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A Voice for Men: we’ll support women in combat only if the proper percentage of women get killed.

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Woman officially not in combat role.

As everyone reading this blog no doubt already knows, feminists have hailed the Pentagon’s decision to open combat jobs to women, which will allow women the same opportunities to serve as men. The decision is also a backhanded acknowledgement that, for all intents and purposes, women are serving in combat today already. (Congresswoman Tammy Duckworth lost both of her legs in combat in Iraq – but officially, what she was engaged in wasn’t combat.)

It seems inevitable that, as a result of this decision, young women will be required to sign up for selective service alongside men. While virtually all feminists I know oppose the draft, most agree that as long as registration is going to be required, it should be required for both men and women. Indeed, when selective service was reinstated in 1981, the National Organization for Women brought a lawsuit demanding this sort of equality.

Reaction amongst Men’s Rightsers to the Pentagon’s announcement has been mixed. Some have welcomed the change, as a “what’s good for the goose” acknowledgement of equal rights and responsibilities. Others, like most of the regulars on The Spearhead, predict catastrophe, as inherently unqualified women are sent to the front lines. Regular Spearhead commenter Uncle Elmer joked:

After this experiment runs its course, how many men will have died while bringing tampon supplies up to the front?

Can anyone tell me the additional garbage load from tampon-related issues on all-women submarines? Could a mission fail if some gal flushed her tampon down the toilet instead of following the proper mil-spec procedure?

But the most telling reaction has come from A Voice for Men, which in an editorial suggested that it would only support the move if women were required to die as often as men.

No, really. Here’s what the editorialist, presumably site founder Paul Elam, wrote:

AVFM supports the spirit of the new Pentagon Directive …  However, any blanket approval of the new measure thus far would be premature. …

[T]he only way this new policy will have any meaning will be if it is mandatory that women face combat on the front lines. With 20% of the military being comprised of women, that means roughly 20% of combat related fatalities should be female. 1 in 5 of body bags being filled overseas should contain the bodies of mothers, sisters, daughters, wives and girlfriends.

AVFM isn’t alone in hoping that one result of the Pentagon’s new policy will be increased injury and death for women. On his blog the self-designated “counter-feminist agent of change” Fidelbogen quoted – with a weird sort of semi-approval – one comment from an unknown person he says he found online:

I know this isn’t a laughing matter but this is pretty fucking sweet. Now those very same women who complain about how hard childbirth is get to experience real pain and misery by getting their arms blown off by enemy fire or their legs blown off by mines. Or getting infections when they have to stay at their post for days at a time without taking a bath. Those same women who say all men are rapists can now see what real rape is when they are taken as POW’s and gang-raped by foreign men at gun point and passed around like a piece of meat and then their heads blown off when they are done. This is real war ladies, are you ready for your cup of true equality?

In the comments on AVFM, meanwhile one Rick Westlake helped to make clearer the vindictive subtext of the AVFM’s editorial, suggesting that the Pentagon’s decision could be good for men if it served to

rub …  some high-ratcheted, ‘entitled/empowered’ noses in the misandric, disposable-male double standard of the Selective Service system.

Our current society, including our military, makes mock of ‘equality’ by divorcing ‘opportunity’ from ‘consequences,’ ‘choices’ from ‘costs,’ and ‘benefits’ from ‘responsibility.’ Princesses are awarded all of the opportunities, choices and benefits and are excused from all the responsibility, costs and consequences. ‘Draft-pigs,’ meaning men, are made to shoulder all those dirty, nasty, dangerous and demeaning responsibilities, consequences and costs on behalf of the Entitled Empowered Princesses.

Putting women on the combat line would be disastrous for the military … But the fact remains, enough Princesses have clamored for the ‘opportunities and benefits’ of serving in the front line, heedless of the consequences and the costs.

By requiring Princesses to register for Selective Service, before they can claim the benefits that ‘draft-pigs’ can only receive if they’ve registered – and by declaring them liable for the same fines and penalties as the draft-pigs, if they don’t – we at least remind them that freedom isn’t free, that choices have costs, and that true equality includes responsibility and consequences.

I can already hear the thin, reedy screeches from the Princesses. Fine. Let them learn what it is to hump 35-pound fifty-cal ammo cans to feed Ma Deuce in a firefight. Or let them scuttle back to the home and the hearth, and give thanks for (and to) the Brave Men who will defend them.

Elam himself echoed this vindictive “let them eat equality” stance in a sneering comment posted under his own name suggesting that in the wake of the Pentagon’s new policy plenty of women won’t find the “aroma” of equality to

be so sweet … This is what feminism was always about, and now, after three waves, the chickens are going to come home to roost. Because feminism never was about anything but creating tax paying, laboring, consuming, bleeding and dying servants to the masters of corporatocracy.

