A veritable anthem for average looking guys with nothing particularly interesting about them who are pissed off they can’t date women much more conventionally attractive than they are.
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I think this mentality is reinforced a lot by the media: Movies and TV often feature less attractive guys, but very rarely less attractive women (except as mothers, grandmas, etc who are obviously not supposed to be part of the dating pool). So it models for guys that they matter, even if they’re not conventionally desirable (which is fine, natch), but that women who aren’t conventionally attractive are basically nonexistent: They should just be ignored because they are totally irrelevant.
How about washing that bad taste out of our mouths with some actual Rent and a moment of thanks for Mark, whose girlfriend breaks up with him but who is not a complete prick about it.
I liked the earlier seasons a lot better than the recent ones. Their relationship feels really fake to me — I think that’s part of it. I don’t know why the leads always have to fall in love. Can’t people just be co-workers and friends?
Christ.
I need to revive my blog, where I can compile all the Internetz things that make me shake my head, rather than hijack David’s.
I watched a few seasons of Bones. I could watch the most gruesome of dead bodies while eating lunch.
House makes me close my eyes.
Anyway, I thought Bones was a fairly typical straw-scientist and straw-atheist. Nevertheless, that episode where Booth hallucinates his old army buddy (or does he??) was way out of tone for the show, I thought.
But other times I enjoyed Booth. What’s stuck in my mind as the definitive Booth moment is when he bulls through the straw maze in that one Halloween episode.
The very resolved sexual tension all over that show kind of irritated me. What is this, a procedural or a daytime talk show? But I was glad the artist wasn’t shamed for loving sex.
@blitzgal: I was an early adopter of the position that Mulder and Scully shouldn’t make out.
I certainly don’t have a problem finding men and women who like me. They flock to me because I’m a pre-op trans* girl. Not once have I run into someone who I really like and who likes me back and then rule out the possibility of ever dating them or being in a relationship with them because they would reject me once they find out I’m trans*. Nope. I’m just drunk on privilege.
Oh that’s right, people like me don’t exist. Silly me!
But let’s forget about pre-op trans* women for a moment. You know who else is privileged? Pretty much every woman on the planet. Women with disabilities and/or mental health issues like PTSD always find people who like them. They are never, ever shamed for having “emotional baggage” or seen as “crazy bitches.” They also have no reason to fear people who may exploit their mental health issues or disabilities for the sake of abusing them. Women of color are always respected as fully human and never fetishized and dehumanized because of their race. And fat women? Pretty much every fat woman I know is able to find partners who love them for they are and not shame them for being fat. Same goes for very skinny women or any woman who doesn’t fit perfectly with strict, misogynistic beauty norms. No woman ever has to worry about being body-shamed by partners and dates. Female victims of sexual violence never have to worry about whether their partner or date respects their personal boundaries and bodily autonomy, and certainly it’s impossible for any of them to be triggered by certain behaviors and traits from their partners and dates. Being pressured or forced into sex by abusive partners is just something that never happens. And every woman feels safe around every partner they meet because clearly only the really really bad people are abusive or sexually aggressive, and even then such a woman is only only attacked because she was irresponsible or secretly wanting to be attacked. And lastly, we all know that, regardless of her social standing in the kyriarchy, she has no problem finding partners. None whatsoever. It’s not like they’re individuals who have preferences or anything.
Silly women. So drunk on privilege.
This might be late, but speaking as a man, doing the approaching is way better. For the party being approached, all they have to make an impression is appearance, while the approacher has both appearance and personality to make an impression.
…Or is that why MRAs have such a problem with it?
Yeah, mxe354, that’s the other side of the erasure: Not only do they mean “conventionally attractive women” when they say “I can’t get a date with a woman,” but also when they say “women can always get dates.” So we’re supposed to care if non-rockstar guys can’t get dates, but who cares if non-supermodel girls can’t?
Only 47% of the male us citizens over 18 are not married.
Clearly, women aren’t the finky bitches they are painted to be. Because 50% of the male population is not rich, famous and handsome.
Well said (as usual), mxe354.
@melody, conversely 53% of the adult US male population are alphas. So beta males, if there’s two of you males, the other one is (statistically speaking) the alpha. Think about that every time you’re out: over half of every male you meet is better than you by your own standards. Bwahahahahaha.
*of all the males you meet. /correction for grammar
PUAs are trying to pick up on a face OKC account that only responds with random snippets from horse_ebooks:
http://slacktory.com/2013/02/okc_ebooks-deconstructs-online-pick-up-lines-with-horse_ebooks-tweets/
It gets really surreal when you start thinking about how he actually produced this video. The contradictions just pile up.
1: All of those supposedly unapproachable hot women are actually performers who have consented to appear with him in this video. Either they’re his friends, in which case it obviously can’t be true that hot women don’t want to hang out with him, or he’s paying them to do the video, making him one of those rich alphas he’s pretending to be jealous of.
2: His character only lacks conventional attractiveness because they deliberately costume and style him to look ridiculous. In real life he’s a relatively young, relatively slim white man. If you simply gave him a haircut and a new pair of glasses, he’d be well above the median in conventional beauty. Since he evidently knows a lot of models and actresses, I refuse to believe that he isn’t aware of this.
Basically, anyone who might be tempted to enjoy the video should actually hate DJ lubel, because it looks very much as if he *is* one of those elitist star-chasers from wealthy families he is supposedly criticizing.
Seconding that.
Cloudiah, that article says more about PUAs than anything else I’ve ever read on the Internet.
Oh my lord, Cloudiah, that horse_ebooks thing is brilliant. I’m going to do a quick post on it.
@cloudiah
Re: the horse_ebooks article: Ahahahahahahahahahahahahaha!
Oh, thank you, I needed a laugh. I showed that to my co-workers and we all (male and female) had a good long snicker.
I needed that horse_ebooks thing. It’s been a fucking week.
Oh man, that horse thing is genius.
Ever since the incident of a French Horn in a video but never getting played, I can’t bring myself to watch any videos Mr. Futrelle posts.
There are shallow women, but what annoys me about this video is about how shallow the guys are. They only only want the pussy and get upset when women won’t spread their legs for them. The rapper doesn’t try to improve his looks or behavior (let alone see them as people), he just whines. BTW, is anyone else sick of the mentality of “it’s offensive so it must be funny/genius”?
I know this is some shameless plugging, but I couldn’t help thinking about a riff I did on an original short story which has a very similar entitled mentality (http://www.projectafterforums.com/index.php?showtopic=3612). The whole, “why can’t women put out because I demand it” one. Just don’t post on the site since it would be necromancy.
http://www.buzzfeed.com/jessicamisener/17-mesmerizing-before-after-photoshop-gifs
This was interesting. :/
Horseshit. 600-pound orcas have men falling all over themselves for the privilege of prying open the hot sweaty folds of her thighs to get at her frothing crotch hole. They may not be O’Rourke Enormodick, but they’ll be far more than the leviathan deserves. Literally any woman in a free society has unlimited access to all the cock she wants. The saying is 100% accurate- men have to earn the approval of a woman, and this approval must be maintained, because women always have an eye out for a longer dong to latch onto. Whereas for women, they receive infinite sex, pampering, and intimacy merely for existing with a vagina.
Beg pardon?
(Perhaps I should say “Excuse me?!” but I’m not feeling that cruel.)