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Men’s Rights Activists Greet Adria Richards’ Firing with Cheers, Gendered Slurs

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And so the Internet has found a new woman to hate. Most of you are probably already familiar with the Adria Richards debacle that’s developed over the past several days. If not, Jill at Feministe has a good summary of events:

Adria Richards, formerly of the company SendGrid, was at a tech conference this week when some dudes behind her made a series of inappropriate and sexual jokes. Annoyed by the pervasiveness of misogyny in the tech world, she snapped a photo of them and put in on Twitter with a complaint. One of the conference organizers spoke to the men and they apologized. Totally reasonable! Good response, PyCon. Later, one of the dudes got fired. Instead of getting mad at the company that made the choice to fire him, the internet hordes descended on Adria. She was on the receiving end of rape and death threats. Her address and phone number were published. Her blog and her company’s website came under DDoS attack. Oh and then her company, SendGrid, fired her.

Like Jill, I think firing someone for a “dongle” joke is an overreaction, to say the least. But Richards wasn’t responsible for that; indeed, she told the fired man she hoped his employer would reconsider and take him back.

SendGrid’s firing of Richards is far more problematic. It’s one thing to get in trouble for acting like a sexist boor; it’s quite another to get in trouble for simply pointing out someone else’s problematic behavior. Richards faced a virtual lynch mob for simply documenting an example of the everyday sexism that permeates the tech world; by firing her, SendGrid essentially sided with the mob.

Is “lynch mob” an unfair term to describe those who’ve gone after Richards? No. In this context, the term is sadly apropos, as the target of all this online “activism” is not only female but black – two strikes against her in the minds of many of her, er, “critics,” who attacked her as a “fucking nigger” as well as a “cunt.” (The more genteel racists referred to her derisively as a “diversity hire.”)

Numerous commenters have already documented some of the appallingly racist and misogynist attacks on Richards. (The links in the above paragraph contain plenty of examples.)

Here, I’d like to focus specifically on the attacks on Richards coming from Men’s Rights activists – that is, from people who like to think of themselves as upstanding human rights activists for the 21st century, virtual equivalents of Martin Luther King. In fact, many of the reactions of MRAs show them to have far more in common with the bigots who fought against the civil rights movement than they do with King.

In the Men’s Rights subreddit, the MRA masses gave more than one hundred upvotes to a graphic describing Richards as a “racist, sexist and hypocritical cunt.” Evidently pointing out that white men as a class have certain advantages in the world is a kind of “racism.”

Elsewhere in the subreddit, aasorted commenters indulged themselves in gendered slurs. Greyfeld got dozens up upvotes for comments denouncing Richards as a “feminist cunt” and a “screeching harpy cunt.” DerpaNerb described Richards as “a racist/sexist cunt [who’s] clearly … not capable of doing her job properly.” Buster2209 scored 160 upvotes with a comment describing Richards as a “stupid bitch [who] brought it on herself.” Cyridius simply declared “I hate her because she’s a dumb ignorant bitch.”

Others happily gave the Men’s Rights movement credit for Richards’ firing. The execrable EvilPundit got 180 upvotes for a post essentially endorsing the virtual lynch mob and declaring Richards’ firing to be proof that the Men’s Rights movement had entered a “new phase.”

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Sorry to burst your bubble, Mr. Pundit, but there’s nothing new about men harassing and threatening a black woman.

AnnArchist – a former contributor to Reddit’s now-banned Beating Women subreddit —  reacted with indignation to someone who pointed out Richards had been harassed:

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Over on A Voice for Men, where the locals describe themselves with no sense of irony as Men’s Human Rights Activists, there was much rejoicing over the firing of Richards, who was variously described as an “entitled bitch,” a “sociopathic bitch,” a “femshit” and a “bush pig.” Naturally, the c-word, applied to all feminists, made an appearance as well.

Daflory hoped that Richards’ firing would be the start of an industry-wide purge:

Adria Richards seems like an entitled narcissist, who had become used to deference as a moral authority through her impeccable credentials as a diversity goddess: black, Jewish, and female. …

No one ever told Adria Richards that she was at best only an tolerated guest in the world of tech, and she could either play by male rules and contribute, or get lost. Hopefully other feminists in tech will get a similar message.

