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A Voice for Men: we’ll support women in combat only if the proper percentage of women get killed.

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Woman officially not in combat role.

As everyone reading this blog no doubt already knows, feminists have hailed the Pentagon’s decision to open combat jobs to women, which will allow women the same opportunities to serve as men. The decision is also a backhanded acknowledgement that, for all intents and purposes, women are serving in combat today already. (Congresswoman Tammy Duckworth lost both of her legs in combat in Iraq – but officially, what she was engaged in wasn’t combat.)

It seems inevitable that, as a result of this decision, young women will be required to sign up for selective service alongside men. While virtually all feminists I know oppose the draft, most agree that as long as registration is going to be required, it should be required for both men and women. Indeed, when selective service was reinstated in 1981, the National Organization for Women brought a lawsuit demanding this sort of equality.

Reaction amongst Men’s Rightsers to the Pentagon’s announcement has been mixed. Some have welcomed the change, as a “what’s good for the goose” acknowledgement of equal rights and responsibilities. Others, like most of the regulars on The Spearhead, predict catastrophe, as inherently unqualified women are sent to the front lines. Regular Spearhead commenter Uncle Elmer joked:

After this experiment runs its course, how many men will have died while bringing tampon supplies up to the front?

Can anyone tell me the additional garbage load from tampon-related issues on all-women submarines? Could a mission fail if some gal flushed her tampon down the toilet instead of following the proper mil-spec procedure?

But the most telling reaction has come from A Voice for Men, which in an editorial suggested that it would only support the move if women were required to die as often as men.

No, really. Here’s what the editorialist, presumably site founder Paul Elam, wrote:

AVFM supports the spirit of the new Pentagon Directive …  However, any blanket approval of the new measure thus far would be premature. …

[T]he only way this new policy will have any meaning will be if it is mandatory that women face combat on the front lines. With 20% of the military being comprised of women, that means roughly 20% of combat related fatalities should be female. 1 in 5 of body bags being filled overseas should contain the bodies of mothers, sisters, daughters, wives and girlfriends.

AVFM isn’t alone in hoping that one result of the Pentagon’s new policy will be increased injury and death for women. On his blog the self-designated “counter-feminist agent of change” Fidelbogen quoted – with a weird sort of semi-approval – one comment from an unknown person he says he found online:

I know this isn’t a laughing matter but this is pretty fucking sweet. Now those very same women who complain about how hard childbirth is get to experience real pain and misery by getting their arms blown off by enemy fire or their legs blown off by mines. Or getting infections when they have to stay at their post for days at a time without taking a bath. Those same women who say all men are rapists can now see what real rape is when they are taken as POW’s and gang-raped by foreign men at gun point and passed around like a piece of meat and then their heads blown off when they are done. This is real war ladies, are you ready for your cup of true equality?

In the comments on AVFM, meanwhile one Rick Westlake helped to make clearer the vindictive subtext of the AVFM’s editorial, suggesting that the Pentagon’s decision could be good for men if it served to

rub …  some high-ratcheted, ‘entitled/empowered’ noses in the misandric, disposable-male double standard of the Selective Service system.

Our current society, including our military, makes mock of ‘equality’ by divorcing ‘opportunity’ from ‘consequences,’ ‘choices’ from ‘costs,’ and ‘benefits’ from ‘responsibility.’ Princesses are awarded all of the opportunities, choices and benefits and are excused from all the responsibility, costs and consequences. ‘Draft-pigs,’ meaning men, are made to shoulder all those dirty, nasty, dangerous and demeaning responsibilities, consequences and costs on behalf of the Entitled Empowered Princesses.

Putting women on the combat line would be disastrous for the military … But the fact remains, enough Princesses have clamored for the ‘opportunities and benefits’ of serving in the front line, heedless of the consequences and the costs.

By requiring Princesses to register for Selective Service, before they can claim the benefits that ‘draft-pigs’ can only receive if they’ve registered – and by declaring them liable for the same fines and penalties as the draft-pigs, if they don’t – we at least remind them that freedom isn’t free, that choices have costs, and that true equality includes responsibility and consequences.

I can already hear the thin, reedy screeches from the Princesses. Fine. Let them learn what it is to hump 35-pound fifty-cal ammo cans to feed Ma Deuce in a firefight. Or let them scuttle back to the home and the hearth, and give thanks for (and to) the Brave Men who will defend them.

