The regulars at PUAhate.com – we’ve met them before — are a strange and bitter bunch. Most seem to be self-loathing so-called “incels” who blame their lack of romantic and sexual success on their average or below-average looks. Rejecting the basic premise of the pickup artist crowd – that average guys can transform themselves into suave lotharios by mastering manipulative pickup formulas – the PUAhate regulars tend to be true believers in what they somewhat pretentiously call “looks theory,” the odd and obviously untrue notion that women only date men with “male model” looks.
As one PUAhater put it recently:
PUA makes you think that all your problems are because of your personality/behaviour – i.e. things you can control. So when you keep failing, it means that YOU are fucking up and doing things wrong
the reality is that many of us just lost the genetic lottery. we are ugly, the wrong race, the wrong height etc, and that fucked us up. there is NOTHING we can do about it
So, naturally, the PUAhaters spend a lot of their time jealous of tall, good-looking men for their supposed monopoly on the women of the world — whom they also hate.
But the strange thing is that the PUAhaters pretty much hate everyone else as well. They get angry when guys they consider ugly score “hot chicks.” They get angry when guys who are good-looking but not male models get attention from “really hot girls.” And so on, and so on, and so on.
Indeed, many of the regulars seem to walk around in a perpetual state of rage, angry at each and every man who’s managed to pair up with a woman, not to mention the women as well.
One regular recently described his “day from hell” to his comrades:
To start the day I saw a couple where it was an average White guy with an OBESE Asian girl. They were walking around acting like they were trying to prove shit. LMAO. I wanted to kick the guy in the fucking nuts for dating that landwhale. If you’re going to use the racial advantage, at least date a girl who is under 300lbs. Later I go to the gym and see the same tall guys I usually do. Even if I had a good face, how the fuck do you compete with guys who are fucking 6’4”?
Then at the gym there’s this good looking White guy there talking to this Asian dude about how Asian girls are easy and how they approach him. To make things worse after that these fucking frat douchebags come in with their girlfriends to show off . Then to cap off the day a girl I used to know from freshman year walks right past me without even saying anything. I used to fucking live next door to this bitch and now she doesn’t even say anything and acts like a pretentious cunt. She’s an Indian girl dating a White dude lmao. Days like today make you wonder why you even still try in the first place.
Of course, as I’ve mentioned before, most of those posting on PUAhate don’t actually seem to be ugly by anyone’s standards but their own, at least judging from the pictures of themselves they sometimes post to the site, which reveal them to be mostly average-looking guys, with some of the regulars even quite conventionally handsome.
But evidently they would rather believe that they have “lost the genetic lottery” rather than face a more obvious explanation for why the girls don’t like them: because they’re shallow, self-obsessed assholes who hate themselves and hate women and radiate their bitterness from every pore. (And some are even creepier than this, like this pedophile – sorry, ephebophile – who’s angry at me personally because unlike him I don’t chase after 15-year-olds. Link NSFW.)
The PUAhaters often talk about getting surgeries to “correct” their supposed genetic flaws. They would do far better to spend that money on therapy.
Actually, I’m sorry for the women who have to deal with Ross oozing around him. If dude was any more transparent, he’d be glass.
hellkell, you’d be really pretty if both your pointy ears were orange. /neg
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@pseudo_star_17 No, but I did get the one who insisted that you weren’t permitted to interpret anything that the author didn’t explicitly state because, you know, reasons and all, and if the boat was supposed to symbolize freedom, the author would have said so.
I also had a student in one of my classes who would only ever refer to an author as “he” even when we were discussing people like Virginia Woolf and Jane Austen.
“I’m not leaving here, you are just not worthy enough to interest me and so we’re done.”
Hilariously, this is already the second time you’ve announced this, and there will be a third.
“Actually, I’m sorry for the women who have to deal with Ross oozing around him. If dude was any more transparent, he’d be glass.”
I’m not a dude.
Dude. Duder. Duderino. The Dudester. Hey, jackass.
HOW did you guys rack up 500 comments in one day?
I have to go to work, but keep the trolls warm for me, OK? I’d like to have some fun when I get back.
OK, dude, how ’bout I just call you fuckstick?
Sock! Sock! Sock! Sock! Sock! 11eleventy1!!
Hi, Ross!
This is indeed a strange place to read you. I occasionally comment here, but have not found it too productive. I am keeping up with your website, although I have not seen you in years. I thank you once again for the self-improvement process of early SpeedSed in the days of old.
Arguing about the meaning of “is.”
@emilygoddess I also was shocked by the 500 comments.
“OK, dude, how ’bout I just call you fuckstick?”
If it helps keep the sad feelings away, then sure!.
@Falconer
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LOL, dude. LOfuckingL.
“I also had a student in one of my classes who would only ever refer to an author as “he” even when we were discussing people like Virginia Woolf and Jane Austen.”
You should have called him a misogynist.
Nice punctuation, by the by.
@Gillian: Oh, wow, I haven’t seen Lebowski in years and I wasn’t even thinking about El Duderino.
IS IT POSSIBLE TO HAVE AN ORIGINAL THOUGHT ZOMG
Delurking to ask if you’d seen this: http://noodlemaz.wordpress.com/2013/02/14/confessions-of-a-former-misogynist/
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Ephebophile posted a picture of a very nice looking child. The fact of the matter is though most men would turn down a date with her because let’s face it; she’s a child. What a ridiculous world we live in. Young girls are still like boys. I’m not a man but lets face it, a person can’t seriously take up the opportunity to sleep with everything that can move.
Whilst I, too, agree with letting go of the gendered qualities of names, I think it’s damn rude to misgender someone even if they are dead and, in the case of Jane Austen, being foul-mouthed in Hell. 😛
Holy hell, dragging this out took a while. Not sure why Scatterbrain would be so difficult to remember!
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Ah, the early 90s…
Some of the transphobia here is very disappointing.
@Creative Writing Student Yeah, we talked about using gender neutral pronouns. This chuckleduck was happy enough to refer to women in the classroom as ‘she’, he just would not refer to any author (or, for that matter anyone else who invented or made anything) as anything other than ‘he’. At the time we all thought he was just kinda dumb, but that was before trolls lifted oblivousness to an art form.
You should have handed him an Anaais Nin book and had him read aloud from it, then ask him questions, see how long it took him to lose focus and use the correct pronoun.