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The Creepy Voicemail Message I got from A Voice for Men’s most active activist, KARMA MRA MGTOW

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Not the actual message, or my phone

So a reporter from the Toronto Star recently contacted Paul Elam of A Voice for Men to ask him about the harassment and threats received by several student protesters at the University of Toronto after Elam and his associates identified and vilified them online, both on AVFM and on its bogus “offenders registry” called Register-Her . (You can read more about the harassment here, here and here; here’s the school’s official statement condemning the threats.)

In his response to the reporter, Elam made this laughable assertion:

I am 100% certain that no individual associated with AVFM would condone or tolerate any type of threat made against anyone. If I found out that anyone was, their connection with AVFM would be quickly severed.

Yeah, how dare anyone accuse anyone from AVFM of harassing or threatening anyone! It’s not like the site’s slogan is “Fuck Their Shit Up.” Oh, wait. It is.  It’s not like they set up an entire fake “offenders registry” in an attempt to smear feminists and other women they don’t like. Oh, wait. They did. It’s not like Elam told one of his feminist enemies that “the idea of fucking your shit up gives me an erection.” Oh wait. He did.

And it’s not like anyone associated with the site has, oh, I dunno, called up someone on the AVFM enemies list in the middle of the night and left a creepy voicemail message predicting the imminent demise of feminism.

Oh, wait.

At 1:38 AM on December 15th of last year, I heard the phone ring. The caller ID showed that the call was coming from a fellow calling himself KARMA MRA MGTOW. I immediately recognized this as being the internet handle of an AVFM regular. Not particularly wanting to talk to him at 1:38 AM — or at any time, really – I let it go through to voicemail. Perhaps unaware that Caller ID had coughed up his name, KARMA  left this brief and cryptic message, which for some reason he delivered in falsetto.

In case you have trouble with the sound file, he said “Mm mm mmm! Feminism will die!”

Was this a threat? I would say so; despite the oddity of the message, I think it was intended to intimidate, to let me know that the AVFM regulars have my phone number — and perhaps my address? —  and have no hesitation about invading my privacy in the middle of the night. Calling someone up at 1:38 in the morning and leaving a weird, creepy, hostile message is pretty clearly an act of harassment. Even if you do it in falsetto. Perhaps especially if you do it in falsetto.

The call was made using Skype, and I contacted them to report it. (The number itself, I discovered after looking into it,  isn’t associated with any particular individual; it’s one that Skype assigns to various users making non-internet calls. It was Caller ID that identified who was calling.) Here’s a screenshot of the message in my voicemail inbox.

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So who was my mysterious caller? Karma, otherwise known as Frank James Spencer, is one of AVFM’s most devoted activists, regularly posting videos to YouTube of his various postering runs for the site. He has also, on a number of occasions, encouraged AVFM regulars to flood the comment sections of other internet sites — by offering to donate a couple of bucks to AVFM for every comment posted. “Let’s flood this bitch with the message!” Elam wrote, announcing one such offer from Spencer/Karma.

Elam has regularly lavished praise on his star activist.“Thanks, KARMA, for helping us define ‘One Man Army.'” Elam wrote after Spencer/Karma set up a miniature FM radio station to broadcast the AVFM internet radio show 24 hours a day. “You, sir, are an MRA’s MRA. Keep up the amazing work.”

An “MRA’s MRA” he may be, but as his call to me made abundantly clear, Spencer/Karma has trouble telling the difference between “activism” and “harassment.”

Indeed, he has stated outright in the past that he is willing to break the law– and go off the Internet — in order to fight the purported evil of feminism. (I took this screenshot at the time of the harassment in December; since then AVFM has evidently changed its system of up and downvoting comments and the comment’s many upvotes have vanished.)

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It’s comments like this that make it clear to me that Spencer/Karma’s phone call can’t be dismissed as a harmless prank.

I’m making all this public not only because it’s a good way to point out the comical hypocrisy of Elam’s comments above, but also because I’m curious to know if other people — and if so, how many — have gotten weird and threatening calls from Spencer/Karma in the middle of the night?

If you or anyone you know has gotten threatening or harassing phone calls from him or from any other MRA, associated with AVFM or not, please contact me. (My email is my last name at well.com.) I will keep your information confidential unless you want to go public with it.

NOTE: Before anyone accuses me of “doxxing” Spencer by using his real name, you should know that he makes no effort to hide his name, and that he does his internet activism as both Frank James Spencer and KARMA MRA MGTOW. His Facebook page lists him by both names, and it links back to AVFM. He has also posted comments here on Man Boobz under his real name on several occasions, like this one, with links to both his Facebook page and to several of his YouTube videos, all of which clearly identify him as being KARMA MRA MGTOW.

EDITED TO ADD: Originally, as I said, I was able to tell who was calling with Caller ID. But Comcast has now altered the way it displays old messages online, so now it shows his account name as well. So here’s a new pic so you don’t have to take my word for it that caller ID identified him. As I said before, the number is a Skype number — you can look it up — which is why it’s in California, not Australia. Click on the pic to see it full size.

My Comcast voicemail inbox. Other callers' names redacted.
My Comcast voicemail inbox. Other callers’ names redacted.
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drst
drst
11 years ago

That sucks, David. I hope you do whatever you need to do to feel safe.

@Historophilia – I wanted to make hot cross buns last weekend but just had no time. Maybe in a few weeks when semester is over.

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Those hot cross buns look delish.

::stares beady-eyed at Historophilia for being in France and having hot cross buns::

Hey, what happened to your kitty avatar? :O

And I see TomBcat’s Black Egyptian Kitty has overcome the White Rabbitkitty … at least until the battle resumes …

Viscaria
Viscaria
11 years ago

I’m pretty sure I avoid the term “histrionic” entirely.

