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A Voice for Men uses pic of brutalized woman to illustrate post blaming feminists for domestic violence

[TRIGGER WARNING for picture of brutalized woman]

If you want to show someone what sort of website A Voice for Men is, have them look at the following screenshot, which I’m putting below the jump because it may well trigger some readers in its depiction of the effects of domestic violence on women:

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Screencap from A Voice for Men

The picture, as you can see, illustrates a recent post by Suzanne McCarley, otherwise known on the internet as Driver Suz.  (Regular readers of the Man Boobz comment section may remember her as the troll who was the first runner up for Man Boobz’ Special-est Snowflake Award for 2012.)

This isn’t the first time that A Voice for Men has used a picture of a brutalized woman to illustrate a post about domestic violence. The last time, the picture illustrated a notorious post from site founder Paul Elam suggesting that Domestic Violence Awareness month be replaced by “Bash a Violent Bitch Month.”

Here’s a screencap from that post, which I wrote about in more detail here:

Screencap from A Voice for Men

In her post, McCarley refrains from this sort of violent fantasy, but her basic argument – that feminism perpetuates domestic violence for profit – is even more insidiously victim-blaming.

McCarley makes it clear from the start that her post will be largely fact-free, announcing plainly that “I’m not going to quote lots of statistics and studies, or variables and technicalities.”

After some rhetorical fumfering, Suz sets forth her basic argument, such as it is:

Without DV victims, feminists would have no rallying cry, and they would lose political power.  Here’s how it works:

Thanks primarily to the Violence Against Women Act, DV has become a multi-billion dollar industry.  This industry employs many thousands of people throughout the nation, paying them with federal VAWA grant money.  And those thousands of people have made relatively little headway in achieving their “goal” of reducing DV.  Indeed they perpetuate it.  This is by design; if DV went away, so would their jobs. 

Every single one of these people would happily give up their job if domestic violence went away.

And in fact, as Suz would know if she had indeed done even a tiny bit of research on this subject, domestic violence has fallen considerably since the early 1990s. Indeed, the Bureau of Justice Statistics, in its most recent statement on the subject, reports that “from 1994 to 2010, the overall rate of intimate partner violence in the United States declined by 64%,” with similar rates of decline for both male and female victims. That’s more than a “little headway”; that’s huge.

Suz continues, oblivious to the fact that the basic factual premise of her argument is dead wrong:

There are many, many factors involved in DV, and it’s no coincidence that feminist policies aggravate nearly all of them, but for the sake of clarity I’m going to address only a simplified but significant few of them here.

Who commits a substantial proportion of DV?  Past victims or witnesses of DV.  Who committed the DV that they experienced or witnessed?  In too many cases to count, it is women.  Women commit far more than half of all DV.  Among the vast majority of violent couples, the violence is mutual.  Additionally, women commit the majority of child abuse. Yes, women are responsible for most DV.

Not true. According to the Bureau of Justice Statistics, over the period of 1994-2010, “about 4 in 5 victims of intimate partner violence were female.” Numerous other studies using different methodologies also find that women make up the majority of victims. The only studies that find similar rates of abuse – which are also, not coincidentally, the only ones that MRAs like to cite – are based on problematic methodologies that end up essentially equating mild and severe violence, pretending that a slap on the face is basically the same as a severe beating when it comes to determining which gender is responsible for the most abuse. (For more details, see here.)

Next point, what often triggers DV?  Stress.  What causes women lots of stress?  The constant obligations of child rearing.  What causes even more child rearing stress?  Not having a father in the family.  How are so many fathers removed from their families?  They are accused of Domestic Violence, whether it happened or not, and whether it’s mutual or not.  Disagreements are exaggerated, violence is “invented” or men are blamed for any real violence that does occur.

Suz, naturally, presents no evidence for any of this; she’s simply repeating a basic MRA catechism. Removing violent fathers from the home makes the home less stressful, not more.

The result is that fathers, often the most stable influence in the family, are kicked to the curb and financially bled dry, while mothers are protected and are excused for their “missteps;” this is the unstable – and all too often abusive – environment in which their children are raised. 

Violent fathers are not exactly a “stabilizing” influence on the home.

Toss in a few more variables like substance abuse, a string of violent boyfriends, and a bit of poverty, and this process is guaranteed to produce future domestic abusers. 

And feminism is responsible for this how?

And this is the process that VAWA has institutionalized.  It no longer happens “once in a while;” it is SOP.  Was this the intent of VAWA?  Who cares?  That’s the result.

Well, actually, you just said explicitly that feminists intentionally perpetuate domestic violence in order to make money. You’re moving the goalposts in your own post?

