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A Voice for Men: we’ll support women in combat only if the proper percentage of women get killed.

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Woman officially not in combat role.

As everyone reading this blog no doubt already knows, feminists have hailed the Pentagon’s decision to open combat jobs to women, which will allow women the same opportunities to serve as men. The decision is also a backhanded acknowledgement that, for all intents and purposes, women are serving in combat today already. (Congresswoman Tammy Duckworth lost both of her legs in combat in Iraq – but officially, what she was engaged in wasn’t combat.)

It seems inevitable that, as a result of this decision, young women will be required to sign up for selective service alongside men. While virtually all feminists I know oppose the draft, most agree that as long as registration is going to be required, it should be required for both men and women. Indeed, when selective service was reinstated in 1981, the National Organization for Women brought a lawsuit demanding this sort of equality.

Reaction amongst Men’s Rightsers to the Pentagon’s announcement has been mixed. Some have welcomed the change, as a “what’s good for the goose” acknowledgement of equal rights and responsibilities. Others, like most of the regulars on The Spearhead, predict catastrophe, as inherently unqualified women are sent to the front lines. Regular Spearhead commenter Uncle Elmer joked:

After this experiment runs its course, how many men will have died while bringing tampon supplies up to the front?

Can anyone tell me the additional garbage load from tampon-related issues on all-women submarines? Could a mission fail if some gal flushed her tampon down the toilet instead of following the proper mil-spec procedure?

But the most telling reaction has come from A Voice for Men, which in an editorial suggested that it would only support the move if women were required to die as often as men.

No, really. Here’s what the editorialist, presumably site founder Paul Elam, wrote:

AVFM supports the spirit of the new Pentagon Directive …  However, any blanket approval of the new measure thus far would be premature. …

[T]he only way this new policy will have any meaning will be if it is mandatory that women face combat on the front lines. With 20% of the military being comprised of women, that means roughly 20% of combat related fatalities should be female. 1 in 5 of body bags being filled overseas should contain the bodies of mothers, sisters, daughters, wives and girlfriends.

AVFM isn’t alone in hoping that one result of the Pentagon’s new policy will be increased injury and death for women. On his blog the self-designated “counter-feminist agent of change” Fidelbogen quoted – with a weird sort of semi-approval – one comment from an unknown person he says he found online:

I know this isn’t a laughing matter but this is pretty fucking sweet. Now those very same women who complain about how hard childbirth is get to experience real pain and misery by getting their arms blown off by enemy fire or their legs blown off by mines. Or getting infections when they have to stay at their post for days at a time without taking a bath. Those same women who say all men are rapists can now see what real rape is when they are taken as POW’s and gang-raped by foreign men at gun point and passed around like a piece of meat and then their heads blown off when they are done. This is real war ladies, are you ready for your cup of true equality?

In the comments on AVFM, meanwhile one Rick Westlake helped to make clearer the vindictive subtext of the AVFM’s editorial, suggesting that the Pentagon’s decision could be good for men if it served to

rub …  some high-ratcheted, ‘entitled/empowered’ noses in the misandric, disposable-male double standard of the Selective Service system.

Our current society, including our military, makes mock of ‘equality’ by divorcing ‘opportunity’ from ‘consequences,’ ‘choices’ from ‘costs,’ and ‘benefits’ from ‘responsibility.’ Princesses are awarded all of the opportunities, choices and benefits and are excused from all the responsibility, costs and consequences. ‘Draft-pigs,’ meaning men, are made to shoulder all those dirty, nasty, dangerous and demeaning responsibilities, consequences and costs on behalf of the Entitled Empowered Princesses.

Putting women on the combat line would be disastrous for the military … But the fact remains, enough Princesses have clamored for the ‘opportunities and benefits’ of serving in the front line, heedless of the consequences and the costs.

