And so the MRAs have found yet another woman to hate.
Earlier this month, as many of you no doubt know, a Men’s Rights group sponsored a lecture at the University of Toronto. The event drew protesters, and the protesters drew MRAs with video cameras. One of the MRAs filmed a confrontation between a red-haired feminist activist and a number of MRAs who continually interrupted her as she tried to read a brief statement.
Her crime? She wasn’t exactly polite in responding to the interrupters. And so, after video of the confrontation was uploaded to YouTube, and linked to on the Men’s Rights subreddit and elsewhere, she became a virtual punching bag for the angry misogynists of the internet.
A Voice for Men, naturally, led the charge, running an article by Canadian MRA Dan Perrins labeling her “Little red frothing fornication mouth” and commenting on her breasts. The Amazing Atheist weighed in with a video I couldn’t bring myself to even watch.
Since being targeted by angry YouTube misogynists and MRAs, the red-haired activist has received death threats, rape threats and literally hundreds of other hateful and harassing messages. She’s also been “doxxed” — that is, she’s had her personal information plastered all over the internet, including on A Voice for Men’s forum. Ten days after being uploaded to YouTube, the video of her faceoff against the MRAs has garnered more than 300,000 views, and YouTubers are still leaving threats and insults and crude sexual comments.
This, apparently, is what “Men’s Human Rights Activism” consists of: the doxxing and harassment of individual women.
Several days ago, she contacted me to tell me about the harassment she’s endured. Here’s some of what she wrote:
I’m the red-head. I’m sure by now, you’re one of the 260,000 people who have seen the video of me … .
Because I had the audacity to tell a dude to stfu, an MRA no less, I have since been the target of not only just online misogyny (as if that’s a surprise) but cyber stalking, rape and death threats. They somehow found my facebook, they found my tumblr, they found a twitter acct that I don’t even use, they even found an old [dating site] profile of mine with outdated info …
I also got an anonymous message on tumblr that specifically said “[name deleted] would be disappointed”. [Name deleted] is my dog that died 1.5 years ago, I don’t talk about him on tumblr, nor fb, so they would have had to reaaaaalllly dig to find this info. …
In about 12-24hours, I got about400-500 new messages on my blog, most of them hate, which included rape and death threats, also people wishing death upon me or the typical troll “kill yourself” message. They made a meme of me.
I dunno how many haters I have, and I don’t know where they are. I can’t be sure at any given second, if I’m ever outside my house … if anyone is going to recognize me and try to hurt me.
With her permission, I am reposting screenshots she sent me documenting some of the harassment she’s endured. Even though her personal information has already been widely disseminated online, I don’t want to contribute to that, so I’ve whited out any information that might reveal her identity.
TRIGGER WARNING for what follows, for threatening language and crude sexual remarks.
Here’s a death threat she received from someone claiming to represent the “Islamic Brotherhood.”
Here are some sample comments from her Tumblr inbox. I’ve whited out comments and parts of comments that consist of her contact info, which being sent to her in an attempt to intimidate and frighten her by letting her know they “know where she lives.”
Here’s another threatening comment sent to her via Tumblr:
Here are some comments sent to her via her YouTube account. You’ll notice that the second comment comes from AVFM’s Dan Perrins, who is clearly relishing the attacks on her.
And another glimpse into her YouTube inbox:
Here’s a screenshot from a Men’s Rights forum revealing her personal information.
Meanwhile, over on YouTube, the hateful comments continue to pile up. Here are some of the nastiest ones I’ve collected. I am deliberately posting a lot of them in an attempt to convey something of the relentless nature of the attacks on teh red-haired activist — though I should note I’ve only gone through a small portion of the total comments there and this doesn’t even reflect all of the awful ones I found. These are not in any particular order. I threw in a few non-threatening ones that struck me as a tad ironic or otherwise revealing.
Again, this is only a small fraction of the abuse she’s gotten on YouTube.
This is what happens when MRAs and other misogynists target a woman online. The only thing that’s surprising here is the sheer amount of the hateful comments.
I’ve seen no serious attempts from any MRAs to rein in this sort of hatred. A Voice for Men has tried to distance itself in a superficial way from some of the harassment it has played a central role in unleashing, with an official announcement asking readers to refrain from posting the personal information of the red-haired activist in the comments. Meanwhile, in the AVFM forum, comments linking to her defunct dating profiles remain up.
This is what MRA “activism” looks like.
Coming tomorrow: A more detailed look at AVFM’s role in the harassment.
The “master” connotation of “your sexy master” creeps me out especially because it makes me think of “it puts the lotion on its skin” guy from the Silence of the Lambs.
Equality is only achieved once everyone is allowed to punch everyone ! O yay, can you imagine such a wonderful world <3
My heart goes out to the people of Boston. I’ve got some family up there, and they’re okay, they were nowhere near the blasts.
