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Register-Her was a Fake “Offenders Registry” Run By Misogynists, Designed to Vilify and Intimidate Women

Register-Her has accused Katherine Heigl of being a man-hating bigot who "endorses male targeted sexual mutilation."
Register-Her accused Katherine Heigl of being a man-hating bigot who “endorse[s] male targeted sexual mutilation” because she appeared in a Funny or Die video.
Register-Her was a bogus “offenders registry” put online by A Voice for Men, a notoriously misogynistic and hateful site that often targets individual women for harassment. Ostensibly a registry of female criminals, Register-Her was clearly intended to harm the reputation of feminist writers and activists whose only “crime” has been to offend those behind the site. These women were profiled as “bigots” alongside convicted murderers and child molesters.

NOTE: As of April 4, 2014, the original site and its individual profiles have been taken down; a new site with an apparently similar purpose  is evidently being built to replace it, but it’s not yet functional. You can see an archived version of the site’s main page, and its list of “bigots” using the Internet Archive’s Wayback Machine, though you’ll need to manually edit the URLs of the “bigots” listed to see the archived profiles. (Replace each %20 in the URLs with an _ .)

Some of the women profiled on the site as “bigots” included:

Actress Katherine Heigl, who was put on the site after making a humorous public service announcement for the site Funny or Die promoting the spaying and neutering of pets. Register-Her charges her with “endors[ing] male targeted sexual mutilation.”

Feminist blogger Jessica Valenti, the author, most recently, of “Why Have Kids?: A New Mom Explores the Truth About Parenting and Happiness,” who was put on the site for several newspaper columns that the site misrepresents in an attempt to show that she is guilty of “an ongoing pattern of anti-male bigotry and advocacy for the eradication of constitutional rights based primarily on sex.” A Voice for Men has also labeled Valenti a “child abuser” for supporting feminist causes, and on one occasion posted candid photos it claimed were of her in an attempt to cause her embarrassment. If you look at the archived version of the site’s main page, you will see a picture of Valenti alongside photos of convicted rapists and murderers, all underneath the headline “Why Aren’t These Women In Prison?” Valenti has not, of course, committed any crimes.

A number of young women who attended a protest against Men’s Rights icon Warren Farrell at the University of Toronto. Register-Her used Twitter Tweets from some of the women, clearly intended as jokes, as evidence of genocidal intentions towards men. In an article on A Voice for Men, an anonymous writer even attacked one of these women for Tweeting a picture of a poster which declared “it is important to have someone’s consent before sexual activity.”

Site founder Paul Elam and other writers on A Voice for Men make no bones about their desire to ruin the lives of their foes. Indeed, the site’s much-referenced slogan is “Fuck Their Shit Up.”

In one post, Elam warned one critic of Register-Her that:

I find you, as a feminist, to be a loathsome, vile piece of human garbage.  I find you so pernicious and repugnant that the idea of fucking your shit up gives me an erection. …

[Y]ou  fucking moron.  Your only real hope is to keep your mouth shut and pretend AVfM and register-her.com does not exist for as long as you can. Because, as you can see right now, anything you say or do will be thrown back in your face like holy water on a vampire.

We are coming for you, and we are coming for all the liars out there that have been ruining people’s lives with impunity. …

You are SO fucked.

Register-Her was clearly a major part of Elam’s program to “Fuck Their Shit Up.” The “registry” was heavily promoted on A Voice for Men, which linked to a number of “featured offenders” in its sidebar – all of them so-called “bigots,” none of them the criminals that Register-Her claims to really be about. A banner ad for Register-Her depicts a bloody knife. The tagline: “TRUTH is the real bitch.”

Elam’s idea of  exposing the “truth” seems to involve publishing photographs and the personal information of his targets, whether these are alleged “false accusers” or simply feminists who have offended him. On the A Voice for Men internet radio show, Elam promised that:

If Mary Jane Rottencrotch out there wants to say that her husband beat her just for the sake of gaining leverage in a divorce he will now have a resource where he can come and post your name, your picture, your work telephone number, your address, perhaps even your route you take to get to work, if you bother to have a job.

While Elam has yet to make good on the threat of posting information on women’s routes to work, posts on A Voice for Men promoting the profiles of so-called “bigots” are filled with threatening language and vague intimations that further information will be revealed. In a post announcing the site’s campaign against the University of Toronto protestors, Elam wrote this about one of his targets:

We have her image and know her general location. We will identify her and profile her activity and name for public view.