Feminism cares about controlling, dominating, destroying and extorting the men who pay Feminism’s bills.  Everything else is window dressing.

Citation fucking needed.

A Voice for Men uses violence porn to fight against those who fight against domestic violence. And Suzanne McCarley is happy to help.

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Some Gal Not Bored at All

@The Stepford Knife

I’d still take the button. 🙂

mxe354
mxe354
11 years ago

Since it’s impossible to have a rational debate with the terminally obtuse, I won’t be bothering to engage you, but I might use your comments as “textbook” examples of poor logic that would get you kicked out of middle school debate club.

You yourself sound very much like a smug, immature middle school kid. Just saying.

titianblue
titianblue
11 years ago

Since it’s impossible to have a rational debate with the terminally obtuse, I won’t be bothering to engage you, but I might use your comments as “textbook” examples of poor logic that would get you kicked out of middle school debate club.

The irony, it burns!

Karalora
Karalora
11 years ago

Butterlies are DEFINITELY misandry. After all, they are beautiful, but can’t be fucked.

Oh, god. Don’t give the MRAs any ideas…

Monster
11 years ago

Insects: secret feminist foot soldiers. Not just those teasing Lepidoptera either. Look at Hymenoptera with their oppressive matriarchal societies, and that tempting name, and stinging! And all those ladybees, making all that wax for us to use in SCENTED FUCKING CANDLES.

Evolution is misandry!

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

The ultimate misandry: kitten playing with toy butterfly!

http://youtu.be/aAq-M6lw_Ag

katz
11 years ago

If augochlorella is lurking, I imagine she would be the best suited to judge whether butterflies are misandrist.

Monster
11 years ago

All the hot, sexy swallowtails only ever go for the fluffy kittens! They only want them for their catnip!

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

LOL Monster, is this a Kittens’ Rights Movement in the making? 😀

cloudiah
11 years ago

I would join the Kittens’ Rights Movement as a … what would their equivalent of a mangina be?

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

I don’t know, but I’d totally join it too.

Though I suspect the only word kittens and cats need for humans is “slave” and we’re there already.

Monster
11 years ago

Whoops youtube fail:

cloudiah
11 years ago

Monster, just paste the regular YouTube link — make sure you clear out anything except the base URL plus watch?=v[YT unique identifier] and make sure it isn’t https, and it should embed.

Don’t give up!

Monster
11 years ago

Alright let’s go!

watch?=v[http://youtu.be/C_yTa2TudJQ]

cloudiah
11 years ago

Sorry, I was needlessly confusing.

For that video, paste this: “http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C_yTa2TudJQ”

Remove the question marks, and it looks like this:

Monster
11 years ago

[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C_yTa2TudJQ]

OK, I’ve been defeated by a blog comment. Time to go to bed maybe. I blame the kittens and their damn catnip.

cloudiah
11 years ago

Also, here are some cute pictures of french cats smoking pipes.

Hopefully someone helped them to quit smoking before it damaged their health.

Monster
11 years ago

Argh ninja’d! Thanks though. I was being a bit dim, didn’t mean to fill up the comments with fail 😛

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

Monster, kitten fail is waaaaaay better than the troll fail we usually see. 😀

Niters!

Dagrabbit
Dagrabbit
11 years ago

Butterflies, are you kidding? Butterlies are DEFINITELY misandry. After all, they are beautiful, but can’t be fucked. Therefore their existence oppresses men.

You said this and I thought this (possibly NSFW)… http://pbfcomics.com/26/

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

LOL can you imagine the frothing outrage from MRAs if female butterflies looked like that?

pecunium
11 years ago

Great post. Definitely an offensive photo. The writing is someone’s own opinion on things, which is open to debate.

No. The post being discussed is contrived of factual errors, and based on the premise that a priori those errors are to be taken as correct. There is no honest opinion to be debated, but a farrago of lies to be debunked.

But you are an MRA, so you are perfectly willing to pretend this is a matter of opinion, not mendacity.

pecunium
11 years ago

Amatyultare: (Although I’m confused as to how single mothers simultaneously bleed their ex-husbands dry financially and remain poverty-stricken. That’s a twist I haven’t seen before.)

It’s because the men can’t make a decent living anymore, what with being in jail for not being able to pay the exhorbitant demands of the harpies who had the gall to get divorced from them.

So they are so poor they can’t pay the child support. If the women had just stayed with the men then they would be rich, and loved, and everyone would be happy, except for me… what with all the monkeys flying out my ass.

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
11 years ago

The Huff Post has a recent piece on American female domestic violence, gun laws, link here: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/02/05/domestic-abuse-guns_n_2625377.html