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A Voice for Men: we’ll support women in combat only if the proper percentage of women get killed.

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Woman officially not in combat role.

As everyone reading this blog no doubt already knows, feminists have hailed the Pentagon’s decision to open combat jobs to women, which will allow women the same opportunities to serve as men. The decision is also a backhanded acknowledgement that, for all intents and purposes, women are serving in combat today already. (Congresswoman Tammy Duckworth lost both of her legs in combat in Iraq – but officially, what she was engaged in wasn’t combat.)

It seems inevitable that, as a result of this decision, young women will be required to sign up for selective service alongside men. While virtually all feminists I know oppose the draft, most agree that as long as registration is going to be required, it should be required for both men and women. Indeed, when selective service was reinstated in 1981, the National Organization for Women brought a lawsuit demanding this sort of equality.

Reaction amongst Men’s Rightsers to the Pentagon’s announcement has been mixed. Some have welcomed the change, as a “what’s good for the goose” acknowledgement of equal rights and responsibilities. Others, like most of the regulars on The Spearhead, predict catastrophe, as inherently unqualified women are sent to the front lines. Regular Spearhead commenter Uncle Elmer joked:

After this experiment runs its course, how many men will have died while bringing tampon supplies up to the front?

Can anyone tell me the additional garbage load from tampon-related issues on all-women submarines? Could a mission fail if some gal flushed her tampon down the toilet instead of following the proper mil-spec procedure?

But the most telling reaction has come from A Voice for Men, which in an editorial suggested that it would only support the move if women were required to die as often as men.

No, really. Here’s what the editorialist, presumably site founder Paul Elam, wrote:

AVFM supports the spirit of the new Pentagon Directive …  However, any blanket approval of the new measure thus far would be premature. …

[T]he only way this new policy will have any meaning will be if it is mandatory that women face combat on the front lines. With 20% of the military being comprised of women, that means roughly 20% of combat related fatalities should be female. 1 in 5 of body bags being filled overseas should contain the bodies of mothers, sisters, daughters, wives and girlfriends.

AVFM isn’t alone in hoping that one result of the Pentagon’s new policy will be increased injury and death for women. On his blog the self-designated “counter-feminist agent of change” Fidelbogen quoted – with a weird sort of semi-approval – one comment from an unknown person he says he found online:

I know this isn’t a laughing matter but this is pretty fucking sweet. Now those very same women who complain about how hard childbirth is get to experience real pain and misery by getting their arms blown off by enemy fire or their legs blown off by mines. Or getting infections when they have to stay at their post for days at a time without taking a bath. Those same women who say all men are rapists can now see what real rape is when they are taken as POW’s and gang-raped by foreign men at gun point and passed around like a piece of meat and then their heads blown off when they are done. This is real war ladies, are you ready for your cup of true equality?

In the comments on AVFM, meanwhile one Rick Westlake helped to make clearer the vindictive subtext of the AVFM’s editorial, suggesting that the Pentagon’s decision could be good for men if it served to

rub …  some high-ratcheted, ‘entitled/empowered’ noses in the misandric, disposable-male double standard of the Selective Service system.

Our current society, including our military, makes mock of ‘equality’ by divorcing ‘opportunity’ from ‘consequences,’ ‘choices’ from ‘costs,’ and ‘benefits’ from ‘responsibility.’ Princesses are awarded all of the opportunities, choices and benefits and are excused from all the responsibility, costs and consequences. ‘Draft-pigs,’ meaning men, are made to shoulder all those dirty, nasty, dangerous and demeaning responsibilities, consequences and costs on behalf of the Entitled Empowered Princesses.

Putting women on the combat line would be disastrous for the military … But the fact remains, enough Princesses have clamored for the ‘opportunities and benefits’ of serving in the front line, heedless of the consequences and the costs.

By requiring Princesses to register for Selective Service, before they can claim the benefits that ‘draft-pigs’ can only receive if they’ve registered – and by declaring them liable for the same fines and penalties as the draft-pigs, if they don’t – we at least remind them that freedom isn’t free, that choices have costs, and that true equality includes responsibility and consequences.

