So the other day someone went to the Men’s Rights subreddit with some concerns about the movement’s inclusiveness – or, rather, its lack thereof. “I’d be a lot more inclined to follow this movement,” this person wrote,
if it was more inclusive of the issues of other men, such as those of colour, homosexuality and those who identify as males. But as it stands even when you quote prison statistics as a form of sexism, you flat out ignore the ethnic make up of those statistics and the last time I saw y’all chatting about queer rights? I can’t actually remember, it’s been even longer since something along those lines came on the front page.
Naturally, the fine folks of the subreddit responded with a big “nuh-uh!”
Some suggested that the Men’s Rights movement is already quite inclusive enough, thank you very much. A few offered the existence of GirlWritesWhat, an actual female lady woman MRA, as proof of inclusiveness. I’m not quite sure how that has to do with race or LBGT issues, but hey: The MRM has a lady! (More than one, actually.)
Our dear old friend AnnArchist, who despite the name is not a lady, and who may or may not still be a mod (see below), helpfully explained:
Huh. I remember that month, too. Lots of Men’s Rightsers were angry about being associated with anything gay, and a lot of LGBT folks were angry about being associated with the Men’s Rights subreddit. I also recall that time when Kloo2yoo, the founder of the subreddit, attempted to make a token effort to be LGBT-inclusive. Oh, and the time a Men’s Rights redditor talked about how he would violently assault any trans woman who “tricked” him into having sex. Oh yeah: that Men’s Rights Redditor was a fellow called AnnArchist.
Others pointed out that they personally weren’t bigots or anything. Tyciol put it this way:
I wasn’t aware that darkbros, homobros and transbros were being discriminated against as policy. The free speech policy does inevitably end up with some closeminded folk being hostile of them, but I don’t think this means the movement is not inclusive. To be non-inclusive would there not have to be active exclusion?
I happen to think [wrestler] David Ortunga is a sexy black man who I would like to rub oil onto, and I respect the maleness of Larson Degado. Yet I’m not banned so… hm.
So if you’re not black, and you fantasize about rubbing oil on a black dude, that makes you a paragon of post-racial “inclusivity?” Apparently.
Other Men’s Rights Redditors want to be post-racial by not talking about race at all, suggesting that what the OP called inclusiveness could end up splitting the Men’s Rights movement in two, or three or four:
The trouble — well, one of many troubles — with this complaint is that there … really aren’t any significant numbers of black MRAs to speak of. When the Men’s Rights subreddit conducted its own demographic survey – alas, I’ve lost the link to it – there was, I believe, literally only one black MRA who stood up to be counted.
Lurker_lenore, meanwhile, suggested that focusing on anything other than men, indivisible was just plain wrong:
But if “age, race, sexual preference, and/or gender identity” somehow don’t affect the issue of equality, why would you assume that gender would? Shouldn’t we just be fighting for People Rights? Or, if that is too-species specific, why not Primate Rights, or Animal Rights, or Carbon-Based Lifeform Rights?
The best comments in the thread – by which I mean the most transcendently loopy — all come from Tyciol, whom we’ve met already, who raised a whole bunch of issues that no one dared to. Mainly becuase these issues were stupid.
For example, this one, touching on the terrifying topic of spermburgling.
I am interested in issues where transmen’s rights overlap with cismen’s rights. I’m not entirely clear on it, TBH. They’re our bros from another chromosone and all that, but I guess a lot of the issues just don’t currently apply, like procreation-related rights, probably less of a concern, since transmen (FtMs) don’t produce semen which can be misused, stuff like that.
And this even weirder followup:
I think FtMs are awesome and stuff but well… in terms of men’s rights… is it that, or is it male rights? I would like to identify some of the struggles we’d actually have in common. I’m all for standin’ up for’m since it’s the right thing and stuff but like… if it comes up in a dispute that they’re XX, doesn’t this usually sway to get them superior female-status consideration even if they detest that?
And all of these:
Tyciol seems to have a lot of questions, and a lot of opinions, about LGBT issues. And a deep love for language – in particular, the word “bros.” Here, in a different thread, we see the two interests combined in one intriguing comment:
In other words, the attitude of the Men’s Rights subreddit towards LGBT folks seems to be summed up pretty well by this parody poster prepared by Man Boobz Art Brigade solider Myoo, originally intended as a parody of the attitudes expressed over on A Voice for Men.
You can find approximately a gazillion million more parody posters over on the always entertaining Artistry for Feminism and Kittens blog.
(Oh, and on the bit about AnnArchist possibly being a mod: He used to be one, but a few months ago the mods all got new anonymous handles, and because of that I can’t say for sure if he’s still one.)
And a unicorn! Don’t forget to stop at the Wymyn’s Collective Pet Shop and get a unicorn!
“Semen which can be misused”
What the fuck? Now I can’t stop thinking of a world where ‘wrongful use of semen’ could be a criminal offense…
Don’t forget the scented effing candles!
