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A Voice for Men: we’ll support women in combat only if the proper percentage of women get killed.

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Woman officially not in combat role.

As everyone reading this blog no doubt already knows, feminists have hailed the Pentagon’s decision to open combat jobs to women, which will allow women the same opportunities to serve as men. The decision is also a backhanded acknowledgement that, for all intents and purposes, women are serving in combat today already. (Congresswoman Tammy Duckworth lost both of her legs in combat in Iraq – but officially, what she was engaged in wasn’t combat.)

It seems inevitable that, as a result of this decision, young women will be required to sign up for selective service alongside men. While virtually all feminists I know oppose the draft, most agree that as long as registration is going to be required, it should be required for both men and women. Indeed, when selective service was reinstated in 1981, the National Organization for Women brought a lawsuit demanding this sort of equality.

Reaction amongst Men’s Rightsers to the Pentagon’s announcement has been mixed. Some have welcomed the change, as a “what’s good for the goose” acknowledgement of equal rights and responsibilities. Others, like most of the regulars on The Spearhead, predict catastrophe, as inherently unqualified women are sent to the front lines. Regular Spearhead commenter Uncle Elmer joked:

After this experiment runs its course, how many men will have died while bringing tampon supplies up to the front?

Can anyone tell me the additional garbage load from tampon-related issues on all-women submarines? Could a mission fail if some gal flushed her tampon down the toilet instead of following the proper mil-spec procedure?

But the most telling reaction has come from A Voice for Men, which in an editorial suggested that it would only support the move if women were required to die as often as men.

No, really. Here’s what the editorialist, presumably site founder Paul Elam, wrote:

AVFM supports the spirit of the new Pentagon Directive …  However, any blanket approval of the new measure thus far would be premature. …

[T]he only way this new policy will have any meaning will be if it is mandatory that women face combat on the front lines. With 20% of the military being comprised of women, that means roughly 20% of combat related fatalities should be female. 1 in 5 of body bags being filled overseas should contain the bodies of mothers, sisters, daughters, wives and girlfriends.

AVFM isn’t alone in hoping that one result of the Pentagon’s new policy will be increased injury and death for women. On his blog the self-designated “counter-feminist agent of change” Fidelbogen quoted – with a weird sort of semi-approval – one comment from an unknown person he says he found online:

I know this isn’t a laughing matter but this is pretty fucking sweet. Now those very same women who complain about how hard childbirth is get to experience real pain and misery by getting their arms blown off by enemy fire or their legs blown off by mines. Or getting infections when they have to stay at their post for days at a time without taking a bath. Those same women who say all men are rapists can now see what real rape is when they are taken as POW’s and gang-raped by foreign men at gun point and passed around like a piece of meat and then their heads blown off when they are done. This is real war ladies, are you ready for your cup of true equality?

In the comments on AVFM, meanwhile one Rick Westlake helped to make clearer the vindictive subtext of the AVFM’s editorial, suggesting that the Pentagon’s decision could be good for men if it served to

rub …  some high-ratcheted, ‘entitled/empowered’ noses in the misandric, disposable-male double standard of the Selective Service system.

Our current society, including our military, makes mock of ‘equality’ by divorcing ‘opportunity’ from ‘consequences,’ ‘choices’ from ‘costs,’ and ‘benefits’ from ‘responsibility.’ Princesses are awarded all of the opportunities, choices and benefits and are excused from all the responsibility, costs and consequences. ‘Draft-pigs,’ meaning men, are made to shoulder all those dirty, nasty, dangerous and demeaning responsibilities, consequences and costs on behalf of the Entitled Empowered Princesses.

Putting women on the combat line would be disastrous for the military … But the fact remains, enough Princesses have clamored for the ‘opportunities and benefits’ of serving in the front line, heedless of the consequences and the costs.

By requiring Princesses to register for Selective Service, before they can claim the benefits that ‘draft-pigs’ can only receive if they’ve registered – and by declaring them liable for the same fines and penalties as the draft-pigs, if they don’t – we at least remind them that freedom isn’t free, that choices have costs, and that true equality includes responsibility and consequences.

I can already hear the thin, reedy screeches from the Princesses. Fine. Let them learn what it is to hump 35-pound fifty-cal ammo cans to feed Ma Deuce in a firefight. Or let them scuttle back to the home and the hearth, and give thanks for (and to) the Brave Men who will defend them.

Elam himself echoed this vindictive “let them eat equality” stance in a sneering comment posted under his own name suggesting that in the wake of the Pentagon’s new policy plenty of women won’t find the “aroma” of equality to

be so sweet … This is what feminism was always about, and now, after three waves, the chickens are going to come home to roost. Because feminism never was about anything but creating tax paying, laboring, consuming, bleeding and dying servants to the masters of corporatocracy.