They lured women in with visions of corner offices and autonomy, and now that they have fully taken the bait, the doors are going to be slammed behind them and locked. They will be left to languish in their “freedom” as corporate wage slaves, and when needed they will be forced to contribute to the rivers of blood required to keep it going.

NOW and others will likely succeed in keeping the last part “optional” for while, but it won’t last.

The grand daughters of today’s college woman is as fucked as any man in history.

To which every feminist I know would say: bring it on. Feminists are well aware that equality, along with its many benefits, brings certain costs.  Putting more women into combat roles means, inevitably, that more women will be injured or killed. The feminists supporting the Pentagon’s decision are aware of this. Unlike many MRAs, though, they look at combat injuries and deaths as one of the sad but inevitable consequences of war — not as something to rub anyone’s face into.

Here’s a hint to any MRAs who think that either AVFM or the more blatantly sadistic commenter quoted by Fidelbogen has a point: Civil Rights activism is about uplifting everyone, not making others “pay.”

When the American civil rights movement took up the issue of voting rights, civil rights activists demanded that black people be allowed to vote without harassment or other obstacles like “literacy tests” standing in their way.

Civil rights activists didn’t demand that whites be kept from voting.

The Civil Rights movement called for historically all-white colleges to be opened up to blacks. It didn’t call for white people to be banned from these colleges too.

This is how you can tell that the Men’s Rights movement, as it stands today, is not a true civil rights movement. Because insofar as it is about anything other than complaining about (and sometimes harassing) feminists and women in general, it’s about tearing down rather than building up.

Instead of trying to build domestic violence shelters and other services for men, for example, the MRM is more interested in defunding shelters for women – even when their efforts in this area directly harm male victims.

It’s telling that when Father’s Rights activist Glenn Sacks had an issue with the advertisements being run by one DV shelter, he encouraged his followers to bombard the shelter’s donors with phone calls in order to cripple the shelter’s fundraising efforts – even though the shelter in question also provides services for men. It’s telling as well that MRAs rail endlessly against the Violence Against Women Act, and have celebrated Republican opposition to it – even though the act is officially gender neutral in everything but its name, and would provide funding for men’s shelters if MRAs got off their asses to build any.

Instead of fighting for the rights of male victims of rape, the Men’s Rights movement is more interested in downplaying the rape of women, wildly exaggerating the number of “false rape accusations,” and in endless discussions about whether or not having sex with women incapacitated with drinks or drugs is really rape. All of these things contribute to a “rape culture” that harms male victims of rape as well as female.

Not that most MRAs actually care about male victims of rape except as a debating point — perhaps because that would require acknowledging that the overwhelming majority of their rapists are other men.  (MRAs do get outraged in the rare cases in which women are the culprits.) The group that does more than any other to fight for male rape victims is the anti-prison rape group Just Detention. Try to find even a mention of this group on any of the leading Men’s Rights sites. (The only mention of the group on AVFM is a comment in a post attacking a feminist writer noting that it isn’t part of the Men’s Rights movement.)

There are endless other examples, because this is in essence the way that the so-called “Men’s Rights” movement does business.

When you take a certain pleasure in the notion of women being “made to pay” or otherwise harmed when they seek equality, you’re about as much of a civil rights movement as the Klan.

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CassandraSays
11 years ago

So, anyway, Husky puppy…it was so fluffy! RE racoons, apparently some people keep them as pets? I can see why, since they really are cute, but they seem a bit bitey.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

Kitteh — oh good, that did make sense, one can never be quite sure when nuts (and on half as many crazy pills as I am! [memory? You needed that?])

katz — the fishies say thank you 🙂

DLColvin — I got spoiled by a local fish store with an owner who knew his shit and dealt with the deworming and whatnot before selling the fish (dude sold piranhas he’d bred, could never have them myself, but damned are the little ones cute!) and my bio-filter could grow things?! Why did I never think of this? (Ok, I did, but I’m using an enclosed canister filter, not a sump tank)

In short, totally brought this on myself not quarantining the loaches, and know it, and thus feel terrible for risking the cories. Successfully and accidentally breed cories, risk them getting worms &gtt;.<

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

Good to hear about the kitty Cassandra!

Hypotheticals are the same as conditionals now? We’re sure this isn’t Mr. “Conditionals are misandry” Al right?

mxe354
mxe354
11 years ago

Sorry Cassie, I forgot to quote you properly. I hope you can see that not all of the paragraphs in my previous comment are mine.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“Wait, so you said earlier that you don’t think men oppress women yet now you’re saying that there is some value in patriarchy theory? Do you agree or disagree with that theory? ”

I disagree with it, I never said there was any value in it. A patriarchy according to feminists is about men oppressing women. I don’t agree men oppress women.

“I get the impression that you think that the patriarchal oppression of trans* people is real.”

Oppression of trans people is real, patriarchial oppression isn’t because patriarchy theory is bunk. Men do not oppress women.

