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A Voice for Men: we’ll support women in combat only if the proper percentage of women get killed.

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Woman officially not in combat role.

As everyone reading this blog no doubt already knows, feminists have hailed the Pentagon’s decision to open combat jobs to women, which will allow women the same opportunities to serve as men. The decision is also a backhanded acknowledgement that, for all intents and purposes, women are serving in combat today already. (Congresswoman Tammy Duckworth lost both of her legs in combat in Iraq – but officially, what she was engaged in wasn’t combat.)

It seems inevitable that, as a result of this decision, young women will be required to sign up for selective service alongside men. While virtually all feminists I know oppose the draft, most agree that as long as registration is going to be required, it should be required for both men and women. Indeed, when selective service was reinstated in 1981, the National Organization for Women brought a lawsuit demanding this sort of equality.

Reaction amongst Men’s Rightsers to the Pentagon’s announcement has been mixed. Some have welcomed the change, as a “what’s good for the goose” acknowledgement of equal rights and responsibilities. Others, like most of the regulars on The Spearhead, predict catastrophe, as inherently unqualified women are sent to the front lines. Regular Spearhead commenter Uncle Elmer joked:

After this experiment runs its course, how many men will have died while bringing tampon supplies up to the front?

Can anyone tell me the additional garbage load from tampon-related issues on all-women submarines? Could a mission fail if some gal flushed her tampon down the toilet instead of following the proper mil-spec procedure?

But the most telling reaction has come from A Voice for Men, which in an editorial suggested that it would only support the move if women were required to die as often as men.

No, really. Here’s what the editorialist, presumably site founder Paul Elam, wrote:

AVFM supports the spirit of the new Pentagon Directive …  However, any blanket approval of the new measure thus far would be premature. …

[T]he only way this new policy will have any meaning will be if it is mandatory that women face combat on the front lines. With 20% of the military being comprised of women, that means roughly 20% of combat related fatalities should be female. 1 in 5 of body bags being filled overseas should contain the bodies of mothers, sisters, daughters, wives and girlfriends.

AVFM isn’t alone in hoping that one result of the Pentagon’s new policy will be increased injury and death for women. On his blog the self-designated “counter-feminist agent of change” Fidelbogen quoted – with a weird sort of semi-approval – one comment from an unknown person he says he found online:

I know this isn’t a laughing matter but this is pretty fucking sweet. Now those very same women who complain about how hard childbirth is get to experience real pain and misery by getting their arms blown off by enemy fire or their legs blown off by mines. Or getting infections when they have to stay at their post for days at a time without taking a bath. Those same women who say all men are rapists can now see what real rape is when they are taken as POW’s and gang-raped by foreign men at gun point and passed around like a piece of meat and then their heads blown off when they are done. This is real war ladies, are you ready for your cup of true equality?

In the comments on AVFM, meanwhile one Rick Westlake helped to make clearer the vindictive subtext of the AVFM’s editorial, suggesting that the Pentagon’s decision could be good for men if it served to

rub …  some high-ratcheted, ‘entitled/empowered’ noses in the misandric, disposable-male double standard of the Selective Service system.

Our current society, including our military, makes mock of ‘equality’ by divorcing ‘opportunity’ from ‘consequences,’ ‘choices’ from ‘costs,’ and ‘benefits’ from ‘responsibility.’ Princesses are awarded all of the opportunities, choices and benefits and are excused from all the responsibility, costs and consequences. ‘Draft-pigs,’ meaning men, are made to shoulder all those dirty, nasty, dangerous and demeaning responsibilities, consequences and costs on behalf of the Entitled Empowered Princesses.

Putting women on the combat line would be disastrous for the military … But the fact remains, enough Princesses have clamored for the ‘opportunities and benefits’ of serving in the front line, heedless of the consequences and the costs.

By requiring Princesses to register for Selective Service, before they can claim the benefits that ‘draft-pigs’ can only receive if they’ve registered – and by declaring them liable for the same fines and penalties as the draft-pigs, if they don’t – we at least remind them that freedom isn’t free, that choices have costs, and that true equality includes responsibility and consequences.

I can already hear the thin, reedy screeches from the Princesses. Fine. Let them learn what it is to hump 35-pound fifty-cal ammo cans to feed Ma Deuce in a firefight. Or let them scuttle back to the home and the hearth, and give thanks for (and to) the Brave Men who will defend them.

Elam himself echoed this vindictive “let them eat equality” stance in a sneering comment posted under his own name suggesting that in the wake of the Pentagon’s new policy plenty of women won’t find the “aroma” of equality to

be so sweet … This is what feminism was always about, and now, after three waves, the chickens are going to come home to roost. Because feminism never was about anything but creating tax paying, laboring, consuming, bleeding and dying servants to the masters of corporatocracy.

