So @catches_stars on Twitter is pretty hilarious. She’s also got an OkCupid account, and regularly posts snippets of her conversations with some of the more problematic dudes who contact her, some on her main Twitter account and some on @okcupid_TXT. With her permission, and because I’m too lazy to actually write a post today, I’m passing along a few of my favorites.
This overeager fellow has a rather sudden change of heart when his stated plan runs into an obstacle, that obstacle being that @catches_stars finds him completely repulsive.
This guy is either totally high or trying some weird and misguided PUA wizardry on her. (It does not succeed.)
This foot-obsessed fellow spammed her with the same message from several different accounts.
This guy, who seems to be shirtless in his profile pic, gets what I assume is, to him, a very disappointing answer.
As does this fellow.
Romance is hard.
Idiot, that is discussion. It’s perfectly possible to discuss things without framing them in positive ways. You may have noticed this in… well, in everywhere, at all times, pretty much.
@CassandraSays
I’m beginning to think it is Baby’s First Time on the Internet.
Game is psychosocial theory?
Ugh, jeez.
The question you should ask yourself is why you felt the need to offer it in the first place. What made you decide that the posters on this blog needed any explanation of “game” theory, let alone yours?
You know, for someone so fond of declarative statements and citations you’re woefully short on research. A quick google search on the term “mainsplaining” would help.
You feel for us? Really? You feel for us. What an unbelievably patronizing and dismissive choice of expression.
You. Feel. For. Us.
What do you feel?
“Your insistence on calling my behaviour ‘mansplaining’ simply shows how little you’ve understood what’s going on here. Allow me to explain it for you, once again.”
Lemme guess: your favourite Muppet is Sam, yes?
OMG, I’ve seen the light! I mean it’s sad women are raped, and beaten, and abused, and victims of systemic violence on nearly every level of existence, large and small, all around the globe, every second of the day and night, all while trying to hide their anger and grief about it because then they’re professional victims bringing it on themselves, so it’s a viscious catch-22….
but the real horror, the real keep you awake crying all night horror ….
is some guy….
CAN’T TALK ABOUT THE GAME AND PUA WITHOUT BEING TOLD TO SHUT THE FUCK UP!
OMG, Hallelujah! I have seen the light. *spits on his shoe abd preps to sing*
Mine eyes have seen the glory of the coming of the shit!
He is trampling on the lives of women with his feeble wit!
He hath loosed the fading glory of his mind and had a fit!
His truth is marching on!
Glory, glory, hallelujah!
Glory, glory, whatsit2ya!
Glory, glory, you’reaboobya!
His truth is marching on.
Viscaria, this is wonderfully lovely. Thank you.
Amen, Deoridhe.
@Sir Bodsworth Rugglesby III
What I gave was a balanced explanation. There is a defacto positive bias in any balanced explanation. I shall attempt to demonstrate this with an example:
Eugenics is a theory which was abused by the Nazis to terrible ends but have you tried looking for balanced definitions of Eugenics?
“Eugenics is the applied science of the bio-social movement which advocates practices that improve the genetic composition of a population, usually a human population.”
“encouraging reproduction by persons presumed to have inheritable desirable traits”
“a science that deals with the improvement (as by control of human mating) of hereditary qualities of a race or breed ”
Sounds wonderful, doesn’t it?
As a theory it is a-okay, if you don’t let awful people abuse it.
A Muppet is itself practical. 🙂
For those saying “omg it’s practical, it’s applied science”. it’s also scientific theory.
It seems there is no more productive reason for me to continue commenting on this thread. So I shall cease to now, very sorry for any trouble caused by my earlier posts.
So let’s count* what we’ve learned about Martyn so far!
1. He’s really ignorant.
2. He is tragically unaware of this. What is it with dudes that age and having the emotional equivalent of Dunning Kruger syndrome?
3. He’s really upset about beautifulpeople.com – a big sensitive about your looks, buddy?
4. An IT student? Shocker.
5. I’m too bored with this dude to count any more.
BTW, here is my favorite Count song.
https://soundcloud.com/sesamestreetmusic/bats-in-my-belfry
* That is the most epic typo I’ve seen in years. Congratulations, ridiculous OK Cupid dude, you win the prize for making an ass of yourself in public in the most amusing way possible.
@Martyn
Eugenices is the applied science of the bio-social movement which advocates practices thar purport to improve the genetic composition of a population, usually a human population, using highly contested definitions of improvement and that casts some humans as superior to others on highly specious grounds.
See the difference? Mine is more exact than yours. More true. Sounds way less good, though.
And now we’re going to get regaled in the testable hypotheses made under game. I’m going to open a beer and grab some pistachios. I can’t wait for an IT undergrad to teach me about science.
@Martyn:
Okay, this is important. Sarcasm off for two seconds. Having no experience doesn’t make what you’re doing here understandable. Having no experience doesn’t mean we owe you any lenience. Even if doing some 101 work would make you better understand why we’re pissed off at you, we are under no obligation to put up with you until you do that work. You need to go away unless/until you can stop being a total assface. You do not get to learn how to not be a total assface by treating us like shit and seeing how we react.
Eugenics is idiotic as a theory based on basic biology. An animal population which selects for certain characteristics (see: Dogs as an example) invariably becomes inbred and widespread genetic problems occur (see: High incidence of hip displaysia in laboradors).
Genetically speaking, the only long standing thing which makes sense is encouraging genetic diversity so that a sudden shift in environment doesn’t result int he widespread extinction of the species.
I mean… duh. I figured this out from High School biology; I remain shocked everyone else misses the logical extension of the theory of evolution – diversity is good.
@ Nobinayamu
As a theory, eugenics always sucks because we have no idea what improves human populations. Diversity seems to work fine. Eugenics discourages that.
So you concede that no one ever asked you to explain “game” theory and that by doing so you unintentionally tipped your hand. If it’s any consolation, no one here was fooled. The regulars have had you pegged pretty much from the get. Enjoy your evening. Go feel for some people.
Cassandra, I always enjoy when I can’t sleep and you’re still up.
Ninja’d. Better said, Deoridhe.
@ Nobinayamu
Smooches!
(But none for Martyn. Oh, the oppression.)
What is it with dudes that age and having the emotional equivalent of Dunning Kruger syndrome?
When everyone around you tells you that you are smart and wonderful, it’s easy to assume that means you know everything.
I remember the day I realized Just How Much I didn’t know, and Just How Profoundly I had hurt people with my ignorance, and it was a hard, sad day. Crawling out of the net of “but I’m so smart, I can understand everything, what do you mean I don’t have the experiences???” was a much longer process, and involved eating a lot of crow and accepting a lot of self-flagellation. In some ways, ignorance is bliss, but I will never regret the pain which led me out of my self-centeredness and into a wider world where I could do real good, instead of ignorantly reinforcing real harm.
Ah, I find this dishonest…based on your earlier posts:
“Because, lets face it, if someone does not want to have sex with someone else, they’re not going to have sex with them.”
If you want me to give you citations, just read over your own posts.
And this:
“I feel for people who suffer shit because people who wont take no for an answer try to manipulate and intimidate others but that should *never* *ever* stifle legitimate discussion of any psychosocial theory or concept (and yes, I use the term loosely here).”
Insensitive, lack of empathy. People here have been preyed upon by sex pests and other close cousins, but you want us to be happily open to the so-called theories and concepts individuals use to legitimatize their bad behavior. No. It seems like you want us to excuse something you feel strongly about. Too bad. You’re using moral relativism and trying to dress it up as science and logic. You have no fucking clue.