in 2012 with a bachelors degree, not a masters (as Elam claims) or a doctorate (as the FeministConservative blogger claimed about herself, if she is even a she). Pattek’s thesis was a Senior thesis required for her minor in Justice and Peace, which a program for undergraduates. The topic(s) of her senior thesis only bear a slight resemblance to the topic(s) of the alleged doctoral thesis of the FeministConservative blogger. Even a quick perusal of the “evidence” posted on A Voice for Men will reveal numerous other discrepancies.
Indeed, the falsity and recklessness of Elam’s charges against Pattek are so patently obvious that even some MRAs have begun to doubt. On the Men’s Rights subreddit, for example, the mods have added “May be fake” to the title of the thread discussing the feministconservative blog controversy.
In the comments, someone called isktamin offers this take:
I’ve been on another forum with a couple other people, and this is absolutely a fake. [Pattek’s] thesis states that she is of Jewish descent and identifies wholly as Jewish, while the blog states that she is Christian and not of Jewish descent.
Pattek seems to be a pretty good person. Someone’s been deleting all traces of her from the GU website, likely another student. Google archives are telling us that she has multiple awards, she helped children in need in Kenya. Her thesis is of pretty good quality, too. The blog is of shit quality without effort to spell things correctly. It’s quite the blatant online defamation campaign, and I haven’t the slightest idea why.
Incidentally, he’s right about the difference in religion, the awards, the work Pattek did in Kenya, the difference in quality between the blog and Pattek’s thesis. He’s wrong about who deleted the information: as we learned yesterday, it was the current director of the Justice and Peace program, in response to harassment from white supremacists.
Meanwhile, alt right Manosphere blogger Chuck Ross of Gucci Little Piggy has also cast serious doubt on Elam’s accusations.
Even on A Voice for Men a few Men’s Rights Activists have challenged Elam’s case, most notably Chris Deslone, the founder of the Men’s Rights subreddit and a contributor to AVFM.
So where is the upswelling of outrage amongst MRAs at Elam’s false accusations? Where are the calls for him to be charged with crimes as serious as the civil rights violations he has accused Pattek of? Where are the calls for him to turn himself in – or at the very least, to apologize for his misdeeds and step down from his position at A Voice for Men?
I haven’t seen any.
For MRAs, sorry seems to be the hardest word.
You might expect Pierce Harlan of the so-called Community of the Wrongly Accused to have some sympathy for the wrongly accused Pattek. But he’s said nothing on his site (or anywhere else, as far as I know) about Elam’s false and reckless accusations, and Elam is still listed in the Community of the Wrongly Accused sidebar as a “False rape activist,” whatever that is.
Over on the Men’s Rights subreddit, meanwhile, the mods actually deleted a post asking “So, when does the woman you guys falsely accused get an apology?” (You can still find it here, but you can no longer reach it from the Men’s Rights subreddit itself.) The comments, naturally, are full of denial, and many have been deleted, making for a surreal discussion indeed. “I don’t recall having falsely accused anyone of anything,” real-boethius wrote indignantly. “Even AVFM had the story up as “Georgetown University Coverup?” – note the question mark, and they state that the evidence is inconclusive.”
Uh, Did. You. Actually. Read. Elam’s. Post?
Elam, for his part, after adamantly attacking all those who challenged his accusations in any way, may now realize that he’s made a huge mistake. He hasn’t admitted this, of course, but he has awkwardly appended to his post some of the information gathered by Chris Deslone that clearly shows that his accusations are completely bogus. So now we have the strange spectacle of a post that accuses Pattek of various civil rights violations, without even an “allegedly” to qualify the accusations, which ends with links to official statements from Georgetown that undercut everything Elam has said:
Here, here and here are the Twitter links in that screenshot.
All of this is surreal enough, but perhaps the most surreal response to the whole thing comes from the Reno, Nevada MRA known as Scarecrow, a former-but-now-banned Man Boobz commenter, in a comment on Reddit:
Apparently nothing is ever the fault of MRAs ever, including the things they do.
UPDATE: Elam has now retracted his original story naming Pattek as a civil rights violator. Here are the key bits of his retraction:
In hindsight it is apparent that I was too fast on the trigger in establishing a connection between the blogger who claimed to have sabotaged the applications and that of a former student at Georgetown. While there is circumstantial evidence that does connect the two, and many unanswered questions, there is nothing that makes that connection a verifiable certainty.
It was a mistake on my part for which I apologize to the woman in question, and to any readers who felt they were misled. The original article naming her has been updated with a link to this retraction and her name has been redacted from the article. I am also removing all comments to the article and closing them to make sure no references to her are made.