Elam himself echoed this vindictive “let them eat equality” stance in a sneering comment posted under his own name suggesting that in the wake of the Pentagon’s new policy plenty of women won’t find the “aroma” of equality to

be so sweet … This is what feminism was always about, and now, after three waves, the chickens are going to come home to roost. Because feminism never was about anything but creating tax paying, laboring, consuming, bleeding and dying servants to the masters of corporatocracy.

They lured women in with visions of corner offices and autonomy, and now that they have fully taken the bait, the doors are going to be slammed behind them and locked. They will be left to languish in their “freedom” as corporate wage slaves, and when needed they will be forced to contribute to the rivers of blood required to keep it going.

NOW and others will likely succeed in keeping the last part “optional” for while, but it won’t last.

The grand daughters of today’s college woman is as fucked as any man in history.

To which every feminist I know would say: bring it on. Feminists are well aware that equality, along with its many benefits, brings certain costs.  Putting more women into combat roles means, inevitably, that more women will be injured or killed. The feminists supporting the Pentagon’s decision are aware of this. Unlike many MRAs, though, they look at combat injuries and deaths as one of the sad but inevitable consequences of war — not as something to rub anyone’s face into.

Here’s a hint to any MRAs who think that either AVFM or the more blatantly sadistic commenter quoted by Fidelbogen has a point: Civil Rights activism is about uplifting everyone, not making others “pay.”

When the American civil rights movement took up the issue of voting rights, civil rights activists demanded that black people be allowed to vote without harassment or other obstacles like “literacy tests” standing in their way.

Civil rights activists didn’t demand that whites be kept from voting.

The Civil Rights movement called for historically all-white colleges to be opened up to blacks. It didn’t call for white people to be banned from these colleges too.

This is how you can tell that the Men’s Rights movement, as it stands today, is not a true civil rights movement. Because insofar as it is about anything other than complaining about (and sometimes harassing) feminists and women in general, it’s about tearing down rather than building up.

Instead of trying to build domestic violence shelters and other services for men, for example, the MRM is more interested in defunding shelters for women – even when their efforts in this area directly harm male victims.

It’s telling that when Father’s Rights activist Glenn Sacks had an issue with the advertisements being run by one DV shelter, he encouraged his followers to bombard the shelter’s donors with phone calls in order to cripple the shelter’s fundraising efforts – even though the shelter in question also provides services for men. It’s telling as well that MRAs rail endlessly against the Violence Against Women Act, and have celebrated Republican opposition to it – even though the act is officially gender neutral in everything but its name, and would provide funding for men’s shelters if MRAs got off their asses to build any.

Instead of fighting for the rights of male victims of rape, the Men’s Rights movement is more interested in downplaying the rape of women, wildly exaggerating the number of “false rape accusations,” and in endless discussions about whether or not having sex with women incapacitated with drinks or drugs is really rape. All of these things contribute to a “rape culture” that harms male victims of rape as well as female.

Not that most MRAs actually care about male victims of rape except as a debating point — perhaps because that would require acknowledging that the overwhelming majority of their rapists are other men.  (MRAs do get outraged in the rare cases in which women are the culprits.) The group that does more than any other to fight for male rape victims is the anti-prison rape group Just Detention. Try to find even a mention of this group on any of the leading Men’s Rights sites. (The only mention of the group on AVFM is a comment in a post attacking a feminist writer noting that it isn’t part of the Men’s Rights movement.)

There are endless other examples, because this is in essence the way that the so-called “Men’s Rights” movement does business.

When you take a certain pleasure in the notion of women being “made to pay” or otherwise harmed when they seek equality, you’re about as much of a civil rights movement as the Klan.

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cloudiah
11 years ago

Let’s poach fish. Let’s poach it in a liquid that has no flavor. I know, MILK!

Butter, I can deal with in moderation with fish, but maybe because the thing that first got me eating fish was a nice meunière.

clairedammit
clairedammit
11 years ago

Ewww fish and cheese. That is wrong. Although when I ate seafood, I did love some crab au gratin, but it had to be from Don’s.

Also, I registered my son for the selective service while he was filling out driver’s license paperwork. SO MUCH SUFFERING.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“Seems to me you’ve chosen an odd subject to focus on as a terrible human rights abuse.”

I never stated it was a human rights abuse. And I am not particularly “het” up about it I just don’t think registration for the draft should exist and neither do you, you said.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

Cassie, here’s an exercise for you, child, if you’re not really a troll: go and look up what “shifting the goalposts” means. You don’t get to go from the specific to the general just because your *cough*argument*cough* doesn’t hold.

cloudiah
11 years ago

Also, I registered my son for the selective service while he was filling out driver’s license paperwork. SO MUCH SUFFERING.