And August Løvenskiolds’ mind went straight to the gutter:

[A]fter being outed as a betrayer of her customers, none of them will want to work with her, and any tech company that hires her will instantly lose credibility.

She’s going to be hard-pressed to find a job as a sex-worker unless the light is quite dim.

Taking a step back from the particulars of the incident, Mark Trueblood wondered if a man strike might help to put things right once again:

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I’m pretty sure Amnesty International doesn’t exactly endorse this sort of “human rights” activism.

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neuroticbeagle
11 years ago

“Good people of ManBoobz” makes us sound like our own country or something

Don’t we have our own island? 🙂

neuroticbeagle
11 years ago

Off-topic: Does anyone else melt down when they can’t remember where they put their glasses?

I probably would, if I could put my glasses down for things other than sleeping, showering and going to the bathroom in the middle of the night. It’s easy to remember where they are when they are on my face most of the time. 🙂

neuroticbeagle
11 years ago

@WeeBoy Internet hugs from me and internet kisses from the real beagle, only if you want them of course. Have some Cheesecake:

http://www.buzzfeed.com/daniheckman/this-is-cheesecake-the-capybara-who-adopts-orphan-7w57

M Dubz
M Dubz
11 years ago

All of the HUGS to WeeBoy and his friend. We love you both.

Marie
Marie
11 years ago

re:glasses

Amusing story, once I spent the better part of the morning freaking out and trying to find my glasses because I put them in the top drawer of my dresser for some reason 😛 Yeah, I felt kind of silly after that.

Shadow
Shadow
11 years ago

@Tina

low class, crass white trash jerks

So, these are two expressions that I really hate. “Low class” as an insult is derived from the idea that those with money have better social graces/ are better in general*. Ditto for white trash. Much like with using “crazy”, it’s a way to distance a behaviour (usually racism and sexism) from one’s own group and foist it off as an already marginalised group’s problem.

Also, while I’ve disagreed with some of the things you’ve written, you’ve never come off as a troll AFAIC.

@Weeboy

I’m so sorry man

M Dubz
M Dubz
11 years ago

Also, I am continually shocked when people comment on this site and then get FEELS when they are smacked down for ableism/racism/sexism/whathaveyou. This is a site that is in the regular habit of calling regulars to task when they are being fools (and of course, the whole point of why we are here is to make mincemeat out of trolls). NOBODY is exempt here, which I love.

If you want a site where people are going to hold your hand and guard your feelings at the expense of you not learning more about social justice, then it’s PAINFULLY clear that this is not the place for you.

Shadow
Shadow
11 years ago

I forgot, the asterisk was there because I wanted to add that I don’t feel that “no class” has the same marginalising connotation, but I could be wrong.

M Dubz
M Dubz
11 years ago

@Shadow- Yes, this. There is no correlation between how much money you have/ educational opportunities/ class and your ability to not be an asshole. As the recent presidential election/ rapey misogynistic senators has demonstrated in abundance.

Marie
Marie
11 years ago

@M Dubz

This is a site that is in the regular habit of calling regulars to task when they are being fools (and of course, the whole point of why we are here is to make mincemeat out of trolls). NOBODY is exempt here, which I love.

I love that too. I suppose the downside is that you (general) feel kind of bad when people call you out on shit, though Imo I want to know if I’m making an ass out of myself, even if it hurts. It just feels so much better than having to bite my tongue and debate whether I want to get into a fight cuz someone’s being an ass, like more internet sites. Or non-internet. Gah, I had a bad night at my dad’s fiance’s house, which I’m probably mentioning every thread here. Anyway, yes. This site= good.

M Dubz
M Dubz
11 years ago

Also, in regards to the original post, I feel like there could be so many other interesting conversations the internet could have. For example, the line between private and public on the internet, and how that relates to someone’s professional life. But no, we have to have that same old boring “BITCHEZZZZ AINT SHIT.” People are often boring as well as awful.

M Dubz
M Dubz
11 years ago

@ Marie- BOO on having a bad night. I hope today is better!

