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A Voice for Men: we’ll support women in combat only if the proper percentage of women get killed.

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Woman officially not in combat role.

As everyone reading this blog no doubt already knows, feminists have hailed the Pentagon’s decision to open combat jobs to women, which will allow women the same opportunities to serve as men. The decision is also a backhanded acknowledgement that, for all intents and purposes, women are serving in combat today already. (Congresswoman Tammy Duckworth lost both of her legs in combat in Iraq – but officially, what she was engaged in wasn’t combat.)

It seems inevitable that, as a result of this decision, young women will be required to sign up for selective service alongside men. While virtually all feminists I know oppose the draft, most agree that as long as registration is going to be required, it should be required for both men and women. Indeed, when selective service was reinstated in 1981, the National Organization for Women brought a lawsuit demanding this sort of equality.

Reaction amongst Men’s Rightsers to the Pentagon’s announcement has been mixed. Some have welcomed the change, as a “what’s good for the goose” acknowledgement of equal rights and responsibilities. Others, like most of the regulars on The Spearhead, predict catastrophe, as inherently unqualified women are sent to the front lines. Regular Spearhead commenter Uncle Elmer joked:

After this experiment runs its course, how many men will have died while bringing tampon supplies up to the front?

Can anyone tell me the additional garbage load from tampon-related issues on all-women submarines? Could a mission fail if some gal flushed her tampon down the toilet instead of following the proper mil-spec procedure?

But the most telling reaction has come from A Voice for Men, which in an editorial suggested that it would only support the move if women were required to die as often as men.

No, really. Here’s what the editorialist, presumably site founder Paul Elam, wrote:

AVFM supports the spirit of the new Pentagon Directive …  However, any blanket approval of the new measure thus far would be premature. …

[T]he only way this new policy will have any meaning will be if it is mandatory that women face combat on the front lines. With 20% of the military being comprised of women, that means roughly 20% of combat related fatalities should be female. 1 in 5 of body bags being filled overseas should contain the bodies of mothers, sisters, daughters, wives and girlfriends.

AVFM isn’t alone in hoping that one result of the Pentagon’s new policy will be increased injury and death for women. On his blog the self-designated “counter-feminist agent of change” Fidelbogen quoted – with a weird sort of semi-approval – one comment from an unknown person he says he found online:

I know this isn’t a laughing matter but this is pretty fucking sweet. Now those very same women who complain about how hard childbirth is get to experience real pain and misery by getting their arms blown off by enemy fire or their legs blown off by mines. Or getting infections when they have to stay at their post for days at a time without taking a bath. Those same women who say all men are rapists can now see what real rape is when they are taken as POW’s and gang-raped by foreign men at gun point and passed around like a piece of meat and then their heads blown off when they are done. This is real war ladies, are you ready for your cup of true equality?

In the comments on AVFM, meanwhile one Rick Westlake helped to make clearer the vindictive subtext of the AVFM’s editorial, suggesting that the Pentagon’s decision could be good for men if it served to

rub …  some high-ratcheted, ‘entitled/empowered’ noses in the misandric, disposable-male double standard of the Selective Service system.

Our current society, including our military, makes mock of ‘equality’ by divorcing ‘opportunity’ from ‘consequences,’ ‘choices’ from ‘costs,’ and ‘benefits’ from ‘responsibility.’ Princesses are awarded all of the opportunities, choices and benefits and are excused from all the responsibility, costs and consequences. ‘Draft-pigs,’ meaning men, are made to shoulder all those dirty, nasty, dangerous and demeaning responsibilities, consequences and costs on behalf of the Entitled Empowered Princesses.

Putting women on the combat line would be disastrous for the military … But the fact remains, enough Princesses have clamored for the ‘opportunities and benefits’ of serving in the front line, heedless of the consequences and the costs.

By requiring Princesses to register for Selective Service, before they can claim the benefits that ‘draft-pigs’ can only receive if they’ve registered – and by declaring them liable for the same fines and penalties as the draft-pigs, if they don’t – we at least remind them that freedom isn’t free, that choices have costs, and that true equality includes responsibility and consequences.

