Register-Her was a bogus “offenders registry” put online by A Voice for Men, a notoriously misogynistic and hateful site that often targets individual women for harassment. Ostensibly a registry of female criminals, Register-Her was clearly intended to harm the reputation of feminist writers and activists whose only “crime” has been to offend those behind the site. These women were profiled as “bigots” alongside convicted murderers and child molesters.
NOTE: As of April 4, 2014, the original site and its individual profiles have been taken down; a new site with an apparently similar purpose is evidently being built to replace it, but it’s not yet functional. You can see an archived version of the site’s main page, and its list of “bigots” using the Internet Archive’s Wayback Machine, though you’ll need to manually edit the URLs of the “bigots” listed to see the archived profiles. (Replace each %20 in the URLs with an _ .)
Some of the women profiled on the site as “bigots” included:
Actress Katherine Heigl, who was put on the site after making a humorous public service announcement for the site Funny or Die promoting the spaying and neutering of pets. Register-Her charges her with “endors[ing] male targeted sexual mutilation.”
Feminist blogger Jessica Valenti, the author, most recently, of “Why Have Kids?: A New Mom Explores the Truth About Parenting and Happiness,” who was put on the site for several newspaper columns that the site misrepresents in an attempt to show that she is guilty of “an ongoing pattern of anti-male bigotry and advocacy for the eradication of constitutional rights based primarily on sex.” A Voice for Men has also labeled Valenti a “child abuser” for supporting feminist causes, and on one occasion posted candid photos it claimed were of her in an attempt to cause her embarrassment. If you look at the archived version of the site’s main page, you will see a picture of Valenti alongside photos of convicted rapists and murderers, all underneath the headline “Why Aren’t These Women In Prison?” Valenti has not, of course, committed any crimes.
A number of young women who attended a protest against Men’s Rights icon Warren Farrell at the University of Toronto. Register-Her used Twitter Tweets from some of the women, clearly intended as jokes, as evidence of genocidal intentions towards men. In an article on A Voice for Men, an anonymous writer even attacked one of these women for Tweeting a picture of a poster which declared “it is important to have someone’s consent before sexual activity.”
Site founder Paul Elam and other writers on A Voice for Men make no bones about their desire to ruin the lives of their foes. Indeed, the site’s much-referenced slogan is “Fuck Their Shit Up.”
In one post, Elam warned one critic of Register-Her that:
I find you, as a feminist, to be a loathsome, vile piece of human garbage. I find you so pernicious and repugnant that the idea of fucking your shit up gives me an erection. …
[Y]ou fucking moron. Your only real hope is to keep your mouth shut and pretend AVfM and register-her.com does not exist for as long as you can. Because, as you can see right now, anything you say or do will be thrown back in your face like holy water on a vampire.
We are coming for you, and we are coming for all the liars out there that have been ruining people’s lives with impunity. …
You are SO fucked.
Register-Her was clearly a major part of Elam’s program to “Fuck Their Shit Up.” The “registry” was heavily promoted on A Voice for Men, which linked to a number of “featured offenders” in its sidebar – all of them so-called “bigots,” none of them the criminals that Register-Her claims to really be about. A banner ad for Register-Her depicts a bloody knife. The tagline: “TRUTH is the real bitch.”
Elam’s idea of exposing the “truth” seems to involve publishing photographs and the personal information of his targets, whether these are alleged “false accusers” or simply feminists who have offended him. On the A Voice for Men internet radio show, Elam promised that:
If Mary Jane Rottencrotch out there wants to say that her husband beat her just for the sake of gaining leverage in a divorce he will now have a resource where he can come and post your name, your picture, your work telephone number, your address, perhaps even your route you take to get to work, if you bother to have a job.
While Elam has yet to make good on the threat of posting information on women’s routes to work, posts on A Voice for Men promoting the profiles of so-called “bigots” are filled with threatening language and vague intimations that further information will be revealed. In a post announcing the site’s campaign against the University of Toronto protestors, Elam wrote this about one of his targets:
We have her image and know her general location. We will identify her and profile her activity and name for public view.
We will not stop there, or just with her. And while we will not publish our complete intent, we are dogged in our efforts. …
We have no more sympathy for your agenda of hatred and exclusion than for a plantation owner’s rationale in the Antebellum South for justified ownership of another human being.
A Voice for Men’s posts about the targeted women are also filled with bizarre and hyperbolic accusations. In a post about a college student who had jokingly Tweeted that her “political position” was “kill all men hail satan,” and who in another tweet suggested she might get a tattoo reading “misandry,” one of A Voice for Men’s many pseudonynmous “agents” wrote:
She doesn’t just hate men; doesn’t just want them dead or silenced or marginalized or ignored. She at least entertains the idea of permanently marking her skin with that hatred, like a convict signaling gang affiliation.
“Agent Mauve” makes clear that he hopes to ruin the life of the young woman by putting her on Register-Her:
[T]his will be the beginning of [name removed]’s real legacy; where she can revel in the full and permanent notice of her deeds, and the lesson she is providing to the world about the nature of feminism, and the etiology of hatred. And so that anyone who ever does an internet search on her name again will be aware of it.
So far, A Voice for Men’s campaign against the Toronto protesters seems to be having what one can only assume is the desired effect. On A Voice for Men’s Facebook page, a commenter refers to one of the protesters as an “evil twisted little piece of dogshit,” adding: “I hope she suffers a fatal injury before she can go out and ruin peoples’ lives like she seems determined to do.” This comment earned several “likes” from A Voice for Men’s readers.
