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The Creepy Voicemail Message I got from A Voice for Men’s most active activist, KARMA MRA MGTOW

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Not the actual message, or my phone

So a reporter from the Toronto Star recently contacted Paul Elam of A Voice for Men to ask him about the harassment and threats received by several student protesters at the University of Toronto after Elam and his associates identified and vilified them online, both on AVFM and on its bogus “offenders registry” called Register-Her . (You can read more about the harassment here, here and here; here’s the school’s official statement condemning the threats.)

In his response to the reporter, Elam made this laughable assertion:

I am 100% certain that no individual associated with AVFM would condone or tolerate any type of threat made against anyone. If I found out that anyone was, their connection with AVFM would be quickly severed.

Yeah, how dare anyone accuse anyone from AVFM of harassing or threatening anyone! It’s not like the site’s slogan is “Fuck Their Shit Up.” Oh, wait. It is.  It’s not like they set up an entire fake “offenders registry” in an attempt to smear feminists and other women they don’t like. Oh, wait. They did. It’s not like Elam told one of his feminist enemies that “the idea of fucking your shit up gives me an erection.” Oh wait. He did.

And it’s not like anyone associated with the site has, oh, I dunno, called up someone on the AVFM enemies list in the middle of the night and left a creepy voicemail message predicting the imminent demise of feminism.

Oh, wait.

At 1:38 AM on December 15th of last year, I heard the phone ring. The caller ID showed that the call was coming from a fellow calling himself KARMA MRA MGTOW. I immediately recognized this as being the internet handle of an AVFM regular. Not particularly wanting to talk to him at 1:38 AM — or at any time, really – I let it go through to voicemail. Perhaps unaware that Caller ID had coughed up his name, KARMA  left this brief and cryptic message, which for some reason he delivered in falsetto.

In case you have trouble with the sound file, he said “Mm mm mmm! Feminism will die!”

Was this a threat? I would say so; despite the oddity of the message, I think it was intended to intimidate, to let me know that the AVFM regulars have my phone number — and perhaps my address? —  and have no hesitation about invading my privacy in the middle of the night. Calling someone up at 1:38 in the morning and leaving a weird, creepy, hostile message is pretty clearly an act of harassment. Even if you do it in falsetto. Perhaps especially if you do it in falsetto.

The call was made using Skype, and I contacted them to report it. (The number itself, I discovered after looking into it,  isn’t associated with any particular individual; it’s one that Skype assigns to various users making non-internet calls. It was Caller ID that identified who was calling.) Here’s a screenshot of the message in my voicemail inbox.

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So who was my mysterious caller? Karma, otherwise known as Frank James Spencer, is one of AVFM’s most devoted activists, regularly posting videos to YouTube of his various postering runs for the site. He has also, on a number of occasions, encouraged AVFM regulars to flood the comment sections of other internet sites — by offering to donate a couple of bucks to AVFM for every comment posted. “Let’s flood this bitch with the message!” Elam wrote, announcing one such offer from Spencer/Karma.

Elam has regularly lavished praise on his star activist.“Thanks, KARMA, for helping us define ‘One Man Army.'” Elam wrote after Spencer/Karma set up a miniature FM radio station to broadcast the AVFM internet radio show 24 hours a day. “You, sir, are an MRA’s MRA. Keep up the amazing work.”

An “MRA’s MRA” he may be, but as his call to me made abundantly clear, Spencer/Karma has trouble telling the difference between “activism” and “harassment.”

Indeed, he has stated outright in the past that he is willing to break the law– and go off the Internet — in order to fight the purported evil of feminism. (I took this screenshot at the time of the harassment in December; since then AVFM has evidently changed its system of up and downvoting comments and the comment’s many upvotes have vanished.)

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It’s comments like this that make it clear to me that Spencer/Karma’s phone call can’t be dismissed as a harmless prank.

I’m making all this public not only because it’s a good way to point out the comical hypocrisy of Elam’s comments above, but also because I’m curious to know if other people — and if so, how many — have gotten weird and threatening calls from Spencer/Karma in the middle of the night?

If you or anyone you know has gotten threatening or harassing phone calls from him or from any other MRA, associated with AVFM or not, please contact me. (My email is my last name at well.com.) I will keep your information confidential unless you want to go public with it.

NOTE: Before anyone accuses me of “doxxing” Spencer by using his real name, you should know that he makes no effort to hide his name, and that he does his internet activism as both Frank James Spencer and KARMA MRA MGTOW. His Facebook page lists him by both names, and it links back to AVFM. He has also posted comments here on Man Boobz under his real name on several occasions, like this one, with links to both his Facebook page and to several of his YouTube videos, all of which clearly identify him as being KARMA MRA MGTOW.

EDITED TO ADD: Originally, as I said, I was able to tell who was calling with Caller ID. But Comcast has now altered the way it displays old messages online, so now it shows his account name as well. So here’s a new pic so you don’t have to take my word for it that caller ID identified him. As I said before, the number is a Skype number — you can look it up — which is why it’s in California, not Australia. Click on the pic to see it full size.

