So, “Nice Guys” are causing a stir on the Internet again, thanks largely to a new(ish) Tumblr blog called “Nice Guys” of Ok Cupid, which posts selected highlights from the OKCupid profiles of self-proclaimed “nice guys” who make it very clear, in their profiles and in their answers to OKCupid’s “match” questions, that they are in fact anything but nice.
Some of them are actual or potential date rapists, convinced that women that they’re “nice” to owe them sex. Others are bitter from too many rejections, and launch long tirades in their profiles about how women are bitches and whores. Still others are clueless on a more fundamental level, declaring that women have “an obligation to shave their legs” and otherwise prettify themselves for men while noting that they themselves only shower or brush their teeth occasionally.
It’s not clear how any of this is supposed to convince the women of OKCupid that these angry, ranting, hapless-yet-entitled “nice guys” are indeed as “nice” as advertised, much less convince any rational human being to have sex with them.
The site is a goldmine of unintentional self-revelation — as is a similar site with the name of, er, OKCupid Goldmine — and I’ve spent hours looking through the pictures on both sites and discussing them with friends. The only reason I haven’t linked to it in the past is that neither of them blur out the faces of the people they feature, which seems to me a pretty major invasion of privacy. (As you no doubt have noticed, I’ve taken the liberty of somewhat creeepily disguising the faces of the guys in the pics I’m posting here.) But “Nice Guys of OKCupid has been pretty widely discussed, linked to by Jezebel (1, 2) and The Guardian and even the Men’s Rights subreddit, to mention merely a few examples; Ok Cupid Goldmine is also provoking discussions. Posts on both sites regularly get dozens if not hundreds of comments and reblogs on Tumblr. The cat’s already out of the bag.
Here are a couple more of these “Nice Guys” with their faces all spiral-ized:
Well, probably. The area’s still technically under catastrophic fire danger, but at this point I wouldn’t put the odds of major fires up this way any higher than they’d be any other hot summer day.
I can’t even imagine fire warnings, glad things are going well (other than the heat, 35’s about body temp right? *silly American*)
Yep, roughly body temperature.
The warnings were odd this time: media reports as per usual, but also the Rural Fire Service took over phone towers (not storming them or anything) and sent text messages to every mobile phone in the area and gave prerecorded warnings to all home phones around midnight last night. Would’ve scared the shit out of a few poor pensioners at least.
I’m not sure anything like that’d be possible in the US, or it would at least require the phone company’s cooperation. Would total fire bans (e.g., right now it is illegal to set any sort of fire outside anywhere in the state of New South Wales) be possible? Seems like something American law wouldn’t really do.
Actually burn bans are a thing in the US, mostly because of inversion layers, but I think they’re usually city level.
lowquacks, that’s such good news! It’s been trying to rain here, too, and I was really hoping you guys would get it up north.
It’s city/county level here in Texas.
@Katz
That’s interesting/good to know. Our fire bans tend to be on a regional level too – today’s statewide fire ban is mostly unprecedented and put in place because today looked like it was going to be a nightmare.
And there is some sort of weather warning system, I’m not sure how it works, but there where many dinging cell phones when Sandy was approaching. I think it does require you to register or something though.
Statewide ban’s slightly silly, actually, even in these conditions – NSW is larger than Texas and many parts are under little to no risk at the moment.
Glad you survived. Hope the lack-of-catastrophic-fires thing continues.
It’s been bad in Tasmania the last few days – small rural towns burnt out and may not be able to recover, and I don’t know how many of the hundred-odd missing people have been heard from yet. These fires are hitting at what should be the height of the tourist season, too, and Tas depends a lot on that. Their economy’s going to be slammed by all this, and there’s a lot of unemployment in the state as it is.
Naïf: So you are a coward, or a liar, or both.
Because you made a declarative statement. That means you have evidence, or you are full of shit. Telling me to wait until you get it is to posit the proof of a negative. If it never shows up, you can still pretend that you gave me an answer.
Bullshit. I have to assume that you have no evidence, and are; but the lack of substantive response, are ceding the point.
That, my little friend, is how debate and argument work. Put up, or shut up. It’s even formalised, not some “rule” I just pulled out of my ass.
If you have questions, talk to Argenti.
I stand by my statement, that oral is harder on a hairier woman.
There’s your problem oral is easier if you aren’t standing.
But trust me, you’re wrong. I’ve got lots of emprical evidence to the contrary. I even cited some for you, you could watch them, you might learn something new, which is that your statement, “Oral is impossible on a woman who doesn’t trim well,” is false, on it’s face.
It sounds like dz = Ж.
But yes, all the individual maps are what the, “spanish” alphabet reduces. No, the phonemes aren’t the same, but the do have unique markers, as opposed to ways to transfer a set of phonemes from a language no one speaks any more, to one which had (and retains) phonemes which don’t exist in the parent language.
Re Thatcher: When she goes Chumbawumba will be releasing a limited (pre-release subscription only) Song/EP (I forget which).
I plumped £5 for it. I don’t know if them breaking up means one can no longer subscribe, but they promise it will still be sent.
by the lack of substantive response. Sheesh, this ear thing is fucking with my already less than perfect typing.
At least I can still spin.
Also, I had to go to work today, unexpectedly. Not the best of days.
I wonder if Elvis Costello will actually go through with dancing on her grave.
lowquacks – he’d have to get in the queue.
Pecunium – don’t feed the troll!
“Actually burn bans are a thing in the US, mostly because of inversion layers, but I think they’re usually city level.”
In L.A. there is no outdoor burning (apart from BBQ’s etc). I’m in NorCal out in the stix now. We can do burn piles, but they’re banned during fire season. (And I’m painfully familiar with how things can get in fire country during fire season, stay safe, lowquacks.)
The counties around the bay have a ban on burning, in toto (indoor fireplaces included). If a cop spots smoke, you can be cited.
“A guy can’t have his preferences? I’m sure you do.”
Clearly my elderly computer is also failing to post comments that you can see, unlike everyone else here. Either that or your brain is incapable of comprehending the difference between a preference and an obligation.
“And I broke parentheses and then a link, here’s that stray ) and the link — http://xkcd.com/1157/”
*Note to self: never use aquarium water in the neti pot*
What’s the odds the troll is lying about lying about being a white cis man as well as everything else? He’s already contradicted (read: lied more than once) about innumerable topics, so this is likely just more attempts to get a reaction.
‘s funny you know, but the very first thing you see when you get Wiki’s article on oral sex is a picture from c. 1800 of a man doing cunnilingus on a woman who has *gasp* pubic hair.
From now on every time he shows up looking for attention I’m going to post this.
I bet that’s just what he looks like, too.