[TRIGGER WARNING for picture of brutalized woman]
If you want to show someone what sort of website A Voice for Men is, have them look at the following screenshot, which I’m putting below the jump because it may well trigger some readers in its depiction of the effects of domestic violence on women:
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The picture, as you can see, illustrates a recent post by Suzanne McCarley, otherwise known on the internet as Driver Suz. (Regular readers of the Man Boobz comment section may remember her as the troll who was the first runner up for Man Boobz’ Special-est Snowflake Award for 2012.)
This isn’t the first time that A Voice for Men has used a picture of a brutalized woman to illustrate a post about domestic violence. The last time, the picture illustrated a notorious post from site founder Paul Elam suggesting that Domestic Violence Awareness month be replaced by “Bash a Violent Bitch Month.”
Here’s a screencap from that post, which I wrote about in more detail here:
In her post, McCarley refrains from this sort of violent fantasy, but her basic argument – that feminism perpetuates domestic violence for profit – is even more insidiously victim-blaming.
McCarley makes it clear from the start that her post will be largely fact-free, announcing plainly that “I’m not going to quote lots of statistics and studies, or variables and technicalities.”
After some rhetorical fumfering, Suz sets forth her basic argument, such as it is:
Without DV victims, feminists would have no rallying cry, and they would lose political power. Here’s how it works:
Thanks primarily to the Violence Against Women Act, DV has become a multi-billion dollar industry. This industry employs many thousands of people throughout the nation, paying them with federal VAWA grant money. And those thousands of people have made relatively little headway in achieving their “goal” of reducing DV. Indeed they perpetuate it. This is by design; if DV went away, so would their jobs.
Every single one of these people would happily give up their job if domestic violence went away.
And in fact, as Suz would know if she had indeed done even a tiny bit of research on this subject, domestic violence has fallen considerably since the early 1990s. Indeed, the Bureau of Justice Statistics, in its most recent statement on the subject, reports that “from 1994 to 2010, the overall rate of intimate partner violence in the United States declined by 64%,” with similar rates of decline for both male and female victims. That’s more than a “little headway”; that’s huge.
Suz continues, oblivious to the fact that the basic factual premise of her argument is dead wrong:
There are many, many factors involved in DV, and it’s no coincidence that feminist policies aggravate nearly all of them, but for the sake of clarity I’m going to address only a simplified but significant few of them here.
Who commits a substantial proportion of DV? Past victims or witnesses of DV. Who committed the DV that they experienced or witnessed? In too many cases to count, it is women. Women commit far more than half of all DV. Among the vast majority of violent couples, the violence is mutual. Additionally, women commit the majority of child abuse. Yes, women are responsible for most DV.
Not true. According to the Bureau of Justice Statistics, over the period of 1994-2010, “about 4 in 5 victims of intimate partner violence were female.” Numerous other studies using different methodologies also find that women make up the majority of victims. The only studies that find similar rates of abuse – which are also, not coincidentally, the only ones that MRAs like to cite – are based on problematic methodologies that end up essentially equating mild and severe violence, pretending that a slap on the face is basically the same as a severe beating when it comes to determining which gender is responsible for the most abuse. (For more details, see here.)
Next point, what often triggers DV? Stress. What causes women lots of stress? The constant obligations of child rearing. What causes even more child rearing stress? Not having a father in the family. How are so many fathers removed from their families? They are accused of Domestic Violence, whether it happened or not, and whether it’s mutual or not. Disagreements are exaggerated, violence is “invented” or men are blamed for any real violence that does occur.
Suz, naturally, presents no evidence for any of this; she’s simply repeating a basic MRA catechism. Removing violent fathers from the home makes the home less stressful, not more.
The result is that fathers, often the most stable influence in the family, are kicked to the curb and financially bled dry, while mothers are protected and are excused for their “missteps;” this is the unstable – and all too often abusive – environment in which their children are raised.
Violent fathers are not exactly a “stabilizing” influence on the home.
Toss in a few more variables like substance abuse, a string of violent boyfriends, and a bit of poverty, and this process is guaranteed to produce future domestic abusers.
And feminism is responsible for this how?
And this is the process that VAWA has institutionalized. It no longer happens “once in a while;” it is SOP. Was this the intent of VAWA? Who cares? That’s the result.
Well, actually, you just said explicitly that feminists intentionally perpetuate domestic violence in order to make money. You’re moving the goalposts in your own post?
Feminism cares about controlling, dominating, destroying and extorting the men who pay Feminism’s bills. Everything else is window dressing.
Citation fucking needed.
A Voice for Men uses violence porn to fight against those who fight against domestic violence. And Suzanne McCarley is happy to help.
I forgot that my green towels were misandry because so many things are misandry that it’s hard to keep track.
haha…phone hates me
the people in their lives probably aren’t going to share that information with them – with good reason.
