And so the Internet has found a new woman to hate. Most of you are probably already familiar with the Adria Richards debacle that’s developed over the past several days. If not, Jill at Feministe has a good summary of events:
Adria Richards, formerly of the company SendGrid, was at a tech conference this week when some dudes behind her made a series of inappropriate and sexual jokes. Annoyed by the pervasiveness of misogyny in the tech world, she snapped a photo of them and put in on Twitter with a complaint. One of the conference organizers spoke to the men and they apologized. Totally reasonable! Good response, PyCon. Later, one of the dudes got fired. Instead of getting mad at the company that made the choice to fire him, the internet hordes descended on Adria. She was on the receiving end of rape and death threats. Her address and phone number were published. Her blog and her company’s website came under DDoS attack. Oh and then her company, SendGrid, fired her.
Like Jill, I think firing someone for a “dongle” joke is an overreaction, to say the least. But Richards wasn’t responsible for that; indeed, she told the fired man she hoped his employer would reconsider and take him back.
SendGrid’s firing of Richards is far more problematic. It’s one thing to get in trouble for acting like a sexist boor; it’s quite another to get in trouble for simply pointing out someone else’s problematic behavior. Richards faced a virtual lynch mob for simply documenting an example of the everyday sexism that permeates the tech world; by firing her, SendGrid essentially sided with the mob.
Is “lynch mob” an unfair term to describe those who’ve gone after Richards? No. In this context, the term is sadly apropos, as the target of all this online “activism” is not only female but black – two strikes against her in the minds of many of her, er, “critics,” who attacked her as a “fucking nigger” as well as a “cunt.” (The more genteel racists referred to her derisively as a “diversity hire.”)
Numerous commenters have already documented some of the appallingly racist and misogynist attacks on Richards. (The links in the above paragraph contain plenty of examples.)
Here, I’d like to focus specifically on the attacks on Richards coming from Men’s Rights activists – that is, from people who like to think of themselves as upstanding human rights activists for the 21st century, virtual equivalents of Martin Luther King. In fact, many of the reactions of MRAs show them to have far more in common with the bigots who fought against the civil rights movement than they do with King.
In the Men’s Rights subreddit, the MRA masses gave more than one hundred upvotes to a graphic describing Richards as a “racist, sexist and hypocritical cunt.” Evidently pointing out that white men as a class have certain advantages in the world is a kind of “racism.”
Elsewhere in the subreddit, aasorted commenters indulged themselves in gendered slurs. Greyfeld got dozens up upvotes for comments denouncing Richards as a “feminist cunt” and a “screeching harpy cunt.” DerpaNerb described Richards as “a racist/sexist cunt [who’s] clearly … not capable of doing her job properly.” Buster2209 scored 160 upvotes with a comment describing Richards as a “stupid bitch [who] brought it on herself.” Cyridius simply declared “I hate her because she’s a dumb ignorant bitch.”
Others happily gave the Men’s Rights movement credit for Richards’ firing. The execrable EvilPundit got 180 upvotes for a post essentially endorsing the virtual lynch mob and declaring Richards’ firing to be proof that the Men’s Rights movement had entered a “new phase.”
Sorry to burst your bubble, Mr. Pundit, but there’s nothing new about men harassing and threatening a black woman.
AnnArchist – a former contributor to Reddit’s now-banned Beating Women subreddit — reacted with indignation to someone who pointed out Richards had been harassed:
Over on A Voice for Men, where the locals describe themselves with no sense of irony as Men’s Human Rights Activists, there was much rejoicing over the firing of Richards, who was variously described as an “entitled bitch,” a “sociopathic bitch,” a “femshit” and a “bush pig.” Naturally, the c-word, applied to all feminists, made an appearance as well.
Daflory hoped that Richards’ firing would be the start of an industry-wide purge:
Adria Richards seems like an entitled narcissist, who had become used to deference as a moral authority through her impeccable credentials as a diversity goddess: black, Jewish, and female. …
No one ever told Adria Richards that she was at best only an tolerated guest in the world of tech, and she could either play by male rules and contribute, or get lost. Hopefully other feminists in tech will get a similar message.
And August Løvenskiolds’ mind went straight to the gutter:
[A]fter being outed as a betrayer of her customers, none of them will want to work with her, and any tech company that hires her will instantly lose credibility.
She’s going to be hard-pressed to find a job as a sex-worker unless the light is quite dim.
Taking a step back from the particulars of the incident, Mark Trueblood wondered if a man strike might help to put things right once again:
I’m pretty sure Amnesty International doesn’t exactly endorse this sort of “human rights” activism.
@Thomas R, I do hope you’re still reading. You said this:
You felt bullied because people took issue with what you originally said, which you considered to be fairly polite. Did it occur to you that some of us might have felt attacked by your own words? Saying that people who send women rape and death threats are “crazies” makes my life more unsafe. Once, as a woman, and then again as a mentally ill person.
