So @catches_stars on Twitter is pretty hilarious. She’s also got an OkCupid account, and regularly posts snippets of her conversations with some of the more problematic dudes who contact her, some on her main Twitter account and some on @okcupid_TXT. With her permission, and because I’m too lazy to actually write a post today, I’m passing along a few of my favorites.
This overeager fellow has a rather sudden change of heart when his stated plan runs into an obstacle, that obstacle being that @catches_stars finds him completely repulsive.
This guy is either totally high or trying some weird and misguided PUA wizardry on her. (It does not succeed.)
This foot-obsessed fellow spammed her with the same message from several different accounts.
This guy, who seems to be shirtless in his profile pic, gets what I assume is, to him, a very disappointing answer.
As does this fellow.
Romance is hard.
@cloudiah
We have press-on nails for my cat. No one has thus far been brave enough to try to put them on her. Maybe I could subtly insult her normal nails and get her to want to impress me? I am sure all the scratching and biting is just a shit test anyway.
Cats are expert neggers. The back turned, the bare tilt of the ears – “I know you’re talkng to/about me but this is all the acknowledgement you’re getting” – the LOOK, the Big Ignore … oh yes. PUAs got nuttin’ on kitties.
I think @Martyn is in for a bit of a shock when he graduates and discovers how popular Apple gear is with IT pros. It’s reached the point where you get strange looks if you’re the guy who showed up to a conference -without- a Mac laptop.
Then again, I suspect that’s the least of the shocks the adult world has waiting for him.
Also the tail flip – the feline equivalent of giving you the finger …
Oh god yes, the tail flip!
I wonder if the digital salute started life as someone imitating a tail flip …
@Charles Miller – I think you nailed it about shocks and the adult world.
My cats do a lot of kino too. Hazel started biting my toes this morning because apparently I wasn’t quick enough with the cat food. So I looked right at her and said, “Nice outfit. I’m pretty sure I saw another kitty wearing the exact same thing.”
Kino? The only thing I associate that word with is cinema.
@Martyn
To understand why you are getting the response you are about teaching shallow people a lesson, you might want to start by reading the comments here:
http://manboobz.com/2013/02/14/the-ultimate-nice-guy-tm-makes-a-music-video/
There is a lot, especially by CassandraSays iirc, defending women’s right to be shallow. Men have the same right.
Too bad there isn’t a way of tagging the comments when we’ve done a subject to death so that we can just send newbies and trolls there. It would be like the FAQ people have brought up, but more communal.
Martyn: put a sock in it, for real. If you want to have any kind of lifespan around here that doesn’t involve treating you like the creepy troll I’m starting to think you are, shut the hell up, read old threads, and maybe use the Google to learn about the things we talk about. This is not a 101 site, we’re familiar with game, and most of DO NOT have the patience to hold your hand and spoon feed you knowledge.
Ah yes, shallowness. The dudes who expect supermodels, and complain about any women who dare appear in public not fully made up and groomed, but also complain about women being “shallow” for spending time on their appearance and – horror of horrors – having preferences about men’s looks and wanting to see them groomed as well.
I am in a weird mood and feeling charitable. If anyone finds my teacher-voiced* explanations to Martyn annoying, though, I’ll cut it out.
*Hopefully, easy and just this side of condescending.
I don’t, Some Gal. I’m still giving him some benefit of the doubt, though my patience is wearing thin. I’m partly trying to get it through his thick skull and partly putting it on record here that he’s been TOLD, so he can’t come back later doing the troll-with-short-term-memory-loss thing.
@Baroncognito, about kino,Read it and upchuck.
Some Gal: it’s fine if you feel like educating him. I’m pretty much through with dudes like him.
Right. Kino. Creepy touching. Brrrr.
Or if you REALLY want to hurl, go go here. CONTENT WARNING for really rape-y definition.
I wasn’t really trying to say you should “go go” anywhere. Dancing is totally optional.
Kino, aka how to get an elbow to your face. It wouldn’t produce the sort of arousal they’re after, in me. I doubt it would in anyone … I mean from someone you really fancy, sure, but from a creepy* stranger? Gross.
*if they’re PUAs trying this on, they’re self-branded as creepy
Just as well go-go is optional, my knees aren’t up to it!
They can’t get over the idea of physical play having to be about dominance, can they? It’s both rapey and scary, and pathetic and insecure.
@Some Gal:
Thanks for the link.
Sorry, I didn’t make my argument clear enough. The “right to be shallow” alone is not the issue with the service, the right to exclude people from interacting with a large set of people based on shallowness is the problem.
The service I was on about allows a small number of people to exclude a person from the rest of the members who have not seen the person’s pictures based entirely on looks. Imagine running a nightclub, where random people already inside the nightclub determine whether those others who have not already attended the nightclub can be allowed access purely based on a quality which is non-quantifiable and arbitrary.
What I don’t get is why I seem to encounter so many personal attacks when discussing theory.
@hellkell:
That quote is unrelated to what I said about the game. It’s related to my bad IT joke.
I spent years reading materials (in an almost dedicated fashion) about the game before calling bullshit on it. I don’t think I need to do any more learning about it. I explained the theory and did not pass judgement on it despite knowing the drawbacks; because although looking at simple sociological studies lets you easily see through it, a theory is a theory.
What people have done with the theory is not relevant to the theory itself. For those who think my explanation has too much positive bias, try checking the definition of Eugenics. A theory separated from human action always appears positive.
Before anyone says I shouldn’t mention it because they’re familiar with it, consider the fact that others might not really know, even if you do.
Warning: My comment is outdated. Did not see comments since.
I’m going to stick with Kino referring to a movie theatre and continue calling the other thing “Inappropriate touching.”
Okay. How is this nightclub different from all other nightclubs? (And it’s not even pesach)
One internet plus one fluffy kitten chasing a butterfly to you for that Kino reference, Baroncognito.