I can already hear the thin, reedy screeches from the Princesses. Fine. Let them learn what it is to hump 35-pound fifty-cal ammo cans to feed Ma Deuce in a firefight. Or let them scuttle back to the home and the hearth, and give thanks for (and to) the Brave Men who will defend them.

Elam himself echoed this vindictive “let them eat equality” stance in a sneering comment posted under his own name suggesting that in the wake of the Pentagon’s new policy plenty of women won’t find the “aroma” of equality to

be so sweet … This is what feminism was always about, and now, after three waves, the chickens are going to come home to roost. Because feminism never was about anything but creating tax paying, laboring, consuming, bleeding and dying servants to the masters of corporatocracy.

They lured women in with visions of corner offices and autonomy, and now that they have fully taken the bait, the doors are going to be slammed behind them and locked. They will be left to languish in their “freedom” as corporate wage slaves, and when needed they will be forced to contribute to the rivers of blood required to keep it going.

NOW and others will likely succeed in keeping the last part “optional” for while, but it won’t last.

The grand daughters of today’s college woman is as fucked as any man in history.

To which every feminist I know would say: bring it on. Feminists are well aware that equality, along with its many benefits, brings certain costs.  Putting more women into combat roles means, inevitably, that more women will be injured or killed. The feminists supporting the Pentagon’s decision are aware of this. Unlike many MRAs, though, they look at combat injuries and deaths as one of the sad but inevitable consequences of war — not as something to rub anyone’s face into.

Here’s a hint to any MRAs who think that either AVFM or the more blatantly sadistic commenter quoted by Fidelbogen has a point: Civil Rights activism is about uplifting everyone, not making others “pay.”

When the American civil rights movement took up the issue of voting rights, civil rights activists demanded that black people be allowed to vote without harassment or other obstacles like “literacy tests” standing in their way.

Civil rights activists didn’t demand that whites be kept from voting.

The Civil Rights movement called for historically all-white colleges to be opened up to blacks. It didn’t call for white people to be banned from these colleges too.

This is how you can tell that the Men’s Rights movement, as it stands today, is not a true civil rights movement. Because insofar as it is about anything other than complaining about (and sometimes harassing) feminists and women in general, it’s about tearing down rather than building up.

Instead of trying to build domestic violence shelters and other services for men, for example, the MRM is more interested in defunding shelters for women – even when their efforts in this area directly harm male victims.

It’s telling that when Father’s Rights activist Glenn Sacks had an issue with the advertisements being run by one DV shelter, he encouraged his followers to bombard the shelter’s donors with phone calls in order to cripple the shelter’s fundraising efforts – even though the shelter in question also provides services for men. It’s telling as well that MRAs rail endlessly against the Violence Against Women Act, and have celebrated Republican opposition to it – even though the act is officially gender neutral in everything but its name, and would provide funding for men’s shelters if MRAs got off their asses to build any.

Instead of fighting for the rights of male victims of rape, the Men’s Rights movement is more interested in downplaying the rape of women, wildly exaggerating the number of “false rape accusations,” and in endless discussions about whether or not having sex with women incapacitated with drinks or drugs is really rape. All of these things contribute to a “rape culture” that harms male victims of rape as well as female.

Not that most MRAs actually care about male victims of rape except as a debating point — perhaps because that would require acknowledging that the overwhelming majority of their rapists are other men.  (MRAs do get outraged in the rare cases in which women are the culprits.) The group that does more than any other to fight for male rape victims is the anti-prison rape group Just Detention. Try to find even a mention of this group on any of the leading Men’s Rights sites. (The only mention of the group on AVFM is a comment in a post attacking a feminist writer noting that it isn’t part of the Men’s Rights movement.)

There are endless other examples, because this is in essence the way that the so-called “Men’s Rights” movement does business.

When you take a certain pleasure in the notion of women being “made to pay” or otherwise harmed when they seek equality, you’re about as much of a civil rights movement as the Klan.

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Kim
Kim
11 years ago

OT but thought I’d let you know about the ex cyclone that’s hit Queensland. My town has lost power which ironically also means no water since everyone here is on tank water and uses pumps. It’s really raining. In Gladstone they’ve had over 1000mm!! There’s going to be a lot of flooding.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“We’ve spent five pages talking about wtf you want to talk about, ostensibly regarding the draft, and you haven’t dissected the issues in the slightest.”