I can already hear the thin, reedy screeches from the Princesses. Fine. Let them learn what it is to hump 35-pound fifty-cal ammo cans to feed Ma Deuce in a firefight. Or let them scuttle back to the home and the hearth, and give thanks for (and to) the Brave Men who will defend them.

Elam himself echoed this vindictive “let them eat equality” stance in a sneering comment posted under his own name suggesting that in the wake of the Pentagon’s new policy plenty of women won’t find the “aroma” of equality to

be so sweet … This is what feminism was always about, and now, after three waves, the chickens are going to come home to roost. Because feminism never was about anything but creating tax paying, laboring, consuming, bleeding and dying servants to the masters of corporatocracy.

They lured women in with visions of corner offices and autonomy, and now that they have fully taken the bait, the doors are going to be slammed behind them and locked. They will be left to languish in their “freedom” as corporate wage slaves, and when needed they will be forced to contribute to the rivers of blood required to keep it going.

NOW and others will likely succeed in keeping the last part “optional” for while, but it won’t last.

The grand daughters of today’s college woman is as fucked as any man in history.

To which every feminist I know would say: bring it on. Feminists are well aware that equality, along with its many benefits, brings certain costs.  Putting more women into combat roles means, inevitably, that more women will be injured or killed. The feminists supporting the Pentagon’s decision are aware of this. Unlike many MRAs, though, they look at combat injuries and deaths as one of the sad but inevitable consequences of war — not as something to rub anyone’s face into.

Here’s a hint to any MRAs who think that either AVFM or the more blatantly sadistic commenter quoted by Fidelbogen has a point: Civil Rights activism is about uplifting everyone, not making others “pay.”

When the American civil rights movement took up the issue of voting rights, civil rights activists demanded that black people be allowed to vote without harassment or other obstacles like “literacy tests” standing in their way.

Civil rights activists didn’t demand that whites be kept from voting.

The Civil Rights movement called for historically all-white colleges to be opened up to blacks. It didn’t call for white people to be banned from these colleges too.

This is how you can tell that the Men’s Rights movement, as it stands today, is not a true civil rights movement. Because insofar as it is about anything other than complaining about (and sometimes harassing) feminists and women in general, it’s about tearing down rather than building up.

Instead of trying to build domestic violence shelters and other services for men, for example, the MRM is more interested in defunding shelters for women – even when their efforts in this area directly harm male victims.

It’s telling that when Father’s Rights activist Glenn Sacks had an issue with the advertisements being run by one DV shelter, he encouraged his followers to bombard the shelter’s donors with phone calls in order to cripple the shelter’s fundraising efforts – even though the shelter in question also provides services for men. It’s telling as well that MRAs rail endlessly against the Violence Against Women Act, and have celebrated Republican opposition to it – even though the act is officially gender neutral in everything but its name, and would provide funding for men’s shelters if MRAs got off their asses to build any.

Instead of fighting for the rights of male victims of rape, the Men’s Rights movement is more interested in downplaying the rape of women, wildly exaggerating the number of “false rape accusations,” and in endless discussions about whether or not having sex with women incapacitated with drinks or drugs is really rape. All of these things contribute to a “rape culture” that harms male victims of rape as well as female.

Not that most MRAs actually care about male victims of rape except as a debating point — perhaps because that would require acknowledging that the overwhelming majority of their rapists are other men.  (MRAs do get outraged in the rare cases in which women are the culprits.) The group that does more than any other to fight for male rape victims is the anti-prison rape group Just Detention. Try to find even a mention of this group on any of the leading Men’s Rights sites. (The only mention of the group on AVFM is a comment in a post attacking a feminist writer noting that it isn’t part of the Men’s Rights movement.)

There are endless other examples, because this is in essence the way that the so-called “Men’s Rights” movement does business.

When you take a certain pleasure in the notion of women being “made to pay” or otherwise harmed when they seek equality, you’re about as much of a civil rights movement as the Klan.

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katz
11 years ago

Of course it’s also not fun if the GM does all the rolling, especially behind the screen. Rolling is fun.

Falconer
11 years ago

Yeah, rolling is fun, but some people are never satisfied.

In the last D&D game I played in, the player with the meat shield always thought he didn’t get to do “all the cool stuff” us players of casters did (I had a cleric), but by the end of the tale, we were all 12th level, he had 3 attacks a round, had AC 30+, and was routinely hitting AC 40.