“Do you even know what the purpose of SlutWalk is? It’s a protest against victim-blaming directed at women.”

Having a good purpose does not mean a particular action will be good or helpful. I can object to victim blaming and to harmful actions like slutwalk although I am sympathetic with those who organised it and particiapated in it and do not judge them harshly for it.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“Sorry Cassie, I forgot to quote you properly. I hope you can see that not all of the paragraphs in my previous comment are mine.”

Yes I got it, thanks 🙂

mxe354
mxe354
11 years ago

I am sure my convict forefathers were very appreciative of how society was constructed so they could be put in cages in another country. I am sure all the men who have been killed in mine collapses and died choking up coal when they were lucky enough to escape a cave in would be glad to hear that. This exact argument is why class is so important. Life has been harsh and cruel to most people not just women. Men have had the priviliged position in terms of economic power yes but that does not mean this is a particularly good society for them. Society was created by those in power, those who controlled the surplus throughout history. And that wasn’t men, it was a tiny tiny tiny percentage of men. It is right there in the history books.

Your critique, while valid, only applies to non-intersectionalist feminism that ignores SES.

Oh, and men have had much more privilege than just economic power. I hope you know that.

CassandraSays
11 years ago

@ Argenti

This is like what would happen if Mr Al had a baby with Camille Paglia.

(It would have to be Mr Al who taught baby how to write. As ridiculous as Paglia can be she can construct a much tighter argument than this mess.)

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

“I am sure my convict forefathers were very appreciative of how society was constructed so they could be put in cages in another country. I am sure all the men who have been killed in mine collapses and died choking up coal when they were lucky enough to escape a cave in would be glad to hear that.”

And in those sentences you erase all the women and children who did the same work and suffered the same punishments for crimes. Yeah, great reading of history there. Or don’t your convict foremothers count? You’re also blithely indifferent to laws written specifically to control and limit women’s lives in various countries and times – laws written by men. Can you really look at societies where men wrote all the laws, where they were the rulers with power, where women were not even allowed to retain property on marriage, and claim there was no patriarchy? Gods, read a basic social history about Victorian England and you’ll see it right there.

I like the way Cassie plays her oppression cards one at a time. Mention LBGT issues? She has a reveal for that. Mention history? She has a reveal for that. Possibly quite true, but the manner of telling them is … odd.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

“By the by if you guys care about ableism why not ageism?”

Oh hey, maybe because we don’t insult or judge people solely on their age? And usually when it comes up it’s an attempt to give the person making a fool of themselves a less embarrassing out?

Cuz see, me? 27, and I know I’m not the youngest one on here (hm, I am the youngest on in this thread though huh?)

And I don’t really care your age Cassie, but you’re certainly coming off as the sort that give all young people a reputation as being hot headed know it alls.

Also, mxe is right, drop the T in GLBT, and probably the I too, you pay lip service, if you think being faab or presenting as feminine isn’t a factor in oppression, just class, you’re of no use to anyone who isn’t comfortable as their biological gender. (mxe, genderqueer/androgynous here, and I’m pissy, I can only guess how much this is pissing you off, and I’m sorry)

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“Your critique, while valid, only applies to non-intersectionalist feminism that ignores SES.

I don’t agree, any intersectional feminist I have come across still believes in the patriarchy. “Yes yes” they exclaim “men are oppressed by the ruling class but there is also the patriarchy where men oppress women, haven’t you heard of intersectionality?”

“Oh, and men have had much more privilege than just economic power. I hope you know that.”

Yes, but economic power is the main one.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

(Odd as in it doesn’t suggest a person arguing in good faith, to me.)

CassandraSays
11 years ago

@ Kittehs

Part of the reason I initially pegged Cassie as late teens/early twenties is that I’ve worked as an editor, and I’ve never seen this particular style of flailing, reactive, self-justifying mess from anyone past that age range. It’s one of the reasons that people that age are a lot of work to edit, even when they’re really smart. They take everything too personally and get distracted by the need to prove that they could not possibly have been wrong about anything.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

“Women protesting calling themselves sluts and saying this empowers them? Sorry no it doesn’t.”

+1 “does not understand slut walks” point

Cassandra — yeah, the ally failure is strong in this one. (And on that note, I’m deferring to mxe on the relationship between feminism and oppression of trans* people as I only sort of give a shit wtf gender you decide I am)

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

“Cuz see, me? 27, and I know I’m not the youngest one on here (hm, I am the youngest on in this thread though huh?)”

You just like it when the rest of us bang our walking sticks on the floor at you. 😛

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“And in those sentences you erase all the women and children who did the same work and suffered the same punishments for crimes.”

No I don’t. I can quite easily acknowledge both, however I was specifically addressing your claim that men created this society for other men. It is absurd, working class men have always been screwed over, just as working class women have been.

