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A Voice for Men: we’ll support women in combat only if the proper percentage of women get killed.

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Woman officially not in combat role.

As everyone reading this blog no doubt already knows, feminists have hailed the Pentagon’s decision to open combat jobs to women, which will allow women the same opportunities to serve as men. The decision is also a backhanded acknowledgement that, for all intents and purposes, women are serving in combat today already. (Congresswoman Tammy Duckworth lost both of her legs in combat in Iraq – but officially, what she was engaged in wasn’t combat.)

It seems inevitable that, as a result of this decision, young women will be required to sign up for selective service alongside men. While virtually all feminists I know oppose the draft, most agree that as long as registration is going to be required, it should be required for both men and women. Indeed, when selective service was reinstated in 1981, the National Organization for Women brought a lawsuit demanding this sort of equality.

Reaction amongst Men’s Rightsers to the Pentagon’s announcement has been mixed. Some have welcomed the change, as a “what’s good for the goose” acknowledgement of equal rights and responsibilities. Others, like most of the regulars on The Spearhead, predict catastrophe, as inherently unqualified women are sent to the front lines. Regular Spearhead commenter Uncle Elmer joked:

After this experiment runs its course, how many men will have died while bringing tampon supplies up to the front?

Can anyone tell me the additional garbage load from tampon-related issues on all-women submarines? Could a mission fail if some gal flushed her tampon down the toilet instead of following the proper mil-spec procedure?

But the most telling reaction has come from A Voice for Men, which in an editorial suggested that it would only support the move if women were required to die as often as men.

No, really. Here’s what the editorialist, presumably site founder Paul Elam, wrote:

AVFM supports the spirit of the new Pentagon Directive …  However, any blanket approval of the new measure thus far would be premature. …

[T]he only way this new policy will have any meaning will be if it is mandatory that women face combat on the front lines. With 20% of the military being comprised of women, that means roughly 20% of combat related fatalities should be female. 1 in 5 of body bags being filled overseas should contain the bodies of mothers, sisters, daughters, wives and girlfriends.

AVFM isn’t alone in hoping that one result of the Pentagon’s new policy will be increased injury and death for women. On his blog the self-designated “counter-feminist agent of change” Fidelbogen quoted – with a weird sort of semi-approval – one comment from an unknown person he says he found online:

I know this isn’t a laughing matter but this is pretty fucking sweet. Now those very same women who complain about how hard childbirth is get to experience real pain and misery by getting their arms blown off by enemy fire or their legs blown off by mines. Or getting infections when they have to stay at their post for days at a time without taking a bath. Those same women who say all men are rapists can now see what real rape is when they are taken as POW’s and gang-raped by foreign men at gun point and passed around like a piece of meat and then their heads blown off when they are done. This is real war ladies, are you ready for your cup of true equality?

In the comments on AVFM, meanwhile one Rick Westlake helped to make clearer the vindictive subtext of the AVFM’s editorial, suggesting that the Pentagon’s decision could be good for men if it served to

rub …  some high-ratcheted, ‘entitled/empowered’ noses in the misandric, disposable-male double standard of the Selective Service system.

Our current society, including our military, makes mock of ‘equality’ by divorcing ‘opportunity’ from ‘consequences,’ ‘choices’ from ‘costs,’ and ‘benefits’ from ‘responsibility.’ Princesses are awarded all of the opportunities, choices and benefits and are excused from all the responsibility, costs and consequences. ‘Draft-pigs,’ meaning men, are made to shoulder all those dirty, nasty, dangerous and demeaning responsibilities, consequences and costs on behalf of the Entitled Empowered Princesses.

Putting women on the combat line would be disastrous for the military … But the fact remains, enough Princesses have clamored for the ‘opportunities and benefits’ of serving in the front line, heedless of the consequences and the costs.

By requiring Princesses to register for Selective Service, before they can claim the benefits that ‘draft-pigs’ can only receive if they’ve registered – and by declaring them liable for the same fines and penalties as the draft-pigs, if they don’t – we at least remind them that freedom isn’t free, that choices have costs, and that true equality includes responsibility and consequences.