I think this somewhat mealymouthed mea culpa is about as close to an admission of wrongdoing as we’re ever likely to get from Elam on anything.
Elam continues to cast vague aspersions on Georgetown itself, however:
I also want to make it clear that this retraction does not mean that AVFM is abandoning its investigation into the validity of the claims made about trashing university applications based on sex and race. Additionally, we are not done with concerns about the university itself, whose unusual and somewhat cryptic manner of responding to this story leaves more questions than answers.
Actually, I think Georgetown was fairly direct in responding to most of the questions on its official Twitter account. Elam also brings up his conspiracy theory, saying that
we did not take an interest in it until it became apparent that Georgetown University was moving, without explanation, to remove all references to her from their websites.
In fact, the director of the Justice and Peace program at Georgetown, Mark Lance, provided an explanation of this to my readers yesterday, as I pointed out in this post. But I’ll recap: according to Lance, the past director of the Justice and Peace program took her information down in response to harassment from white supremacists. There’s nothing particularly mysterious about that.
I’m honestly surprised to see Elam admit to being wrong about anything. I suspect — though I have no proof, and this is simply speculation — that he may have spoken to a lawyer — either his own, or someone else’s.
@ pecunium
Yeah I’m kind if fascinated with people who live in alternate realities. Whenever I tell people I know about MRAs, they don’t know what the hell I’m talking about, they don’t get that these people actually exist in 2013 North America. Oddly, while mra logic is pretty hateful and pathetic, it is pretty entertaining. I can’t help chuckling. (not when they start harassing campaigns though)
To me, the whole “gay panic” garbage suggests (tell me if I’m off base, I’ve never met anyone talking like this) that the straight man claiming to be afraid a gay man will rape or just hit on him has a very, very skewed idea of normal male behaviour/sexuality. It sounds like he’s scared that a man might do to him what he does, or wants to do, to women … could there possibly be a niggling, underdeveloped notion there that he knows his attitude to women* sucks?
*As well as his attitude to gay men, obvs.
Apologies for this being wholly cis-centric, I haven’t the knowledge, let alone right, to talk about trans* people’s experiences of this sort of shit.
@ Aaliyah
Wow that’s pretty intense. I heard of misandry on manboobz the first time, about 2 years ago. Before that, I didn’t know it was a thing. Anyway, I’m glad you got rid of those assumptions. I’m curious as to what changed you? (If you want to share)
Except misandry isn’t a thing, it’s a word made up by misogynists. Did you see the Adonis article opheliamonarch linked to? Very interesting on that word’s oh-so-recent origins.
@kittehserf
I definitely notice a trend with (cis hetero) homophobes. Some of them will assume a gay person of their gender *must* want to have sex with them. They are so gayrresistible that the gay person has no choice in the matter. And of course, the homophobe will shame the gay person for this.
The first time I saw this was in high school (over 10 years ago) when we had a lesbian teacher. While implying she was also a pedophile, adults were telling us to be careful around her.
I guess gay and lesbian people also just can’t resist the, uh, genital carrousel.
@Cloudiah
That presentation actually looks pretty interesting, though I can see where it would run in to problems. It seems to assume that rape is a male on female problem without acknowledging any others. If that is where the useful science is (due to oversight, lack of funding, or something like that) then yeah, give me the sc
Yeah, that “I am so irresistible” ego nonsense always seems to be there too, doesn’t it? Like, yeah, right, you’re SO hot that every guy around with the slightest hint of same-sex attraction is going to be after you. Riiiight.
And yet the same guys absolutely refuse to think women have any justification in not wanting that very sort of attention from them. It’s a compliment, what’s your problem, stuck up b*t*h, etc, etc, etc.
I believe that it is not uncommon for children growing up in abusive situations to blame the person being abused more than or rather than the abuser. (In fact, as we know, many people who are abused also blame themselves for the abuse.)
Aaliyah, I am very glad that you are out of that situation. All kinds of internet hugs, if they’re welcome.
I always thought it was connected to the perception of homosexuality as a pathology.
Many things. First, as a child, I was extremely afraid of sexual abuse. I had a strong fear of being kidnapped and molested (which, in my mind, meant me being touched in private places I didn’t want anyone to touch me). That was what first set up my aversion to sexual aggression. I also witnessed, as stated earlier, my mother being abused in various ways, and that made me more sympathetic to victims of abuse.
