Itโs always a little distressing to see manosphere-style dumbassery outside the manosphere. Todayโs offender: Charlotte Allen at National Review Online, explaining how the deaths in Newtown are the result of the schoolโs โfeminized setting.โ Had the school been filled with manly men (and manly boys), Adam Lanza could have been stopped in his tracks!
No, really, thatโs what she says. Except that what she wrote is somehow even more egregious than my sarcastic summary. Read for yourself:
There was not a single adult male on the school premises when the shooting occurred. In this school of 450 students, a sizeable number of whom were undoubtedly 11- and 12-year-old boys (it was a Kโ6 school), all the personnel โ the teachers, the principal, the assistant principal, the school psychologist, the โreading specialistโ โ were female. There didnโt even seem to be a male janitor to heave his bucket at Adam Lanzaโs knees.
As everyone knows, janitors with buckets can easily overwhelm adult males firing semiautomatic rifles. Thatโs why most armies in the world have given up guns, are stocking up on buckets, and have started massive recruiting drives aimed at janitors.
(In fact, there was a male custodian on duty, who (according to one witness) warned students and teachers of the gunman, probably saving lives in the process. It does not appear that any buckets were thrown.)
Oh, Allen gives the women at the school some grudging credit for confronting Lanza and saving lives.
The principal, Dawn Hochsprung, seemed to have performed bravely. According to reports, she activated the schoolโs public-address system and also lunged at Lanza, before he shot her to death. Some of the teachers managed to save all or some of their charges by rushing them into closets or bathrooms.
But they were ladies, and ladies just aren’t made to be heroes.
[I]n general, a feminized setting is a setting in which helpless passivity is the norm. Male aggression can be a good thing, as in protecting the weak โ but it has been forced out of the culture of elementary schools and the education schools that train their personnel. Think of what Sandy Hook might have been like if a couple of male teachers who had played high-school football, or even some of the huskier 12-year-old boys, had converged on Lanza.
Iโm pretty sure that if this had happened they would have been gunned down, and there would be a couple ofย former high school football stars and โsome of the huskier 12-year-old boysโ added to the list of victims. Not even the โhuskiestโ 12-year-old is any match for a man with a semiautomatic rifle. [EDITED TO ADD: Also, if there were any 12-year-olds on the scene they would have had to have have flunked several years, as the school only goes up to the fourth grade, as several commenters here have pointed out.]
People, even unarmed people, need to fight back against criminals โ because usually, no one else will. It took the police 20 minutes to arrive at Sandy Hook.
According to this timeline, a police SWAT team was there ten minutes after the shooting started.
By the time they got there, it was over. Cops and everybody else encourage civilians not to try to defend themselves when they are criminally assaulted. This is stupid advice. There are things you can do. Run is one of them, because most shooters canโt hit a moving target. The other, if you are in a confined space, is throw things at the killer, or try a tackle.
Many students, with the help of teachers, saved themselves by hiding. Some of the students in one classroom tried to run, and were gunned down. Their classmates who stayed hidden survived.
Remember United Flight 93 on 9/11. It was a โflight of heroesโ because a bunch of guys on that plane did what they could with what they had. They probably prevented the destruction of the White House or the Capitol.
The hijackers werenโt carrying semiautomatic rifles. And the heroes literally had nothing to lose by attacking them.
Parents of sick children need to be realistic about them. I know at least two sets of fine and devoted parents who have had the misfortune to raise sons who were troubled for genetic reasons beyond anyoneโs control. Either of those boys could have been an Adam Lanza. You simply canโt give a non-working, non-school-enrolled 20-year-old man free range of your home, much less your cache of weapons. You have to set boundaries. You have to say, โYou canโt live here anymore โ youโre an adult, and itโs time for you to be a man. Weโll give you all the support you need, but we wonโt be enablers.โ Unfortunately, the idea of being an โadultโ and a โmanโ once one has reached physical maturity seems to have faded out of our coddling culture.