Marie
Marie
11 years ago

@m dubz

Thanks 🙂 Me too. I’m going shopping with my mom, my old boots are falling apart and I can afford to get some new ones, cuz job! 😀 Related-ish, does anyone know if David still needs donations, or should I just email him? I said I’d donate when I had money and that is now.

Buttman
Buttman
11 years ago

Our movement is growing. You are not going to snap your fingers and get two men fired and not face repercussions. We will boycott all anti-male companies. We will call you out on your hypocrisy of posting anti-male garbage on the internet.

Shadow
Shadow
11 years ago

@M Dubz

@Shadow- Yes, this. There is no correlation between how much money you have/ educational opportunities/ class and your ability to not be an asshole. As the recent presidential election/ rapey misogynistic senators has demonstrated in abundance.

Exactly. It’s also been my experience that a lot of otherwise social justice types seem to get some block when it comes to how problematic “white trash” is, just because the targets are White. It’s been an endless source of annoyance for me.

neuroticbeagle
11 years ago

“NOBODY is exempt here”.

Except for cats. Cats do whatever the fuck they want.
http://media-cache-lt0.pinterest.com/550x/fc/5c/af/fc5cafd80e938715251994d9fe71fbbd.jpg

cloudiah
11 years ago

@WeeBoy, So sorry to hear this. Glad you can be there for your friend. Jedi hugs if they’re wanted.

LaightTempest
LaightTempest
11 years ago

This ‘backlash’ towards Richards is definitely unjustified; she shouldn’t have to keep silent about her discomfort. However, I believe the reason why SendGrid fired him in the first place wasn’t just because of his sexist joke – it was because her picture (that she posted publicly without their permission, BTW) created such a PR flurry from which the company wanted to distance ASAP. Using the photo to identify and report these people was fine. Posting it online was an immature and irresponsible reaction.
If she really wanted to speak out, why couldn’t she turn around and reprimand them on the spot, or call security first? Then if they persisted, she could’ve blasted them however she wanted.

cloudiah
11 years ago

And yeah, the classism inherent in the “white trash” epithet has always bothered me too. As well as the dehumanization. I’d appreciate it if people could drop that. 0_0

cloudiah
11 years ago

And again… A black woman is getting rape/death threats posted against her, with her contact information posted online; openly racist/sexist comments are getting a favorable response on “human rights” sites. But for some people, the REAL issue is that she tweeted something. Yeah, let’s focus on that, because she must have done something to deserve it, right?

/intense sarcasm

pecunium
11 years ago

Laight Tempest: Using the photo to identify and report these people was fine. Posting it online was an immature and irresponsible reaction.
If she really wanted to speak out, why couldn’t she turn around and reprimand them on the spot, or call security first? Then if they persisted, she could’ve blasted them however she wanted.

I don’t think so. If she’d done that she’d have been an “idealogue” who wouldn’t accept the response of whomever she handed it off to. Then it would have been, “she’s such a vindictive bitch”.

Google, “readercon” for some examples of how that plays out.

drst
drst
11 years ago

What drives me spare about this is these two assholes made a choice to violate the code of conduct at the conference and there were consequences. But somehow their choice to do that is the fault of the woman. Grrr.

cloudiah
11 years ago

I mean, look what happened to Rebecca Watson. She didn’t post a picture, or publicly identify the dude. Same fucking response: harassment, threats.

The only way NOT to be attacked by misogynists is not to speak out. Except that doesn’t really work either.

evilzenmuppet
evilzenmuppet
11 years ago

If she really wanted to speak out, why couldn’t she turn around and reprimand them on the spot, or call security first?

@LaightTempest – Why should she? Why is she obligated to behave in a certain way when the two assholes in question were the ones breaking the rules? Why is it incumbent on her to be patient and tolerant of two people doing something wrong first before getting more serious about it? Why do you believe she should’ve gotten into a confrontation with these two guys and possibly risked her personal safety rather than taking the safest option?

Could it possibly be that you don’t want to admit these two assholes are assholes, because you’ve done worse shit, so you’re trying to make it her fault rather than yours?

M Dubz
M Dubz
11 years ago

@neuroticbeagle- well yeah, that goes without saying.

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