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Register-Her was a Fake “Offenders Registry” Run By Misogynists, Designed to Vilify and Intimidate Women

Register-Her has accused Katherine Heigl of being a man-hating bigot who "endorses male targeted sexual mutilation."
Register-Her accused Katherine Heigl of being a man-hating bigot who “endorse[s] male targeted sexual mutilation” because she appeared in a Funny or Die video.
Register-Her was a bogus “offenders registry” put online by A Voice for Men, a notoriously misogynistic and hateful site that often targets individual women for harassment. Ostensibly a registry of female criminals, Register-Her was clearly intended to harm the reputation of feminist writers and activists whose only “crime” has been to offend those behind the site. These women were profiled as “bigots” alongside convicted murderers and child molesters.

NOTE: As of April 4, 2014, the original site and its individual profiles have been taken down; a new site with an apparently similar purpose  is evidently being built to replace it, but it’s not yet functional. You can see an archived version of the site’s main page, and its list of “bigots” using the Internet Archive’s Wayback Machine, though you’ll need to manually edit the URLs of the “bigots” listed to see the archived profiles. (Replace each %20 in the URLs with an _ .)

Some of the women profiled on the site as “bigots” included:

Actress Katherine Heigl, who was put on the site after making a humorous public service announcement for the site Funny or Die promoting the spaying and neutering of pets. Register-Her charges her with “endors[ing] male targeted sexual mutilation.”

Feminist blogger Jessica Valenti, the author, most recently, of “Why Have Kids?: A New Mom Explores the Truth About Parenting and Happiness,” who was put on the site for several newspaper columns that the site misrepresents in an attempt to show that she is guilty of “an ongoing pattern of anti-male bigotry and advocacy for the eradication of constitutional rights based primarily on sex.” A Voice for Men has also labeled Valenti a “child abuser” for supporting feminist causes, and on one occasion posted candid photos it claimed were of her in an attempt to cause her embarrassment. If you look at the archived version of the site’s main page, you will see a picture of Valenti alongside photos of convicted rapists and murderers, all underneath the headline “Why Aren’t These Women In Prison?” Valenti has not, of course, committed any crimes.

A number of young women who attended a protest against Men’s Rights icon Warren Farrell at the University of Toronto. Register-Her used Twitter Tweets from some of the women, clearly intended as jokes, as evidence of genocidal intentions towards men. In an article on A Voice for Men, an anonymous writer even attacked one of these women for Tweeting a picture of a poster which declared “it is important to have someone’s consent before sexual activity.”

Site founder Paul Elam and other writers on A Voice for Men make no bones about their desire to ruin the lives of their foes. Indeed, the site’s much-referenced slogan is “Fuck Their Shit Up.”

In one post, Elam warned one critic of Register-Her that:

I find you, as a feminist, to be a loathsome, vile piece of human garbage.  I find you so pernicious and repugnant that the idea of fucking your shit up gives me an erection. …

[Y]ou  fucking moron.  Your only real hope is to keep your mouth shut and pretend AVfM and register-her.com does not exist for as long as you can. Because, as you can see right now, anything you say or do will be thrown back in your face like holy water on a vampire.

We are coming for you, and we are coming for all the liars out there that have been ruining people’s lives with impunity. …

You are SO fucked.

Register-Her was clearly a major part of Elam’s program to “Fuck Their Shit Up.” The “registry” was heavily promoted on A Voice for Men, which linked to a number of “featured offenders” in its sidebar – all of them so-called “bigots,” none of them the criminals that Register-Her claims to really be about. A banner ad for Register-Her depicts a bloody knife. The tagline: “TRUTH is the real bitch.”

Elam’s idea of  exposing the “truth” seems to involve publishing photographs and the personal information of his targets, whether these are alleged “false accusers” or simply feminists who have offended him. On the A Voice for Men internet radio show, Elam promised that:

If Mary Jane Rottencrotch out there wants to say that her husband beat her just for the sake of gaining leverage in a divorce he will now have a resource where he can come and post your name, your picture, your work telephone number, your address, perhaps even your route you take to get to work, if you bother to have a job.

While Elam has yet to make good on the threat of posting information on women’s routes to work, posts on A Voice for Men promoting the profiles of so-called “bigots” are filled with threatening language and vague intimations that further information will be revealed. In a post announcing the site’s campaign against the University of Toronto protestors, Elam wrote this about one of his targets:

We have her image and know her general location. We will identify her and profile her activity and name for public view.

We will not stop there, or just with her. And while we will not publish our complete intent, we are dogged in our efforts. …

We have no more sympathy for your agenda of hatred and exclusion than for a plantation owner’s rationale in the Antebellum South for justified ownership of another human being.