Really? Very few mass killers have lived at home with their mothers, but somehow being โadultโ and โmenโ didnโt stop them from killing. Itโs good that Allen, without actually knowing any of the details of Adam Lanzaโs apparent “sickness” (because at this point none of us do) is able to tell us what would have been best for him.
Appalling.
some of the conversation has turned to how much alimony/child support she received, as if it is relevant.
Because if she’d received less child support, thus meaning that the shooter would have been less well off too, that would have made him less likely to go kill a bunch of kids?
They actually talk about how she got custody of Adam and how much she recieved in alimony at usa today. http://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2012/12/17/nancy-lanza-conn-adam-lanza/1774611/
What the fuck does the parents divorce settlement and child support payments have to do with anything? I really feel sorry for survivng family members, who are going to have the media exposing every detail of their lives for however long they want.
Perhaps a law preventing the media from doing this shit? Give the family time to grieve?
Since it hasn’t come up, there is a very good reason most teachers are women: women were originally recruited because they could be paid less. Less pay and more women led to less prestige, which led to less pay and more women, etc. If the writer really wants more men in schools, she’d better support paying teachers more as it is the only way to recruit men back into teaching.
*sob*
Hey, if someone out there imagines that I look like Danny John-Jules, I can live with that.
I have plans to turn my hair blue and purple on the weekend. The bleaching it first part is a bit scary.
The bleaching part is why my hair is no longer magenta or purple. I love super bright hair colors, but bleaching my hair makes it very unhappy.
I really need to get my hair highlighted again but unfortunately it cannot be with blue and green highlights. No matter what the season. #hatebeingmature
It’s hair colouring day for me tomorrow. My hair grows so fast – about a centimetre a month.
The funny part is that my hairdresser is more worried about Mr K’s opinion of her work than mine, and is permanently put out because she’s never seen him! ๐
I tried to dye my hair blue once. It ended up a dark sort of green, with swampy overtones. Not a good look.
Oh dear, no!
I like your evil kitty avatar, Viola. ๐
He’s not evil. He’s just misunderstood ๐
@Falconer you definitely have the best cat icon of the bunch ๐
emilygoddess — respectfully, I’d like to nominate freitag’s “old fashioned cat” for “best cat icon” (Doctor Who = I’m entirely biased here)
Hey, I like Doctor Who, too, but in terms of cat-descended humanoids, I simply prefer the Cat.
Yeah, an actual blue is pretty hard to get with hair dye; currently, I have teal and purple (with some random bits of navy blue that’s apparently the result of combining blue and purple dye) but it fades to this wierd green and pink ๐
Manic Panic blues should come out blue if you bleach first…I did not and got a nice raven black, it worked for me.
@Argenti (may I call you that?), I agree that Frietag’s “Old Fashioned Cat” icon is also a great combination of cats and nerdery. But I’ve been a fan of Red Dwarf!Cat for a very long time.
(I’ve been meaning to change my avatar to a cat. I finally thought of another nerdy cat character! *bandwagons*)
…Except apparently Gravatar doesn’t want to be part of the feline nerdery.
Oh hey we’re talking about hair dye?
My bestie/ex uses Manic Panic Atomic Turquoise to very good result when it comes to blue hair. Of course, she has a stylist who is VERY good at bleaching.
Just FYI – for those who worry about the actual dye damaging their hair (rather than just the bleaching), there are some super high-end organic dyes now in cool colors. My salon offers bright pinks, blues, and purples in the same organic dye range as the more traditional colors. For lighter hair they might work decently well by themselves (those dyes can take my almost black hair to a reddish-brown color with no bleaching, for example), but for a really bright color you’d still need to bleach first if your hair is dark.
“@Argenti (may I call you that?)” — go ahead ๐
As for cat avatars, opinions will vary of course. And I think you confused gravatar, if you hover over your random block one, it displays some drawn dude with an eye patch, which is not what you were using earlier, or a cat (I’d say to try setting you avatar again, since clearly it’s being wonky)