And so the Internet has found a new woman to hate. Most of you are probably already familiar with the Adria Richards debacle that’s developed over the past several days. If not, Jill at Feministe has a good summary of events:
Adria Richards, formerly of the company SendGrid, was at a tech conference this week when some dudes behind her made a series of inappropriate and sexual jokes. Annoyed by the pervasiveness of misogyny in the tech world, she snapped a photo of them and put in on Twitter with a complaint. One of the conference organizers spoke to the men and they apologized. Totally reasonable! Good response, PyCon. Later, one of the dudes got fired. Instead of getting mad at the company that made the choice to fire him, the internet hordes descended on Adria. She was on the receiving end of rape and death threats. Her address and phone number were published. Her blog and her company’s website came under DDoS attack. Oh and then her company, SendGrid, fired her.
Like Jill, I think firing someone for a “dongle” joke is an overreaction, to say the least. But Richards wasn’t responsible for that; indeed, she told the fired man she hoped his employer would reconsider and take him back.
SendGrid’s firing of Richards is far more problematic. It’s one thing to get in trouble for acting like a sexist boor; it’s quite another to get in trouble for simply pointing out someone else’s problematic behavior. Richards faced a virtual lynch mob for simply documenting an example of the everyday sexism that permeates the tech world; by firing her, SendGrid essentially sided with the mob.
Is “lynch mob” an unfair term to describe those who’ve gone after Richards? No. In this context, the term is sadly apropos, as the target of all this online “activism” is not only female but black – two strikes against her in the minds of many of her, er, “critics,” who attacked her as a “fucking nigger” as well as a “cunt.” (The more genteel racists referred to her derisively as a “diversity hire.”)
Numerous commenters have already documented some of the appallingly racist and misogynist attacks on Richards. (The links in the above paragraph contain plenty of examples.)
Here, I’d like to focus specifically on the attacks on Richards coming from Men’s Rights activists – that is, from people who like to think of themselves as upstanding human rights activists for the 21st century, virtual equivalents of Martin Luther King. In fact, many of the reactions of MRAs show them to have far more in common with the bigots who fought against the civil rights movement than they do with King.
In the Men’s Rights subreddit, the MRA masses gave more than one hundred upvotes to a graphic describing Richards as a “racist, sexist and hypocritical cunt.” Evidently pointing out that white men as a class have certain advantages in the world is a kind of “racism.”
Elsewhere in the subreddit, aasorted commenters indulged themselves in gendered slurs. Greyfeld got dozens up upvotes for comments denouncing Richards as a “feminist cunt” and a “screeching harpy cunt.” DerpaNerb described Richards as “a racist/sexist cunt [who’s] clearly … not capable of doing her job properly.” Buster2209 scored 160 upvotes with a comment describing Richards as a “stupid bitch [who] brought it on herself.” Cyridius simply declared “I hate her because she’s a dumb ignorant bitch.”
Others happily gave the Men’s Rights movement credit for Richards’ firing. The execrable EvilPundit got 180 upvotes for a post essentially endorsing the virtual lynch mob and declaring Richards’ firing to be proof that the Men’s Rights movement had entered a “new phase.”
Sorry to burst your bubble, Mr. Pundit, but there’s nothing new about men harassing and threatening a black woman.
AnnArchist – a former contributor to Reddit’s now-banned Beating Women subreddit — reacted with indignation to someone who pointed out Richards had been harassed:
Over on A Voice for Men, where the locals describe themselves with no sense of irony as Men’s Human Rights Activists, there was much rejoicing over the firing of Richards, who was variously described as an “entitled bitch,” a “sociopathic bitch,” a “femshit” and a “bush pig.” Naturally, the c-word, applied to all feminists, made an appearance as well.
Daflory hoped that Richards’ firing would be the start of an industry-wide purge:
Adria Richards seems like an entitled narcissist, who had become used to deference as a moral authority through her impeccable credentials as a diversity goddess: black, Jewish, and female. …
No one ever told Adria Richards that she was at best only an tolerated guest in the world of tech, and she could either play by male rules and contribute, or get lost. Hopefully other feminists in tech will get a similar message.
And August Løvenskiolds’ mind went straight to the gutter:
[A]fter being outed as a betrayer of her customers, none of them will want to work with her, and any tech company that hires her will instantly lose credibility.
She’s going to be hard-pressed to find a job as a sex-worker unless the light is quite dim.
Taking a step back from the particulars of the incident, Mark Trueblood wondered if a man strike might help to put things right once again:
I’m pretty sure Amnesty International doesn’t exactly endorse this sort of “human rights” activism.
They sent him home. He can’t promise me he won’t try to kill himself before tomorrow morning and they sent him home.
The mental health system sucks. There’s nowhere to put an 18 year old kid that isn’t with adults who are seriously ill.
The MRM could actually campaign to improve mental health, and the disproportionately male sufferers, but that would require actual hard work and couldn’t be blamed on women.
@tomBcat
Hello! since you just got here 🙂 You’re right that it’s not the time, and I’m not really disagreeing with you, just adding on/ taking this opportunity to ramble. But they (imo) shouldn’t be trying to ‘find fault’ between both sides. In this case, until the threats and asshole explosion happened, it’d probably matter to me less, since it’d just be a couple people at work drama, instead of a woman getting sent a bunch of sexist/racists threats :/ But lots of time it’s also used for rape victims. ‘yeah, well, she’s not perfect either, it’s not like she’s a virgin or anything’ or whatever. Anyway, so yeah, I’m not a huge fan of trying to find fault with both sides. Way too slipery-slopey to me.