No, I agree I didn’t discuss any issues to do with oppression, I was trying not to go too political as a massive argument about intersectionality and patriarchy theory…just doesn’t appeal. Here we are anyway…

However I do stand by my original argument. I don’t think discussion of oppression is necessary for it to stand.

cloudiah
11 years ago

People do eat puffins. If you have access to a library that subscribes to Granta, check out Sean French’s First Catch Your Puffin in issue #52.

Puffins are too damn cute to eat, is my position and I’m sticking to it.

cloudiah
11 years ago

Kim, stay safe!

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

“My dissection of the issues around the draft? I haven’t dissected the issues in the slightest.”

That does not say jack shit about the latest derail regarding oppression. That says, in exactly so many words, that you have not dissected the issues around the draft, which was your original topic.

Fuck, which is THE topic of the goddamned thread.

Kim — that sucks, good luck to you and the rest of the region!

cloudiah
11 years ago

Argenti, no worries, you can use gender neutral pronouns for me or standard feminine ones.

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
11 years ago

@Kim I hope you and yours are okay.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“That does not say jack shit about the latest derail regarding oppression. That says, in exactly so many words, that you have not dissected the issues around the draft”

When i stated that I had not dissected issues around the draft I meant in terms of oppression. I did however put forth an argument in regards to registering for the draft.

CassandraSays
11 years ago

Keep us posted, Kim!

I’m not even getting into the idea that socialism without intersectionality is worth defending. If you’re willing to sideline any issue that doesn’t affect straight white guys, sure, but if that’s the decision you’ve made then don’t be too surprised when everyone else decides not to support your organization.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

cloudiah — totally agreed that they’re just too damned cute! And eating loaches seems like a terrible idea, like most wild fish they can carry worms that can infect humans (or my entire tank, can’t wait to have to catch two loaches and cross my fingers that the rest of the tank isn’t infected)

Yeah, anyone have opinions on whether I should dose the entire 55g, which is easier math on the dosage, but risker in that I can’t do an emergency water change all that fast if needed; or use a hospital tank, with harder dosing math and the risk that the big tank is infected in general, but with a solid backup plan if the loaches react badly?

I’m thinking I should risk the whole tank being infected as I ordered enough dewormer to treat it and the tiny tank if needed, but am really worried about dosing all the cories, they’re only like 4 months old, they aren’t babies, but they aren’t mature either.

I just have to keep wild caught fish…why the fuck didn’t I isolate them… >.<

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
11 years ago

@Argenti, I only keep goldfish plus cold water plecos in the one tank. I’ve read up on this when I was buying new fish and the consensus seemed to be that having a separate hospital tank is best.

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
11 years ago

All the cats are now barred from fluid and food because one is going in for a brochoalveolar lavage tomorrow. I’ve managed to unthink about him dying from the procedure, now I’m back to worrying that it is cancer. 🙁

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

cloudiah — kk, thanks for answering that for probably the third time now!

Cassie — you really didn’t — you gave a bunch of side topics about specific wars, and numbers of troops and completely irrelevant things like a war in the country with the draft. Which, as Cassandra said about my father’s idiocy, isn’t going to happen. You gave nothing like support for your original claim, which, if you’ve forgotten, was that feminists are just like MRAs and other oppressors if we say that the draft should apply to everyone, because it should just be done away with.

When, oh yeah, the odds of the US ever having a draft are less than the odds of various nasty things (guys, should I pull out TB stats again? Current flu deaths in the US?)

All of this, btw, is nitpicking over one statement in the original post while ignoring that MRAs are going into how women should be raped as POWs in disgustingly graphic detail. Pardon us if we’re more outraged by that than inclined to debate in depth over whether the draft (a thing that is highly unlikely to ever exist again) should exist.

Honestly, there’d be more point to debating whether it’s demeaning if cats should get lion cuts when they aren’t medically needed, or needed because of grooming issues. Because see, lion cuts? Those actually happen, the draft isn’t ever going to happen.

Frankly? As an American? You’re really coming off as an outsider know it all that’d be verging on colonialism is the US wasn’t a global superpower (with a volunteer military!). Whether our military should be smaller is really a topic for another day, like, two days ago, on another thread, we totally just did this.