By requiring Princesses to register for Selective Service, before they can claim the benefits that ‘draft-pigs’ can only receive if they’ve registered – and by declaring them liable for the same fines and penalties as the draft-pigs, if they don’t – we at least remind them that freedom isn’t free, that choices have costs, and that true equality includes responsibility and consequences.

I can already hear the thin, reedy screeches from the Princesses. Fine. Let them learn what it is to hump 35-pound fifty-cal ammo cans to feed Ma Deuce in a firefight. Or let them scuttle back to the home and the hearth, and give thanks for (and to) the Brave Men who will defend them.

Elam himself echoed this vindictive “let them eat equality” stance in a sneering comment posted under his own name suggesting that in the wake of the Pentagon’s new policy plenty of women won’t find the “aroma” of equality to

be so sweet … This is what feminism was always about, and now, after three waves, the chickens are going to come home to roost. Because feminism never was about anything but creating tax paying, laboring, consuming, bleeding and dying servants to the masters of corporatocracy.

They lured women in with visions of corner offices and autonomy, and now that they have fully taken the bait, the doors are going to be slammed behind them and locked. They will be left to languish in their “freedom” as corporate wage slaves, and when needed they will be forced to contribute to the rivers of blood required to keep it going.

NOW and others will likely succeed in keeping the last part “optional” for while, but it won’t last.

The grand daughters of today’s college woman is as fucked as any man in history.

To which every feminist I know would say: bring it on. Feminists are well aware that equality, along with its many benefits, brings certain costs.  Putting more women into combat roles means, inevitably, that more women will be injured or killed. The feminists supporting the Pentagon’s decision are aware of this. Unlike many MRAs, though, they look at combat injuries and deaths as one of the sad but inevitable consequences of war — not as something to rub anyone’s face into.

Here’s a hint to any MRAs who think that either AVFM or the more blatantly sadistic commenter quoted by Fidelbogen has a point: Civil Rights activism is about uplifting everyone, not making others “pay.”

When the American civil rights movement took up the issue of voting rights, civil rights activists demanded that black people be allowed to vote without harassment or other obstacles like “literacy tests” standing in their way.

Civil rights activists didn’t demand that whites be kept from voting.

The Civil Rights movement called for historically all-white colleges to be opened up to blacks. It didn’t call for white people to be banned from these colleges too.

This is how you can tell that the Men’s Rights movement, as it stands today, is not a true civil rights movement. Because insofar as it is about anything other than complaining about (and sometimes harassing) feminists and women in general, it’s about tearing down rather than building up.

Instead of trying to build domestic violence shelters and other services for men, for example, the MRM is more interested in defunding shelters for women – even when their efforts in this area directly harm male victims.

It’s telling that when Father’s Rights activist Glenn Sacks had an issue with the advertisements being run by one DV shelter, he encouraged his followers to bombard the shelter’s donors with phone calls in order to cripple the shelter’s fundraising efforts – even though the shelter in question also provides services for men. It’s telling as well that MRAs rail endlessly against the Violence Against Women Act, and have celebrated Republican opposition to it – even though the act is officially gender neutral in everything but its name, and would provide funding for men’s shelters if MRAs got off their asses to build any.

Instead of fighting for the rights of male victims of rape, the Men’s Rights movement is more interested in downplaying the rape of women, wildly exaggerating the number of “false rape accusations,” and in endless discussions about whether or not having sex with women incapacitated with drinks or drugs is really rape. All of these things contribute to a “rape culture” that harms male victims of rape as well as female.

Not that most MRAs actually care about male victims of rape except as a debating point — perhaps because that would require acknowledging that the overwhelming majority of their rapists are other men.  (MRAs do get outraged in the rare cases in which women are the culprits.) The group that does more than any other to fight for male rape victims is the anti-prison rape group Just Detention. Try to find even a mention of this group on any of the leading Men’s Rights sites. (The only mention of the group on AVFM is a comment in a post attacking a feminist writer noting that it isn’t part of the Men’s Rights movement.)

There are endless other examples, because this is in essence the way that the so-called “Men’s Rights” movement does business.