We will not stop there, or just with her. And while we will not publish our complete intent, we are dogged in our efforts. …

We have no more sympathy for your agenda of hatred and exclusion than for a plantation owner’s rationale in the Antebellum South for justified ownership of another human being.

A Voice for Men’s posts about the targeted women are also filled with bizarre and hyperbolic accusations. In a post about a college student who had jokingly Tweeted that her “political position” was “kill all men hail satan,” and who in another tweet suggested she might get a tattoo reading “misandry,” one of A Voice for Men’s many pseudonynmous “agents” wrote:

She doesn’t just hate men; doesn’t just want them dead or silenced or marginalized or ignored. She at least entertains the idea of permanently marking her skin with that hatred, like a convict signaling gang affiliation.

“Agent Mauve” makes clear that he hopes to ruin the life of the young woman by putting her on Register-Her:

[T]his will be the beginning of [name removed]’s real legacy; where she can revel in the full and permanent notice of her deeds, and the lesson she is providing to the world about the nature of feminism, and the etiology of hatred. And so that anyone who ever does an internet search on her name again will be aware of it.

So far, A Voice for Men’s campaign against the Toronto protesters seems to be having what one can only assume is the desired effect. On A Voice for Men’s Facebook page, a commenter refers to one of the protesters as an “evil twisted little piece of dogshit,” adding: “I hope she suffers a fatal injury before she can go out and ruin peoples’ lives like she seems determined to do.” This comment earned several “likes” from A Voice for Men’s readers.

In the Spring of 2012, Register-Her was profiled by the Southern Poverty Law Center, a civil rights organization that tracks hate groups, as part of a larger feature on the so-called “Men’s Rights” movement. Writing in the SPLC’s Intelligence Report, Arthur Goldwag described Register-Her’s modus operandus and its effect on one targeted woman:

Elam’s site can be frightening to its targets. In one case, he offered a cash reward to the first reader to ferret out a pseudonymous feminist blogger’s real name. In another, Elam singled out a part-time blogger at ChicagoNow who describes herself as a “vegetarian park activist with two baby girls.” The woman’s mistake was to write about her discomfort with male adults helping female toddlers in the bathroom at her daughter’s preschool. The blogger conceded that she was being sexist, but wrote that “I’d rather be wrong than find out if I’m right.”

After the woman was listed, she was widely attacked on men’s movement sites. “I don’t always use the word ‘cunt’ to describe a woman,” one poster raged, “but when I do it’s because of reasons like these.” Shocked, the “Mommy blogger” took down her original post and apologized for her “demonization of men.”

It wasn’t enough. “You targeted fathers, and just fathers,” Elam rebuked her. “It strikes me that you have never really been held to account for any of your actions in life. It is quite likely that the concept of complete, selfless accountability is just completely foreign to you.” Over at the Reddit Mens Rights forum, another poster fumed: “This entire episode should be a warning to all those male hating feminists out there who believe that they are safe screaming their hate messages on the web. Finally, they are held accountable for their hate messages and finally the rest of the world will find out exactly what type of depraved people they really are.”

That’s hate, and that’s precisely the sort of reaction Register-Her seems designed to provoke.

I encourage readers to link to this piece on their websites, so as to make sure that people understand what Register-Her was really all about.

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Tulgey Logger
Tulgey Logger
11 years ago

You’re all funny, NOT!

Teach us your ways, great one.

Kim
Kim
11 years ago

And you might want to make sure you don’t make any grammar mistakes of your (see what I did there? Correct use of your) own before you start ragging on other people’s typos.

The First Joe
The First Joe
11 years ago

@Bewildered – I wouldn’t know, I haven’t had cable and I stopped watching almost all TV… since / way back in 1994.

@AA – Ah, I see you’d like to play oppression Olympics. No, thanks so much. That game went stale long ago.

josephine
josephine
11 years ago

I’m not pell. what have I accomplished today? Only furthered my goal of becoming a better person. Cuz I have discipline. I was in a poetry reading competition today, and I impressed the attendees with “The Black Gap”. then, I was in an elevtor and someone was being racist, so I barked at them and told them how wrong they were. world made a more tolerant place, b/c I am alive.

clairedammit
clairedammit
11 years ago

I thought Josephine seemed familiar. How are your psychiatric patients, Jose?

thebewilderness
thebewilderness
11 years ago

I’m quite sure you have been living under a rock for a lot longer than that, Joe.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago
clairedammit
clairedammit
11 years ago

Only Pell would think that yelling at someone would make the world a better place.