Then when I was 12, I stumbled upon online images of a 14-year-old Iraqi girl being gang-raped by US soldiers. They were partially censored, but I was nearly traumatized by what I saw. I couldn’t believe that human beings could do such a thing. My hatred for sexual aggression became even stronger. That I kept running into rape jokes online only made me more disgusted by sexual aggression; I hated seeing people joke about it, even when the jokes were about male-on-male rape. Thinking about rape made me sick to my stomach. And because I was exposed to so much rape-y stuff, I had this belief that sex was a horrible thing because rape existed. I didn’t think sex and rape were the same thing; I just couldn’t wrap my mind around the idea that sex could be non-coercive, and so I only wished for people to stop having sex in order for rape to stop happening. (Hey, I was only 12-years-old – my critical thinking skills weren’t very good).
When I was 15, I was somewhat religious, and I was concerned about the status of women in Islam. I eventually started to detest Islam because of the wife-beating verse, the demonization of femaleness, and more. At the same age I was also reading stories of various survivors of sexual violence, and I was heartbroken by what I read. In a very short period of time I was made fully aware of rape culture.
At the age of 16, I left Islam because I was disgusted by its sexism.
I didn’t call myself a feminist officially until I came across Angry Harry. I was disgusted by him to the core. I hated seeing his arguments about how men are smarter than women – and so I grew contempt for all forms of gender essentialism. And then I kept running into all kinds of MRA websites and anti-feminist websites. In the end, I got sick of anti-feminist sophistry and started calling myself a feminist at the age of 17. When I was in community college full-time, I also enrolled in a sociology class in which I had a more formal introduction to feminist theories.
In sum, I became a feminist once I dropped my Islamic beliefs, got upset about gender essentialism, gained a hatred for MRAs and other anti-feminists, and became highly contemptuous of rape culture.
@Aaliyah, so sorry to hear that, but glad you’re with us 🙂 Childhoods seem to take us in all directions, even when we think it should take us one way, it takes us another, the human brain is a complicated beast. 🙂
@Cloudiah
I can see where your problematic feelings are coming from. The poster seems to assume that rape is a male on female problem. If this is the only paradigm used in psychological/scientific exploration then yeah, fine, give me the science, but in the same breath make VERY SURE to qualify it carefully and PROPERLY – maybe even going so far as to explore whether theory suggests it might be different across genders. The story of the human condition is the story of variance among individuals, so of course the results wont be applicable to all, but knowing a potential story from that perspective is quite valuable.
I am a little interested to see what the collected psychologists have to say on the issue. I’ve been out of the loop on scientific exploration of such things for a while, all my information is old and probably SADLY out of date.
The problem with the various MRA attempted gotchas is that in order to construct an effective one you have to understand how the person you’re trying to set up thinks. They don’t, so their gotchas fail, every damn time.
This was initially amusing but has now become rather dull.
Thank you.
[TW: graphic depiction of abuse]
You know, at the age of 4, even when I saw my father throw* a metal lighter at my mother’s ear out of anger, even when I saw blood gush from the place the lighter hit, I still (internally) believed that she brought the mistreatment upon herself. Of course, I didn’t say “Mommy, stop getting yourself hurt by Daddy,” and I definitely felt horrible when I saw her being harmed, but even at a very young age I had a victim-blaming mindset.
Abuse is such an ugly thing. If she were with me right now I would give her a hug for sure. I’m glad that she’s now married to someone who isn’t an asshole.
*My father asserts it was an accident, but I don’t really believe him.
@Aaliyah
T.W. also.
“My father asserts it was an accident, but I don’t really believe him”
Yeah, In my experience, this is a common problem, abusers seem to love their reality twists!
My father told us it was an accident when he dropped a wardrobe over a bannister, onto my mothers head, go figure.
‘Yes your honour, I was walking on the landing with a wardrobe under my arm when It accidentaly slipped, honest!’
Sorry, when abusers try to wriggle out of responsibility it really pisses me off!
Hugs, hugs, hugs, well done on being a super person :))
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And they seem far more interested in trying to score “gotchas” in internet arguments than in, like, doing stuff that would, like, actually help men.
Those are some potent truth bombs we’ve got here.
@Aaliyah and ophelia, consensual-only internet hugs to you both. That’s really terrible; I’ve been lucky enough to grow up in a household where neither of my parents have ever raised a hand to each other, but even during verbal arguments I would side with my dad (the usual winner) over my mom. The patriarchy is fucked up.
Okay, I realise everyone will have seen this too, but a lovely chap on Youtube
(Vogter Viking, if anyone’s interested. He’s one right on Viking, if a little/a lot, rage filled. But then there’s a lot to be angry about, so who am I to judge?) linked me to it and I promised I’d pass it on to anybody I knew, so sorry if you’ve seen it, but ….
http://jezebel.com/5992479/if-i-admit-that-hating-men-is-a-thing-will-you-stop-turning-it-into-a-self+fulfilling-prophecy
Wow, that was a bit rambling, need to sleep again, hope it made enough sense.