When you take a certain pleasure in the notion of women being “made to pay” or otherwise harmed when they seek equality, you’re about as much of a civil rights movement as the Klan.

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Anathema
Anathema
11 years ago

@ Cassie:

Men might still have to register for the draft in the USA, but that’s not particularly meaningful. The draft is not going to actually be put into effect. Anyone who attempted to reinstate the draft would be committing political suicide. Registration for the draft in the USA is an ultimately pointless gesture that doesn’t really matter. So I really don’t see what there is to get upset about.

If I were to say:

“Hey, if aliens were to come to Earth and demand ten human beings to keep in a zoo on their home planet, then it would be wrong for us to give into the aliens’ demands. But if we did, and we decided to use a lottery system to determine which ten human beings had to go and live in a zoo on the aliens’ home planet, then women should not be excluded from the lottery system,”

would you reply:

“But giving any human beings to the aliens would be terrible. How dare you say that women should be forced to sign up for the potential to be kidnapped by aliens and whisked off to some extraterrestrial zoo!” ?

Because that is what this conversation is starting to feel like. The only difference is that the alien situation is slightly more implausible than the draft one.

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

Hellkell, why you make me crave beef? I’ve been trying to resist the siren song of the Vietnamese 7 courses of beef extravaganza.

Sorry, I was having a beef craving myself. I INDULGED, IT WAS AWESOME.

Casie: go away.

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Cassie, seriously, what are you doing here except trolling? You haven’t a single worthwhile thing to say. You’re whining about something that doesn’t even exist.

Oh and nice bit of disingenuousness pretending that my point about you arguing with USians was solely about geography. Lived experience you don’t have + education + research + general knowledge of their own country is the package here.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

RE salad-type dishes, I forgot this when someone was going to be in Berkeley but there is an Indian restaurant called Ajanta that does one of my favorite starters of all time. Here is the menu’s description.

“TANDOORI CHICKEN CHAAT: Chicken pieces marinated, grilled in tandoor oven, shredded and then tossed with oil, lime juice, red onions, cilantro, ginger, and spices.”

It’s served over bitter greens and is a perfect mouthgasm.

clairedammit
clairedammit
11 years ago

No, I never specified the war was happening in the peron’s own country.

I did. I just made that part up. That was my point.

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

The fact you only noticed my presence here when I expressed disagreement does not make me a dumbass, teenager, MRA, troll, etc it just means you aren’t very observant.

Is that it? I thought you indulged in hypotheticals, shifted goalposts, and made nonsense arguments. You didn’t express disagreement so much as showed your ass. That’s always noticeable.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

in the peron’s own country

So this hypothetical war is happening in Argentina?

clairedammit
clairedammit
11 years ago

Cassandra, you’re making me hungry and I am stuffed to the gills with curry. (Grilled seitan makes a nice vegetarian stand in for tandoori chicken, says me.)

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“@ Cassie:

Men might still have to register for the draft in the USA, but that’s not particularly meaningful. The draft is not going to actually be put into effect. Anyone who attempted to reinstate the draft would be committing political suicide. Registration for the draft in the USA is an ultimately pointless gesture that doesn’t really matter. So I really don’t see what there is to get upset about. ”

The fact you don’t think it is an important issue is not a good argument against having a position on this issue and expressing it, obviously you don’t think so either or you would be telling David the same thing as he expressed his opinion on it in the OP. No you only think it is people who disagree with you are wasting their time.

“Because that is what this conversation is starting to feel like. The only difference is that the alien situation is slightly more implausible than the draft one.”

But that’s not analogous at all. Firstly men have already gone into the lottery at this stage and women have not. We just aren’t drawing it. Secondly I don’t accept you proposal that there is a set number of people who go to war. Indeed we alter the number of troops on the ground all the time for all manner of reasons.

clairedammit
clairedammit
11 years ago

in the peron’s own country

So this hypothetical war is happening in Argentina?

