So the high school freshman who calls himself Bostonian42 is thinking ahead to college. And he’s got questions. Well, actually just one question, which he’s asking people about every college he’s interested in: is this college full of sluts? Because if it is, he wants none of it.
Here he is, inquiring about Dartmouth:
He’s posted similar comments for eight other colleges.
Sounds like he may want to avoid whatever college it is that Amanda here is going to. (See here for more from this inadvertantly hilarious comic book.)
(Thanks to @MaraWritesStuff on Twitter for alerting the world to Boston42’s noble quest.)
(Oh, and I guess I’m back to posting again, though my posts may be a little light for awhile.)
I went to this one park where they totally shamed me into joining their so-called “Friends of the Park” group, which was totally UNFAIR because it’s too cold for going there now but I still paid!! AND AND AND there were other people in the park even though I gave them my money!!! Damn slutty parks. Next thing you know there will be new parks, and I’ll probably have to pay for THOSE too!!
I cannot currently go to parks, but I would like to. I am inpark you guys! INPARK! INPARK! Pity me and bring me parks!
Sorry for the derail, but does anyone here know the blog of self-confessed “liberal”
racistrace-realist Robert Lindsay? Some time ago he also wrote about sluts and the double-standard which was super-misogynist (the particular irony is, that he always claims to be different than “those women-hating MRAs”) but gives a nice outline of all the hypocritical thinking.Proceed at own risk…
@Sideliner As a past member of the Royal Order of Bostonians (Cambridgeport chapter), I’m totally for your plan. Maybe you could throw in a duckboat, or name a Mr Bartley’s burger for the college that takes him off your hands? I spend part of my year in Boston, and I’d really like it if I knew there was one less chuckleduck to worry about running into!!
Thanks for the whole sluttiness olympics thing (is this be part of the cuntathalon?). I’m undercaffeinated, because I was laughing too hard to drink my coffee, but it was totes worth it!
@bekabot From what I’ve heard about the seminaries, they aren’t necessarily free from Slutty McSluttersons, though maybe Bs42 doesn’t mind the slutz so long as they are men. I think I’m for Some Gal’s solution: Bs42 should just go live in a basement and take classes online so that he doesn’t get teh slutcootiez (which we all know is the true cause of ‘beer’ gut and male pattern baldness).
@Halite
I am booking my tickets this afternoon!
I luckily have renounced my ways of park sluttery. I used to see two parks, but now that I’m much closer to the one with the soccer field in it I only see one. Wait…I’m only seeing this park for it’s soccer field. Does this make me a park-gold digger?
Ahem. Allow me to state this in a way that’s more on purple’s level.
You may judge people any way you wish. Judge away, my angry little friend! It’s just that there’s no reason why anyone else should care.
@ShiOres I made it to “Women are frankly completely out of control, and I don’t see what good has come of all this shit.” and by then the gagging got in the way of continued reading.
@Gillian
I think you made it further than I did. I got to the bit about promiscuity damaging women’s souls and gave up.
@Some Gal …yeah, but not manly men’s souls because… reasons? There was a part of me that was hoping maybe he would try to make some reasonably sane point, so I held on long after I started feeling queasy. I wanted there to be something about the dangers for all people of looking at sex as a contest or a power trip, and it all seemed to boil down to “freedom to fuck around is necessary for men because otherwise they’ll go around shooting people, but women who sleep with more than one person are slutty crazy people and the source of societal collapse.”
Ugh, ugh, a thousand times ugh
I have to be pedantic about math again here. If the men need to sleep around or they’ll be miserable (baw), and the women aren’t allowed to sleep around, and the men are straight, who are the men supposed to fuck?
@Cassandra Sadly, I know this one. See, that’s why prostitution has to be legal, so that there can be brothels everywhere, and manly men can avoid testosterone poisoning by regularly siphoning off the supply. You know, like blood transfusions. Because it’s unfair, not to mention completely unhealthy (cuz, you know, that overpowering manly male sexydrive) that women can say no to men and some men never get to have sex and then go off to do bad things. Men need to have easily available sex as a “safety valve”, and if they can’t get it from wives and girlfriends and random women in bars, they will totally get sick and die, or go crazy and kill people.
/shit my colleagues say
@Gillian
What kind of person continues to engage in an activity that they think is damaging someone else’s soul? (I don’t believe in souls, but even in a metaphorical sense, I couldn’t do something like that.)
@CassandraSays
This guy’s answer seems to be that sluts are great for having sex with, it just destroys the women bit by bit in the process. I assume that using up/hurting their souls is part of the appeal. He just divides women into two groups: good, keeping civilization going women, and soul-destroyed empty shells that make the math work out.
(He thinks male “betas” also keep civilization going and they match up with the “good” women.)
@Gillian
Ugh. I am so sorry you have to hear that shit in person. 🙁
Yeah, if I believed in souls I wouldn’t much like the idea that fucking people would result in destroying theirs. You have to be a pretty messed up person to be OK with that.