He felt like his character couldn’t do anything. Having not spent any of his skill points for the last few levels didn’t help. I think maybe he felt straightjacketed by the concept of “class skills” and the higher DCs a lot of us were throwing around (the bard kept getting a 30+ on her bardic knowledge check) made him feel like he was no good.

Maybe he would have been better off in an earlier edition, where the lack of defined skills might not have made him feel hemmed-in.

pecunium
11 years ago

katz: I suspect my theory of game play is shaped by the GMs who made good games for me. The brute force stuff, we rolled. The subtle, they added.

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Falconer
11 years ago

There’s lots a good GM can add to a game, I agree.

pecunium
11 years ago

Or a bad one take out. Back in the late ’70s Larry Niven decided to look into D&D. The GM happened to be terrible; seems he like to kill off newbie players.

Larry decided this wasn’t his sort of amusement.

Falconer
11 years ago

Wow, what a dick that GM was. Bet he laughed when he managed to get a newb, too.

“You should have seen that coming despite your complete unfamiliarity with the game!”

I believe the GM should give ample warning if the player’s about to do something stupid, but drop the hammer if zie persists.

pecunium
11 years ago

As I recall the story, he not only liked it, he made a point to do it quickly, so that Larry was killed off in about 20 minutes.

He was lazy. Didn’t want to deal with people who didn’t know the rules of the game, so he killed them off, “to keep things moving, so it would be fun”.

Falconer
11 years ago

That just doesn’t make sense. He wanted to keep the game fun … by ruining the fun of one of his players for the sake of the group.

Asshole.

I’m sorry Niven never tried it again, though.

pecunium
11 years ago

me too, and a number of his friends. he’d have been good at it. Certainly Dream Park (and some influence in the rise of LARPing) imply that.

And it’s his sort of fun. I am sad, I’d have like to game with him.

Falconer
11 years ago

I think I might get struck dumb to meet anyone who’s a celebrity, let alone play a game with them.

I’m awkward enough around people I’ve just met who aren’t famous.

leftwingfox
11 years ago

I’m just getting back into being a GM after a very, very long break. We used to play a lot of the Palladium system, which has awesome scenarios but flawed mechanics. I’m used to improv… so trying to create an adventure path that can be loaded into d20 pro for the online games I play is an interesting challenge.

katz
11 years ago

My very first game, the GM killed me twice on two successive sessions.

The second time, I declared that my character had seven identical younger siblings.

Argenti Aertheri
Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

katz — who are being held hostage XD (don’t worry, they’re well cared for and you can get them out of in with diplomacy)

howardbann1ster
11 years ago

@katz– have you seen The Gamers: Dorkness Rising? Because if your character with the seven identical younger siblings was a bard…..

😀

Falconer
11 years ago

@leftwingfox: The first campaign I played in was a Palladium FRPG. I was always morbidly amused by the frantic disclaimers in the front of the books that they were not endorsing or encouraged Satan worship. The Satanic Panic must have spooked them. Then again, I’m bashful about wearing my hobby on my sleeve in public, living as I do in the buckle of the Bible Belt.

I have fond memories of the Palladium FRPG, and some not-so-fond ones. The stats don’t do anything unless you’ve got a 16 or greater (and you never have a 16 because if you roll a 16 or more, you get to roll additional dice and add the result), the skills aren’t modified for the difficulty of the task, and combat takes forever.

One of the players was concerned with “maximizing [his] utility,” which meant doing as much in a combat action as the GM would let him. Once we fought an executioner, someone in a hood, and this guy wanted to use his telekinesis powers to both try to smother the guy with his hood and pull it around so the guy couldn’t see.

I think I sat out a session in a huff at the gaming table because they were all going to sneak in somewhere and they told me my knight’s clanking armor would give them all away. Guess that’s as good a reason as any for a tank to carry leather armor.

And then we played Rifts. Oh boy. It’s a wonderful world (the kitchen sink aspects get a bit of the ol’ shoehorn in places) but the mechanics are awful and there’s no way to balance a Glitter Boy character with any other character class.

So yes, would play again, but the headaches are awful.