She was the one who had all the shoes, right?

Fatrelle
Fatrelle
11 years ago

As I’m sure Little David knows, the the military is all-volunteer, so it will probably remain all all men. This is a bill withot meaning. But Little David and his idiots will hail it as the ntx great step to moulding a unisex genitalia.

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

The fact you don’t think it is an important issue is not a good argument against having a position on this issue and expressing it, obviously you don’t think so either or you would be telling David the same thing as he expressed his opinion on it in the OP. No you only think it is people who disagree with you are wasting their time.

This sounds like Bored Stick’s bullshit. I think. I’m not sure it’s English, it makes so little sense.

cloudiah
11 years ago

I was at Ajanta! The only starter we had was their crab cakes, which were very good.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“Is that it? I thought you indulged in hypotheticals, shifted goalposts, and made nonsense arguments. You didn’t express disagreement so much as showed your ass. That’s always noticeable.”

People use hypotheticals all the time to clarify their opinions.

I don’t agree I shifted any goalposts, I was responding to different people about different things so yes the argument is going to address those specific things and not be the same argument I used elsewhere because it is a different conversation and I am addressing different things.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

I think the hypothetical war being in Argentina is a sign that the universe wants me to indulge my beef craving. Also, I’m going to promote Ajanta some more, because seriously people, go there.

http://www.ajantarestaurant.com/menu.html

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

eople use hypotheticals all the time to clarify their opinions.

I don’t agree I shifted any goalposts, I was responding to different people about different things so yes the argument is going to address those specific things and not be the same argument I used elsewhere because it is a different conversation and I am addressing different things.

LOL. Sure.

Kim
Kim
11 years ago

To some extent yes, but additionally that applying an unfair thing to everyone doesn’t make that unfair thing fair, it just means more people are suffering.

You’re using unfair and wrong interchangably. Unfair = is applied unequally. Wrong = something that is not good.

“applying something that is applied unequally to everyone doesn’t make that unequally applied thing applied equally”

“applying that wrong thing to everyone doesn’t make that wrong thing right”

You see how those 2 sentences mean 2 different things? You can use fair to mean right in some circumstances, just not in arguments where everyone else is using it to mean equal.

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

Opinions don’t usually need clarification. Assdata, however…

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
11 years ago

@claire, I thought that was Imelda Marcos

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“I did. I just made that part up. That was my point.”

Yes, you can provide counter hypotheticals. However I was not presenting an argument I was providing an example of a situation in which women’s presence in the draft and the military can change the body count without needing to denigrate a female soldiers capibilities.

This was in response to someone stating I must be saying women are incompetent soldiers because there is no other reason why including women in the draft would impact on the body count.

My hypothetical shows that someone can have the position that it could change the body count without thinking women are bad soldiers.

Anathema
Anathema
11 years ago

@ Cassie:

If you think that the fact that American men still have to register for the draft is really such a terrible thing, you’re free to try to campaign for the US government to put an end to it. Go ahead. I don’t see much point in dedicating any of my time to that sort of thing, but if it really matters to you, go for it.

What I don’t get is why you are so upset with other people for saying that IF the draft were to go into effect, then it would be unfair for men alone to be subject to it, even when these other people agree with you that the draft is not a good thing.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“Opinions don’t usually need clarification. Assdata, however…”

That is incorrect. People misinterpret each other all the time, people are unclear all the time. Clarifying what one means is essential to communication.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

List of countries in which there are not enough men so if women were drafted there would a higher total body count.

List of countries in which the demographics are the other way around.

China, India…

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
11 years ago

How the fuck does the body count increase if women were drafted? It’s the bears, isn’t it?

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“You’re using unfair and wrong interchangably. Unfair = is applied unequally. Wrong = something that is not good.”

Ok, then making it “fair” doesn’t make it not wrong. All you have done is achieve what I term equality of suffering. Exactly what the MRAs do when they would prefer to strip women’s shelters of funding rather than raise funding for male shelters.

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