In the Spring of 2012, Register-Her was profiled by the Southern Poverty Law Center, a civil rights organization that tracks hate groups, as part of a larger feature on the so-called “Men’s Rights” movement. Writing in the SPLC’s Intelligence Report, Arthur Goldwag described Register-Her’s modus operandus and its effect on one targeted woman:
Elam’s site can be frightening to its targets. In one case, he offered a cash reward to the first reader to ferret out a pseudonymous feminist blogger’s real name. In another, Elam singled out a part-time blogger at ChicagoNow who describes herself as a “vegetarian park activist with two baby girls.” The woman’s mistake was to write about her discomfort with male adults helping female toddlers in the bathroom at her daughter’s preschool. The blogger conceded that she was being sexist, but wrote that “I’d rather be wrong than find out if I’m right.”
After the woman was listed, she was widely attacked on men’s movement sites. “I don’t always use the word ‘cunt’ to describe a woman,” one poster raged, “but when I do it’s because of reasons like these.” Shocked, the “Mommy blogger” took down her original post and apologized for her “demonization of men.”
It wasn’t enough. “You targeted fathers, and just fathers,” Elam rebuked her. “It strikes me that you have never really been held to account for any of your actions in life. It is quite likely that the concept of complete, selfless accountability is just completely foreign to you.” Over at the Reddit Mens Rights forum, another poster fumed: “This entire episode should be a warning to all those male hating feminists out there who believe that they are safe screaming their hate messages on the web. Finally, they are held accountable for their hate messages and finally the rest of the world will find out exactly what type of depraved people they really are.”
That’s hate, and that’s precisely the sort of reaction Register-Her seems designed to provoke.
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I encourage readers to link to this piece on their websites, so as to make sure that people understand what Register-Her was really all about.
You’re all funny, NOT!
Oceans are racism against beaches.
My sister posted this picture on FB today from the beach near our hometown.
http://www.weartv.com//newsroom/features/see-it/uploaded/01_l6X6z_500x332.jpg
Beaches are racism against snow.
But I suppose I can’t blame you for imitating me. A lot of people do, b/c im a bit of a genius that way. Sincerst form of flattery.
If you’re dancing with your honey
and your nose gets kind of runny
you might think it’s funny
but it SNOT
Why yes, I am eleven years old.
“In one case, he offered a cash reward to the first reader to ferret out a pseudonymous feminist blogger’s real name.”
This bit – was about Vliet Tiptree a pseudonym RadFem who was actually promoting male gendercide as an actual thing-to-be-done right now, by various means on the RadFemHub. All of that was documented, and I read it.
That expose was fair enough. It was directly equivalent to exposing a neo-nazi planning to get rid of all black people. And the woman behind that name, and some others who joined in and who were also exposed / doxxed, is/are wealthy and powerful / connected.
Elam got that right.
I always aim for sincersty.
Josephine – learn the difference between being mocked and being imitated. And seriously, if you have a point to make, don’t spout stuff like “feminism is racism against men” unless you’re being sarcastic.
you think you’re mocking me, but your not. I know.
cassandrasays, your an idiot.
I’m not imitating you jose, I’m just laughing at you and your tortured train of throught. It’s not flattery at all.
I am impressed with the way that the unrelenting misogyny that was spouted almost daily on cable teevee throughout 2008 has so completely gone down the memory hole in the minds of misogynist men like Joe. The bit about “….somebody who can take her (Clinton) into a room, and only he comes out.” comes to mind.
In fact Vliet Tiptree and her friends would’ve been prosecuted for hate crimes in the UK,* if they’d chosen to say those things about any group, other than men.
*we don’t have free speech in the UK. See e.g. racist woman sent to jail for mouthing off to not-white folks on a tram.
Joe — where do things like being allowed to own and inherent property come into this view of yours? How about the likelihood of men being committed for “hysteria” (versus women)?
Involuntary sterilization? (Practiced until the 1970s)
Clitoridectomy? (That’s the equivilant of Osborne castration “joke” btw, except it was far more frequent, and was a quackery fad towards the end of the Victorian era)
But sure, men were sent to wars, and then treated like heroes if they survived, and glorified if they didn’t (granted, little good glory does if you’re dead).
lmao, do you arseholes spend 24/7 on here? You should be out accomplishing things, like me.
Hi, Pell.
Kim, you spelled “thought” wrong, dumass.
And maybe monkeys will fly out of my ass. You do know the difference between racism and sexism, right? Scroll up if you don’t. Argenti was kind enough to spell it out for your dumbass.
Joe, of course you think Elam was right. Neither of you can read.
I’m not Pell, butthead.
Josephine, you might also learn the difference between “your” and “you’re”. Posing as some sort of genius we need to take seriously works ever so much better if you don’t consistently make basic writing mistakes. You’re not coming across as smart or witty or anything else, just as a “neener neener neener” primary school kid.
Josephine is PELL. HI PELL!
Oh do tell Josie… what have you accomplished today? We are on tenterhooks and wish to live vicariously through you.
Definite smell of returning troll here. Is it time to start the countdown to meltdown? It’s descended to basic name-calling remarkably quickly.
PELL, how’s Uncle Monty?
The way mocking works is that the person doing it decides whether it’s mocking or not, not the person being mocked. YES WE ARE MOCKING YOU.
Also, if you type mocking or mock or mocked three times in one sentence, it looks really weird. WHOA I JUST DID IT AGAIN. MIND BLOWN.
Too bad Alice Sheldon is dead or he could expose the original “Tiptree” for her terrifying promotion of gendercide against men.
Hey now, there’s no need to bring the Three Musketeers into this, especially if you’re going to misspell their author’s name.