I think there’s a lot of edition bashing in the D&D fandom because 3.5 and 4 are very rules-heavy, and that’s because WotC listened to the players’ questions and complaints. Why is THAC0 so complicated? Why does AC go down? My group lets every class get a Hit Die at every level. Why are there only 7 levels of divine spells?

And then there were the complaints about 3.5 characters, so for 4E they cut everyone down to doing half a dozen things, tops.

The worst thing about the grognards bashing newer editions, IMO, is that it can quickly escalate into bashing the players of newer editions as stupid or lazy or whiny.

katz
11 years ago

Hey, can I ask a favor? Would those who have played Savage Worlds like to have a look at the rules for my setting and tell me if they seem reasonable? I’ve never played this system before and so I don’t have an intuitive sense if I’m Doing It Right.

Falconer
11 years ago

Well, I’ve played it once, but lay it on me and I’ll look it over the next time I’m avoiding packing. (we just bought a house and we’re moving in on Tuesday.)

Falconer
11 years ago

Whoop, hey, yeah, just like I said: Buckle of the Bible Belt.

Falconer
11 years ago

I live near Knoxville, is what I should have continued on to say.

pecunium
11 years ago

reminds me I need to arrange to get together next time I’m in Oak Ridge.

Mar Ario
Mar Ario
11 years ago

I’ve really loved this site so far (I’m new), and I’ve agreed with everything else in this article. However, I find it hard to understand how AVFM was saying that women should be required to die as much as men, when all they said was that 20% of military casualties should be women if 20% of people in the military are women, which doesn’t make too much sense either, but I don’t see how it’s at all saying that women should die as much as men. 20% isn’t anywhere near “as much” if I remember correctly, that said I still love this site and article! 🙂

Argenti Aertheri
Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

Mar Ario — I know MRAs have specifically called for a 50/50 split of, um, draftees. With he above women as 20% of military, women as 20% of causalities, the implication is they want women dying at equal rates as men. I thought the comment might’ve been on the post the OP is about, but I got sidetracked by this:

JudgyBitch
Ok, I’ll be the odd “man” out here, but I think this is a terrible idea, with a few caveats.

First of all, as Andres notes, few women are physically up to the task of modern soldiering. Asking men to put their lives on the line or rely on colleagues who are not physically capable of doing the job will result in a lot of deaths.

Second, think about those guys who died in the movie theater shooting, throwing themselves across their girlfriends. I don’t think any one of them did that consciously. It was just pure instinct, and that instinct will kick in on the battlefield. Again, it will result in a lot of men dying.

There are only two circumstances in which selective service for women would sit well with me: first, only non-combat positions. Women should only be deployed in support positions where no one will die if they cannot carry out their obligations. Second, women only battalions, although the practicalities of keeping men and women separate on a battlefield would probably make that impossible.

Mandatory birth control for conscripts should be a no-brainer. You can’t get pregnant to avoid service. Norplant under the skin, and mandatory abortions for any woman who DOES get pregnant while under the draft.

This kind of equality might work on paper, but in a real war, with real lives at stake, it is men who will pay the highest price.

Did she just say that drafting women is a terrible idea because women in combat just risk lives? (I’ll leave that for Pecunium, or just scroll up, he already addressed that)

More though, forced birth control and forced abortion?! What’s next, forced sterilization?

How about we just um, oh right, we already did away with the draft!

Sorry, judgybitch is really getting under my skin today apparently.

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

Argenti: it’s because JB is truly fucking horrible.

Argenti Aertheri
Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

I just continue to be amazed how horrible. It’s one thing to claim that “those other girls” are obsessed with bath towels, quite another to encourage forced abortion for “those other girls” — it’s like she honestly can’t grasp that she could become one of ”those other girls”.

Also, I’ve been awake 30 hours. 30 hours, one tweet storm about Burma/Myanmar’s genocide of minorities, one twitter feed turned storify because of the biting truth of transphobia, two judgybitch comments…and a partridge in a pear tree.

Catfish
Catfish
11 years ago

Oh the focus on tampons… All I have to say is; menstrual cup.
Safer, more hygienic, won’t cause nasty infections if you can’t empty it every couple of hours… Not to mention emptying is simple and it can be cleaned with wipes or just rinsed with water.

Though ofc, I’ve heard of many, many army women simply using hormones to, you know, not have period at all.