They’re victim blamey because when you focus on all of the victims ‘flaws’ lots of people see it as a reason they ‘deserved’ it. Don’t take the focus off the attacker and onto the victim, the attacker is the one who did wrong. (not saying you’re doing this, since you aren’t just adding to the explanations other people probably said already.
@LaightTempest
Okay. Now tell me why anyone here should care if some sexist asshats get fired.
@hippie redneck
gee, I wish I lived on the planet hippie redneck was from, instead of, you know, earth.
So. I’m not dreaming this thread anymore. Scrapemind just said that it is against xir beliefs that crazy is a slur. Wow.
Was this the thread I said I was going shopping with my mom on? oh well, it was great, in case you guys were curious. I didn’t get boots, but I did get some nice flats I can actually walk in, instead of
torture deviceshigh heels. Um, yeah. Those mess with my feet 😛Yay for viscaria for trying to explain to thomas. too lazy to do so myself. but good post 😀
@hellkell
Yay! Sounds like a hard week, but I’m glad he’s okay.
@scrapemind
FTFY
@sid
I’m cool with it here. Someone will probably speak up if it bugs them. People’ve said when the don’t want it to happen before.
Also, not to get all woo, but there are teas that are supposed to help support renal function.
It is weird to me that a statement like “my life would be safer if people didn’t keep encouraging and/or excusing the people who hate and distrust and fear and revile me” is controversial.
@weeboy
Offering all the internet hugs for you and your friend. That sucks so much. 🙁
What I’m saying is that I don’t think Call Me Maybe needs a trigger warning.
Ah, so your taste in music sucks too.
@weeboy, I am so sorry that they are sending your friend home.
Since scrapemind brought up music, I actually would like music to have warnings. Just because I don’t like listening to music from artists I like when some random misogynistic shit comes up.
Ex: (tw rape culture)
(blablabla song goes here)
And I must be running out of luck
Cuz you’re just not drunk enough to fuck
(blabla, random rape culture)
Totally killed the song for me when I listened to it years later. Luckily, my sister already had made up some sock themed lyrics (motive: I was wearing her socks) so I just sing those instead.
um, rambling here 😛 Also, this sentiment has probably been expressed, like, everywhere, but I would enjoy Taylor Swift so much more if she sang in a language I didn’t understand.
Taylor Swift is such a Nice Girl that she’d make me want to change the channel even if I did like the kind of country-lite that she does.
Maybe if we ignore scrapemind (I think the bottom of that barrel has been scraped well and good) he’ll fuck off.
Cassandra: I would pay all the money to see Dad drinking tea. Thanks for the tip on Mighty Leaf.
So we can add context to the long list of things Scrapemind doesn’t understand.
WeeBoy, I’m sorry.
Yeah, for someone who’s not a tea drinker framing it as “it’s good for you!” is unlikely to encourage them.
@cassandrasays
I do like her kind of music. Just not her lyrics. And if there’s a song I like that I think doesn’t have problems, I’ll end up watching the music video and finding out it really, really does.
/bad taylor swift.
@hellkell
Do you want us to ignore scrapemind? Just checking, since unless you do, I’ll probably be poking him cuz I’m bored.
Swift does underline the fact that a lot of Nice Guy/Girl thinking is age-related, ie. very common among teenagers. It’s just that unfortunately some people never outgrow it (and she’s past the age at which it would be vaguely excusable).
Marie: Poke away at Scrapemind.
Music already has explicit content warnings. They’d just need to update them so that shit and fuck aren’t bad words but dumb and drunk are.
WeeBoy, I am so sorry, that’s foul.
hellkell – that’s such good news about your father!
I am so not a fan of music ratings, but that’s just me. Remember Tipper Gore and PMRC?
Speaking of music, I find it amusing to listen to stuff like Cradle of Filth and Combichrist while watching MRAs clutch their pearls about “shaming language” and whatever shit Buttman was babbling about this time.
@hellkell
Yay!
okay, scrapemind, let me explain this too you, even though I’m 99.99999% sure you’re just going to ignore it anyway. I give zero fucks whether someone uses drunk in a song. It’s those context clues you seem to be missing again, the singer implying that he wants a woman to get drunk enough either 1) she’d have sex she normally wouldn’t while sober, but is still in control of herself. Which is dickist. Or 2) he hopes she’ll get drunk enough she can’t stop him from having sex with her, or she’s passed out. Which is rape.
waits for scrapemind to ignore explanation. Though I do think they still should keep content warnings for curse words. I know my mom doesn’t like them, and she listens to music, so she’d appreciate.
Oh dear, Maddie is Conflicted. She can’t decide whether to be all Stop What You’re Doing And Pay Attention To Me or Stop
Paying Attention ToPersecuting Me.It’s a hard life, being a kitty.
I have a weird sort of relationship with Swift’s music. On one hand, I really can’t stand any facet of her music. The message is holy crap terrible, I don’t like country, I don’t like “pop”, and I’m quite a bit too old to identify with her in any way — not that I would have at any other age. And it bothers me that she has so many fans who are young girls. They’re growing up thinking THAT is what a relationship is supposed to look like. And I’m scared for them.
On the other hand, I find myself defending her quite a bit. Male groups have been espousing the very same messages (if perhaps a little more toxic) since long before she came on the scene. I somehow doubt all of her critics just suddenly realized this crap is unhealthy, now that it’s a woman (girl? I have no idea how old she is ._.) promoting it.