First, it says misogynistic threats are an inevitability for women, since it is something outside of the conscious control of the people threatening. It means there is no point in fighting it or asking more of the men who launch these attacks on women. You’re asking me to accept that this is just what i can expect for choosing to be a woman in public.
Second, it says that people who do terrible things do it as a result of mental illness. You’re telling the world that I am a dangerous, unreliable, disgusting person. You’re agreeing with the people who think I shouldn’t be able to run my own life, because I am too much of a risk. Among other things.
I feel bullied by all of that. Maybe you shouldn’t bully me, and others like me. Nor should you bully WOC and other POC by excusing racist attacks the same way you’ve excused misogynistic ones.
I don’t really think most people are angry that she made a complaint about the jokes. I think what people are mad at is her publicly airing that complaint. She should have gone through private channels to voice her complaint, not post it publicly on the internet. She rails against what these guys did as highly inappropriate, yet by airing them out for the world to see, she acted inappropriately as well.
While not a direct comparison, if one was being disciplined by an employer for botching a job you were supposed to do, would you rather it be done privately or publicly? Should the employer take the employee aside and speak with them privately or should the employer just run into the middle of the office to scold them for their poor performance? The latter is professional while the latter is not.
*takes a moment to just be awed by Viscaria’s clarity and understanding*
Just wanted to pull out this sentence as an excellent example of MREnglish. It’s blustery, it wants to be really intimidating, and it doesn’t actually mean anything.
Is garbage misandry now? Did I miss a memo?
WeeBoy, all the hugs and Anzac biscuits and everything for you and your friend!
It is if you ask your husband or boyfriend to take it out.
It must be! Think of all teh poor menz who’ve been oppressed by being asked to take out the garbage!
Ninjaed!
@scrapemind
Ok, I’ll bite…why are you here?
You have typed nothing substantive or even interesting. At best you appear to be here to prove your superior intellect, which, statistically speaking, means you are here unarmed.
Seriously, why are you here?
The MRM – making sitcom jokes from the 50s sound new and fresh.
seconded
I’m so glad the trolls on this thread were wholly unoriginal and about what I expected given the topic. You never let me down, assholes. Take you tired “points” elsewhere and don’t come back till you get better material.
Enough with the witless.
WeeBoy: all the hugs to you and your friend, I hope everything’s OK.
In the good news dept., my father doesn’t have renal cancer. Been a tense week.
Some comments make me feel stupid for even trying to contribute today, because they are so intelligent and sometimes outright beautiful it leaves me speechless.
And this is after all a site dedicated to specialized mockery.
Just…jesus, I hope I manage to fit in a little.
Yay for good news! The trolls were too boring to be worth reading this time so I skimmed them. My cup of tea is far more interesting than they are.
(Lapsang Souchoung, really smoky, the guy in the tea shop was all “I can’t drink that one, too strong”.)
joanimal – scrapemind has never contributed anything worthwhile to this blog. What you see here is entirely representative. Zie’s just another wanktroll.
That’s not fair to wanking, which is at least potentially fun for people watching too.
Joanimal, I guess I’m here to read jaw-dropping statements, including those by people like David K. Meller and Arks, but also including statements like, “Saying that people who send women rape and death threats are ‘crazies’ makes my life more unsafe,” even after I read Viscaria’s explanation. I try to only lurk, but sometimes I give into the temptation to comment.
Sorry for poking the trolls. Just can’t stand these assholes today 🙁
“even after I read Viscaria’s explanation”
Yup, nothing like dismissing someone’s explanation of their own experience.
Fuck off, troll.
TomBcat: you’re doing fine.
Cassandra: thanks, the minute amounts of blood they found in his urine (which kicked off this week of tests) they think is just from age and his having very high BP most of his adult life.
I want to try this, but I can’t find it in the stores near me, and I’m not sure who.what to trust as far as online ordering.
Scrapeming: piss off.
hellkell, what a relief! I’m off to dinner with my sister, but had to check for trolls. Sadly, they disappoint.
Try Mighty Leaf, theirs is good and they’re a totally legit company, used to be based in San Francisco (they moved across the water because rent is cheaper in Marin).
http://www.mightyleaf.com/loose-tea_black-tea-classic/lapsang-souchong-black-tea/
@TomBCat I read the post. There was no addressing of her deliberate misinterpretation of the “Forking” phrase, Or the fact that she herself made dick jokes. Or the fact that she took those guys’ pictures in a passive-aggressive manner, without saying a single word to them.
And I’d really like to know where you get your oh-so-amazing insight into men’s minds where you can actually tell how much they’re struggling not to hurt your ladyfeelz.