The regulars at PUAhate.com – we’ve met them before — are a strange and bitter bunch. Most seem to be self-loathing so-called “incels” who blame their lack of romantic and sexual success on their average or below-average looks. Rejecting the basic premise of the pickup artist crowd – that average guys can transform themselves into suave lotharios by mastering manipulative pickup formulas – the PUAhate regulars tend to be true believers in what they somewhat pretentiously call “looks theory,” the odd and obviously untrue notion that women only date men with “male model” looks.
As one PUAhater put it recently:
PUA makes you think that all your problems are because of your personality/behaviour – i.e. things you can control. So when you keep failing, it means that YOU are fucking up and doing things wrong
the reality is that many of us just lost the genetic lottery. we are ugly, the wrong race, the wrong height etc, and that fucked us up. there is NOTHING we can do about it
So, naturally, the PUAhaters spend a lot of their time jealous of tall, good-looking men for their supposed monopoly on the women of the world — whom they also hate.
But the strange thing is that the PUAhaters pretty much hate everyone else as well. They get angry when guys they consider ugly score “hot chicks.” They get angry when guys who are good-looking but not male models get attention from “really hot girls.” And so on, and so on, and so on.
Indeed, many of the regulars seem to walk around in a perpetual state of rage, angry at each and every man who’s managed to pair up with a woman, not to mention the women as well.
One regular recently described his “day from hell” to his comrades:
To start the day I saw a couple where it was an average White guy with an OBESE Asian girl. They were walking around acting like they were trying to prove shit. LMAO. I wanted to kick the guy in the fucking nuts for dating that landwhale. If you’re going to use the racial advantage, at least date a girl who is under 300lbs. Later I go to the gym and see the same tall guys I usually do. Even if I had a good face, how the fuck do you compete with guys who are fucking 6’4”?
Then at the gym there’s this good looking White guy there talking to this Asian dude about how Asian girls are easy and how they approach him. To make things worse after that these fucking frat douchebags come in with their girlfriends to show off . Then to cap off the day a girl I used to know from freshman year walks right past me without even saying anything. I used to fucking live next door to this bitch and now she doesn’t even say anything and acts like a pretentious cunt. She’s an Indian girl dating a White dude lmao. Days like today make you wonder why you even still try in the first place.
Of course, as I’ve mentioned before, most of those posting on PUAhate don’t actually seem to be ugly by anyone’s standards but their own, at least judging from the pictures of themselves they sometimes post to the site, which reveal them to be mostly average-looking guys, with some of the regulars even quite conventionally handsome.
But evidently they would rather believe that they have “lost the genetic lottery” rather than face a more obvious explanation for why the girls don’t like them: because they’re shallow, self-obsessed assholes who hate themselves and hate women and radiate their bitterness from every pore. (And some are even creepier than this, like this pedophile – sorry, ephebophile – who’s angry at me personally because unlike him I don’t chase after 15-year-olds. Link NSFW.)
The PUAhaters often talk about getting surgeries to “correct” their supposed genetic flaws. They would do far better to spend that money on therapy.
Just FYI, we can’t just ‘call ourselves’ physical therapists. We have to have the degree and a license and everything. There are good and bad PTs and good and bad chiropractors, in my opinion. My biggest issues with chiropracty (as a PT) are 1) those that apply one style of treatment to every style of patient regardless of patient presentation and 2) those that don’t address independent self management outside of treatment, such as with an exercise program etc. Just manipulation is not going to solve/manage anything long term.
Marie, thank you for your good thoughts. This has been a wild and wacky thread but that’s one of its best qualities.
Freemage – I LOLed reading that story! I can just picture Johann’s expression.
😀 😀 😀
Yoyo – this thread’s a whole lot more fun than the Godley one. That’s gone strange but not in a good way.
Super serious cats! I lived with a Bengal for awhile, thankfully she never took interest in my fish as anything besides something to hide under (the 55g stand has about a 6″ gap under it, she’d curl up under there and you’d just see big round eyes watching your every move)
Not so serious that I couldn’t make friends over pepperoni though, she couldn’t open the fridge if you closed it good (yes that means she could open it if it was so much as a hair open, and would)…pizza is apparently delicious to cats too.
Pecunium — I know I said this last time I heard that story, but seriously, that’s some fucked up shit. Even accounting for racism I can’t work out the cop “logic” — I live with fucking conservatives and I can’t figure out wtf they were thinking. Not that knowing what they were thinking would make it less horribly racist, or any better for you and family, but not being able to make heads or tails of wtf someone was thinking makes me go GRAH.
Ok, since there was a vid of two guys kissing, I offer a pic of two women kissing. However, its not so much cute (at least for me) as it was moving, I actually wept. I thought the human race may actually be headed toward a better place. Don’t worry, I had a drink, came to my senses, and I am back to being convinced the human race is doomed. 😉
If that didn’t work, here is the link: http://i.telegraph.co.uk/multimedia/archive/02091/sailorKiss_2091645b.jpg
That’s a lovely pic, joanimal – and yes, it is moving.
@The Kittehs’ Unpaid Help Thank you =^.^= I’m not sure how good cold tea is, but I do drink my coffee cold all the time…
@freemage “especially if you have a ‘pretentious art-house foreign movie’ phase hidden in your backstory *cough*.”
I’m not sure if its in my backstory or my present… although in my backstory I did star in a few pretentious art-house movies – not foreign though unless you count Canadian as foreign. The joys of being close with an independent filmmaker =^.^=
I have two cats, Sasha who is old and mainly sleeps but was quite the huntress in her youth, and Nubby who is missing his back paws (he was born that way) who is full of attitude and doesn’t let his lack of paws hold him back.