Seriously, fucking no one in the US, who isn’t wearing a tinfoil hat, gives a shit about the fact the draft was never completely outlawed, because it might as well have been. In any case, the draft, in toto, is a complete side topic to the topic of women serving in combat.

Things I never thought I’d say, but can we get back to the MRM’s rape fantasies?

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

Kim, stay safe! My sister and BiL arrived in Queensland yest, moving back there. Pissing down most of the way from northern NSW. Sister mentioned that a lot of places in the low-lying land round Gladstone are in danger when the dams have to be opened – she reckons people were warned against building there, but didn’t listen (she and BiL lived in Gladstone and MacKay for over a decade).

Argenti – “I do have coffee that’ll put hair on your chest though (with hazelnut creamer, whipped cream and cinnamon). Coffee anyone?”

I think I’ll pass if it’s that strong … hair on the chest wouldn’t go with my clothes and if Mr K has some secret fetish for that kind of thing I’d rather not find out. 😉

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“I’m not even getting into the idea that socialism without intersectionality is worth defending. If you’re willing to sideline any issue that doesn’t affect straight white guys, sure,”

You are assuming that intersectionality is the only concept that engages with the existence of different types of oppression within society. This is incorrect. Try reading a book that doesn’t say feminism on it in big letters.

The focal issues for my organisation are palestinian rights, indigenous rights and LGBTI rights and of course workers rights. Nothing about straigh white guys at all.

CassandraSays
11 years ago

My favorite attempt at justification was the argument that what if a country doesn’t have enough men to fight in a war and therefore allowing women to be drafted might raise the body count? When someone has reached the point of saying stuff like that, they’re firmly in “I don’t care about the issues, I just refuse to lose this argument” mode.

CassandraSays
11 years ago

Intersectionality is about a lot more than just gender, sweetie. Did you decide that you needed to show the few parts of your ass that you hadn’t put on display yet?

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

Aww Kiwi Girl, best of luck with your babies!

And yeah, in general I know, and use, a hospital tank — but who the fuck expects multiple fish to have worms?! Someone with a sub-par fish store…which happens to be the only local one that isn’t a chain with seriously questionable ethics…

I miss the local guy in Pittsburgh, he knew his shit.

Complaining aside, yeah, hospital tank it is, at least as a first line attempt at solving this, no point risking the others be exposed to the dewormer if not needed (particularly as this shit isn’t fish specific)

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“My favorite attempt at justification was the argument that what if a country doesn’t have enough men to fight in a war and therefore allowing women to be drafted might raise the body count? ”

Again I never used that example as a supporting argument I used it to show that one could think it is possible that adding women to the draft could alter the body count without thinking women are incompetent soldiers. Since this is about the fith time I have explained that I must ask the question. Are you thick or is this just that making fun of me thing you mentioned earlier?

cloudiah
11 years ago

“Identity politics” apparently means any identity except class identity is unimportant and irrelevant. This is such an outdated notion! (However to a minority of USian socialist groups, this is possibly true.)

Good night, all! (This is not the same as “tata” as in “I am not coming back.”)

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

Kiwi girl, total hugs for you and scritches for your kitties, I’ll be thinking about you.

CassandraSays
11 years ago

LOL at the person who doesn’t understand that intersectionality is about race and sexuality as well as gender calling other people stupid.

I think I’m going to join you, cloudiah. There’s only so much clueless I can deal with in one day.

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
11 years ago

Thanks, I’m going to go off now and throw myself into watching a DVD.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

“I think I’ll pass if it’s that strong … hair on the chest wouldn’t go with my clothes and if Mr K has some secret fetish for that kind of thing I’d rather not find out.”

Lol, he might, not like women shaving was a thing in his era! Want some whipped cream then?

Cassandra — yeah I just don’t even know what to say to that. The only way that could ever work, aside from “women are worse at combat”, would be an invasion. Except you’re very right, the risk of the plague is higher than that (in the US, and yes I do mean The Plague)

CassandraSays
11 years ago

Don’t remind me about bubonic plague, please. Some of the wildlife here carries it. One women got it from a squirrel bite about 10-20 years back.

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