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A Voice for Men: we’ll support women in combat only if the proper percentage of women get killed.

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Woman officially not in combat role.

As everyone reading this blog no doubt already knows, feminists have hailed the Pentagon’s decision to open combat jobs to women, which will allow women the same opportunities to serve as men. The decision is also a backhanded acknowledgement that, for all intents and purposes, women are serving in combat today already. (Congresswoman Tammy Duckworth lost both of her legs in combat in Iraq – but officially, what she was engaged in wasn’t combat.)

It seems inevitable that, as a result of this decision, young women will be required to sign up for selective service alongside men. While virtually all feminists I know oppose the draft, most agree that as long as registration is going to be required, it should be required for both men and women. Indeed, when selective service was reinstated in 1981, the National Organization for Women brought a lawsuit demanding this sort of equality.

Reaction amongst Men’s Rightsers to the Pentagon’s announcement has been mixed. Some have welcomed the change, as a “what’s good for the goose” acknowledgement of equal rights and responsibilities. Others, like most of the regulars on The Spearhead, predict catastrophe, as inherently unqualified women are sent to the front lines. Regular Spearhead commenter Uncle Elmer joked:

After this experiment runs its course, how many men will have died while bringing tampon supplies up to the front?

Can anyone tell me the additional garbage load from tampon-related issues on all-women submarines? Could a mission fail if some gal flushed her tampon down the toilet instead of following the proper mil-spec procedure?

But the most telling reaction has come from A Voice for Men, which in an editorial suggested that it would only support the move if women were required to die as often as men.

No, really. Here’s what the editorialist, presumably site founder Paul Elam, wrote:

AVFM supports the spirit of the new Pentagon Directive …  However, any blanket approval of the new measure thus far would be premature. …

[T]he only way this new policy will have any meaning will be if it is mandatory that women face combat on the front lines. With 20% of the military being comprised of women, that means roughly 20% of combat related fatalities should be female. 1 in 5 of body bags being filled overseas should contain the bodies of mothers, sisters, daughters, wives and girlfriends.

AVFM isn’t alone in hoping that one result of the Pentagon’s new policy will be increased injury and death for women. On his blog the self-designated “counter-feminist agent of change” Fidelbogen quoted – with a weird sort of semi-approval – one comment from an unknown person he says he found online:

I know this isn’t a laughing matter but this is pretty fucking sweet. Now those very same women who complain about how hard childbirth is get to experience real pain and misery by getting their arms blown off by enemy fire or their legs blown off by mines. Or getting infections when they have to stay at their post for days at a time without taking a bath. Those same women who say all men are rapists can now see what real rape is when they are taken as POW’s and gang-raped by foreign men at gun point and passed around like a piece of meat and then their heads blown off when they are done. This is real war ladies, are you ready for your cup of true equality?

In the comments on AVFM, meanwhile one Rick Westlake helped to make clearer the vindictive subtext of the AVFM’s editorial, suggesting that the Pentagon’s decision could be good for men if it served to

rub …  some high-ratcheted, ‘entitled/empowered’ noses in the misandric, disposable-male double standard of the Selective Service system.

Our current society, including our military, makes mock of ‘equality’ by divorcing ‘opportunity’ from ‘consequences,’ ‘choices’ from ‘costs,’ and ‘benefits’ from ‘responsibility.’ Princesses are awarded all of the opportunities, choices and benefits and are excused from all the responsibility, costs and consequences. ‘Draft-pigs,’ meaning men, are made to shoulder all those dirty, nasty, dangerous and demeaning responsibilities, consequences and costs on behalf of the Entitled Empowered Princesses.

Putting women on the combat line would be disastrous for the military … But the fact remains, enough Princesses have clamored for the ‘opportunities and benefits’ of serving in the front line, heedless of the consequences and the costs.

By requiring Princesses to register for Selective Service, before they can claim the benefits that ‘draft-pigs’ can only receive if they’ve registered – and by declaring them liable for the same fines and penalties as the draft-pigs, if they don’t – we at least remind them that freedom isn’t free, that choices have costs, and that true equality includes responsibility and consequences.

I can already hear the thin, reedy screeches from the Princesses. Fine. Let them learn what it is to hump 35-pound fifty-cal ammo cans to feed Ma Deuce in a firefight. Or let them scuttle back to the home and the hearth, and give thanks for (and to) the Brave Men who will defend them.

Elam himself echoed this vindictive “let them eat equality” stance in a sneering comment posted under his own name suggesting that in the wake of the Pentagon’s new policy plenty of women won’t find the “aroma” of equality to

be so sweet … This is what feminism was always about, and now, after three waves, the chickens are going to come home to roost. Because feminism never was about anything but creating tax paying, laboring, consuming, bleeding and dying servants to the masters of corporatocracy.

