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A Voice for Men: we’ll support women in combat only if the proper percentage of women get killed.

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Woman officially not in combat role.

As everyone reading this blog no doubt already knows, feminists have hailed the Pentagon’s decision to open combat jobs to women, which will allow women the same opportunities to serve as men. The decision is also a backhanded acknowledgement that, for all intents and purposes, women are serving in combat today already. (Congresswoman Tammy Duckworth lost both of her legs in combat in Iraq – but officially, what she was engaged in wasn’t combat.)

It seems inevitable that, as a result of this decision, young women will be required to sign up for selective service alongside men. While virtually all feminists I know oppose the draft, most agree that as long as registration is going to be required, it should be required for both men and women. Indeed, when selective service was reinstated in 1981, the National Organization for Women brought a lawsuit demanding this sort of equality.

Reaction amongst Men’s Rightsers to the Pentagon’s announcement has been mixed. Some have welcomed the change, as a “what’s good for the goose” acknowledgement of equal rights and responsibilities. Others, like most of the regulars on The Spearhead, predict catastrophe, as inherently unqualified women are sent to the front lines. Regular Spearhead commenter Uncle Elmer joked:

After this experiment runs its course, how many men will have died while bringing tampon supplies up to the front?

Can anyone tell me the additional garbage load from tampon-related issues on all-women submarines? Could a mission fail if some gal flushed her tampon down the toilet instead of following the proper mil-spec procedure?

But the most telling reaction has come from A Voice for Men, which in an editorial suggested that it would only support the move if women were required to die as often as men.

No, really. Here’s what the editorialist, presumably site founder Paul Elam, wrote:

AVFM supports the spirit of the new Pentagon Directive …  However, any blanket approval of the new measure thus far would be premature. …

[T]he only way this new policy will have any meaning will be if it is mandatory that women face combat on the front lines. With 20% of the military being comprised of women, that means roughly 20% of combat related fatalities should be female. 1 in 5 of body bags being filled overseas should contain the bodies of mothers, sisters, daughters, wives and girlfriends.

AVFM isn’t alone in hoping that one result of the Pentagon’s new policy will be increased injury and death for women. On his blog the self-designated “counter-feminist agent of change” Fidelbogen quoted – with a weird sort of semi-approval – one comment from an unknown person he says he found online:

I know this isn’t a laughing matter but this is pretty fucking sweet. Now those very same women who complain about how hard childbirth is get to experience real pain and misery by getting their arms blown off by enemy fire or their legs blown off by mines. Or getting infections when they have to stay at their post for days at a time without taking a bath. Those same women who say all men are rapists can now see what real rape is when they are taken as POW’s and gang-raped by foreign men at gun point and passed around like a piece of meat and then their heads blown off when they are done. This is real war ladies, are you ready for your cup of true equality?

In the comments on AVFM, meanwhile one Rick Westlake helped to make clearer the vindictive subtext of the AVFM’s editorial, suggesting that the Pentagon’s decision could be good for men if it served to

rub …  some high-ratcheted, ‘entitled/empowered’ noses in the misandric, disposable-male double standard of the Selective Service system.

Our current society, including our military, makes mock of ‘equality’ by divorcing ‘opportunity’ from ‘consequences,’ ‘choices’ from ‘costs,’ and ‘benefits’ from ‘responsibility.’ Princesses are awarded all of the opportunities, choices and benefits and are excused from all the responsibility, costs and consequences. ‘Draft-pigs,’ meaning men, are made to shoulder all those dirty, nasty, dangerous and demeaning responsibilities, consequences and costs on behalf of the Entitled Empowered Princesses.

Putting women on the combat line would be disastrous for the military … But the fact remains, enough Princesses have clamored for the ‘opportunities and benefits’ of serving in the front line, heedless of the consequences and the costs.

By requiring Princesses to register for Selective Service, before they can claim the benefits that ‘draft-pigs’ can only receive if they’ve registered – and by declaring them liable for the same fines and penalties as the draft-pigs, if they don’t – we at least remind them that freedom isn’t free, that choices have costs, and that true equality includes responsibility and consequences.

I can already hear the thin, reedy screeches from the Princesses. Fine. Let them learn what it is to hump 35-pound fifty-cal ammo cans to feed Ma Deuce in a firefight. Or let them scuttle back to the home and the hearth, and give thanks for (and to) the Brave Men who will defend them.

Elam himself echoed this vindictive “let them eat equality” stance in a sneering comment posted under his own name suggesting that in the wake of the Pentagon’s new policy plenty of women won’t find the “aroma” of equality to

be so sweet … This is what feminism was always about, and now, after three waves, the chickens are going to come home to roost. Because feminism never was about anything but creating tax paying, laboring, consuming, bleeding and dying servants to the masters of corporatocracy.

