A veritable anthem for average looking guys with nothing particularly interesting about them who are pissed off they can’t date women much more conventionally attractive than they are.
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I’m guessing he needs a larger audience than what you might get with those kinks.
NNY is a boring misogynistic ableist asshole. If he keeps going, how many more bigotries do you think we’ll get to see? My guess is 2.
Pecunium, Perhaps you should Google it first.
“All 50 states have now set .08% BAC as the legal limit for Driving Under the Influence. For commercial drivers, a BAC of .04% can result in a DUI conviction nationwide. For those under 21, there is a zero tolerance limit―any amount of alcohol is grounds for a DUI arrest.”
From: http://alcoholcontrols.com/lebaclibyst.html
How about from Progressive Insurance? They should know it since they have to insure drivers.
http://www.progressive.com/vehicle-resources/blood-alcohol-calculator.aspx
Notice all the states are set to .08%
How about from the Insurance Institute for Highway Safety?
“All 50 states and the District of Columbia have per se laws making it a crime to drive with a BAC at or above 0.08 percent. In all 50 states, drivers younger than 21 are prohibited from operating a vehicle with any detectable blood alcohol. Most states define this as a BAC at or above 0.02 percent.”
From: http://www.iihs.org/research/qanda/alcohol_general.aspx (under question 3)
Oh, wait! Did you want something from a government website?
“Then, in 2000, Federal legislation was adopted that required each State to pass a per se 0.08 BAC law by 2004 or lose a portion of Federal highway funds. See [23 U.S.C. § 163]. ”
http://alcoholpolicy.niaaa.nih.gov/Blood_Alcohol_Concentration_Limits_Adult_Operators_of_Noncommercial_Motor_Vehicles.html
Gods, what sort of adult wouldn’t be talking and paying attention with a partner they knew hadn’t had sex before? I can understand a couple of inexperienced teens, but adults? Is it really so difficult to talk to someone you (presumably) like/are attracted to enough to be having sex with? It doesn’t have to be hearts and flowers, but surely talking isn’t too much to ask?
@Argenti
It depends a bit on the state from what I understand. The docs made the point that MA is really strict about drugs and driving so it is pretty automatic here. I don’t know other states, though.
I find it funny that mentioning that non-verbal communication can be fouled up between two people instantly means that I would pay no attention to the person I am sleeping with. Way to be disingenuous.
See, I’d say I’d rather be tied up, but the idea of bound and listening to this sounds like a fate worse than death. Anyways!
NNY — why are you having so much trouble with the idea that one can be consenting while getting drunk, continue to consent as one gets drinker, and then put down the booze and make with the sexytimes? Oh, maybe it’s because asking if your partner likes [thing you are doing] is too damned hard for you >.<
Warning guys, TMI time. Masochist here, there are these things called safe words, but it’s still polite to check with your partner before changing things, even just confirming that the previously discussed kinky times remain on the table. But hey, welcome to kinky sexytimes, where talking about wtf you’re doing is required (there’s no script for “bite me, no literally” and if you think Twilight’s such a script…you fail)
Dude, your partner not seeming to give a shit if you continue? Ask if you should be doing something else. This isn’t even rape prevention, this is be a better lover.
He’s like blog herpes. Once acquired it’s impossible to get rid of him.
Argenti, Because you don’t instantly sober up as soon as you consent and put down the drink and go into the bedroom.
Some Gal — I’m one south of you then, can’t imagine it’s at different here (then again, MA has a strict over/under 18 law, CT has Romeo and Juliet type wording…but let’s not confuse poor NNY hear by adding age of consent to this discussion)
NNY — you said that expecting you to pay attention to your partner is “asking/expecting people to understand other’s idiosyncrasies to the point of reading the others mind”
The point is to use verbal communication to make things clear, rather than relying on nonverbal and misunderstand (or claim to) the signals.
Way to be disingenuous indeed.
NNY: someone here is disingenuous, but it ain’t me.
Can we get some blog valtrex over here?
NNY. Dude. If you can’t tell what enthusiastic consent is, you fail at life. I sure as hell hope you don’t drive. Because the thing with driving? You have to co ordinate things like turns and traffic flow with minimal communication with dozens of people you’ve never met. If you can read what the cars around you are likely to do, then you should easily be able to discern enthusiastic consent with someone right next to you.
It amazes me how many guys “can’t tell” when a woman is consenting or not, but can tell you when a dog they’ve never met is a little unsure about something.
Argle motherfucking bargle
You don’t have to be sober to consent, you just have to be sober enough — which is pretty damned easy to determine if your partner’s been saying the same thing the entire time. Or should thenatfantastic have a few more drinks and continue to imply sexytimes may occur with boyfantastic? Wtf is hard about this?!
Cassandra — idk, if TV is to be believed they make pills now to make herpes outbreaks clear up. I’m finding no such pill for NNY!
The problem is that there are tons of new people who haven’t learned that engaging with him just encourages him yet. Seriously, folks, read some old threads – there is no point in talking to this guy, he exists only to bore and frustrate you.
Mac & Cheese recipe for Cassandra:
(all quantities approximate, sorry for american units. These are the package sizes)
1 lb macaroni/penne/wheels
1/2 lb bacon
10 oz shredded cheese (I use “italian blend” usually)
14 oz can quartered artichoke hearts, drained,
1/2 cup frozen peas, defrosted
4 oz can mushrooms, stems and pieces, drained
salt, pepper, dried basil to taste
Cook the bacon in the oven at about 400F, and then cut into bite-size pieces
boil the pasta according to package directions.
drain pasta
add artichoke hearts, bacon, peas, and mushrooms and mix well
reduce oven heat to about 350F
pour half of the pasta mix into a 13×9 inch pan and spread evenly.
Sprinkle half the cheese on top and spices to taste
Pour the rest of the pasta mix in
sprinkle the rest of the cheese on and spice to taste
put pan in oven until cheese melts and browns a little
I don’t really like cheese that much, so this is relatively light on cheese, using bacon for the fattiness, but you can certainly double the cheese if you’re a cheese person. And of course, change the mix-ins to your favorites, it’s a pretty flexible recipe. I also liked canned peppers, but this is the set that became standard in the household.
Not only can’t tell, but apparently lose their voices at the same time.
Argenti, That doesn’t mean not paying attention to your partner. That means misinterpreting your partners non-verbal cues accidentally. And yes, I agree that verbally expressing yourself is much better because there is little room for misinterpretation.
Look at those goalposts move! Holy cow!
Cassandra – we could go back to talking food. Or kitties! Or hairdos! That seems to work a treat on trolls.
“Ladies? Is your internet infested with trolls? Is it dull, flat, and lifeless? Use MANBOOBZ WONDER CONDITIONER with the new secret ingredient and watch those troll blues disappear!”
Speaking of which, your advice on scrunching hair and not putting it in the towel is working a treat for teh curlz.
It’s amazing how proud they get about their deficiencies around determining consent, when they would never admit to a single flaw in any other situation.
Crumbs, that sounds like a recipe I could do.
::faints::
Thanks for the recipe!
In before the “what about autism”.
Hair! I dyed my hair purple just the other day. It looks pretty, but I play with my hair fairly constantly and it’s making my fingers purple too. I feel like Violet Beauregard.