So, “Nice Guys” are causing a stir on the Internet again, thanks largely to a new(ish) Tumblr blog called “Nice Guys” of Ok Cupid, which posts selected highlights from the OKCupid profiles of self-proclaimed “nice guys” who make it very clear, in their profiles and in their answers to OKCupid’s “match” questions, that they are in fact anything but nice.
Some of them are actual or potential date rapists, convinced that women that they’re “nice” to owe them sex. Others are bitter from too many rejections, and launch long tirades in their profiles about how women are bitches and whores. Still others are clueless on a more fundamental level, declaring that women have “an obligation to shave their legs” and otherwise prettify themselves for men while noting that they themselves only shower or brush their teeth occasionally.
It’s not clear how any of this is supposed to convince the women of OKCupid that these angry, ranting, hapless-yet-entitled “nice guys” are indeed as “nice” as advertised, much less convince any rational human being to have sex with them.
The site is a goldmine of unintentional self-revelation — as is a similar site with the name of, er, OKCupid Goldmine — and I’ve spent hours looking through the pictures on both sites and discussing them with friends. The only reason I haven’t linked to it in the past is that neither of them blur out the faces of the people they feature, which seems to me a pretty major invasion of privacy. (As you no doubt have noticed, I’ve taken the liberty of somewhat creeepily disguising the faces of the guys in the pics I’m posting here.) But “Nice Guys of OKCupid has been pretty widely discussed, linked to by Jezebel (1, 2) and The Guardian and even the Men’s Rights subreddit, to mention merely a few examples; Ok Cupid Goldmine is also provoking discussions. Posts on both sites regularly get dozens if not hundreds of comments and reblogs on Tumblr. The cat’s already out of the bag.
Here are a couple more of these “Nice Guys” with their faces all spiral-ized:
Oh, I remember that dipshit. I’m there but not as much since the evil that is Kinja was unleashed. The trolls have been godawful.
I don’t think Dumbass is skahammer, but they are not exactly original in their thinking.
15 should be the guy who tells you what his penis thinks. (I just had to teach my spellcheck the word penis. Who programmed this thing’s dictionary?)
@ Kitteh’s Help
There’s a can of worms 🙂 My dog is my baby (well, my *other* baby) and she’s spoiled rotten and overly loved, I’d post pictures of her ALL DAY if I could.
All fancy in a hot pink damask chair: http://evaporites.tumblr.com/image/36993289916
Unimpressed with the crib: http://evaporites.tumblr.com/image/34454014214
BB Halite, Mr H, dog and siamese cat: http://evaporites.tumblr.com/day/2013/01/06
As to what’s different between Frenchies and Bostons, it’s not much, tbh. They’re both bred from the same stock, just looking for different traits. I happen to think the mix (Frenchton, Froston, Frobo etc …) is just perfect, but I’m biased 🙂
Awww! Doggy, baby and kitty! It is a cuteness trifecta!
It’s a shame that dead people can’t sue for defamation of character.
@ hellkell
Ugh, the new comments system. I haven’t bothered since they implemented that either.
Oh yes. Another lovefest headed my way.
pecinium
Be more specific, please.
I am falling in love with anonymous. They did this recently (MASSIVE trigger warning for rape): http://www.alternet.org/how-anonymous-hacking-exposed-steubenville-rape-case
Cynical asshat- go read it yourself. It was written for you. Go find specific instances when you were wrong and explain yourself. There are plenty to chose from. Also, you’re a douche.
I’ll go with this:
“Or as was suggested yesterday, is too cheap to find himself a professional dom to hand him his ass on a plate.”
“Okay, now I’m seeing an explorer wearing a pith helmet looking for hidden treasure in the jungle.”
That reminds me of a very NSFW limerick I got from my brother….I’ll have to see if I can remember it.
Naïf: I see, you intend to pretend to ignorance. This is what passes for brains in the young today.
It’s also, as said before, piss-poor manners; you feel entitled to make others do your homework because you aren’t able to click, “previous” when your short term-memory runs out.
Diogenes: if you can’t handle the “love,” go away. No one is making you come here, trust.
And I’m suddenly thinking of that great film, Memento starring Guy Pearce as Leonard Shelby. What did he have again? Oh yeah, anterograde amnesia.
@pecunium
Now that’s not helpful. He’ll spend all night looking for where it says previous (assuming he can remember he’s supposed to look for it).
@Diogenes
Click “Older Comments.” It’ll be right below this comment. There’s an arrow there too. You can do it!
I don’t owe anyone here anything. Lets get that clear.
If I leave mid-thread to do something else, I don’t have to apologize.
If I don’t want to answer a question, I am under no obligation to do so.
So, you’re not entitled to my time, my acknowledgement, or anything else. I figure that I have every reason to match my tone to how others here talk to me.
Stop trying to flame-bait me, because its annoying, and getting old. If you don’t want me to defend myself, don’t put me on the defensive. Instead pay attention to my arguments. Debate is more fun than childish name-calling.
If you see this as your website, why not put in the modicum of effort it would take to raise the level of discourse here?
We are. That’s why we’d like you to leave.
Aaaand this is why we think you’re a turd. You have an attitude problem. You are not here in good faith by your own admission, so what do we owe you? Answer: jack shit.
Why do you think the level of discourse needs to raised? Is it because, try as you might, you can’t relate to us or fit in? You keep trying, but all you do is insult people and take offensive stances. Now you think you can run shit. Well, you can’t.
Get stuffed, fool. Squeak, chew toy, squeak.
Only two swears in that! Was that civil enough? LOL.
Anyone else think we should start counting down to a flounce?
That’s a lot of demands — especially for a bunch of adults who never agreed to be the subject’s puppets.
“I don’t owe anyone here anything. Lets get that clear.” Ahahaha, this from the guy who deserves the silky smoothest legs for the sex he never has. Hypocrite troll is hypocritical. But silly cynical asshat, you are the one begging for debate, and when someone refutes your argument you leave (presumably to have a little cry). You might want to give up pretending you want a debate at all if that’s how you respond to arguments.
“Waah waah, they’re all flame baiting me”- That implies people don’t want you to shut up. Everyone does. Hell, people want you banned.
“pay attention to my arguments. Debate is more fun than childish name-calling.” Pay attention to meeeeeee!!! But cyclical, whenever anyone pays attention and summarily destroys those insipid remarks you pass off as arguments, you go have a cry break and pretend it never happened! How on earth could you tell that debate is fun when you seem incapable of engaging in it.
“If you see this as your website, why not put in the modicum of effort it would take to raise the level of discourse here?” We’re trying to get you banned. That should raise the level of discourse pretty quickly.
Isn’t it a clever little man!
::pats Diogenes the Chihuahua on the head::
::checks hand for fleas::
It can do brainfax all by itself!
@ somegal- A flounce would be nice, but this one seems to just go take cry breaks and start back at the beginning.
Someone just ordered the WAAHHHHHHHmburger and a side of cries.
Here’s a song for you: