Here’s a suprisingly candid comment from an MRA in the Men’s Rights subreddit, challenging the misogyny within the movement:
Oh, wait, that’s not from the Men’s Rights subreddit. HalfysReddit did originally post this to the Men’s Rights subreddit, but the mods deleted it, and so now the only reason it’s still available is that there’s a bot that automatically reposts all self-posts to the Men’s Rights subreddit.
Before it was deleted, HalfysReddit’s post did inspire some discussion amongst the Men’s Rightsers. Well, it was “discussion” only insofar as a bunch of comments telling HalfysReddit to stuff it counts as discussion. Here’s one thoughtful comment:
Sorry, did I say “thoughtful?” I meant “delusional.”
Though I’m pretty sure he’s right that feminists aren’t going to fight for anonymity for rape defendents or the “right of paternal surrender.”
Oh, and here’s a guy comparing Men’s Rightsers to the Black Panthers.
The Men’s Rights subreddit, where the notion that MRAs should tone down the misogyny a bit is too radical to even debate.
@Kitteh’s
It’s generally counted as a disability for government purposes. If you have something else then it can get pretty messy but otherwise, yeah, IDGI.
Btw, I think both are.
@Marie
I heard it’s really good for controlling muscle spasms. The local Spinal Unit had to stop giving the patients weed though. 🙁
@Marie
DARE lies.
@some gal
I assumed that 😛 (at least once I’d actually talked to people who’d done some drugs XD). I’ve just never heard much about it being used for pain-killiness, so if you guys have more info on that you wouldn’t mind sharing I’d be happy 😀
I think my mom’s on tramadol now for her back pain, and it isn’t helping. Her doctor is really good about trying new things, so I’m pretty sure they’ve run through most of the pharmaceutical options. She hasn’t tried the hemp oil yet, Kittehs’ but I will try to remember to tell you when she does. (Or bug me about it, because I am forgetful.)
Oh, tramadol. It works better than ibuprophen, but not as well as other things. I found out earlier tonight that you shouldn’t drink ANYTHING with grapefruit in it. That was… fun.
I have soft tissue damage/arthritis in my left hip, and I’m trying to put off surgery for as long as is possible.
Oh katz, I’m gonna advertise your kitties a bit, see if I can get any takers. I assume it’s okay to use your photos? I probably won’t use the actual blog post, because the context might be a bit difficult to explain…
@hellkell
Yeah, the number of drugs that you can’t do grapefruit with was surprising. I think my gabapentin has a warning about that as well. Who knew grapefruit was so scary?
Best wishes for putting off the surgery. 🙂
@Marie
Marijuana helps with pain, especially nerve pain. That’s all I know. It reduces nausea and also might increase a person’s pain tolerance (which helps manage pain). It can also be a lot of fun. It doesn’t work for everyone and not everyone enjoys how they feel on it, but it works really really well for some people. It might be worth trying (for more than just pain relief, in my personal opinion) but YMMV.
If you are taking a lot of ibuprofen regularly, please talk to a doctor. They are not good for you, can cause lasting damage, and there might be a safer option.
Thanks! It “runs” (haha) in the family, mom’s already had both hips replaced.
And hey, my crown went in without a hitch today.
Yeah, I knew about grapefruit with some drugs, but this sailed right by me, like “how much could there be in a Fresca?” Enough.
Yeah, a family member (who really likes grapefruit) found out that the ‘no grapefruit’ of some medication was really ‘have very little grapefruit, but you can get away with a bit’… at about the point of switching from that one to a medication that worked better, but required really no grapefruit at all ever.
@hellkell
Yay for the new crown. Grapefruit is the only citrus I actually liked. 🙁 At least my dislike of other citrus will hopefully save me from accidentally injesting it…*knocks on wood*
I love the flavor of citrus, but hate the texture.
Some Gal< I'm sorry I was such a right crotch to you in the Sandberg thread the other day. I had a giant response typed out about how the discussion pushed some major buttons, but I apologize for being a snot.