They lured women in with visions of corner offices and autonomy, and now that they have fully taken the bait, the doors are going to be slammed behind them and locked. They will be left to languish in their “freedom” as corporate wage slaves, and when needed they will be forced to contribute to the rivers of blood required to keep it going.

NOW and others will likely succeed in keeping the last part “optional” for while, but it won’t last.

The grand daughters of today’s college woman is as fucked as any man in history.

To which every feminist I know would say: bring it on. Feminists are well aware that equality, along with its many benefits, brings certain costs.  Putting more women into combat roles means, inevitably, that more women will be injured or killed. The feminists supporting the Pentagon’s decision are aware of this. Unlike many MRAs, though, they look at combat injuries and deaths as one of the sad but inevitable consequences of war — not as something to rub anyone’s face into.

Here’s a hint to any MRAs who think that either AVFM or the more blatantly sadistic commenter quoted by Fidelbogen has a point: Civil Rights activism is about uplifting everyone, not making others “pay.”

When the American civil rights movement took up the issue of voting rights, civil rights activists demanded that black people be allowed to vote without harassment or other obstacles like “literacy tests” standing in their way.

Civil rights activists didn’t demand that whites be kept from voting.

The Civil Rights movement called for historically all-white colleges to be opened up to blacks. It didn’t call for white people to be banned from these colleges too.

This is how you can tell that the Men’s Rights movement, as it stands today, is not a true civil rights movement. Because insofar as it is about anything other than complaining about (and sometimes harassing) feminists and women in general, it’s about tearing down rather than building up.

Instead of trying to build domestic violence shelters and other services for men, for example, the MRM is more interested in defunding shelters for women – even when their efforts in this area directly harm male victims.

It’s telling that when Father’s Rights activist Glenn Sacks had an issue with the advertisements being run by one DV shelter, he encouraged his followers to bombard the shelter’s donors with phone calls in order to cripple the shelter’s fundraising efforts – even though the shelter in question also provides services for men. It’s telling as well that MRAs rail endlessly against the Violence Against Women Act, and have celebrated Republican opposition to it – even though the act is officially gender neutral in everything but its name, and would provide funding for men’s shelters if MRAs got off their asses to build any.

Instead of fighting for the rights of male victims of rape, the Men’s Rights movement is more interested in downplaying the rape of women, wildly exaggerating the number of “false rape accusations,” and in endless discussions about whether or not having sex with women incapacitated with drinks or drugs is really rape. All of these things contribute to a “rape culture” that harms male victims of rape as well as female.

Not that most MRAs actually care about male victims of rape except as a debating point — perhaps because that would require acknowledging that the overwhelming majority of their rapists are other men.  (MRAs do get outraged in the rare cases in which women are the culprits.) The group that does more than any other to fight for male rape victims is the anti-prison rape group Just Detention. Try to find even a mention of this group on any of the leading Men’s Rights sites. (The only mention of the group on AVFM is a comment in a post attacking a feminist writer noting that it isn’t part of the Men’s Rights movement.)

There are endless other examples, because this is in essence the way that the so-called “Men’s Rights” movement does business.

When you take a certain pleasure in the notion of women being “made to pay” or otherwise harmed when they seek equality, you’re about as much of a civil rights movement as the Klan.

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The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

Kiwi girl – any news you want to share about your kitty?

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
11 years ago

Hi there, no news from the vet yet, it’s been about 3 hours since he would have had the procedure. I figure that means he hasn’t died from complications, or they would have rung me sooner. But the stress is bringing on a migraine, so I’ve just taken some medication for that. I’m in the whole can’t eat I’m too stressed mode, and my stomach is really upset.

Re menstruation, I’ve even shared my tampon supply at work with workmates who’ve been caught out. I have a regular little medical kit in my office drawers, including hypoallergenic sticking plasters because the glue on the regular ones gives me eczema. My male partner does the shopping, so he buys them for me when I’m running low. I know, misandry. 🙂

It does make me wonder how these MRAs act when buying other genital-area supplies like condoms. Oh, I know, it’s the woman’s job to get those…

LBT
LBT
11 years ago

RE: Kiwi Girl

It does make me wonder how these MRAs act when buying other genital-area supplies like condoms.

See, you write that and I instantly thought ‘hemorrhoid cream.’