Hi Kirby!

LBT
LBT
11 years ago

Kittehs, Kittehs, I finally got to your prompt! I wrote you a thing! http://baaing-tree.livejournal.com/500263.html Sorry for the lateness; I made the mistake of getting WAY overstimulated at a little convention I went to. (I GOT TO MEET BRUCE COVILLE! 8D) Also timed the writeathon badly, brainwise.

But look I finally wrote you your thing! 😀

LBT
LBT
11 years ago

Okay, now to actually respond to the topic at hand: what the hell, MRAs? Seriously, Objective Observer, calling random strangers at creepy hours of the night to say creepy shit isn’t an ‘unfortunate choice.’ It’s assholery. Or can I call YOU at creepy hours and not shine badly on feminism?

Sorry to hear you got it, Dave.

TomBcat
TomBcat
11 years ago

@ Kitteh
who knows what other unearthly beast might take over next?
But since I am the Fucking Godlike Egyptian TomB Cat i sure hope my bunny lets me live a little while…

cloudiah
11 years ago

LBT, that story is great! I wanted to sponsor a story but got confused about how to do it and then I forgot. Because my brain is just like that. Is it too late? Can you walk me through it in baby steps? 😀

ignotussomnium
ignotussomnium
11 years ago

–Pages upon pages talking about how women deserve whatever bad things happen to them.
–“No one here would condone or tolerate violence ever!”

Somehow these things don’t quite match.

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Huge internet hugs, LBT! I just read it, and I’m gonna paste my comment here:

OMG IT’S PERFECT!!

I love, love, love it! You’ve got the Catitude perfect. There are so many great lines I’d end up copying half the story if I pasted ’em here, but HAVE to mention her sitting in Spirit Man’s face (Frib sits Mr K’s lap a lot) and Blacksockswhite pretending not to purr. Yup, kitties, kitties, kitties!

I love the idea of cats not just being able to see spirits, but being able to affect them. Blacksockswhite driving the poltergeists etc out of the house is a wonderful take, totally unexpected – yay you!

Thank you so much for writing this, Rogan, it’s brilliant.

Kittehs, smiling a big smile. 🙂

(May I reblog this at my blog? I’d love to advertise it to my grand total of 22 followers. I’d like to email it to my friends, too, if I may.)

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Stoopid html … that was meant to be “Fribs sits in Mr K’s lap a lot”.

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AAAAAAHHHHHHHHH Jenny cat has taken over TomBcat’s avatar! (Speaking of spirit cats … )

TomBcat
TomBcat
11 years ago

Can I read the story too?

Awww, you recognized her! <3

Aaliyah
11 years ago

So… suddenly, an obnoxious, vaguely creepy prank call is equated with “terrorists lashing out with harassment and violence”?

And you call MRAs histrionic.

So I’m guessing you didn’t read what he said?

LBT
LBT
11 years ago

RE: Kittehs

You’re more than welcome to reblog it, long as you link back to me! I’m so glad you liked it. I actually recycled the two human mains from a long-defunct story. It felt good to recycle scraps of story for a better one!

RE: cloudiah

I’m not taking any new prompts for Xenothon now, but there are a few pieces still up for sponsorship! Lessee… the following pieces are finished and up for sponsorship:

‘The Tree That Wasn’t,’ a story of an entity trying very hard to pretend it’s a tree, and what happens when it’s eventually found out. $20

“Third Language.” As a child, Thomas Rodriguez had to learn English, and he hated every second off it. Now he’s fifteen and he has to learn another new language and another, more alien culture. How do different cultures deal with linguistic differences and the learning curve? $18

‘Queen Mab’s Castle,’ where an impoverished fae people turns to cultural tourism, making Tir na Nog into a resort. Maeve is a long-suffering tour guide until one pushy tourist forgets the nature of the fae and pushes her a little too far. $12!

Also, if you see any prompt that interests you that I haven’t filled yet, (check the host post, http://baaing-tree.livejournal.com/499996.html there’s a good few) you can put your money down on that one and I’ll write it up for you. They don’t have prices yet because I’m charging by the word.

LBT
LBT
11 years ago

RE: TomBcat

Sure you can! Just click the link I gave Kittehs. I’m working from a crowdfunding model, which means that once a piece gets sponsored, the piece goes up for everyone to read.

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I think what I’ll do is a short post explaining it, and include the link so people can read it on your site – will that do?

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“Awww, you recognized her! <3"

I thought at first "Mads, what are you doing there?" then realised it must be Jenny! 🙂

I see you gave her a nose – yes the tortie noses are taking over! Muwahahahaha!

LBT
LBT
11 years ago

RE: Kittehs

That’ll be fine and awesome! Thank you!

TomBcat
TomBcat
11 years ago

I even made 4 different versions, all with heart-shaped noses because she was so lovely.
But it’s true, Maddies face and hers have a lot in common!

goodrumo
11 years ago

Reblogged this on iheariseeilearn.

cloudiah
11 years ago

Oh sponsoring is what I wanted to do. I think I just left you a comment. 🙂

La Strega
11 years ago

The falsetto is what makes it scary like a horror movie. Sending another donation your way now. I wish I could send more; you deserve it.

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LBT, I’ll just post what I’ve written in my blog to you, I want to be sure the wording’s okay.

amandajane5
11 years ago

So Mr. “Observant” is Mr. Truthy again, right?

amandajane5
11 years ago

Also, Kirbywarp! So good to see you back around!