I can already hear the thin, reedy screeches from the Princesses. Fine. Let them learn what it is to hump 35-pound fifty-cal ammo cans to feed Ma Deuce in a firefight. Or let them scuttle back to the home and the hearth, and give thanks for (and to) the Brave Men who will defend them.

Elam himself echoed this vindictive “let them eat equality” stance in a sneering comment posted under his own name suggesting that in the wake of the Pentagon’s new policy plenty of women won’t find the “aroma” of equality to

be so sweet … This is what feminism was always about, and now, after three waves, the chickens are going to come home to roost. Because feminism never was about anything but creating tax paying, laboring, consuming, bleeding and dying servants to the masters of corporatocracy.

They lured women in with visions of corner offices and autonomy, and now that they have fully taken the bait, the doors are going to be slammed behind them and locked. They will be left to languish in their “freedom” as corporate wage slaves, and when needed they will be forced to contribute to the rivers of blood required to keep it going.

NOW and others will likely succeed in keeping the last part “optional” for while, but it won’t last.

The grand daughters of today’s college woman is as fucked as any man in history.

To which every feminist I know would say: bring it on. Feminists are well aware that equality, along with its many benefits, brings certain costs.  Putting more women into combat roles means, inevitably, that more women will be injured or killed. The feminists supporting the Pentagon’s decision are aware of this. Unlike many MRAs, though, they look at combat injuries and deaths as one of the sad but inevitable consequences of war — not as something to rub anyone’s face into.

Here’s a hint to any MRAs who think that either AVFM or the more blatantly sadistic commenter quoted by Fidelbogen has a point: Civil Rights activism is about uplifting everyone, not making others “pay.”

When the American civil rights movement took up the issue of voting rights, civil rights activists demanded that black people be allowed to vote without harassment or other obstacles like “literacy tests” standing in their way.

Civil rights activists didn’t demand that whites be kept from voting.

The Civil Rights movement called for historically all-white colleges to be opened up to blacks. It didn’t call for white people to be banned from these colleges too.

This is how you can tell that the Men’s Rights movement, as it stands today, is not a true civil rights movement. Because insofar as it is about anything other than complaining about (and sometimes harassing) feminists and women in general, it’s about tearing down rather than building up.

Instead of trying to build domestic violence shelters and other services for men, for example, the MRM is more interested in defunding shelters for women – even when their efforts in this area directly harm male victims.

It’s telling that when Father’s Rights activist Glenn Sacks had an issue with the advertisements being run by one DV shelter, he encouraged his followers to bombard the shelter’s donors with phone calls in order to cripple the shelter’s fundraising efforts – even though the shelter in question also provides services for men. It’s telling as well that MRAs rail endlessly against the Violence Against Women Act, and have celebrated Republican opposition to it – even though the act is officially gender neutral in everything but its name, and would provide funding for men’s shelters if MRAs got off their asses to build any.

Instead of fighting for the rights of male victims of rape, the Men’s Rights movement is more interested in downplaying the rape of women, wildly exaggerating the number of “false rape accusations,” and in endless discussions about whether or not having sex with women incapacitated with drinks or drugs is really rape. All of these things contribute to a “rape culture” that harms male victims of rape as well as female.

Not that most MRAs actually care about male victims of rape except as a debating point — perhaps because that would require acknowledging that the overwhelming majority of their rapists are other men.  (MRAs do get outraged in the rare cases in which women are the culprits.) The group that does more than any other to fight for male rape victims is the anti-prison rape group Just Detention. Try to find even a mention of this group on any of the leading Men’s Rights sites. (The only mention of the group on AVFM is a comment in a post attacking a feminist writer noting that it isn’t part of the Men’s Rights movement.)

There are endless other examples, because this is in essence the way that the so-called “Men’s Rights” movement does business.