I loooooovvvvee citrus. I especially love lemons. They’re kind of hard to eat quickly, but slowly munching on one is so yummy! /random.
@hellkell
Yay for successful crown! 😀
@some gal
Thanks for the answers and advice 😀 I’ll bring it up to my doctor when I see her next.
hellkell, yay for the crowning success!
::ducks::
Marie: be careful with the ibuprophen.
Kitteh’s: Boooooooo. 😉
😀
@hellkell
Im sorry too. I realized that what I was saying wasn’t coming across the way I wanted and rather than let it go, I kept stubbornly trying to force it. Not really the best approach…
Ok, I don’t want to make this the all about Argenti show, so just ignore me if you want (not that I really need to give permission for that…)
I’m seeing the psych I can’t fucking deal with tomorrow, and just as the shit icing on the shit cake, last time she suggested I should work on job interview skills with the vocational counselor via role play. I agreed with this. Today the voc counselor calls, can we schedule a time to work on calling people?
Gods I should’ve just said yes because that is wtf I need regarding finding a dentist, but I corrected that no, interview skills…she’ll find reading material for me. Well this has such a point, unemployed for years, potentially unemployable levels of psych disability, but hey, let’s give me reading material! That aside, because I’ve met the voc counselor once and she seems nice enough, as in, I don’t think the “role play interviews” was ever said to her, I was too angry about my psych not listening (to wtf she herself said) to elaborate on “interview skills”. And frankly, people make me a nervous wreck, role playing with someone I already know is nice about that isn’t going to help.
But that all aside, how do I fire a psych I can’t just stop seeing? It’s the same clinic as my meds-psych. But as y’all know, I’ve been defending her bullshit for months — and she continues to refuse to listen, insisting I have to do various things that’ll supposedly help, when the common thread in all of them is socializing with strangers and when I say that she gets all defensive about how I’m just assuming there will be more than a couple of people. (Note, I don’t mean “why do you think that?” I mean “you’re making wrong assumptions”). When I directly pointed out that I get too anxious socializing for it to have some good affect, she went on a brief lecture about how the body can only stay that anxious for so long, I’d get used to it.
I’m sick of dealing with her, I’m sick of spending half a week after seeing her ranting about how useless and upsetting she is, and another half week before seeing her anxious about wtf she’ll misunderstand and accuse me of this time. Problem here, and my real question, wtf do I do when she gets defensive about me not wanting to see her anymore? I’m sure she’s going to want reasons, and then try to refute them, and since I can’t really just go “this is over, and I’m done here, and no you don’t get a long explaination why, leave me alone”…wtf do I say? I do still want to see meds-psych (or at least, I have to, the mere idea of living with my father while unmedicated is quite enough anxiety thank you)
Argh, sorry, this is long, and an all about me rant. Thank you if you’ve managed to bear with me here!
“This will be our last session. Thanks for the work we’ve done together so far, but it just isn’t working out for me.”
And then leave.
Internet hugs if you want them, Argenti! And no apologies needed.
I don’t know the procedures (let alone USian ones) for formally dumping a psych, but on the personal level I’m thinking of a Captain Awkward type script – something short, not an explanation, a full declarative sentence that you repeat and don’t budge from. Something along the lines of “This is not helping me. I am going to see someone else.”
She’s bloody oversimplifying if she’s thinking you can just live with the flight-fight response levels of adrenaline all the time (I’m guessing that’s what her “your body gets used to it” nonsense was about?).
I know it’d be too damn distressing for you but I’m wishing there could be a formal complaint about this psych. She sounds incompetent at best.
Ninjaed!
Argenti: fire her and walk out. You do not owe her an explanation. You are breaking up with your shrink.
Then go to your med-pysch or whoever runs the clinic and request a new one.
Also, med-psych or whoever runs the clinic might be able to suggest someone more suitable if you tell them what specifically you’re looking for. Especially med psych, since they already know you a bit.