I bought some turquoise towels and yellow bath sheets, plus matching hand towels. Oh, the misandry!
BTW, if you get the urge to redo your bathroom (oppress men, natch), World Market has some really nice shower curtains, and they always have good coupons/sales for their Explorer rewards program.
I’m probably going to make Mr C go buy a new bathroom mat soon. Will the misandry never end?
Keep the oppression strong, sister.
I haven’t been to World Market in ages. I always liked their wine selection. Wait, is wine misandry?
Do any of the more well-known feMRAs hold down jobs that aren’t religious-based? Just curious as I can’t see that their ideas would go down well with work colleagues. I’m also wondering if their guest posts gives them special snowflake status, a point which has also been mentioned within some MRA posts (who criticise the feMRAs for merely regurgitating points others have made).
I need to do a remodel on my bathroom. I do plan on using a male contractor. Would that be misandrist enough? How much misandry would I add if some of the items were from Ikea? I’ve got the scented candles covered.
Maybe if it’s enough, I’ll be able to get my Feminist Government Check.
If you refuse to have sex with the contractor even after he was nice enough to redo your bathroom for you (shut up about the fee you feminist harpy) then you have officially committed an act of oppression. You will be receiving a nice set of decorative soaps in recognition of your contributions to the cause
Roscoe, the difference between the CDC figures and the BJS figures are due to the populations that are sampled from: the CDC’s statistics come from the general population (i.e. the USA’s population), whereas the BJS’s statistics are most likely derived from a representative sample of people who have been victims of domestic violence, which is a substantially smaller group than the USA’s population.
(I think of this situation as consisting of two circles, one of which is inside the other circle. The area of the larger circle represents the total US population, while the area occupied by smaller circle is the number of people out of the larger group that has suffered from domestic violence.)
I hope that I cleared things up for you.
Driver Suz, what a sick little fuck,
(though I’m sure MRAs think it’s pluck)
Should the SPLC
read DS on DV
I imagine they’ll want to upchuck.
I bought three pretty tunics this week, does that count as misandry and oppression or am I not trying hard enough?
Seeing how the OP manages impressive levels of offensive, even for the MRM, I offer kitties — http://www.chacha.com/gallery/1898/cute-kittens-that-will-make-your-heart-melt
I get the impression that this misogynistic woman is either very pampered, she’s seeking love and validation in the wrong places, or she is very self loathing. What else could explain itÉ
@The Kittehs’
Sorry, I don’t know the conversion rate of towels to tunics. (It also might not be misandry until you wear them and look nice in public. If you are very lucky, you can get the tunics to count twice and then your Frequent Feminist card will be almost full!)
Jesus Christ I’ve never been beaten before and I was wincing! This is horrifying. No not what David said that was great lol. I mean what these people actually believe. I am hoping that these MRA types make up a tiny spec of humanity, but I wish there was some way to know for sure. Because it seems to me like they’re popping up everywhere. Online at least. They’re basically all over yahoo ‘answers’ anyway. How are they doing this if there’s so little of them? I’m only writing this so that maybe someone has the answer?
Also I hate that Suzanne is a woman. I can just imagine some teenager in highschool or something like that, who’s ignorant about all this stuff, reading what she wrote and saying ‘well she’s a female herself, so why else would she say that stuff against women?’ God I hate them..
@ Kittehs
I’m trying to figure out whether modestly covering your bum or showing it off is more oppressive. It seems to vary a lot.
I think it may be that having a bum is oppressive.
Cassandra – it might depend on the bum! 😀
There must be a reasonable level of misandry involved, because I bought the tunics from women. So it was propping up not-real make-work at the same time as it was depriving a menz of work. That must count for something, though yeah, I don’t think it’s as good as towels/candles/household items generally that aren’t Man Cave stuff.
hippodaemia – having an inadequately padded bum is oppressive for men, we know that much.
There was a Nancy Drew mystery about twisted candles, book cover is now a t-shirt: http://shop.outofprintclothing.com/Nancy_Drew_book_cover_t_shirt_p/l-1020.htm
Also, Amnesty International do candle t-shirts (not sure if it’s scented candles), so clearly that organisation is committing MISANDRY: http://www.amnesty.org.nz/shop/products/pacific-candle-t-shirt-ladies-black
Oh, yes. Their smaller weight-bearing buttock pads are very tender.
Do male penguins have this problem?
Did the store where you bought the tunics also sell scented candles?
(These guys must think that Anthropologie is Satan’s own boutique.)
No, it was a market stall, but I know other stalls there do. They sell coloured towels, too.
Also, I guess since my bum is nearly 40 it must be not covering it that’s misandry? Guess I know what I’m wearing tomorrow, then, and it’s not a tunic.