Yeah, the whole period bizarreness is strange. Like, say you have allergies so get attacked by runny noses sometimes. You find some way to take care of it and don’t make a fuss. I don’t think the army throws tizzies over the idea that it might have people with runny noses on the front lines.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

Great big hugs across the Tasman …

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

Wait, am I ineligible for the draft that doesn’t exist because I have hay fever? Because the hay fever inconveniences and incapacitates me a lot more than menstruation does.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“You may not intend to do so, but that’s exactly what you’re doing. By regarding male supremacy as something that merely stems from the ruling class, you ignore the realities that we trans* people face.”

This is all about definitions again. I don’t deny misogyny exists, I just deny that all instances of misogyny constitute someone oppressing a woman, that’s absurd.

“The misogyny that affects us all is not solely a product of the ruling class’ influence on society.”

Please provide evidence for this

” It’s also an enduring aspect of our culture that is not institutionalized at all. While we also do face institutionalized misogyny, it is not the only kind of oppression we deal with.

Look under your definition it is oppression, under my definition it is not, we in agreeance about everything except what to call certain instances of sexism. I don’t get why it is so important to you that I call sexist people “oppressors”.

“Our cultural norms are extremely oppressive. They are what made me be ashamed of my femininity and femaleness. They are what made me stuck in the closet for so many years. And none of it had anything to do with the ruling class.”

I would say cultural norms such as gender roles are repressive.

What it comes down to is an ideological difference, this is common criticism feminists make of socialists (usually it is that we erase women actually though). You are accusing me of class reductionism because I think class is the important aspect of politics. I just don’t find any of the arguments for this compeling though, women’s lib is at the heart of socialism.

I don’t see much point in continuing this discussion, for one or the other to agree with each other on this would require an ideological shift on the part of one of us, I don’t see that happening.

katz
11 years ago

I don’t see much point in continuing this discussion, for one or the other to agree with each other on this would require an ideological shift on the part of one of us, I don’t see that happening.

Indeed. I cannot agree with your grammar, since I’m ideologically opposed to comma splices.

titianblue
titianblue
11 years ago

@Katz You win the Lynne Truss Award for the best grammatical putdown of the decade.

katz
11 years ago

I read that one line about five times to make sure there weren’t any grammatical mistakes in it before I hit “submit.”

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

I’m ideologically opposed to the pretentious use of agreeance instead of agreement.

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
11 years ago

I’m ideologically opposed to the use of a comma instead of a semi-colon.

Jessay (@jessay)
11 years ago

OT: Tom Martin can officially STFU about misandry because for just 19.95 his “bottom” will never hurt again

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

Maddie’s ideologically opposed to me typing more than three words before I have to get up and pay attention to her.

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
11 years ago

Is the ideological shift the one that sits to the left of my Z or to the right of my /
??

LBT
LBT
11 years ago

RE: Cassie

What is your opinion on disability and neuroatypicality in society?

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

Kiwi girl – hmm, sounds like your keyboard has socio-political confusion.

katz
11 years ago

Maybe it’s an ideological vowel shift.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“What is your opinion on disability and neuroatypicality in society?”

You would have to be more specific in regards to your question about disability, In regards to neuroatypicality well I would have to read more studies on the matter, most of what I have read about autism claims all people fall someone on the autism scale. But mostly I don’t see it as an important issue. Why what do you think about it?

katz
11 years ago

But mostly I don’t see it as an important issue.

Ayup, saw that one coming.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

Same here. We’re talking extremely sheltered to the point of blinkered with this one.

drst
drst
11 years ago

Ugh, it lives.

Gravy came out very thin, alas, as I lacked the proper tools to add the cornstarch effectively. The meat wasn’t as good as the last one I made either, which was grass-fed, humanely raised beef and was awesome. BUT. There was gravy. And meat. And potatoes.

Then the raccoon showed up outside when we were putting out the trash, so unfortunately, I’ll never leave the house again. *flail*

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
11 years ago

My keyboard is an accommodationist pawn of the bourgeois. Bwahahahahaha

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

most of what I have read about autism claims all people fall someone on the autism scale

We have a librarian in residence, right?

BigMomma
BigMomma
11 years ago

@Cassandra, if you still want a recipe for roast beef, I highly recommend this one:http://www.cottagesmallholder.com/sunday-lunch-perfect-rare-roast-beef-recipe-233/

And Nigella Lawson’s Yorkshire puddings are failsafe.

drst
drst
11 years ago

I’m actually in training to be a librarian (OK actually an archivist/records manager).

But I ain’t helping Clueless here. She hasn’t bothered actually learning anything about any topic she’s already talked about aside from privileged white dude socialism, so why think she’s going to start reading now?

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