My Comcast voicemail inbox. Other callers' names redacted.
My Comcast voicemail inbox. Other callers’ names redacted.
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LBT
LBT
11 years ago

RE: Kittehs

That’s great! Awesome, and thanks!

RE: Amaandajane5

Observant was making me think of Factfinder, myself. You know, the whole insistence on being above it all.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

LBT – great, thank you! I’ll dig up a pic to go with it (can’t have unillustrated posts after all) and publish it pronto.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

Oh, how could I forget – this pic is just the thing! 😀

LBT
LBT
11 years ago

RE: cloudiah

Yeah, your comment came through okay. (I had no idea Googleaccounts worked for that!) You can just use the little Paypal donate button, put in the money, and since I’ll know it’s you, I’ll pop em up. (Maybe in the future, I’ll be so inundated with donations that I’ll need folks to leave notes for what it is, but that time hasn’t arrived yet.)

LBT
LBT
11 years ago

RE: Kittehs

Aw, that’s a perfect one! Adorable.

(Also, Manboobzers, give y’allselves a pat on the back. Y’all have given me more business than any other site I’ve been on… and some of em, I have been on almost ten years!)

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

::pat pat pat::

😉

Promo blog posted!

Mine Fujiko
Mine Fujiko
11 years ago

Yucko! I finally heard the message. How creepy! I hope you never have to deal with other people like this again Dave 🙁

Myoo
Myoo
11 years ago

What an asswipe, sorry you get harassed by these jerks, David.

LBT
LBT
11 years ago

Thanks, Kittehs! The plugging is always much appreciated. I’m hoping to be making these writeathons a regular thing, on varying themes, so the more people who know and give me their prompts, the better!

Will have to learn to manage my time better, though. Holding down webcomic updates PLUS writeathon PLUS brain health stuff is tricky! Still, it’s something I can do from everywhere, which seeing how I’m thinking of rambling around the country for a bit might serve me well.

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The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

Oooh, you’re thinking of travelling a bit? Cool! Anywhere you fancy?

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The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

BTW has Mac grown a moustache fairly recently? I looked at your home page and his hairdo in the pic there (curls and ‘tache) was very spiffy.

Viscaria
Viscaria
11 years ago

Hey so I found out that today was Street Harrassment Day in downtown Calgary! I somehow missed any sort of official announcement. Luckily several helpful men let me know as I was going about my business.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

Oh, shite, Viscaria! 🙁

Internet kitty hugs if you want them, after that.

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The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

And eternal Lego innersoles for the harassers.

Viscaria
Viscaria
11 years ago

Naw, it’s cool, just… rolling my eyes. Less threatening than scary midnight phone calls, certainly.

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The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

Yeah, just … gross.

princessbonbon
11 years ago

If you want a laugh, I found this book at the bookstore today…it is an 18th century MRA wanting to both GHOW and marry a woman who is his intellectual equal while deferring to his every decision and belief.

So far I have laughed quite a lot.

http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/16043567-how-to-create-the-perfect-wife

Mine Fujiko
Mine Fujiko
11 years ago

Good Lord, that link princessbonbon posted. It sounds like a twisted parody of harem anime.

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The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

Gah, just read the synopsis – creepy!

LBT
LBT
11 years ago

RE: Kittehs

That’s just a doofy mouth I drew for him; I also forgot to draw the sideburns he’s had ever since I met him. <.< One day, I will fix that.

As for the travel, I'm not sure. I just know I have to get out of this closet, and with no real faith in my ability to hold down a long-term job, wandering and working for room and board for short stints seems to be my best option. I'm hoping to make it into a trip meeting cool people as well. I got family in the South, and Mac wants to visit Mississippi, and I've got friends on east and west coast, so maybe we can wander around the country.

It's a headache, because it all relies on our brain healing up fast enough, and god have mercy should I have the misfortune to need healthcare outside this tiny state, because my health insurance is only for this state, but damn do I need to get out of here.

MKlein
MKlein
11 years ago

How was an adult (cis)male (I suspect he’s cis because of what I know about AVfM in general) able to do that with his own voice?

One of the creepiest things I’ve ever heard.

princessbonbon
11 years ago

It is creepy to think about but the author is doing a good job of mocking what he wanted to do gently.

One of those reviews was annoying “why did she go into the lives of the women he kidnapped?” Well gee because it is nice to see that their lives totally did not suck after they escaped?

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The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

princessbonbon – yeah, I saw that review. Charming of him to dismiss the importance of the women’s lives like that. ::rolls eyes::

LBT – rats, I thought that was a spiffytache even spiffier than Pierre’s spiffytache! 😀

Sideburns, eh? Nice. 🙂

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The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

Damn, only answered half your comment.

I can never get over how much the whole US insurance system SUCKS. Something that can effectively pin you down to one state? And where insurers essentially get to dictate what medical care people get, and bosses dictate what insurance they can have? It’s beyond fucked up.

Shiraz
Shiraz
11 years ago

I’m glad you showed this to all of us, David. They’re leaving behind a nice long breadcrumb trail for anyone to follow. One day they’ll creep upon the wrong person, maybe someone who is litigious — their lawyer won’t have any trouble digging up incriminating behavior.