@Cassandra/Some Gal I’m totally with you. Anyone who keeps doing something that they realize directly harms other people is less than fully human. Just my opinion.
Even more so when their explanation is “well, but it doesn’t hurt the important people, like my sister, so you can’t say it’s sexist”.
@Some Gal Thanks. Unfortunately, I like the eating and living indoors thing, so I have to be around these people, at least long enough to finish my contract. The work part isn’t as bad, because it’s mostly about technical stuff, but some amount of socializing with them is also mandatory if I want to continue getting work from them (lately the more interesting gigs are a bit sparse) and its when you get them away from work that the brown squishy stuff starts piling up.
I do often feel the need to take a long, hot shower when I get back from hanging out. Unfortunately there are only two other women in the whole department (oh, other than “the marketing girls”) and there isn’t a critical mass to encourage them to behave themselves, in fact they seem to enjoy being able to behave so badly where women aren’t in a position to object (it is, after all, a social grouping and, theoretically, they can stay or go as they choose).
@gillian
gah. Glad I didn’t read that article, but I guess especially with the newest post up, I keep feeling like if I was actually in a world where all men, or at least a large portion of them killed people without sex I’d want them all locked up. Obviously, there are a huge number of decent men out there, but every time someone spew this shit part of me goes ‘oh, so men can’t control themselves to avoid hurting people, I guess they all belong in prison’. Ugh. Idk. I’m rambling. It just feels like the people who say that never actually think about the logical conclusion of the line. I can’t tell if I’m making any sense.
*eyetwitch*
@Gillian
I know the type, unfortunately. Sometimes it is really nice not being subjected to other people…
@Marie
Locking up all men is a perfectly reasonable response if they couldn’t control themselves like is so often claimed. They don’t really think it through because their privilege protects them from the logical consequences of those sorts of claims. Women (and other underprivileged groups) who have actually (historically and currently) faced being locked up or otherwise penalized for similarly untrue reasons are less likely to rely on explanations that logically conclude with restrictions on their own behavior. Instead, of course, people suggest that women change their behavior, which is bullshit.
Luckily, men can control their behavior and hopefully if we keep repeating it often enough (and the logical consequences of the men are slavering beasts theory), we can change the way these discussions go.
@Marie It’s been my experience, so far, that people who spout stuff like this specifically don’t think. They have some underlying grudge or feelings because of something that may have happened to them or to someone they love, and then they have some quick, knee-jerk reaction that sounds good on the face of things. Asking them to think through the logical consequences of what they just said (when they say something really questionable) is a good way to tell those who just came to a conclusion and went forward never thinking about it again, and those who have thought it through long and hard (like the hand-cutting dickwad from upthread or maybe the men who hate women thread) and have revealed themselves to be sociopaths.
But it most likely won’t change their mind, so know that going in. And it can get you into an unsafe situation if they get stroppy about being challenged… (see the current top post)
Gillian & Cassandra:
It’s… it’s worse than that, even. If you follow the… I can’t even begin to call it ‘logic’, so I’m just gonna say, “If you accept the delusional premises,” then you just end up at that lovely place called, ‘she was asking for it’. In other words, since men ‘need’ sex and women ‘need’ to avoid sex, it makes totes sense for men to rape women; those women who get raped are ‘sluts’ for not properly guarding their own chastity.
Now I need a vomitorium for typing that. Some days I really, really hate my ability to climb into other people’s points of view. ‘scuse.
@Some Gal
Nicely put, as per usual!
Sometimes it works, too, so I shouldn’t be so pessimistic. Most people are good people, no matter how it seems when you happen to be temporarily surrounded by examples of the worst. It wears on me, and I don’t know what to do about it.
@Freemage Worse still, the “sluts” deserve what they get because they behave so badly that there is no male who would be willing to stand up and defend them. Because the only women worthy of defense are those who have given over control of their sexuality to a man.
(sorry, just barfed a little in my mouth there…)
Of course, again with the not thinking through because, for one rape has little to do with sex itself and less still to do with anything but the perpetrator’s desire to be a terrorist.
@Marie
Have a kitten?
(Although even with the cute kitty, you can’t escape the person who posted the video captioning it “retard cat.” Grr. I am so totally feeling you on the worn down.)
Mocking, kittens, breaks, spending time with good people, etc. The bad shit is going to wear you out though, there isn’t anything that completely fixes that, I am sorry to say.
I quoted the caption on a youtube video and triggered moderation. Let’s try again without the slur I was complaining about (but be warned, there will be a slur if you go to youtube and possibly in the video as at least one of the ones I just watched used it.)
@Marie
Have a kitten?
(Although even with the cute kitty, you can’t escape the person who posted the video captioning it “r****d cat.” Grr. I am so totally feeling you on the worn down.)
Mocking, kittens, breaks, spending time with good people, etc. The bad shit is going to wear you out though, there isn’t anything that completely fixes that, I am sorry to say.