SO MUCH MISANDRY!

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

Cassie: you dumbass, you’re the one who kept calling it a human rights violation. Not us.

Which returning assbag is this?

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

The main purpose of poaching things in milk seems to be to remove all flavor, so I guess it’s for people who hate the taste of fish but love bland dairy?

I’m not a fan of poaching fish in general. Give it to me raw, grill it, or pan fry it. Deep fried is also acceptable, though only for fish that’s kind of blah.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“So this is an anti-feminist troll, right? The only way that statement makes any sense is if you start from the assumption that female soldiers would be less competent than male soldiers”

That is an argument from ignorance fallacy. I definitely don’t have the position that women are less useful in military service than men. However there are other factors at play here. You could hypothetically have a country where there are not enough men to fight the wars, so drafting women will indeed mean more people get sent to war. This is a situation where competency is not the issue causing this.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

FWIW, I think Cassie’s goal is to get us to “admit” that we’re secretly OK with the draft existing and only applying to men because misandry. Shame that isn’t working out very well for her.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help

The teenage pomposity is strong in this one. There’s also a whiff of sock starting to drift around.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

The last goalpost shift is particularly funny. Wait, were we talking about Vietnam? Let’s pretend that never happened and that we were talking about a country that doesn’t exist.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“Also, registration is something so trivial that people don’t take it seriously, yet extending it to women would cause SUFFERING. ”

I never said it would cause suffering.

cloudiah
11 years ago

I’d just like to remind you all of how lovely dancing goalposts are this time of year.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“FWIW, I think Cassie’s goal is to get us to “admit” that we’re secretly OK with the draft existing and only applying to men because misandry. ”

No, I don’t think misandry is a thing.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

Hellkell, why you make me crave beef? I’ve been trying to resist the siren song of the Vietnamese 7 courses of beef extravaganza.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“The last goalpost shift is particularly funny. Wait, were we talking about Vietnam? Let’s pretend that never happened”

I never pretended that I didn’t bring up vietnam, indeed it may well have been a bad example. However it does not make my argument incorrect.

“and that we were talking about a country that doesn’t exist.”

This was a different conversation really, someone stated I must be saying women are incompetent soldiers. I was responding that no, no that was not what I was saying and provided an example to illuminate.

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Tulgey Logger
11 years ago

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cloudiah
11 years ago

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How dare you!

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

Also we recently drove past a Korean BBQ place and apparently I am Pavlov’s dog, because I went from “just ate, not hungry” to “must have burned meat” in about 0.2 seconds.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“Cassie: you dumbass, you’re the one who kept calling it a human rights violation. Not us.”

I never called it a human rights violation. I stated IF one considered it a human rights violation. I asked you to tell me why you oppose it, you demanded I look up your opinion on google. If you don’t tell me what you think, surprise surprise, I don’t know what you think.

emilygoddess
11 years ago

Arugula and shaved parmesan with olive oil/lemon juice dressing.

This is one of my favorite salads, and it’s so effing easy! I recommend adding a little black pepper, but that’s just personal preference.

Other dead easy salads: Caesar (romaine + croutons + GOOD dressing, anchovies optional); greens, bacon and avocado with lemon juice and olive oil.

clairedammit
clairedammit
11 years ago

The thing about hypothetical situations is that there are a million and one of them. In your latest hypothetical, Cassie, maybe the war is happening in the draftee’s own country. By drafting women, more civilians could be saved and the war could be over quicker. Fewer children might die of malnutrition.

But neither my hypothetical or yours are especially realistic when we don’t even have a draft.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“Which returning assbag is this?”

Still not a MRA. If you care to scroll through the thousands of comments on this site you will see me commenting in agreement about a lot of things. The fact you only noticed my presence here when I expressed disagreement does not make me a dumbass, teenager, MRA, troll, etc it just means you aren’t very observant.

Cassie
Cassie
11 years ago

“The thing about hypothetical situations is that there are a million and one of them. In your latest hypothetical, Cassie, maybe the war is happening in the draftee’s own country. By drafting women, more civilians could be saved and the war could be over quicker. Fewer children might die of malnutrition. ”

No, I never specified the war was happening in the peron’s own country. It doesn’t matter though. All I was trying to was provide my thinking on this matter to counter someones assertion that I think women are incompetent soldiers.

clairedammit
clairedammit
11 years ago

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