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The Creepy Voicemail Message I got from A Voice for Men’s most active activist, KARMA MRA MGTOW

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Not the actual message, or my phone

So a reporter from the Toronto Star recently contacted Paul Elam of A Voice for Men to ask him about the harassment and threats received by several student protesters at the University of Toronto after Elam and his associates identified and vilified them online, both on AVFM and on its bogus “offenders registry” called Register-Her . (You can read more about the harassment here, here and here; here’s the school’s official statement condemning the threats.)

In his response to the reporter, Elam made this laughable assertion:

I am 100% certain that no individual associated with AVFM would condone or tolerate any type of threat made against anyone. If I found out that anyone was, their connection with AVFM would be quickly severed.

Yeah, how dare anyone accuse anyone from AVFM of harassing or threatening anyone! It’s not like the site’s slogan is “Fuck Their Shit Up.” Oh, wait. It is.  It’s not like they set up an entire fake “offenders registry” in an attempt to smear feminists and other women they don’t like. Oh, wait. They did. It’s not like Elam told one of his feminist enemies that “the idea of fucking your shit up gives me an erection.” Oh wait. He did.

And it’s not like anyone associated with the site has, oh, I dunno, called up someone on the AVFM enemies list in the middle of the night and left a creepy voicemail message predicting the imminent demise of feminism.

Oh, wait.

At 1:38 AM on December 15th of last year, I heard the phone ring. The caller ID showed that the call was coming from a fellow calling himself KARMA MRA MGTOW. I immediately recognized this as being the internet handle of an AVFM regular. Not particularly wanting to talk to him at 1:38 AM — or at any time, really – I let it go through to voicemail. Perhaps unaware that Caller ID had coughed up his name, KARMA  left this brief and cryptic message, which for some reason he delivered in falsetto.

In case you have trouble with the sound file, he said “Mm mm mmm! Feminism will die!”

Was this a threat? I would say so; despite the oddity of the message, I think it was intended to intimidate, to let me know that the AVFM regulars have my phone number — and perhaps my address? —  and have no hesitation about invading my privacy in the middle of the night. Calling someone up at 1:38 in the morning and leaving a weird, creepy, hostile message is pretty clearly an act of harassment. Even if you do it in falsetto. Perhaps especially if you do it in falsetto.

The call was made using Skype, and I contacted them to report it. (The number itself, I discovered after looking into it,  isn’t associated with any particular individual; it’s one that Skype assigns to various users making non-internet calls. It was Caller ID that identified who was calling.) Here’s a screenshot of the message in my voicemail inbox.

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So who was my mysterious caller? Karma, otherwise known as Frank James Spencer, is one of AVFM’s most devoted activists, regularly posting videos to YouTube of his various postering runs for the site. He has also, on a number of occasions, encouraged AVFM regulars to flood the comment sections of other internet sites — by offering to donate a couple of bucks to AVFM for every comment posted. “Let’s flood this bitch with the message!” Elam wrote, announcing one such offer from Spencer/Karma.

Elam has regularly lavished praise on his star activist.“Thanks, KARMA, for helping us define ‘One Man Army.'” Elam wrote after Spencer/Karma set up a miniature FM radio station to broadcast the AVFM internet radio show 24 hours a day. “You, sir, are an MRA’s MRA. Keep up the amazing work.”

An “MRA’s MRA” he may be, but as his call to me made abundantly clear, Spencer/Karma has trouble telling the difference between “activism” and “harassment.”

Indeed, he has stated outright in the past that he is willing to break the law– and go off the Internet — in order to fight the purported evil of feminism. (I took this screenshot at the time of the harassment in December; since then AVFM has evidently changed its system of up and downvoting comments and the comment’s many upvotes have vanished.)

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It’s comments like this that make it clear to me that Spencer/Karma’s phone call can’t be dismissed as a harmless prank.

I’m making all this public not only because it’s a good way to point out the comical hypocrisy of Elam’s comments above, but also because I’m curious to know if other people — and if so, how many — have gotten weird and threatening calls from Spencer/Karma in the middle of the night?

If you or anyone you know has gotten threatening or harassing phone calls from him or from any other MRA, associated with AVFM or not, please contact me. (My email is my last name at well.com.) I will keep your information confidential unless you want to go public with it.

NOTE: Before anyone accuses me of “doxxing” Spencer by using his real name, you should know that he makes no effort to hide his name, and that he does his internet activism as both Frank James Spencer and KARMA MRA MGTOW. His Facebook page lists him by both names, and it links back to AVFM. He has also posted comments here on Man Boobz under his real name on several occasions, like this one, with links to both his Facebook page and to several of his YouTube videos, all of which clearly identify him as being KARMA MRA MGTOW.

EDITED TO ADD: Originally, as I said, I was able to tell who was calling with Caller ID. But Comcast has now altered the way it displays old messages online, so now it shows his account name as well. So here’s a new pic so you don’t have to take my word for it that caller ID identified him. As I said before, the number is a Skype number — you can look it up — which is why it’s in California, not Australia. Click on the pic to see it full size.