Missing his back paws! Do his back legs just sort of end?
Miss Katie was one hell of a huntress in her earthly days. I once saw a young wattlebird sitting on a low branch scolding her. It took off, she took off, and she caught it on the wing, with a bit of greenery from the tree thrown in. Suffice to say that bird did not learn not to scold cats that close.
@ The Kittehs’ Unpaid Help Yes, his back legs do sort of just end, he has half of the foot part and is missing the paw part. When he was born his umbilical cord was wrapped around his legs so his paws didn’t grow. I never thought he would be able to jump but he can jump about as well as any cat. My floors aren’t carpeted though, so Nubby skates around most of the time which is pretty cute.
I never saw Sasha hunt because it was before my time, but she hated everyone until she met me – she is the most loving cat I have ever known.
The little one just woke up crying though, so I have to go for tonight =^.^=
Niters, doomkitt3n! 🙂
I’d love to see pics of the kitties if you have any you’d like to share.
@Marie, what CL said:
sorry for delay, different time zones? I’ve been out most of the day. I’ll ask Mr BM if he wants to add to that when he gets back from work.
We also have two cats; the elder statesman is Stranger. He’s slowed down a bit in his somewhat advanced years, but he once caught a bat in our old apartment. That was… ‘fun.’ I saw it, yelled in surprise, causing Stranger to drop the bat, which was healthy enough to fly around the living room for awhile.
The younger cat is Kamikaze, Kami (or crazypants) for short. She’s a very high percentage Egyptian Mau, which are a very old breed and a very fast one. We took her and her brother in when they were something like six weeks old, after their mother disappeared. The boy was very weak and died the first night, but Kami thrived. At 2.5 years. she’s a hellraiser. She’s also lovely, we could pass her off as a purebred Mau, show quality, but her eyes stayed stubbornly amber. And, you know, no papers.
Both of our cats are awesome. and we adore them. Though I’d really adore a bit less scratching from miss crazypants.
Does anyone have any tips for dealing with a bad run of bursitis pain? My hip has been bugging me since the weather went wonky at the end of last month. It’ll go down for a bit, but a big weather change or really cold weather have me feeling like there’s an ice pick jabbing into the joint. I started prednisone today, and been resting on the wonderfully heated bed, scarfing down advil. I can’t elevate it, isolation is really hard and hurts , too. Any advice?
Ow, Kathleen, that’s nasty. I don’t know anything about bursitis, so anything I got from the internet would be stuff you already know about. 🙁 Are topicl treatments any good for it?
Your kitties sound gorgeous – Egyptian Maus are such a beautiful breed. Have you any pictures you’d like to share? /kitty pic begging mode
*topical. Vowels, I haz them.
@KathleenB, Mr BM suggests ultra sound guided steroid injection.
@Marie, I’ll ask him re chiro when he’s not rushing back out door.
BigMomma: Thanks, but I’m… gonna keep that as a last resort. Needles and I don’t really get along. Especially one long enough to get to the joint. Plus, it did more harm than good with my bad ankle.
Do topical treatments help at all? I’m trying out hemp seed oil for my leg troubles, but I haven’t yet found anything to say whether it’s helpful for bursitis.
Kittehs’: These are all I can find at the moment. Apologies for the quality, the tablet doesn’t have a flash.
http://www.flickr.com/photos/94262571@N03/
Kittehs’: Not so much. I think it might be because the bursa is kind buried in the joint. I’ve got four more days of prednisone, hopefully that’ll be enough. All my other courses have been 7-10 days, but at a lower dose (10mg three times a day vs 50mg once).
Kathleen, your kitties are lovely – and Kami is sooooo pretty!
I had a feeling topical wouldn’t be much help with bursitis, dammit. 🙁
Fribbie is having a howl in the lounge at present … I have no idea why. Because she can, probably. Or else she’s getting impatient ‘cos we haven’t sat down to watch telly yet.
Totally OT: pic I did just now. It’s in the Pioneer Women’s Memorial Garden in Melbourne.
http://i.imgur.com/tHGIAEn.jpg
Well, it is a loving snark on both FMA and Dr Who–any show that insists it is SCIENCE fiction when the science has suddenly turned into a transparent excuse for the plot. A science fiction plot drops into the fantastical when your paradox just, WHOOOOOOPS, didn’t happen in the first place.
Or when your previous inviolable rules turn to mush.
😀
@Argenti:
When erfworld switched over to text-only updates I couldn’t take it… switching mediums hurts my brain.There used to be visual cues! Now I have none! Now I can’t differentiate the characters! When I read a book I build up elaborate mental models to handle this. They aren’t built! It’s not working for me!!
…but that could be just me.
@CL
Not to mention that in some places regulation of chiropractors is still, um, self-regulated, mostly.
@KathleenB
Holy crap, me too!!
Exercise and stretching. I have a list of stretches my PT gave me, and I use a stairstepper. You’d think the stairstepper would make it hurt more, but it actually helps a lot. It’s more the impact of walking that hurts it than the movement, so taking twenty minutes on the stairstepper actually really helps.
But it sounds like your hip may not lend itself to the stretching and exercise route. 🙁
My PT had a topical treatment of steroids combined with, um, driving the steroids in with electricity. It was a little weird, but it penetrated in without needles.
Google is not helping me find reference to this.
Lovely picture Kitteh! Was the weather that good or is it just an optimistic photo? 😛