They lured women in with visions of corner offices and autonomy, and now that they have fully taken the bait, the doors are going to be slammed behind them and locked. They will be left to languish in their “freedom” as corporate wage slaves, and when needed they will be forced to contribute to the rivers of blood required to keep it going.

NOW and others will likely succeed in keeping the last part “optional” for while, but it won’t last.

The grand daughters of today’s college woman is as fucked as any man in history.

To which every feminist I know would say: bring it on. Feminists are well aware that equality, along with its many benefits, brings certain costs.  Putting more women into combat roles means, inevitably, that more women will be injured or killed. The feminists supporting the Pentagon’s decision are aware of this. Unlike many MRAs, though, they look at combat injuries and deaths as one of the sad but inevitable consequences of war — not as something to rub anyone’s face into.

Here’s a hint to any MRAs who think that either AVFM or the more blatantly sadistic commenter quoted by Fidelbogen has a point: Civil Rights activism is about uplifting everyone, not making others “pay.”

When the American civil rights movement took up the issue of voting rights, civil rights activists demanded that black people be allowed to vote without harassment or other obstacles like “literacy tests” standing in their way.

Civil rights activists didn’t demand that whites be kept from voting.

The Civil Rights movement called for historically all-white colleges to be opened up to blacks. It didn’t call for white people to be banned from these colleges too.

This is how you can tell that the Men’s Rights movement, as it stands today, is not a true civil rights movement. Because insofar as it is about anything other than complaining about (and sometimes harassing) feminists and women in general, it’s about tearing down rather than building up.

Instead of trying to build domestic violence shelters and other services for men, for example, the MRM is more interested in defunding shelters for women – even when their efforts in this area directly harm male victims.

It’s telling that when Father’s Rights activist Glenn Sacks had an issue with the advertisements being run by one DV shelter, he encouraged his followers to bombard the shelter’s donors with phone calls in order to cripple the shelter’s fundraising efforts – even though the shelter in question also provides services for men. It’s telling as well that MRAs rail endlessly against the Violence Against Women Act, and have celebrated Republican opposition to it – even though the act is officially gender neutral in everything but its name, and would provide funding for men’s shelters if MRAs got off their asses to build any.

Instead of fighting for the rights of male victims of rape, the Men’s Rights movement is more interested in downplaying the rape of women, wildly exaggerating the number of “false rape accusations,” and in endless discussions about whether or not having sex with women incapacitated with drinks or drugs is really rape. All of these things contribute to a “rape culture” that harms male victims of rape as well as female.

Not that most MRAs actually care about male victims of rape except as a debating point — perhaps because that would require acknowledging that the overwhelming majority of their rapists are other men.  (MRAs do get outraged in the rare cases in which women are the culprits.) The group that does more than any other to fight for male rape victims is the anti-prison rape group Just Detention. Try to find even a mention of this group on any of the leading Men’s Rights sites. (The only mention of the group on AVFM is a comment in a post attacking a feminist writer noting that it isn’t part of the Men’s Rights movement.)

There are endless other examples, because this is in essence the way that the so-called “Men’s Rights” movement does business.

When you take a certain pleasure in the notion of women being “made to pay” or otherwise harmed when they seek equality, you’re about as much of a civil rights movement as the Klan.

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Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“Sounds like you don’t think feminism is important, eh?”

I think it has played an important role for women throughout history and has some role today but often I think it is misguided and ultimately damaging to the cause as well.

” If you don’t call yourself a feminist yet claim to care about women’s concerns”

Feminists often think they have the monopoly on pushing for gender equality, this is absurd, there are 100s if not more ideologies that are involved with pushing for gender equality and have different philosophies and approaches on how to achieve that. For example socialism! It provides an excellent basis in which to understand the world and understand how to change it.

” you’re either too fucking young AND stupid to know what the word means”,

My age seems to come up a lot and yet no one here knows it. Please continue to speculate though it is quite amusing.

“or you’re a hypocrite or coward who doesn’t want to be identified with the big scary feminists.”

Nope, I don’t believe in patriarchy theory, I don’t believe men oppress women. So I don’t call myself a feminist. Cowardice lol try defending palestine in a zionist world then we can talk about cowardice.

CassandraSays
11 years ago

What have the poor Palestinians ever done to deserve such idiotic “supporters”?

cloudiah
11 years ago

katz, I thought you had actual real puppies. 🙁 I would travel long distances for puppies.

Try defending a Palestinian woman in a Zionist or any fucking world, then we can talk about fucking cowardice. This isn’t hard. Any moral human can get it.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“Try defending a Palestinian woman in a Zionist or any fucking world, then we can talk about fucking cowardice.”

