The regulars at PUAhate.com – we’ve met them before — are a strange and bitter bunch. Most seem to be self-loathing so-called “incels” who blame their lack of romantic and sexual success on their average or below-average looks. Rejecting the basic premise of the pickup artist crowd – that average guys can transform themselves into suave lotharios by mastering manipulative pickup formulas – the PUAhate regulars tend to be true believers in what they somewhat pretentiously call “looks theory,” the odd and obviously untrue notion that women only date men with “male model” looks.
As one PUAhater put it recently:
PUA makes you think that all your problems are because of your personality/behaviour – i.e. things you can control. So when you keep failing, it means that YOU are fucking up and doing things wrong
the reality is that many of us just lost the genetic lottery. we are ugly, the wrong race, the wrong height etc, and that fucked us up. there is NOTHING we can do about it
So, naturally, the PUAhaters spend a lot of their time jealous of tall, good-looking men for their supposed monopoly on the women of the world — whom they also hate.
But the strange thing is that the PUAhaters pretty much hate everyone else as well. They get angry when guys they consider ugly score “hot chicks.” They get angry when guys who are good-looking but not male models get attention from “really hot girls.” And so on, and so on, and so on.
Indeed, many of the regulars seem to walk around in a perpetual state of rage, angry at each and every man who’s managed to pair up with a woman, not to mention the women as well.
One regular recently described his “day from hell” to his comrades:
To start the day I saw a couple where it was an average White guy with an OBESE Asian girl. They were walking around acting like they were trying to prove shit. LMAO. I wanted to kick the guy in the fucking nuts for dating that landwhale. If you’re going to use the racial advantage, at least date a girl who is under 300lbs. Later I go to the gym and see the same tall guys I usually do. Even if I had a good face, how the fuck do you compete with guys who are fucking 6’4”?
Then at the gym there’s this good looking White guy there talking to this Asian dude about how Asian girls are easy and how they approach him. To make things worse after that these fucking frat douchebags come in with their girlfriends to show off . Then to cap off the day a girl I used to know from freshman year walks right past me without even saying anything. I used to fucking live next door to this bitch and now she doesn’t even say anything and acts like a pretentious cunt. She’s an Indian girl dating a White dude lmao. Days like today make you wonder why you even still try in the first place.
Of course, as I’ve mentioned before, most of those posting on PUAhate don’t actually seem to be ugly by anyone’s standards but their own, at least judging from the pictures of themselves they sometimes post to the site, which reveal them to be mostly average-looking guys, with some of the regulars even quite conventionally handsome.
But evidently they would rather believe that they have “lost the genetic lottery” rather than face a more obvious explanation for why the girls don’t like them: because they’re shallow, self-obsessed assholes who hate themselves and hate women and radiate their bitterness from every pore. (And some are even creepier than this, like this pedophile – sorry, ephebophile – who’s angry at me personally because unlike him I don’t chase after 15-year-olds. Link NSFW.)
The PUAhaters often talk about getting surgeries to “correct” their supposed genetic flaws. They would do far better to spend that money on therapy.
@cloudiah I wish my Latin teacher had that much of a sense of humor!
Yeah, Looksie was fun and I kinda wish he didn’t go running back to his mommy. I am sure that there was more stuffing in there to keep beating on. Jeffiepoo was old, tired and stale, with the same old transparent tactics. Where can we go to get a better quality of troll?
And does anyone remember who the “And that’s real” guy was?
That est/Forum stuff is seriously creepy. It reminds me of some of the games the Scientology ‘auditors’ play…
How come all our trolls result to telling us how unhappy and unfulfilled we are…..
*resort not result
@Melody: PROJECTION
With the PUA trolls I think they also think that they can convince us that they’re right, because their guru told them that’s how women’s minds work.
“How come all our trolls result to telling us how unhappy and unfulfilled we are…..”
You’re probably doing fine Melody. It’s the transphobic ones who keep using hurtful trigger words that are probably sad on the inside.
When is David Fauxtrelle gonna stop lurking puahate for article ideas?
Where is he anyway?
FAUXtrelle where are you?
@Some Gal It was a ‘he’ actually. Depressingly, he taught at a prestigious east coast university (where I was able to roll my eyes at him on a weekly basis) though he’s since left for ‘less pretentious’ fields.
He taught a seminar with my adviser, who had just a touch of a southern accent which gave him a hell of a time with French pronunciations. My adviser got past that by giving a little mini-speech (more of a mild joke at his own expense, really) at the beginning of every semester in which he would highlight how important it was to get the names right while pointing out that it was difficult. He always used Roland Barthes to make the example, and explain that he got through it by learning to say it as “Roll On Bart!”
Class and style: doing it right by not being afraid to be a bit silly.
Ya know, Ross, generally calling out only works when you call out specific behaviors. You don’t just get to yell “YOU’RE TRANSPHOBIC”, you generally point out which behaviors are transphobic – e.g. “your insistence that only vagina-owners go in the ladies’ loos is transphobic”.
As it is, you sound like a chuckleduck with a dictionary and an internet connection.
Makes a change from the usual insult, I suppose.
See, I told you Looksy would be back. Hopefully he’s well caffeinated and ready to be chewed on.
Ya know, Ross, generally calling out only works when you call out specific behaviors. You don’t just get to yell “YOU’RE TRANSPHOBIC”, you generally point out which behaviors are transphobic – e.g. “your insistence that only vagina-owners go in the ladies’ loos is transphobic”.
Really? Nobody has been doing that with any of the accusations of misogyny directed at me. They’ve even accused me of being male without any reason!
And the award for being utterly oblivious goes to Looksie Lou!
This might get good again, which is great because I came in to cover redlines on a document the team hasn’t finished marking up. But they want me to stay till 5 anyway, so I’ve got the conference room and the projector all to myself, and Looksie seems even more oblivious on the big screen!
Yeah, David should learn to be a REALtrelle. ZING!
The “and that’s real” thing comes from here. See the 2nd tweet by Alexander, and then augochlorella runs with it.
@Gillian
My pronunciation of Chaucer has a touch of a southern accent because of the not-at-all-subtle southern accent of my HS English teacher.
I figure it adds charm.
The main reason I refuse to speak French unless I absolutely have to is that my first French teacher was a toff, and I picked up her pronunciation, so when I speak French it sounds like the Queen’s speech.
Where is that David Footgel? Is he SCARED? Cowardly David Tootwell!
“When is David Fauxtrelle gonna stop lurking puahate for article ideas?”
I was thinking that myself. PUAhate is kind of small fry. I think David Fauxtrelle has jumped the shark with that one. I need a blogger who isn’t afraid to take on the big boys.
When will David stop reading things on that public forum that’s right out there on the internet and laughing about them? Why is David so mean?
So, I’m back and all done explaining why an Excel spreadsheet is not a friggin’ database to people who really ought to know better.
You know you love the attention.
“This might get good again, which is great because I came in to cover redlines on a document the team hasn’t finished marking up”
It’s okay Gillian. You don’t need to rationalize your addiction to internet blogs.
It’s almost like David looks for examples of misogyny on the Internet and brings them here to mock them. Who would have thought he would use this blog in that way?
It’s confounding.
@cloudiah Your avatar looks awesome projected at 2′ square!
Besides, PUAhate is full of acronyms like Apocalypse Opener. It’s comedy gold.
Since setting up his blog, David Futrelle has reduced internet misogyny by 17% by all official measures. It’s time to get serious and reduce internet misogyny down to 0%.
Are you ready to take on the big boys, David?