Well, there definitely are Black misogynists and MRAs, just for obvious reasons not frequenting that site. I think you had a post up on Rev. Jesse Lee Peterson, who wanted to revoke female suffrage, David.
Yay, Yoyo, for symmetrical boobies! The better to deceive the menz with…
Yoyo, congratulations on your symmetry! That must feel good!
These boobs are made to trick with,
And one of these days I’m gonna steal a lot of sperm.
Done , new feminist anthem (needs unicorns and drop bears tho).
dum-da-da-dum-da-da-dum
And Nancy Sinatra to sing it! 😀
I loved that song when I was a kid.
PS we ought to rewrite Advance Australia Fair the way the Canadian anthem was reworked in the other thread. 😉
“What the fuck? Now I can’t stop thinking of a world where ‘wrongful use of semen’ could be a criminal offense…”
he’s talking about the common MRA belief that women steal sperm – as in, out of used condoms. to trap men into child support payments. they write about this major issue men face all the time.
On the idea of semen being “misused”…um, biologically speaking the purpose of semen is to make babies, so if a woman is using it from that purpose “misused” isn’t the word you want. It makes it sound like someone is using the semen to, I dunno, brush their teeth or something.
Right now I am picturing a very bizarre alternate version of Minority Report. Thank you, Says.
Take it up with feminism. They fired the first assault, and continue to do so. You’re not against the rights of men, are your Davie?
You would think MRAs would love gay men after all, they are like the mgtow, they don’t even want to bonk the ladies. However, the MRAs think the gays are suspiciously friendly to us evil wymms due to love of shoes or sum such.
Who says that “they” don’t like the term dyke.
‘Dykes on bikes’ aren’t just something put together for Sydney’s Mardi Gras.
http://www.dykesonbikessydney.org.au/ and there are associated clubs in other cities as well.
Yup, men are no longer allowed to run anything… oh wait.
I’m convinced that about a third of our trolls are bots.
Some of them certainly couldn’t pass the Turing test.
Yeah, pity the poor men with no rights.
Let’s hope the real Turing finally gets his forgiveness and a medal and a statue (maybe with added kittens). Then man was a hero although the MRAs would have despised him for teh gay.
Since we seem to have exhausted the amusement potential of this particular group of stupid people, can we talk about food again? This is my new favorite food blog. I LOVE Thai food, but it’s usually sort of blah here (except in LA, where it’s awesome), so I was really happy to find a blog in English from a woman who grew up in Bangkok, and this post is a perfect example of why. Not only are her recipes great, she’s funny, and blunt about stuff that needs bluntness, but not snobby for the sake of being snobby.
http://shesimmers.com/2010/06/easy-thai-green-curry-recipe-interview.html
(This particular post amused me because I’ve had the “ew but there’s oil floating on top of it” conversation with several people when they were presented with a Thai curry done the traditional way – if you see those oily patches on top it means that the cook fried the paste in coconut cream and your curry is going to taste like magic.)
I was just thinking today about the following (!) Looking at the comments on this site it is clear to me that many readers have different beliefs and political opinions. I do not agree with some of them. But there is a consensus that misogyny is rampant in our world. The question is why, and why are men so angry at women?
I discovered She Simmers a few months ago when I wanted to read about types of soy sauce in authentic Thai cooking and I found her Thai pantry series. She’s awesome.
We eat Thai food all the time when traveling because it’s so veggie friendly. I remember being starving in Destin, Fl one lunchtime – there wasn’t even a Subway – and finding a Thai restaurant on the second floor of a motel. They didn’t have any tofu dishes on the menu, but when I asked the owner, she was like “Of course. We can make everything with tofu.” Of course! In Pensacola, the only Thai restaurant is also a car wash. I accidentally ordered the red curry hot instead of medium. Now any super hot Thai food is known as “car wash curry hot.” The blandest Thai food I ever ate was in Berkeley. I should have known when the menu had notes by a lot of the items that said “not spicy.” I’ve never eaten Thai food in L.A. because we always seem to end up at a Native Foods, but I’ll remember that it’s good there! It’s good here in Houston too, because most of us aren’t afraid of a little spice.
A couple of years ago, I asked for dwarf citrus trees for Christmas, a blood orange, a Meyer lemon, and a kaffir lime. I simmer a lime leaf in my curry now and it really brightens it up.
I doubt I could eat Thai food even if it had a “not spicy” claim on the menu. What some people call not spicy has too often proven way too hot for me. It makes eating painful instead of a pleasure.
How is your lime tree growing? I’ve been thinking about getting one, but I have the exact opposite of green thumbs.
Question – how do you handle the issue of fish sauce? I can’t imagine Thai food tasting right without it, but obviously it’s not vegetarian-friendly. There’s one place in Berkeley that specifically advertises that they don’t use fish sauce, which I initially thought was in an attempt to accommodate vegetarians, but then I read the Yelp reviews and realized that no, people just didn’t like fish sauce and the owners had made the menu that way for that reason. Which was weird, because if you hate the taste of fish sauce then you’re probably not going to like most Thai food.