They lured women in with visions of corner offices and autonomy, and now that they have fully taken the bait, the doors are going to be slammed behind them and locked. They will be left to languish in their “freedom” as corporate wage slaves, and when needed they will be forced to contribute to the rivers of blood required to keep it going.

NOW and others will likely succeed in keeping the last part “optional” for while, but it won’t last.

The grand daughters of today’s college woman is as fucked as any man in history.

To which every feminist I know would say: bring it on. Feminists are well aware that equality, along with its many benefits, brings certain costs.  Putting more women into combat roles means, inevitably, that more women will be injured or killed. The feminists supporting the Pentagon’s decision are aware of this. Unlike many MRAs, though, they look at combat injuries and deaths as one of the sad but inevitable consequences of war — not as something to rub anyone’s face into.

Here’s a hint to any MRAs who think that either AVFM or the more blatantly sadistic commenter quoted by Fidelbogen has a point: Civil Rights activism is about uplifting everyone, not making others “pay.”

When the American civil rights movement took up the issue of voting rights, civil rights activists demanded that black people be allowed to vote without harassment or other obstacles like “literacy tests” standing in their way.

Civil rights activists didn’t demand that whites be kept from voting.

The Civil Rights movement called for historically all-white colleges to be opened up to blacks. It didn’t call for white people to be banned from these colleges too.

This is how you can tell that the Men’s Rights movement, as it stands today, is not a true civil rights movement. Because insofar as it is about anything other than complaining about (and sometimes harassing) feminists and women in general, it’s about tearing down rather than building up.

Instead of trying to build domestic violence shelters and other services for men, for example, the MRM is more interested in defunding shelters for women – even when their efforts in this area directly harm male victims.

It’s telling that when Father’s Rights activist Glenn Sacks had an issue with the advertisements being run by one DV shelter, he encouraged his followers to bombard the shelter’s donors with phone calls in order to cripple the shelter’s fundraising efforts – even though the shelter in question also provides services for men. It’s telling as well that MRAs rail endlessly against the Violence Against Women Act, and have celebrated Republican opposition to it – even though the act is officially gender neutral in everything but its name, and would provide funding for men’s shelters if MRAs got off their asses to build any.

Instead of fighting for the rights of male victims of rape, the Men’s Rights movement is more interested in downplaying the rape of women, wildly exaggerating the number of “false rape accusations,” and in endless discussions about whether or not having sex with women incapacitated with drinks or drugs is really rape. All of these things contribute to a “rape culture” that harms male victims of rape as well as female.

Not that most MRAs actually care about male victims of rape except as a debating point — perhaps because that would require acknowledging that the overwhelming majority of their rapists are other men.  (MRAs do get outraged in the rare cases in which women are the culprits.) The group that does more than any other to fight for male rape victims is the anti-prison rape group Just Detention. Try to find even a mention of this group on any of the leading Men’s Rights sites. (The only mention of the group on AVFM is a comment in a post attacking a feminist writer noting that it isn’t part of the Men’s Rights movement.)

There are endless other examples, because this is in essence the way that the so-called “Men’s Rights” movement does business.

When you take a certain pleasure in the notion of women being “made to pay” or otherwise harmed when they seek equality, you’re about as much of a civil rights movement as the Klan.

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Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
11 years ago

To derail back onto kitties, this is the one at the vet: http://www.flickr.com/photos/87531085@N02/8421415465/

katz
11 years ago

Aww, what a sweet fluffykins! I hope fluffykins will be OK!

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

Shiraz: it sounds like a something a tool would say before smacking someone with their gauntlet. Android works too! 😉

hippodameia8527
hippodameia8527
11 years ago

What a gloriously beautiful kitty!

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

Aw, sweet fluffy kitty! Give it all the hugs from me.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

Beautiful kitty! Lots of extra hugs and scritches from me, too.

katz, ta for that link, I have finally got off my lazy butt* and deleted that blog.

*metaphorically at least

clairedammit
clairedammit
11 years ago

Okay, this made me laugh out loud.

….

I still think you’re an ass-backwards idiot, though.

Aww, thank you! 🙂

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

LOL hey, I’ll take compliments even when they aren’t and are aimed elsewhere! 😀 😀

cloudiah
11 years ago

What a beautiful cat!

clairedammit
clairedammit
11 years ago

Pretty kitty, Kiwi girl, and best wishes for a speedy recovery.

Kitteh, ha!

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
11 years ago

🙂 I will give him oodles of love when he gets home, he’s a seal-point Ragdoll, around 8.5 years old, so much too young for anything bad IMO.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

Ragdolls are such pretty cats! Is he coming home tonight?