When you take a certain pleasure in the notion of women being “made to pay” or otherwise harmed when they seek equality, you’re about as much of a civil rights movement as the Klan.

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The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

The stupid just gets worse and worse.

Cassandra, waving an iPod would be fine, just make sure you put it back on its nice doily afterward though. 😉

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

I don’t think even Steele managed “strawmans”!

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“You also evidently know nothing about rape culture or any of the problems faced by women today – despite your claims to be concerned about things like the defunding of Planned Parenthood, which overwhelmingly hits women’s health – if you claim men (or rather, the patriarchal culture) don’t oppress women. ”

This is where your argument begins to crumble as more and more women get into politics and positions of power what you find is they push the same ole misogynist laws, just like obama pushes the same ole racist laws. It has nothing to do with having a penis and everything to do with being in a position of power.

Working class men do not oppress women.

“Just piss off back to your rainbow land where women don’t need feminism at all because you said so.”

Another strawman! very nice.

Tulgey Logger
Tulgey Logger
11 years ago

Cassie lost me hours and hours ago with zir initial false analogies, and holy crap is this a long thread where my eyes just glaze over and stay that way.

vcxnmig!

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

“@ Argenti

This is like what would happen if Mr Al had a baby with Camille Paglia.

(It would have to be Mr Al who taught baby how to write. As ridiculous as Paglia can be she can construct a much tighter argument than this mess.)”

Lol, good point.

“Or don’t your convict foremothers count?”

I care about indigenous rights! Wasn’t want happened to the white convicts horrible!

Ok, maybe this is my lack of personal knowledge of Australian history and politics, but you really just got under my skin big time. (Cassie, not you kitteh) US and Canada wise, trying to claim that your white male ancestors were so oppressed because they were poor is, well, completely at odds with indigenous rights. (I again plug #OpThunderbird for those of you who care about First Nation oppression)

CassandraSays
11 years ago

Also, here’s the thing. Cassie doesn’t believe in patriarchy (she also doesn’t understand what it means, but let’s put that aside for a moment). She’s entitled to believe whatever she wants, but the thing is, if she doesn’t believe in a concept as basic as patriarchy that means that she’s never going to agree with the majority of the other commenters here, and we can decide that we don’t consider her an ally or a person that we can work with.

(Shrugs) So it goes. People are entitled to their beliefs, and other people are entitled to write them off if they think those beliefs are foolish.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

“I’m feeling a bit congested to wave my cane around, can’t I just wave my iPod instead?”

Did I make you feel old? If so, recall that I only recently discovered your any older than I am and that whole discussion! (Yes, wave your iPod, it’s probably newer than mine anyways!)

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

” if she doesn’t believe in a concept as basic as patriarchy that means that she’s never going to agree with the majority of the other commenters here, and we can decide that we don’t consider her an ally or a person that we can work with. ”

How sectarian of you! Sectarianism is more of a threat to the left than MRAs.

The ideological differences are great it is true. I do however support a lot of the same things you do, full abortions rights, equal pay, challenging rape/raunch culture and so on. If you can never “consider someone an ally” because they don’t think men oppressing women is a thing then…well what can I say to that?

mxe354
mxe354
11 years ago

It isn’t my intention to insult you. However I don’t agree these are patriarchial norms as I don’t believe men oppress women how this story is meant to show that men oppress women. Can you clarify further please?

You really need more clarification? Ok.

I was perceived as a boy. I was expected to be tough, rational, heroic, and so on. When I tried to be feminine or liked things associated with femininity and femaleness, I received heaps of scorn. That wasn’t simply because of the rigidity of gender norms. It was specifically because I was acting like a girl. There was something wrong with me acting like one because I was a boy.

I also grew up noticing that girls who acted like boys, while also judged and criticized from time to time, were criticized much less often and they were only criticized for reasons that had nothing to do with some perceived inferiority of masculinity. The concern was that boys wouldn’t like butch girls. Butch girls wouldn’t be good mothers and daughters. And so on. What I learned was that being a “boy” (or boy) wanting to be feminine was a crime against nature, whereas a girl (or “girl”) acting like a boy was weird, unexpected, but overall tolerable.

