So, “Nice Guys” are causing a stir on the Internet again, thanks largely to a new(ish) Tumblr blog called “Nice Guys” of Ok Cupid, which posts selected highlights from the OKCupid profiles of self-proclaimed “nice guys” who make it very clear, in their profiles and in their answers to OKCupid’s “match” questions, that they are in fact anything but nice.
Some of them are actual or potential date rapists, convinced that women that they’re “nice” to owe them sex. Others are bitter from too many rejections, and launch long tirades in their profiles about how women are bitches and whores. Still others are clueless on a more fundamental level, declaring that women have “an obligation to shave their legs” and otherwise prettify themselves for men while noting that they themselves only shower or brush their teeth occasionally.
It’s not clear how any of this is supposed to convince the women of OKCupid that these angry, ranting, hapless-yet-entitled “nice guys” are indeed as “nice” as advertised, much less convince any rational human being to have sex with them.
The site is a goldmine of unintentional self-revelation — as is a similar site with the name of, er, OKCupid Goldmine — and I’ve spent hours looking through the pictures on both sites and discussing them with friends. The only reason I haven’t linked to it in the past is that neither of them blur out the faces of the people they feature, which seems to me a pretty major invasion of privacy. (As you no doubt have noticed, I’ve taken the liberty of somewhat creeepily disguising the faces of the guys in the pics I’m posting here.) But “Nice Guys of OKCupid has been pretty widely discussed, linked to by Jezebel (1, 2) and The Guardian and even the Men’s Rights subreddit, to mention merely a few examples; Ok Cupid Goldmine is also provoking discussions. Posts on both sites regularly get dozens if not hundreds of comments and reblogs on Tumblr. The cat’s already out of the bag.
Here are a couple more of these “Nice Guys” with their faces all spiral-ized:
New kitty boy is a purr machine, and he makes ferocious biscuits on everything–you, your shirt, the floor, whatever.
Well, this certainly shows your brilliance.
It just goes to show that you’re an ubermentch and I am the untermentch. All because you can write better than I can.
@hellkell
More interesting, cuter and, I bet, smarter!
You’re the one who keeps banging on about how fucking smart you are. Fuck off.
Some Gal – of course he doesn’t see it. Diogenes the Dilapidated is of the “do what I say, not what I do” school. Women are all expected to conform to his
fantasiespreferences all the time.When interesting trolls get all run down and fall into disrepair they turn into Frothy.
So the Tumblr for Nice Guys of OK Cupid has been taken down:
https://sites.google.com/site/niceguysofokc/
Now I feel bad depilate wasn’t even in my vocabulary. Dilapidate is in mine, but depilate was not.
I feel uneducated now.
Ferocious Biscuits would be another great band name.
So, Diogenes the Genius can invent algebra all by his little self, solve possibly fake manuscripts, but neither write nor look up the word he wants (intellectual dishonesty, I suppose) and then whines a la Steele about being picked on. Oh woes.
” Cynic- pleasing partner ends at partner expects daily measures to be taken for his sexual pleasure beyond normal hygene. Seriously, shaved pubes and legs used to be a kink and now they are an expectation? If my partner is going to sulk about that my partner can bite my ass.
Would this be a bad time to point out that there’s no ‘t’ in ‘ubermensch?’
As for me, I plug, sheaf, ‘trindle, dilacerate and use a kazoo regularly. You know, standard stuff.
Orange tabby kitties are the best kitties. Why are they overwhelmingly male? My first cat was a female orange tabby, and I have never known another one.
I was watching this earlier on my phone and wanted to post it here because CUTE:
@ Cassandra- From the wisdom of Peaches: “If you want to be Moses you need a burning bush, baby, and that’s just what I got”.
@ drst- nooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!
Nah, mocking Diogenes is always appropriate.
I am sad that the tumblr was taken down and wonder why.
@cloudiah
All the orange tabbies in my cat’s litter were boys. That is actually why I picked her, she watched me the whole time while I played with her brothers AND was polydactyl. I had to bring her home. She is, sadly, not an orange tabby though. I will point this out to her the next time she claws my couch.
timetraveler
Like I said. It goes both ways. To the extent that one partner wants accommodations, they have to be willing to accommodate.
@Kitteh’s – it’s entirely possible. I had no idea what that message was about until I started reading here and discovered that’s a popular MRA theory. I was just boggled.
I’m tempted to reactivate my OKC profile now just to see what happens. Living in a very rural, very red state I got all sorts of scary messages from dudes, and now that I’ve moved, I’m curious.
Hey cynic, someone’s messing with your car, dude. Seriously, just go outside and look for yourself. Yeah, that means you have to leave — yeah, too bad. But you’d better go, now. Isn’t the Voynich Manuscript in the trunk? Go save it, dude!
@ lumi- apparently she had been talking to her lawyer about violating her terms of use over the holidays. which is dumb. Hey, she could shut down her account and borrow the account of an anonymous friend and technically they would be the ones in violation of their terms of use.
KITTY! Moar kitty pics, hellkell.
Also, what if my pubes are blond? I thought men preferred blondes? I AM SO CONFUSED.
I think it is a genetic marker similar to calicos being girls.
I expect the nice guys of okcupid to be back in a day or three. That is what happened last time it was taken down for tos violations.
It doesn’t matter how often one shaves. When you’re lounging around the house in sweatpants, it’s not important what’s under there. Or even when you’re going out, when you’ll be wearing pants. It only matters when it’s time for sex. Just in my opinion. I’m favouring quality over quantity. Better to have hot sex once a week than half-assed 30-seconds of humping in the dark every night. Sex has to perfect or else it’s a waste of time. I wouldn’t wanna do it when I wasn’t looking my best.
lumi – someone said earlier the tumblr owner was being threatened with legal action.
cloudiah – CUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUTE! Kitty on springs!
Hey, is anyone here on goodreads?