Ok, I have, what did you want to talk to in regards to “fucking cowardice”?

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

Guess what, dipshit – feminism isn’t monolithic, there are many shades and different ideas within it. But at base, if you think women are people and should have equal rights and opportunities as men, then that’s feminism, and you can’t pretend otherwise.

“Don’t believe in patriarchy theory” – riiight, so you don’t actually look around at the structures of societies through history. Good one.

You know why your age comes up a lot? Because you come off like a kid of about seventeen who thinks she’s fucking the God Almighty of knowledge while having precious little to back it up. You read like the counterpart of all those little tossers who come on here after reading Atlas Shrugged and think they know everything – and have to make everything about them.

CassandraSays
11 years ago

Also loling at “throughout history”. Seneca Falls is usually recognized as when feminism officially got started, and that was in 1848. From a “throughout history” perspective that’s the blink of an eye ago.

CassandraSays
11 years ago

Back to the far more interesting puppy derail – you guys, the other day Mr C and I were sitting outside the coffee shop and we saw a baby Husky. It was just learning how to walk on a leash and was taking its person on a walk/run! So cute.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

Aother page of comments!

“Don’t remind me about bubonic plague, please. Some of the wildlife here carries it. One women got it from a squirrel bite about 10-20 years back.”

Meep, sorry, didn’t realize you were out that way!

mxe354
mxe354
11 years ago

Nope, I don’t believe in patriarchy theory, I don’t believe men oppress women.

So you don’t believe in patriarchy theory yet you claim to support LGBT* people.

Okay then. All I can say is that anyone who thinks that patriarchy doesn’t exist and wants to rid society of the oppression of LGBT* people is of no help to LGBT* people. At least not to transsexual folks like me, whose lives have been profoundly affected by patriarchal misogyny.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

“Secondly “MRAs and other oppressors” I am sure I didn’t phrase it this way as I don’t consider MRAs to be oppressors”

And I am now officially done giving a shit wtf Cassie says! Go read the goddamned original post Cassie!

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

“I think it has played an important role for women throughout history and has some role today but often I think it is misguided and ultimately damaging to the cause as well.”

So women mustn’t have their own concerns front and centre, ever. If that’s not what you’re saying you’d better fuckingwell clarify. Right now you’re sounding like rather more than half the human species is less important than the other. And what is this precious “cause” that feminism mustn’t get in the way of?

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“Guess what, dipshit – feminism isn’t monolithic, there are many shades and different ideas within it”

Yes I definitely agree with this, which is why I was puzzled when you said “you’re either too fucking young AND stupid to know what the word means,”. There is no one meaning to the word/term feminism!

“But at base, if you think women are people and should have equal rights and opportunities as men, then that’s feminism, and you can’t pretend otherwise.”

I don’t really want to get into an argument about what the term feminism means, it is a bore. I will tell you however the way in which I use it. I use it to describe people calling themselves feminists who think men oppress women and there is a conspiracy called the patriarchy.

I think it is a bit dishonest to insist someone is a feminist because they support women’s rights, however if that is all you mean by the term I am cool with it and it fits me.

““Don’t believe in patriarchy theory” – riiight, so you don’t actually look around at the structures of societies through history. Good one. ”

Ah, I think you are committing an equivocation fallacy, in terms of feminism patriarchy means men organise society to benefit men and oppress women. The way you seem to be using it now is to mean that there were patriarchial elements in society in the way that children got their fathers surname that kinda thing. Which I agree with, but that is patriarchy not patriarchy theory which is a feminist theory.

“You know why your age comes up a lot? Because you come off like a kid of about seventeen who thinks she’s fucking the God Almighty of knowledge while having precious little to back it up.”

Yes, people become hostile when their ideas are challenged and the challenger does not back down. I don’t think that is a bad reflection on me so much as just normal human behaviour. By the by if you guys care about ableism why not ageism?

“and have to make everything about them.”

You are the ones calling me dumb, immature, a box of hair, a teenager, an adolescent, a parrot and whatever else. I think it is you making it about me. I just wanted to discuss the issues.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“Okay then. All I can say is that anyone who thinks that patriarchy doesn’t exist and wants to rid society of the oppression of LGBT* people is of no help to LGBT* people. At least not to transsexual folks like me, whose lives have been profoundly affected by patriarchal misogyny.”

That is a very black and white thing to say, I disagree with feminists and anarchists and a million other ideologies but I don’t think they are useless, I think they all have something to offer and we should work together. Sectarianism never did the left any good.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

Husky puppies? Husky puppies!

http://youtu.be/If2FqBH7ht8

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

“I saw a family of racoons one night when I was taking out the trash. They were very cute, but no amount of cute is worth getting the plague.”