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

Joe: if you don’t want to play oppression olympics, shut up about Sharon Osbourne and misandry. Go away. Take Pell with you.

thebewilderness
thebewilderness
11 years ago

Clean up on aisle five pls David.

josephine
josephine
11 years ago

and now, I am working on my higher education, and will outstrip all others. FUCK you.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

Kim, you spelled “thought” wrong, dumass.

Quoth the person who can’t spell dumbass …

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

Peltdown achieved!!!

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

“You’re all funny, NOT!”

Why yes, I am 12.

“But I suppose I can’t blame you for imitating me. A lot of people do, b/c im a bit of a genius that way. Sincerst form of flattery.”

Grammar, how does it work?! Thanks for asking, it works like this —

But I suppose I can’t blame you for imitating me. A , as lot of people do, b/c im ; I’m a bit of a genius that way. Imitation is the Sincerst sincerest form of flattery.

yYou think you’re mocking me, but your you’re not. I know. [you know what?! At a guess…] I know that you are imitating me.

cassandrasays, your you’re an idiot.

That’s mocking you, imitating you would look more like this —

omgs u r so rite!

josephine
josephine
11 years ago

lol, when FUBAR Futrelle gets here, he’ll tell you i’m not Pell. I’m way better than he is, of course, I’m way better than evreyobody.

Tulgey Logger
Tulgey Logger
11 years ago

@Joe, so Elam’s not a misogynist because he defended some women who espouse misogynist views? Get back to me when he defends a woman who doesn’t put out shit TyphonBlue’s “pleasing men’s penises raises women above livestock” article.

clairedammit
clairedammit
11 years ago

…and will outstrip all others.

What does this even mean?

The First Joe
The First Joe
11 years ago

@Hellkell – wait, you’re saying that you
a) read all the Agent Orange material from RadFemHub
and
b) you somehow contrived to believe that calls to (bio)chemically neuter men, selectively abort male babies in the womb or infanticide them post-birth are somehow A-OK?
Or
c) you managed to convince yourself those words didn’t mean what they actually fucking said?

If b) You are a sick, evil fucknut.
If c) You’re a moron, and you just lost absolutely all credibility at all, on any subject, ever.

josephine
josephine
11 years ago

FUCK Manboobz. This place SUCKS. Why did I return???????????????????? the world may never know

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

“evreyobody?” Such a genius.

hippodameia8527
hippodameia8527
11 years ago

Elam sometimes goes “too far.”
Uh, really? That’s quite a low bar.
He does “fuck up some shit”
but that’s not truly wit.
That you think he’s great is . . . bizarre.

Kim
Kim
11 years ago

@Joe

Why is it so hard to grasp that we understand that men have had to endure bad things too? That it isn’t feminists or even women in general who made these things happen? It’s feminists who are fighting against this gender roles crap. We also realise that there are men fighting against it too under the banner of men’s rights. AS I am pretty sure I said to you last time you were here trying to blame us for everything.

It is the MRA arseholes who pretend they are for men’s rights when they are really for ‘abuser rights’ who are your enemy, not us. Stop buying into their arse-procured facts.

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

Joe, I know you’re a conspiracy nut who falls for everything, but there’s no chance in hell any of what she wrote is going to happen. Adjust your fucking tin foil and move on.

Ithiliana
Ithiliana
11 years ago

@Josephine Troll: So, any relation to JOe?

And good fucking grief: words mean things.

Saying feminism has committed racism against men. is one of the more flagrantly ridiculously ignorant asinine assholish things to pull.

On one swell (IRONY!) foop you:

Erase actual racism against people of color, including men of color (as if the ONLY men who existed were white).

Ignore the fact that the Southern Poverty Center identified the FUCKING Register.her site and efforts as part of a growing hate movement, so if ANYBODY is ANALAGOUS (not the same is, and even using the analogy is fucking appropriative) to the KKK in this little scenario, it’s the fucking MRM.

Ignore the violence and harassment committed by Elam and Co and focus on the group criticizing them–as if “reverse racism” or in this case “MISANDRY” (yeah, Steele, suck on it) were a real thing, which it’s not. NOTE: Individual dislike of other individuals is not the same as systemic inequalities of power, rights, and access.

In other words, shut the fuck up. You’re lowering the collective IQ here by way too much.

josephine
josephine
11 years ago
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