My Comcast voicemail inbox. Other callers' names redacted.
My Comcast voicemail inbox. Other callers’ names redacted.
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kamilla1960
kamilla1960
11 years ago

The MRA activist “community” online is clearly a small but virulent group. I have come across posts from the same characters on numerous websites that I have browsed.
The sense of entitlement–he thinks it’ his god-given right to engage in such blatant and undisguised telephone threats.

pecunium
11 years ago

That’s some fucked up shit.

daintydougal
daintydougal
11 years ago

Are the police already aware of this individual? Really disconcerting. Sorry you get this mr. manboobz

Yellaine
Yellaine
11 years ago

It was wise not to answer the phone, if only to get recorded evidence.

emilygoddess
emilygoddess
11 years ago

On the one hand, that is creepy as fuck (see MRAs? I don’t have to know what someone looks like to decide whether or not they’re creepy).

On the other hand, the message itself isn’t exactly menacing or clever. Especially compared to some of the shit that gets said at AVFM.

Yellaine
Yellaine
11 years ago

In case this creepy call made you feel down, here is a kitten

Tulgey Logger
Tulgey Logger
11 years ago

OMG Manboobz Doxxed An MRA!!!!1

But seriously, it is simultaneously hilarious and disturbing that these fedora kin seriously think their keyboard campaigns are “activisml and that they desperately want to do something to the “evildoers” in the real world.

Is Thomas Ball’s manifesto still listed under “Activism” on AVFM? This is definitely relevant in this regard, because by his own statement Elam should have never even hosted it in the first place. Paul Elam is a liar and his protestations that AVFM would never condone such things rings completely hollow.

Carleyblue
Carleyblue
11 years ago

Why was he speaking in a falsetto? To try and disguise his voice? But he obviously wanted his name to be known, if it was listed KARMA MRA MGTOW on caller ID.

Bizarre behaviour – both this post and one before.

Yellaine
Yellaine
11 years ago

Carley, maybe he wasn’t aware his name would show up on caller ID.

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

That is fucked up. I haven’t gotten any weird calls, but some strange emails, like some joker took my handle here, extrapolated, and signed me up for goofy shit. Thanks for the Myrtle Beach property listings.

If he’s MGTOW, why the fuck does he care about what women do?

HuggaWugga
HuggaWugga
11 years ago

I was always curious as to why any internet postings about women were immediately flooded with virulent comments from MRAs (the standard “western women are horrible and manly” bit). I had no idea that there were actually paid incentives to do so! Now it makes sense why they seem to be everywhere these days. All the more reason for me to stay away from internet comments in articles I read. What do they hope to accomplish by that kind of flooding?

Bagelsan
Bagelsan
11 years ago

These guys are fucking obsessed with what women do. As a feminist, my life does not revolve around what men do, and yet these so-called “men’s rights activists” cannot stop frothing about women. It’s pathetic.

Historophilia
Historophilia
11 years ago

Blargh, David this is creepy as all hell. I offer you freshly baked hot cross buns via the tinterwebs to make it better.

Unfortunately they aren’t still hot from the oven but if you split them in half and whack them in the oven for a few minutes they’ll be nice and hot 🙂

kirbywarp
kirbywarp
11 years ago

I took a peak at the actual AVFM article where Elam includes the video of the interview and the response. I can’t watch the video right now, but my god the comments…

Nearly every comment either absurdly congratulatory or the beginning of some screed about how the revolution is just around the corner. There is only one downvote in the entire section, so either the community is very accepting or any dissent is immediately driven out. And only a couple of comments down, someone posted the reviewer’s resume.

In an article about threats and doxxing, how the fuck is that acceptable over there?

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

Hi Kirby! How you been?

pecunium
11 years ago

Carleyblue: My guess is he figured he would have a random number displayed, which is more menacing, in theory.

emilygoddess
emilygoddess
11 years ago

@David I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to minimize it. It’s easier for me to deal with feeling threatened if I can focus on the stupidity of the threatener (and I do sometimes wonder if commenting here comes with a risk of being targeted by one of your hate-cheerleaders).

kirbywarp
kirbywarp
11 years ago

Not too bad, Hellkell. I feel like I haven’t commented here in years… How’s everyone been?

Creative Writing Student
Creative Writing Student
11 years ago

Yeah, the call was creepy. These guys have no concept of ‘acceptable behavior’, do they? I hope you’re ok, David.

Also, they have to be paid to partake in activism one of their favourite pasttimes? Jebus.

Hannah
Hannah
11 years ago

I vote you leave him a message in barbershop quartet recommending that a glass of milk before bed could help him sleep better.

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

Kirby: not bad. Been busy, and it’s the usual whack-a-troll show here.

clairedammit
clairedammit
11 years ago

This is creepy as fuck. I know you get all kinds of horrible emails and comments written about you, David, but yeah, this crosses a boundary.

These guys are fucking obsessed with what women do. As a feminist, my life does not revolve around what men do, and yet these so-called “men’s rights activists” cannot stop frothing about women. It’s pathetic.

That’s the thing, Bagelsan. They think everything should be about them, so they either take everything women do personally, or seethe that they’re being ignored – sometimes both simultaneously.

Hey there, kirbywarp! Good to see you.

cloudiah
11 years ago

It’s kirbywarp!

But yeah, this was clearly meant to be scary/threatening, but like so many things MRAs do it manages to fall short. Not to minimize it; it’s just that it’s the typical MRA procession of errors: not realizing his very identifiable handle will display, using a weird falsetto, incredibly odd choice of message, etc. They’re like the Keystone Kops of the political world.

Mine Fujiko
Mine Fujiko
11 years ago

I want to send internet hugs to Dave. I’m sorry you had to deal with that.

I find it funny that for a world-wide revolution, they have to be paid for their “activism.” Not to mention, they have to silence dissent to feel powerful.

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