A Voice for Men’s posts about the targeted women are also filled with bizarre and hyperbolic accusations. In a post about a college student who had jokingly Tweeted that her “political position” was “kill all men hail satan,” and who in another tweet suggested she might get a tattoo reading “misandry,” one of A Voice for Men’s many pseudonynmous “agents” wrote:

She doesn’t just hate men; doesn’t just want them dead or silenced or marginalized or ignored. She at least entertains the idea of permanently marking her skin with that hatred, like a convict signaling gang affiliation.

“Agent Mauve” makes clear that he hopes to ruin the life of the young woman by putting her on Register-Her:

[T]his will be the beginning of [name removed]’s real legacy; where she can revel in the full and permanent notice of her deeds, and the lesson she is providing to the world about the nature of feminism, and the etiology of hatred. And so that anyone who ever does an internet search on her name again will be aware of it.

So far, A Voice for Men’s campaign against the Toronto protesters seems to be having what one can only assume is the desired effect. On A Voice for Men’s Facebook page, a commenter refers to one of the protesters as an “evil twisted little piece of dogshit,” adding: “I hope she suffers a fatal injury before she can go out and ruin peoples’ lives like she seems determined to do.” This comment earned several “likes” from A Voice for Men’s readers.

In the Spring of 2012, Register-Her was profiled by the Southern Poverty Law Center, a civil rights organization that tracks hate groups, as part of a larger feature on the so-called “Men’s Rights” movement. Writing in the SPLC’s Intelligence Report, Arthur Goldwag described Register-Her’s modus operandus and its effect on one targeted woman:

Elam’s site can be frightening to its targets. In one case, he offered a cash reward to the first reader to ferret out a pseudonymous feminist blogger’s real name. In another, Elam singled out a part-time blogger at ChicagoNow who describes herself as a “vegetarian park activist with two baby girls.” The woman’s mistake was to write about her discomfort with male adults helping female toddlers in the bathroom at her daughter’s preschool. The blogger conceded that she was being sexist, but wrote that “I’d rather be wrong than find out if I’m right.”

After the woman was listed, she was widely attacked on men’s movement sites. “I don’t always use the word ‘cunt’ to describe a woman,” one poster raged, “but when I do it’s because of reasons like these.” Shocked, the “Mommy blogger” took down her original post and apologized for her “demonization of men.”

It wasn’t enough. “You targeted fathers, and just fathers,” Elam rebuked her. “It strikes me that you have never really been held to account for any of your actions in life. It is quite likely that the concept of complete, selfless accountability is just completely foreign to you.” Over at the Reddit Mens Rights forum, another poster fumed: “This entire episode should be a warning to all those male hating feminists out there who believe that they are safe screaming their hate messages on the web. Finally, they are held accountable for their hate messages and finally the rest of the world will find out exactly what type of depraved people they really are.”

That’s hate, and that’s precisely the sort of reaction Register-Her seems designed to provoke.

I encourage readers to link to this piece on their websites, so as to make sure that people understand what Register-Her was really all about.

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Tulgey Logger
Tulgey Logger
11 years ago

If Sharon Osbourne is a raving misandrist bigot for laughing about a guy’s genitals getting mutilated, then I’ve heard some pretty misandristical male chauvinist radio hosts in my time.

The First Joe
The First Joe
11 years ago

@KathleenB – You are kidding right? I watched the original show and I watched her “apology” (that she was pushed into making by the network, due to all the complaints) while she desperately tried to not to laugh. And failed a few times.

Seriously, she’s clearly a horrible human being who found someone else’s mutilation hilarious. Maybe she’s acquired some empathy now she’s had to go through something similar – albeit medical rather than criminal. I doubt it. Anyone who can laugh so hard at someone else’s mutilation is probably irredemably self-absorbed to say the least.

And let’s be real here: if ANY man, anywhere EVER had reacted as she did on US TV to hearing about female genital mutilation? He’d be dead, in hiding, or would’ve had to flee the friggin’ country.

If you can somehow convince yourself otherwise? Bully for you.
You won’t convince me.

The First Joe
The First Joe
11 years ago

@Tugley – I’m sure. A whole load of men need to get past the whole “genital mutilation” / “male rape” is a punchline. Misandry is not restricted to women. For instance: Every proxy-chivalrist trad-con geezer who demands other men surrender their lives in work, war and/or disaster for the “greater good” / “god” / women is a misandrist – IMO.

cloudiah
11 years ago

Even if Sharon Osbourne is a horrible person, what point does that prove Joey? Oh never mind responding, it will either be nonsense or ARGLE BARGLE.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

And how is Osbourne’s behaviour (yes, it was reprhensible) worse than Elam’s delight at the prospect of causing harm to women, Joe? He’s trying to get women hurt, raped, killed. He’s the one making threats, the one who says it gives him an erection thinking about it, and it’s not just one case, it’s any woman who dares say anything at all. C’mon, you don’t really think the two are comparable, do you?

The First Joe
The First Joe
11 years ago

So, yeah, male or female – you don’t have to be a feminist to be a misandrist.