That’s not all. Even today I am overwhelmed by our culture’s strong policing of gender norms for women. Womanhood, in the mind of a trans* girl like me, is extremely narrowly-defined, whereas manhood is much more flexible, the hypersensitive aversion to femininity notwithstanding. Speaking of that, never in my life have I heard people say “Be a woman” in the same sense as “Be a man.” Why? Because manhood implies superiority, and womanhood implies the opposite.

Clearly not all men oppress women. But it’s quite clear, at least to me, that society’s misogyny is a product of sociocultural male supremacy (AKA patriarchy), which is upheld by both men and women regardless of their class.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

Way to miss the point of a patriarchal culture which I just mentioned in what you quoted. It goes beyond individual men, and women are not immune to it – hell, we’re brought up in it. And if you really think there’s anything like the weight of numbers, and of numbers of women who don’t buy into patriarchy (plenty do, in politics and out) then you’re living in a fantasy land. It’s anything but my argument crumbling: it’s an illustration of how pervasive male-based power structures are.

You’re the one who said feminism gets in the way; you made it pretty clear you don’t think much of it – probably because you know as much about it as you do about the US draft situation.

“Working class men do not oppress women.”

Oh no, they are all the purest of the pure. Or do you really think economics are all that count? You’ll be saying next that white working class people never oppressed working class PoC. It’s just that stupid.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“Ok, maybe this is my lack of personal knowledge of Australian history and politics, but you really just got under my skin big time. (Cassie, not you kitteh) US and Canada wise, trying to claim that your white male ancestors were so oppressed because they were poor is, well, completely at odds with indigenous rights.”

Not at all. It is wrong to lock people up because they steal because they can’t afford food and it is wrong to attempt genocide, how are those things contradictory? Because you think white people are the oppressors? They aren’t, the ruling class whites are. My convict forefathers (and mothers) did not have a choice in what happened, blaming them is rubbish.

Btw, are you Australian? If not trying to insist you know more about my own country than me as a form of colonialism I was told.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

““Also, mxe is right, drop the T in GLBT, and probably the I too,”

This is how the trans people I know use the term and how they like me to use it as well. They would be on my ass for it if I left the T and the I off and excluded them. So I should drop it because you said so? I don’t think so!”

Yeah, including the letters to save face, while ignoring the actual issues? I don’t really give a shit wtf you claim to you support, not when you’re discounting trans* issues so blatantly. And fuck, including T just because you’d “be on [your] ass”? Nice way to show how much you actually care!

““presenting as feminine isn’t a factor in oppression, just class, you’re of no use to anyone who isn’t comfortable as their biological gender”

I never said anything even resembling that. Enough strawmans please.”

No, you just said that patriarchy isn’t a thing, ignoring mxe regarding patriarchal oppression of trans* people, and particularly trans* women, and said that class was the biggest factor.

If you think I’m going to feel even a twinge of remorse for synthesizing your statements, you have another thing coming.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

Argenti – Cassandra was replying to me, I said you just like seein’ the rest of us bang our walking sticks at you. 😀

mxe354
mxe354
11 years ago

“Working class men do not oppress women.”

Yeah, especially not the working class men who rape, abuse, and restrict the freedom of women.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“Clearly not all men oppress women. But it’s quite clear, at least to me, that society’s misogyny is a product of sociocultural male supremacy (AKA patriarchy), which is upheld by both men and women regardless of their class.”

Ah ok, you are using patriarchy differently to what I thought. I wouldn’t tend to use that term to describe it still though, but yes I agree there are sexist narratives that are forced on people. Male supremacy is probably a better term.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

““so, Cassie, you like women? Well you just need a penis inserted into you in just the right manner and then you’ll be screaming the perks of heterosexuality!”