They lured women in with visions of corner offices and autonomy, and now that they have fully taken the bait, the doors are going to be slammed behind them and locked. They will be left to languish in their “freedom” as corporate wage slaves, and when needed they will be forced to contribute to the rivers of blood required to keep it going.

NOW and others will likely succeed in keeping the last part “optional” for while, but it won’t last.

The grand daughters of today’s college woman is as fucked as any man in history.

To which every feminist I know would say: bring it on. Feminists are well aware that equality, along with its many benefits, brings certain costs.  Putting more women into combat roles means, inevitably, that more women will be injured or killed. The feminists supporting the Pentagon’s decision are aware of this. Unlike many MRAs, though, they look at combat injuries and deaths as one of the sad but inevitable consequences of war — not as something to rub anyone’s face into.

Here’s a hint to any MRAs who think that either AVFM or the more blatantly sadistic commenter quoted by Fidelbogen has a point: Civil Rights activism is about uplifting everyone, not making others “pay.”

When the American civil rights movement took up the issue of voting rights, civil rights activists demanded that black people be allowed to vote without harassment or other obstacles like “literacy tests” standing in their way.

Civil rights activists didn’t demand that whites be kept from voting.

The Civil Rights movement called for historically all-white colleges to be opened up to blacks. It didn’t call for white people to be banned from these colleges too.

This is how you can tell that the Men’s Rights movement, as it stands today, is not a true civil rights movement. Because insofar as it is about anything other than complaining about (and sometimes harassing) feminists and women in general, it’s about tearing down rather than building up.

Instead of trying to build domestic violence shelters and other services for men, for example, the MRM is more interested in defunding shelters for women – even when their efforts in this area directly harm male victims.

It’s telling that when Father’s Rights activist Glenn Sacks had an issue with the advertisements being run by one DV shelter, he encouraged his followers to bombard the shelter’s donors with phone calls in order to cripple the shelter’s fundraising efforts – even though the shelter in question also provides services for men. It’s telling as well that MRAs rail endlessly against the Violence Against Women Act, and have celebrated Republican opposition to it – even though the act is officially gender neutral in everything but its name, and would provide funding for men’s shelters if MRAs got off their asses to build any.

Instead of fighting for the rights of male victims of rape, the Men’s Rights movement is more interested in downplaying the rape of women, wildly exaggerating the number of “false rape accusations,” and in endless discussions about whether or not having sex with women incapacitated with drinks or drugs is really rape. All of these things contribute to a “rape culture” that harms male victims of rape as well as female.

Not that most MRAs actually care about male victims of rape except as a debating point — perhaps because that would require acknowledging that the overwhelming majority of their rapists are other men.  (MRAs do get outraged in the rare cases in which women are the culprits.) The group that does more than any other to fight for male rape victims is the anti-prison rape group Just Detention. Try to find even a mention of this group on any of the leading Men’s Rights sites. (The only mention of the group on AVFM is a comment in a post attacking a feminist writer noting that it isn’t part of the Men’s Rights movement.)

There are endless other examples, because this is in essence the way that the so-called “Men’s Rights” movement does business.

When you take a certain pleasure in the notion of women being “made to pay” or otherwise harmed when they seek equality, you’re about as much of a civil rights movement as the Klan.

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The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

Very very best wishes for kitty, Kiwi girl!

thenatfantastic
11 years ago

Is anti-vax a conservative thing? I think of it as more of a hippie parent thing, and they fall all over the spectrum.

Part of the reason that whole anti-vax clusterfuck got so huge was the support of at least two of the major conservative newspapers in the UK (Daily Mail and The Express), both of whom love a bit of pseudoscience to go with their casual racism in the mornings. But I’ve seen it from all sectors.

cloudiah
11 years ago

To be clear, the ex-Stalinists I worked with really were ex-Stalinists; they were raised as USian red diaper babies in the CP, but moved away from the party later on.

And the Trots I know were really more Trots because they were anti-Stalinists, and have also kind of moved away from that designation. I think

The USian left is much different than elsewhere, obvs.

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
11 years ago

@Kitteh, I have asked David to let me have access to the forum, so I will PM you when I get there. 🙂

On the Wakefield horror-that-should-not-have-occurred, I read some of the work up they did on those children. I don’t think that “spinal tap” portrays the full awfulness and seriousness of taking CSF out of someone. Technique is outlined here. The bottom of the page is the actual method. It is not something to be done lightly, it involves a needle going into the spinal cord. Note the instruction to get the patient to bend their spine: this means there is maximum distance between the vertebrae.

Wakefield did lumbar punctures on children without proper informed consent, without ethical protocols, and without any medical justification. He’s a privileged fuck who needs to be kept away from anything sentient.

LBT
LBT
11 years ago

RE: Cassie

We have an accord!

RE: Kiwi

D: D: D: Gah, I’ve never had to have a spinal tap, thank god. It sounds hellish. (That I have a needle phobia probably doesn’t help.)

And I think privilege has less to do with his general douchery. He sounds like a real prize, that Wakefield.