“You’re also blithely indifferent to laws written specifically to control and limit women’s lives in various countries and times – laws written by men.”

Written by RULING class men, which I didn’t blithely ignore but in fact mentioned! The tiny tiny tiny minority of men remember?

“Can you really look at societies where men wrote all the laws, where they were the rulers with power, where women were not even allowed to retain property on marriage, and claim there was no patriarchy?”

No, no not men, ruling class men. Working class men were the servants of dudes that had all that control.

“I like the way Cassie plays her oppression cards one at a time. Mention LBGT issues? ”

Cassandra stated that I thought I should not be consulted on LGBTI issues not LGBTI people. I am a LGBTI person, it isn’t a reveal it is a correction of someone elses ridiculous assumption.

I also object to you referring to oppression as a “card”, that does remind me strongly of what MRAs say about feminists actually.

mxe354
mxe354
11 years ago

Oppression of trans people is real, patriarchial oppression isn’t because patriarchy theory is bunk. Men do not oppress women.

Yeah, no. I disagree very strongly here. Society oppresses trans* people, especially trans* women, with its misogynist narratives, all of which arise from patriarchal norms. “Acting like a girl” was one of the worst things I could do as a “boy.” I received nothing but scorn when I expressed femininity. People had high expectations of me because I was a “boy”, and no “boy” would ever dream of the possibility of being feminine and/or female because femininity and femaleness were things to be ashamed of. I was so afraid of being “caught” liking things associated with women and girls that I myself became viciously misogynistic in order to avoid looking “inferior.” Patriarchal misogyny has affected me every single day. And frankly, as someone who has been very aware of how the patriarchy messed up my childhood and continues to be an obstacle in my current life, I find it very insulting when I hear people blindly say that patriarchy doesn’t exist.

If you want to see good evidence for the existence of patriarchy and how it affects LGBT* people, check out Bonnie Bullough and Vern L. Bullough’s book Cross-Dressing, Sex, and Gender. Another good book to check out is Julia Serano’s Whipping Girl, which is a major work in trans*-feminism.

CassandraSays
11 years ago

I’m feeling a bit congested to wave my cane around, can’t I just wave my iPod instead?

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

“People saying cruel things doesn’t make them oppressors.”

Cis men going on at length about how only this one narrow definition of rape is really rape =/= merely saying cruel things. Calling you childish? That’s saying cruel things, because, see, there’s nothing like a threat there, no self-satisfaction that if you rape someone other people will agree with hey, raping a POW is worse!

Fuck, how am I even explaining that calling one type of rape “real rape” is oppression??

Oh, I know how to make this clear (major rape trigger warning here) — so, Cassie, you like women? Well you just need a penis inserted into you in just the right manner and then you’ll be screaming the perks of heterosexuality!

…I feel dirty saying that even to make a point about corrective rape, and my apologies to every survivor here.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“Also, mxe is right, drop the T in GLBT, and probably the I too,”

This is how the trans people I know use the term and how they like me to use it as well. They would be on my ass for it if I left the T and the I off and excluded them. So I should drop it because you said so? I don’t think so!

“presenting as feminine isn’t a factor in oppression, just class, you’re of no use to anyone who isn’t comfortable as their biological gender”

I never said anything even resembling that. Enough strawmans please.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

“Can you please display some honesty it is getting boring.”

…holy shit an honest to gods example of irony!

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“Yeah, no. I disagree very strongly here. Society oppresses trans* people, especially trans* women, with its misogynist narratives, all of which arise from patriarchal norms. “Acting like a girl” was one of the worst things I could do as a “boy.””

It isn’t my intention to insult you. However I don’t agree these are patriarchial norms as I don’t believe men oppress women how this story is meant to show that men oppress women. Can you clarify further please?

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

We KNOW it was ruling class men, you moron. The point is that they made laws and had customs which hit women of all classes harder, or specifically, when they didn’t hit men. One example: You think it was men of any class who were being sentenced to death for petty treason when they killed their spouses? No, it was women. Husbands were the ones likely to literally get away with murder.

You also evidently know nothing about rape culture or any of the problems faced by women today – despite your claims to be concerned about things like the defunding of Planned Parenthood, which overwhelmingly hits women’s health – if you claim men (or rather, the patriarchal culture) don’t oppress women.

Just piss off back to your rainbow land where women don’t need feminism at all because you said so.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“so, Cassie, you like women? Well you just need a penis inserted into you in just the right manner and then you’ll be screaming the perks of heterosexuality!”

You or anyone else saying that to me is not oppressing me. It is saying nasty things to me that remind me of my vulnerabilities and the oppression I do face in society.

CassandraSays
11 years ago

Actually I feel like I just insulted Mr Al. He may be a jackass but I don’t think he would ever write anything as illiterate as “strawmans” unless he was actually trying to take the piss.

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