It often helps, tho’. :p

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

Yeah, Joe, whatever. Misandry still isn’t a thing. Go find something else to whine about, dipshit.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

Was there a point to that last comment? Because it was a load of rubbish.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

(Joe’s comment, that is.)

josephine
josephine
11 years ago

Feminism is racism against men.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

A nifty blog post about what some nitwits like to think is misandry.

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

WTF, josephine?

cloudiah
11 years ago

Oh, Kitteh that WAS good:

I think you’re fighting for the right to contain and control misogyny, and direct it back at women, where you think it belongs. You want to maintain your privilege but erase its consequences, and that’s why your movement is farcical; it’s a big fucking feedback loop. How do you expect men to be free from the peripheral effects of misogyny when you refuse to even fucking believe it’s real?

josephine
josephine
11 years ago

All I’m saying is that we need to be cogent of the ways that feminism has committed racism against men. I’m thinking if we can reach out to Paul Elam and try to lessen the racism feminists perpetrate on him, then maybe he’ll shut down Register-Her.

Tulgey Logger
Tulgey Logger
11 years ago

So Joe thinks that male chauvinists in a patriarchal culture can be misandrists. I guess when your head is up your bottom, you can rationalize anything.

Hey, Joe, do you think Paul “they’re freaking begging to be raped” Elam is a misogynist?

The First Joe
The First Joe
11 years ago

@Cloudiah and Kittehs – I was comparing Heigl (not a bigot, afaik, IMO, I could be wrong) with Osbourne (obviously a bigot).

As for Elam. Dude is raging. And yeah, I think he goes too far sometimes. Hence my initial comment that the whole register a “bigot” is often stretching it a bit thin.

If I were running that, I’d’ve stuck to convicted criminals and people who hold public office / media figures. And it’d just be names and photos and maybe workplace if relevant e.g. Ministry of Justice or suchlike. No addresses or any of that.

I can see a purpose in warning people about criminals and raising awareness about powerful misandrist figures, but these two shouty misandrist students? Sure, an article condemning their rhetoric – that’d be proportionate response, but doxxing them is going too far. Besides, just like John the Other, they’d already doxxed themselves, if anyone cared to look.

There IS a section of the MRM (Elam is an exemplar) that has looked at the progress of the MRM over decades of being reasonable, has decided that = getting nowhere, and has decided to pursue being as UNreasonable as they can get away with. And they believe they are getting results with that. Which pretty much paralells ever single other American political issue. Extreme polarisation and hostility.

It’s not an approach I agree with, nor approve of as far as men’s lib is concerned.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

So, Joe thinks that old fashioned conservative dudes are often misandrist, and based on this he has concluded that “you don’t have to be a feminist to be a misandrist. It often helps, tho’”?

josephine
josephine
11 years ago

lmao, Joe’s still talking about Sharon Osbourne.

clairedammit
clairedammit
11 years ago
CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

Liking punk music is racist against pop music.

Tulgey Logger
Tulgey Logger
11 years ago

josephine brings up a good point. Maybe if black people stopped being racist against white supremacists, maybe white supremacists wouldn’t be racist.

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TAKE THE RED PILL

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Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

Ooooh, my favorite kind of troll! The dictionary troll!

Hi josephine! Let me introduce you to a couple of words —

racism, noun
1: a belief that race is the primary determinant of human traits and capacities and that racial differences produce an inherent superiority of a particular race
2: racial prejudice or discrimination
— racist noun or adjective

sexism, noun
1: prejudice or discrimination based on sex; especially : discrimination against women
2: behavior, conditions, or attitudes that foster stereotypes of social roles based on sex
— sexist adjective or noun

feminism, noun
1: the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes
2: organized activity on behalf of women’s rights and interests
— feminist noun or adjective
— feministic adjective

So if we pretend you’re right (which you’re not), you were looking for the word “sexism” not the word “racism”. As it stands your comments just sound ludicrous.

PS —

ludicrous, adjective
1: amusing or laughable through obvious absurdity, incongruity, exaggeration, or eccentricity
2: meriting derisive laughter or scorn as absurdly inept, false, or foolish
— ludicrously adverb
— ludicrousness noun

The First Joe
The First Joe
11 years ago

@Tugley – A hell of a lot of patriarchy = misandry to those men who weren’t at the top. Being made head of your family was the consolation “prize” for all the other shit (being horribly exploited for your labour, sacrificed in wars). Now that “prize” is long gone in the West, men are throwing off all the other shit. Why would they put up with it for nothing?

Is Elam misogynist? I was about to say yes, and then I remembered he likes Girlwriteswhat and Typhonblue well enough, and has defended them against criticism from some even-more-radical MRAs who are definitely misogynists.
So: I think his problem is with anyone who doesn’t agree with him.
A bit like Manboobzers, but more ragey, less snarky. :p

clairedammit
clairedammit
11 years ago
CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

Rivers are racism against oceans. End oceanandry today!