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

Best wishes for kitty, Kiwi girl!

The Swedish meatballs were delicious, burp.

Cassie, my little dimwit:

I think you are incorrect here. This seems to be another definition thing. Some people look at relatively “normal” people and call them neuroatypical and others look at them and say “they are on the mild end of the autism scale”. When it comes down to it, it is the same damn thing and I don’t care what you call it.

This is why we wish you’d fuck off. You keep doubling down on your ignorance, when you should fold and go away. The arrogance is just the cherry on top of your shit sundae.

Preferably to a site where your little snitfits are coddled and lets you feel like the special snowflake you clearly think you are.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“We have an accord!”

What a refreshing change!

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
11 years ago

Yes because the rest of us were asserting beliefs as opinion and shifting the goal posts repeatedly.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

Kiwi girl – you’re on Ravelry with the teddybear avatar, aren’t you? I can send you a PM there now and give you my email, if you like.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

Or you could drop a message at my blog, if you fancy

/shameless self promotion

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
11 years ago

I clicked on your name and only got this page: http://vibrissimo.wordpress.com/ which doesn’t look like a live blog. Have I done something wrong on the click-through?

And yes, I’m the teddy bear on Ravelry, thanks to Captain Avatar. 🙂

BigMomma
BigMomma
11 years ago

All this has made think of a training I went to in the 90s with an awesome trainer. He was talking about people with confronting behaviours and how we view the behaviour as outsiders in that person’s life. He spoke about a patient who heard voices when she was walking among traffic. She liked her voices and would always chat back. However, other people on the street found it difficult and would sometimes be rude and make her feel uncomfortable. So, he gave her a mobile phone. Hey presto. She chatted away and no-one looked twice.

For her, her voices were not a disability, they were a positive contribution to her life.

drst
drst
11 years ago

I don’t care if I am low on the autism spectrum or if I am neuroatypical. I don’t care what you call it, it does not significantly impact on peoples lives.

Wow. So little miss Socialist here just declared that everyone in the world who is only on the low end of the autism spectrum should shut up and never claim to be disabled or oppressed because SHE says it doesn’t significantly impact our lives! Amazing. Nice to know all the massive piles of shit, including losing jobs and friends, I’ve had to deal with that were about my condition never happened and never really bothered me. Never a significant impact. I know because Cassie said so.

All the people know who are Aspies, who are on the spectrum, all the crap we’ve taken from an abilist society, none of it was real. Cause this ignorant foolish twerp has declared it to be true. Even though zie has never actually thought hard about any of this by her own admission and doesn’t understand any of these issues or what the basic words that describe them mean. Pack it up, we can all go home.

*barfs*

@DLColvin – I have no idea what the fuck you’re on about with the stuff about diet, but autism and spectrum disorders are not overdiagnosed, especially not in women. If anything women are underdiagnosed for these conditions, thanks to social conditioning that trains girls to mask a lot of the symptoms that are recognized in boys.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

Ach, bloody wordpress! That’s a blog I never got going and the damn thing always reverts to it. My real blog site is this http://vignettesacrosstheveil.wordpress.com/ but I’ll drop you a line at Ravelry. 🙂

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
11 years ago

Gosh you’ve got nice hair! 🙂

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

BigMomma – kudos to that trainer! I have often thought I should dig out the earpiece from my mobile so if I want to talk aloud to the Mister I can, for that very reason.

I’ll bet the lady with the voices had far more interesting conversations than the average bellower-into-mobile-phones, too. /snark

katz
11 years ago

What a refreshing change!

I still think you’re an ass-backwards idiot, though.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

Aww, thank you! 🙂

katz
11 years ago

Kitteh, you should delete that blog you’re not using.

whataboutthemoonz
11 years ago

Regulars: Assertion A.
Troll: I disagree with assertion A!
Regulars: But what about Statement B?
Troll: Bullshit refutation C!
Regulars: I think you’re forgetting idea D, which is in direct conflict with bullshit refutation C.
Troll: I never said I agreed with bullshit refutation C! How dare you accuse me of that?!
Regulars: . . .

Seriously, we can scroll.

katz
11 years ago

I hadn’t thought of that; I know a lot of different-brained folks, but I didn’t know any open synethetes, and it passed my brain by.

Now you know one 🙂 Any questions?

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

Wait, what list am I on?

(Pulled an all-nighter for work so my brain isn’t really operating at full capacity at the moment.)

katz
11 years ago

The list of people trolls won’t leave alone (as opposed to the list of people trolls will never answer).

Shiraz
Shiraz
11 years ago

“You would have to provide evidence or I shall disregard this assertion.”

Hellkell then asked: Soap opera dame or wannabe Bond villain?

I’m going to go with actor trying to sound like an android. Brent Spiner comes to mind.

katz
11 years ago

I guess the way I phrased it made it sound like a list of people who bug me. Not the intent!

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