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A Voice for Men attacks a male activist — with a rape joke reference

John Hembling (John The Other) has rape on the brain.
John Hembling (John The Other) evidently has rape on the brain.

In an apparent attempt to prove that they’re not misogynists, the folks at A Voice for Men have decided to take a temporary break from their practice of vilifying individual female activists to vilify a male activist – University of Toronto Student Union VP for University Affairs Munib Sajjad.

As far as I can tell, the folks at A Voice for Men decided to target Sajjad, perversely, because he told Toronto’s CityNews that he was afraid he was “going to be targeted” after announcing publicly that he thought a campus Men’s Rights group should be banned. The A Voice for Men post about Sajjad is a typically long-winded, and largely content-free, rant from the excitable John Hembling (“John The Other”).

But what’s more disturbing than Hembling’s empty bloviating on Sajjad is the way A Voice for Men has framed the attack. “Munib Sajjad, it’s your turn in the barrel,” the headline declares, and Hembling repeats the phrase “your turn in the barrel” in the post itself.

I wasn’t familiar with this phrase, so I looked it up, and found that it derives from a rape joke. Here’s the definition of the term, from Urban Dictionary:

To say someone is “in the barrel” or “taking a turn in the barrel” means it’s their turn to do an unpleasant task or to suffer an unpleasant experience.

Click on the “definition” link above to see the gang rape joke it’s derived from.

Rape jokes aimed at men — even men you don’t like — are certainly a, well, counterintuitive way of showing “compassion for boys and men,” as the A Voice for Men slogan has it.

EDITED TO ADD: Looking again at Hembling’s piece, I realize I hadn’t noticed his, er, argument that the term “mansplaining” — which I find useful from time to time — is somehow equivalent to the incredibly offensive term “[racial slur redacted]splaining,” which Hembling has just made up. (The slur in question starts with an “n.” You can figure it out.) This is ridiculous on its face, not to mention that it’s frankly racist not only to compare the alleged oppressions of men — who are not systematically oppressed — with those of black people — who are — but also to use a racial slur in doing so. Of course this isn’t the first time that A Voice for Men has used the n-word in an attempt to suggest that men, collectively, have it as bad as a historically disadvantaged and still systematically oppressed group.

Rape jokes and racial slurs: A Voice for Men has it all!

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Shiraz
Shiraz
11 years ago

I’m off too. Someone pick up my shift, please? Minter is ridiculous.

katz
11 years ago

Remember that time someone linked NWOslave to gay porn by saying “Here’s some porn for men” and he totally fell for it? XD

Maude LL
11 years ago

Hey, human rights movement!
I might be doubling his page views for doing this (from 16 to 32), but John the Other has a copycat uncle! “Jerry the Other”
*chuckles*

[I saw this on skepchick first]

Maude LL
11 years ago

-Prester and Minter
Where have you guys been? We missed you in the previous threads.

cloudiah
cloudiah
11 years ago

Really? He doesn’t see being forced to perform oral sex — in a barrel, no less — as rape?

MRAs who are lurking, can you now admit the need to educate people about what rape is?

opheliamonarch
11 years ago

So, who’s Brz? S/he’s talking weird over on the other thread.

katz
11 years ago

Garden variety troll. Pretends to be French to cover up grammar errors, which is amusing.

baroncognito
11 years ago

That “joke” is really weird. Who, upon encountering a barrel and being told to stick his dick in it, wouldn’t have questions? But no, he’s not worried about it at all, and he doesn’t care about what happens inside the barrel until he’s told he’s going to have a turn.

I’d tell it more like this:

“The new recruit begins to think, and asks the captain, ‘Sir, being that we are away at sea for a long period of time…what happens about sexual needs??’ ‘oh’ says the captain, “go to the back of the cargo hold and you will see a barrel with a hole..Give it a go. It’ll be the best you ever had!’. Bewildered, the recruit goes to the cargo hold and finds the barrel.

‘What the fuck Captain! That barrel was full of Jalapenos! It hurts so much!’ the recruit cries.

‘And well it should! You stuck your penis into a barrel without looking to see what was inside. What sort of idiot are you? And seriously, who asks the Captain of a vessel about sex on the seas? You’re nine kinds of stupid, boy.'”

Cthulhu's Intern
Cthulhu's Intern
11 years ago

So, wait, are they trying to be equally shitty to everyone?
Well, they can do better than that if they’re trying.

opheliamonarch
11 years ago

Oh, sorry, of course, faux French, thank you 🙂

Deoridhe
11 years ago

I am always baffled by people who attempt to prove they aren’t something by doing the actions of that something in response to accusations that they are something.

Cthulhu's Intern
Cthulhu's Intern
11 years ago

“How dare you insinuate that we might attack you! For that, we shall attack you!”

thekidwiththereplaceablehead
thekidwiththereplaceablehead
11 years ago

“You feminists are awful sensitive about anything.”

Wait… I thought Official Feminist Policy was to be dismissive and cavalier about male rape?

Argenti Aertheri
Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

“…to serve men.”

It’s a cookbook!

Seriously though, “you have to perform sex acts on your crew mates” =/= rape to Minty?

And “I’m afraid I’ll be targeted” is met with specifically targeting him for expressing that fear? I haz a confused.

Shadow
Shadow
11 years ago

groveling at the holy alter of the revered vagina.

Has David been worshipping vajazzles?

Prester_John
Prester_John
11 years ago

Shiraz: Godliness is following the word of God; as it is stated clearly in the authorized King James Bible,

Shadow
Shadow
11 years ago

Shiraz: Godliness is following the word of God; as it is stated clearly in the authorized King James Bible,

Which is only useful to Christian universities (if that)

Malitia
Malitia
11 years ago

Wow. John’s definition of godliness is perfectly meaningless to me as I’m Hungarian (eclectic neo-pagan).

marinerachel
marinerachel
11 years ago

I suppose this is preferable to him telling us about his penis. I think?

Kittehserf
11 years ago

Marginally! 😀

Argenti Aertheri
Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

“Which is only useful to Christian universities (if that)”

Not the one I spent a year at. New living bible or something like that? In any case, there are specific translation “issues” with KJV because of tiptoeing around certain concepts, also, all those thee’s and thou’s throw people.

marinerachel
marinerachel
11 years ago

Very marginally. I feel only slightly less icky.

It’s funny; I want that image of John Hembling gone and it’s got nothing to do with his appearance. I just don’t want to look at him or for him to seemingly be looking at me because he’s a dreadful person.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

So, these are the things we have learned about Minty today.

A. He’s too stupid to recognize a rape joke as what it is even when he’s the one telling it.

B. He is in the process of creating a new language (one in which “crumby” is a word).

Kittehserf
11 years ago

Crumby’s a word when it means the state of a bed post-crackers …

lowquacks
lowquacks
11 years ago

“Crumby” is the spelling used throughout The Catcher In The Rye, I’m seem to remember, so perhaps it’s a North-East US thing or an older thing?