You or anyone else saying that to me is not oppressing me. It is saying nasty things to me that remind me of my vulnerabilities and the oppression I do face in society.”

I don’t even…

How about that corrective rape is actually a thing that people actually do? Is that oppressive? But saying it’d be good if that happened to you isn’t?

And you know, never mind, this hypothetical is just making me feel dirty.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

“Actually I feel like I just insulted Mr Al. He may be a jackass but I don’t think he would ever write anything as illiterate as “strawmans” unless he was actually trying to take the piss.”

Touché, his Steele grammar was almost brilliant in its highly intentional failure. He really should write up instead of trolling us.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“Yeah, especially not the working class men who rape, abuse, and restrict the freedom of women.”

Rape is not in itself oppression, it can be an expression of oppression or it can be indicative of oppression, but in and of itself it isn’t.

Society is set up to privilege men but that doesn’t make them the oppressors it makes them privileged.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

“They aren’t, the ruling class whites are. ”

Fucking bullshit. You really think it was only the upper class murdering the indigenous people? You think none of the convicts ever killed them? Or that my ancestors – peasant farmers from Germany – probably didn’t do just the same thing? You’ve a real fantasy land notion of what the lower classes are like and do. And just as mxe said – working class men are just as capable of brutalising and murdering women as upper class men are. Or doesn’t that count as oppression for you?

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“And you know, never mind, this hypothetical is just making me feel dirty.”

I have already given you your answer. Honestly people thinking saying things to people is the same as oppressing them? What nonsense.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

Oh, so now we’re a rape apologist too, if rape itself is not oppression.

This is getting to banhammer time.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“Fucking bullshit. You really think it was only the upper class murdering the indigenous people? You think none of the convicts ever killed them? Or that my ancestors – peasant farmers from Germany – probably didn’t do just the same thing? You’ve a real fantasy land notion of what the lower classes are like and do.”

Sure some did, just as sometimes cops now lock aborigines in vans in 40 degree heat and let them cook to death. However the police are not oppressing them, they are merely enforcing the oppression on someone elses behalf just as working class people were if/when they murdered aborigines.

“Or doesn’t that count as oppression for you?”

Oppression is institutional, dictated by the state, not by people floating about in society.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

I suppose she thinks kids have never committed suicide because of mere words, either.

Cassie, go get a bad case of Lego constipation, you’re revealing yourself as a disgusting human being.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“Oh, so now we’re a rape apologist too, if rape itself is not oppression. ”

No I really am not a rape apologist, because I disagree rape is oppression and think rather it is or can be a function of oppression.

Am I oppressing a man if I rape him? Is a man oppressing a boy if he rapes them? What about a man raping another man is that oppression?

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

““Ok, maybe this is my lack of personal knowledge of Australian history and politics, but you really just got under my skin big time. (Cassie, not you kitteh) US and Canada wise, trying to claim that your white male ancestors were so oppressed because they were poor is, well, completely at odds with indigenous rights.”

Not at all. It is wrong to lock people up because they steal because they can’t afford food and it is wrong to attempt genocide, how are those things contradictory? Because you think white people are the oppressors? They aren’t, the ruling class whites are. My convict forefathers (and mothers) did not have a choice in what happened, blaming them is rubbish.

Btw, are you Australian? If not trying to insist you know more about my own country than me as a form of colonialism I was told.”

Didn’t I start that by saying maybe I was misusing something about Australian history? Haven’t I said, repeatedly, that I’m American?

That aside, and again, no I don’t know Australian history, and certainly not better than the Australians here — in the US and Canada, yes, the Europeans (whites) oppressed, and continue to oppress, the First Nations people, Native Americans, and other indigenous populations. Or do you think it’s ruling class men who sneak onto reservations to rape FN/Native women?! Only ruling class men murder FN/Native people and get away with it when almost no investigation occurs?!

So yeah, locking people up for stealing food is wrong, but that doesn’t somehow mean that only ruling class people oppress indigenous people.

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