I forwarded you my email addy on Ravelry, btw.

pecunium
pecunium
11 years ago

“Cassie, the reason people think you’re young is because you come off as a very sheltered person who’s been told how special you are all your life,”

Couldn’t be more wrong!

Nope. That is precisely how you come off. It may not be true, but that’s not relevant. You sound like any number of 19 year old in a college bull-session.

If you aren’t that young that makes it worse, because you oguht to know better by now.

Ok now i am sure you are just messing with me. It is impossible to read what I have typed here and honestly claim I have stated oppression doesn’t exist.

This isn’t true. What you think of as oppression is so narrow, blinkered, and irrational as to be, effectively, denial of oppression. That you delude yourself by using the word to mean things which are so narrow does you no credit.

DLColvin
11 years ago

@kiwi girl, color me jealous. I love ragdoll cats.

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
11 years ago

@Falconer: have fun 🙂

@DLColvin: okay, so I won’t mention that we have 4 of them…

@Kitteh: have emailed you. 🙂 🙂

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

Have fun, O invisible Falconer! 🙂

Dagrabbit
Dagrabbit
11 years ago

Synesthesia is my go-to example of neuroatypical, but not a disorder (since I’m a synesthete).

Hey Katz, I’m a synesthete, too! I’ve always assigned static genders and personalities to letters and numbers (i.e. 4 is a timid but agreeable little boy. 5 is a prissy little bitch who thinks she’s better than all of the numbers. 7 is a suave gentleman. 8 is a happy cheerleader girl type. 9 is a big sister/mentor young lady and nothing will ever change how I see ’em). Shoot, now that I think about it, I do that with months, too. September is always a girl. October is always a boy.

It’s called Ordinal Linuistic Personification: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ordinal_linguistic_personification

It’s funny, because I adamantly disagree with all of the personality examples given on that Wikipedia page (“J is NOT male! K is NOT female!).

This made my introduction to math very frustrating for my father, a mathematician. In my mind, 1 + 0 = 0, because 0 is so hungry that once he eats 1, he’ll still be hungry, and all that would be left is 0.

It made spelling a breeze, though. =)

DLColvin
11 years ago

@drst
It’s a long story.
I lived with a woman who had lost her baby to cps because they highly suspected that she was autistic. Her 3 brothers are, one happens to have it so bad that he is institutionalised. (Damn that spell checker.) She is high functioning, but undiagnosed, and the year i spent living with her help her get her daughter back. For her and her brothers, diet was a huge factor, and had been way before the movie “Rain Man” came out and made the term “autistic” popular to apply to all sorts of learning and processing disorders.

as for the timing of the post.. i suffer from post lag.:P

Falconer
Falconer
11 years ago

The problem is, convincing anyone these days to play the older editions.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

gmail is having a go-slow, your message hasn’t arrived… grrr!

pecunium
pecunium
11 years ago

“The misogyny that affects us all is not solely a product of the ruling class’ influence on society.”

Please provide evidence for this

Erp… this is someone responding to your affirmative claim about the sources of oppression. Burden of proof is on you.

pecunium
pecunium
11 years ago

Cassandra: Wait, am I ineligible for the draft that doesn’t exist because I have hay fever? Because the hay fever inconveniences and incapacitates me a lot more than menstruation does.

Maybe. I know someone who got a medical because he developed serious alergies. Got a disability compensation too (the Army determined it was their fault he was sent to someplace too allergenic for him).

pecunium
pecunium
11 years ago

Cassie: Why no love for me? I’ve written a lot of detailed responses to you. You ignore me.

I haz a sad.

Then again, nothing you’ve said after my replies has actually advanced the conversation; and I don’t see any evidence you have the ability to rebut the least of my claims.

So I accept your admission (silence = assent) of error.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

My head is exploding again, so let me start with the simple! First, I’m not actually caught up yet. Second, thanks for that clarification Pecunium, I was thinking post-war benefits, though idk how much that has to do with combat status versus my father and grandfather enjoying yelling at each other (apparently the gov’n won’t give my grandfather’s time in Korea the “combat position” stamp and this is important still, I try not to listen to them though)

Third, whataboutthemoonz, SORRY! I didn’t know!

Fourth, nice channeling NWO there katz!

Moving on to Cassie!

Everyone is on the autism spectrum? What happened here, you caught wind of DSM V and failed to read anything more beyond changing a bunch of things to being scales from traits most of us have to disorders? Because you’re also saying that narcissist personality disorder isn’t a thing because we all have some narcissistic traits, et cetera for all personality disorders (I’m not sure how much this change applies to things that aren’t personality disorders, nor, for that matter, have I seen it applied to ASD)

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