In other news, someone tried to blow up Sheriff Joe Arpaio, which will only serve to encourage him (the bomb never made it past the Post Office).
Hope we hear from kirbywarp soon.
LBT, I did something similar to you today, calling and being called, though I was farther away. Everybody I personally know seems to be ok.
I coped by chatting with the neighbors about the explosions, then switching to “normal” topics, similar to your distracting plans.
Also people have been passing around this quote which may help: “When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.” To this day, especially in times of ‘disaster’, I remember my mother’s words and I am always comforted by realizing that there are still so many helpers — so many caring people in this world.” – Fred Rogers
And on-topic: nobody deserves death threats and I say to MRAs: stfu!
Oh, that tiny, tiny puppy. I needed that.
If anyone needs a laugh, or at least a mild chuckle;
http://artistryforfeminismandkittens.wordpress.com/2013/04/15/man-boobz-testimonials/
I love that Fred Rogers quote. Also, I don’t know if it’s apocryphal or not, but several people I know shared stories of marathon runners who immediately turned and ran off to the hospitals to give blood.
A lot of my friends are very suspicious of the timing (the recall effort seems to be getting close to the number they for it to be successful and he barely won last time.)
cloudiah, I left a comment on your blog, but it’s in moderation ‘cos of my new handle. 🙂
Oh god, this seriously made me cry. Absolutely made my day.
Just to be distracting….
Bob Ross is awesome. I used to watch his stuff all the time. Also, I have ASMR and his voice is one of the most soothing voices I’ve had the pleasure of listening to.
So it was true? Yay for people.
Jeez, what an awful thing too happen, all my best wishes for the people of Boston.
Also, here’s a bunny.
RE: Aaliyah
See, this is why I love humanity, despite everything.
RE: starskita
Thanks, I appreciate that. I try to emulate Fred Rogers in some ways; I want to love humanity and think well of them, even when horrible things happen. Usually they give me good reason to.
David, what is her Twitter or Youtube account? I’d like to message her support! She needs it! The MRA creatures already have her info.
Kitty loves bunny.
Um, I also live in Boston, but I’m fine. Even if I hadn’t had to work today, you couldn’t pay me to go downtown on marathon day.
Sleepy baby sloth:
Penguins chasing a butterfly.
Over and out (for now).
::quoting and offering people hugs about the boston marathon, if one doesn’t want to read, for the heads up::
@katz
God. All the internet hugs if you want them 🙁 I hope you’re family is okay.
That’s so good.
@yourannoyingloser
Ignoring your ableism (fucktarts? O_o) there is no fucking way she had enough time, also, you’re a vile shitstain on the otherwise nice underpants of humanity.
@LBT
Yay.
Internet hugs again if wanted. This was a couple hours ago, so I’m probably no help, but I normally listen to music to calm down, or cuddle my guinea pigs, so are there any routines that help you? Idk, cuz mine were very me-specific. Sorry again for no help, and internet hugs offered again.
@yourunsexyfailure
He says more proof, but also fails to give or quote the proof. Seems like he might need something here…
@neuroticbeagle
Same here 🙂
@Emilygoddess
Glad to hear that you’re ok. Are you worried about friends/ family (if you have them in that area), or that already been checked out?
emilygoddess, I didn’t know you lived in Boston – so glad you’re okay! Have you heard from your friends/family who might have been there?
You know, I thought I realized how ugly MRAs could get. And yet it still shocked me when I realized, about 200 comments in, that all of the trolls were descending on THIS thread because it was a more upsetting topic than usual and so they were more likely to get a significant emotional response.
I don’t know what that surprised me – that’s pretty much what trolling is! – but somehow it did.
(I can’t believe we’re even still addressing the Marky Mark thing, but I will point out that the issue of male suicide is addressed *in the article she was trying to read in the first video*. Then, after the dude kept shouting over and interrupting her and not letting her finish, he dragged up the same issue to try to prove that ~misandry is a thing~ and ~feminism doesn’t care~. No wonder she got snarky with him.)
LBT, glad you’re feeling better. I spent the afternoon kinda freaked out myself; I don’t even live in the Northeast anymore, but I’m from northern New England and I know a LOT of people who live in the Boston area.
PrincessBonBon, I love that article! And I love Bob Ross; so soothing. Plus, in our beauty-obsessed culture, I find myself increasingly charmed that his go-to adjective was not ‘pretty’, but ‘happy’.
Speaking of! I have no confidence I’ll do the embedding right, but here’s a bit more brain bleach: Bob Ross feeding a squirrel.
RE: Emilygoddess
Sorry; I forgot that you were in Boston. I’m glad you’re okay! (And sadly disappointed that the trolls can’t even shut up for a bombing.)
Okay, no wonder she told him to cry a fucking river if he was trying to use an issue as ammunition for ‘misandry is a thing’.
emilygoddess — didn’t realize you we’re in Boston! Glad you’re ok!