They really are adorable, but this is an entirely true statement.

I had one nearly walk into me on my way home from work one day, poor thing had gotten its head stuck in a can! So I removed the can, it looked up at me, paused a second, and ran off at lightening speed. I was living with the last abusive ex at the time, he thought it emmensely stupid that I didn’t ignore it since it was out in day time and thus had to be rabid! (Yeah ok dude, e bag of cans was obviously right next to the barely enclosed under porch and probably smelt delicious)

Opposums are just freaky though.

CassandraSays
11 years ago

TLDR for anyone coming in late – Cassie has Issues with feminism (but any other identity-based movement is fine as long as it takes a back seat to socialism), wanks on for hundreds of comments because she isn’t willing to admit that her first few comments were pretty silly.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“So women mustn’t have their own concerns front and centre, ever. If that’s not what you’re saying you’d better fuckingwell clarify. ”

This is a common criticism of socialism. One that doesn’t fit, women can certainly have their concerns front and centre, however I disagree feminism is the best way to do that. Women protesting calling themselves sluts and saying this empowers them? Sorry no it doesn’t.

“Right now you’re sounding like rather more than half the human species is less important than the other. And what is this precious “cause” that feminism mustn’t get in the way of?”

The cause of course is women’s liberation!

CassandraSays
11 years ago

Update! If you want to know what would be most helpful to LGBT people, definitely don’t ask an LGBT person. Ask Cassie instead.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

Wrong, dipshit. The naming is just part of the partriarchal structures, which yes, exist through history and very different cultures and are organised for the benefit of men. That’s precisely what I’m talking about when I say you haven’t looked and know nothing about history. One doesn’t have to indulge in theories to see that. It’s right there in the history books.

Oh, and you can keep the Oh-I’m-such-a-genius-radical-the-mob-hates-me tripe to yourself. It’s also very typical of the underage trolls we get here. Your ideas are garbage and have no facts to back them up; you shift the goalposts and contradict yourself and started all this by fixating on a nonexistent problem, ignoring the substance of the article.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“Update! If you want to know what would be most helpful to LGBT people, definitely don’t ask an LGBT person. Ask Cassie instead.”

I am LGBTI genius. So many assumptions, how do you manage to fit them all into your head?

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“And I am now officially done giving a shit wtf Cassie says! Go read the goddamned original post Cassie!”

People saying cruel things doesn’t make them oppressors.

CassandraSays
11 years ago

Another update! The only LGBT person whose opinion counts is Cassie, the rest of us can all go piss up a rope.

CassandraSays
11 years ago

I’d call most MRAs wannabe oppressors, actually. The basis of their movement seems to be rage that the universe has failed to give them each at least one woman to oppress.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“Wrong, dipshit. The naming is just part of the partriarchal structures, which yes, exist through history and very different cultures and are organised for the benefit of men. That’s precisely what I’m talking about when I say you haven’t looked and know nothing about history. One doesn’t have to indulge in theories to see that. It’s right there in the history books.”

I am sure my convict forefathers were very appreciative of how society was constructed so they could be put in cages in another country. I am sure all the men who have been killed in mine collapses and died choking up coal when they were lucky enough to escape a cave in would be glad to hear that. This exact argument is why class is so important. Life has been harsh and cruel to most people not just women. Men have had the priviliged position in terms of economic power yes but that does not mean this is a particularly good society for them. Society was created by those in power, those who controlled the surplus throughout history. And that wasn’t men, it was a tiny tiny tiny percentage of men. It is right there in the history books.

“Oh, and you can keep the Oh-I’m-such-a-genius-radical-the-mob-hates-me tripe to yourself.”

Another strawman I never stated anything of the sort. What I did state was if you put someone in a room with a bunch of people who disagree with them about anything they are going to lash out, it is all part of the clique mentality, it seems quite normal to humans. I mentioned nothing about being a genius or a radical or any such thing. Can you please display some honesty it is getting boring.

mxe354
mxe354
11 years ago

That is a very black and white thing to say, I disagree with feminists and anarchists and a million other ideologies but I don’t think they are useless, I think they all have something to offer and we should work together. Sectarianism never did the left any good.
Wait, so you said earlier that you don’t think men oppress women yet now you’re saying that there is some value in patriarchy theory? Do you agree or disagree with that theory? I get the impression that you think that the patriarchal oppression of trans* people is real. If you truly believe that, then why are you disagreeing with patriarchy theory? The theory that trans* people are oppressed by the patriarchy makes no sense if patriarchy theory is out of the picture.

You aren’t being clear at all.

Women protesting calling themselves sluts and saying this empowers them? Sorry no it doesn’t.
Do you even know what the purpose of SlutWalk is? It’s a protest against victim-blaming directed at women.

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