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Register-Her was a Fake “Offenders Registry” Run By Misogynists, Designed to Vilify and Intimidate Women

Register-Her has accused Katherine Heigl of being a man-hating bigot who "endorses male targeted sexual mutilation."
Register-Her accused Katherine Heigl of being a man-hating bigot who “endorse[s] male targeted sexual mutilation” because she appeared in a Funny or Die video.
Register-Her was a bogus “offenders registry” put online by A Voice for Men, a notoriously misogynistic and hateful site that often targets individual women for harassment. Ostensibly a registry of female criminals, Register-Her was clearly intended to harm the reputation of feminist writers and activists whose only “crime” has been to offend those behind the site. These women were profiled as “bigots” alongside convicted murderers and child molesters.

NOTE: As of April 4, 2014, the original site and its individual profiles have been taken down; a new site with an apparently similar purpose  is evidently being built to replace it, but it’s not yet functional. You can see an archived version of the site’s main page, and its list of “bigots” using the Internet Archive’s Wayback Machine, though you’ll need to manually edit the URLs of the “bigots” listed to see the archived profiles. (Replace each %20 in the URLs with an _ .)

Some of the women profiled on the site as “bigots” included:

Actress Katherine Heigl, who was put on the site after making a humorous public service announcement for the site Funny or Die promoting the spaying and neutering of pets. Register-Her charges her with “endors[ing] male targeted sexual mutilation.”

Feminist blogger Jessica Valenti, the author, most recently, of “Why Have Kids?: A New Mom Explores the Truth About Parenting and Happiness,” who was put on the site for several newspaper columns that the site misrepresents in an attempt to show that she is guilty of “an ongoing pattern of anti-male bigotry and advocacy for the eradication of constitutional rights based primarily on sex.” A Voice for Men has also labeled Valenti a “child abuser” for supporting feminist causes, and on one occasion posted candid photos it claimed were of her in an attempt to cause her embarrassment. If you look at the archived version of the site’s main page, you will see a picture of Valenti alongside photos of convicted rapists and murderers, all underneath the headline “Why Aren’t These Women In Prison?” Valenti has not, of course, committed any crimes.

A number of young women who attended a protest against Men’s Rights icon Warren Farrell at the University of Toronto. Register-Her used Twitter Tweets from some of the women, clearly intended as jokes, as evidence of genocidal intentions towards men. In an article on A Voice for Men, an anonymous writer even attacked one of these women for Tweeting a picture of a poster which declared “it is important to have someone’s consent before sexual activity.”

Site founder Paul Elam and other writers on A Voice for Men make no bones about their desire to ruin the lives of their foes. Indeed, the site’s much-referenced slogan is “Fuck Their Shit Up.”

In one post, Elam warned one critic of Register-Her that:

I find you, as a feminist, to be a loathsome, vile piece of human garbage.  I find you so pernicious and repugnant that the idea of fucking your shit up gives me an erection. …

[Y]ou  fucking moron.  Your only real hope is to keep your mouth shut and pretend AVfM and register-her.com does not exist for as long as you can. Because, as you can see right now, anything you say or do will be thrown back in your face like holy water on a vampire.

We are coming for you, and we are coming for all the liars out there that have been ruining people’s lives with impunity. …

You are SO fucked.

Register-Her was clearly a major part of Elam’s program to “Fuck Their Shit Up.” The “registry” was heavily promoted on A Voice for Men, which linked to a number of “featured offenders” in its sidebar – all of them so-called “bigots,” none of them the criminals that Register-Her claims to really be about. A banner ad for Register-Her depicts a bloody knife. The tagline: “TRUTH is the real bitch.”

Elam’s idea of  exposing the “truth” seems to involve publishing photographs and the personal information of his targets, whether these are alleged “false accusers” or simply feminists who have offended him. On the A Voice for Men internet radio show, Elam promised that:

If Mary Jane Rottencrotch out there wants to say that her husband beat her just for the sake of gaining leverage in a divorce he will now have a resource where he can come and post your name, your picture, your work telephone number, your address, perhaps even your route you take to get to work, if you bother to have a job.

While Elam has yet to make good on the threat of posting information on women’s routes to work, posts on A Voice for Men promoting the profiles of so-called “bigots” are filled with threatening language and vague intimations that further information will be revealed. In a post announcing the site’s campaign against the University of Toronto protestors, Elam wrote this about one of his targets:

We have her image and know her general location. We will identify her and profile her activity and name for public view.

We will not stop there, or just with her. And while we will not publish our complete intent, we are dogged in our efforts. …

We have no more sympathy for your agenda of hatred and exclusion than for a plantation owner’s rationale in the Antebellum South for justified ownership of another human being.

A Voice for Men’s posts about the targeted women are also filled with bizarre and hyperbolic accusations. In a post about a college student who had jokingly Tweeted that her “political position” was “kill all men hail satan,” and who in another tweet suggested she might get a tattoo reading “misandry,” one of A Voice for Men’s many pseudonynmous “agents” wrote:

She doesn’t just hate men; doesn’t just want them dead or silenced or marginalized or ignored. She at least entertains the idea of permanently marking her skin with that hatred, like a convict signaling gang affiliation.

“Agent Mauve” makes clear that he hopes to ruin the life of the young woman by putting her on Register-Her:

[T]his will be the beginning of [name removed]’s real legacy; where she can revel in the full and permanent notice of her deeds, and the lesson she is providing to the world about the nature of feminism, and the etiology of hatred. And so that anyone who ever does an internet search on her name again will be aware of it.

So far, A Voice for Men’s campaign against the Toronto protesters seems to be having what one can only assume is the desired effect. On A Voice for Men’s Facebook page, a commenter refers to one of the protesters as an “evil twisted little piece of dogshit,” adding: “I hope she suffers a fatal injury before she can go out and ruin peoples’ lives like she seems determined to do.” This comment earned several “likes” from A Voice for Men’s readers.

In the Spring of 2012, Register-Her was profiled by the Southern Poverty Law Center, a civil rights organization that tracks hate groups, as part of a larger feature on the so-called “Men’s Rights” movement. Writing in the SPLC’s Intelligence Report, Arthur Goldwag described Register-Her’s modus operandus and its effect on one targeted woman:

Elam’s site can be frightening to its targets. In one case, he offered a cash reward to the first reader to ferret out a pseudonymous feminist blogger’s real name. In another, Elam singled out a part-time blogger at ChicagoNow who describes herself as a “vegetarian park activist with two baby girls.” The woman’s mistake was to write about her discomfort with male adults helping female toddlers in the bathroom at her daughter’s preschool. The blogger conceded that she was being sexist, but wrote that “I’d rather be wrong than find out if I’m right.”

After the woman was listed, she was widely attacked on men’s movement sites. “I don’t always use the word ‘cunt’ to describe a woman,” one poster raged, “but when I do it’s because of reasons like these.” Shocked, the “Mommy blogger” took down her original post and apologized for her “demonization of men.”

It wasn’t enough. “You targeted fathers, and just fathers,” Elam rebuked her. “It strikes me that you have never really been held to account for any of your actions in life. It is quite likely that the concept of complete, selfless accountability is just completely foreign to you.” Over at the Reddit Mens Rights forum, another poster fumed: “This entire episode should be a warning to all those male hating feminists out there who believe that they are safe screaming their hate messages on the web. Finally, they are held accountable for their hate messages and finally the rest of the world will find out exactly what type of depraved people they really are.”

That’s hate, and that’s precisely the sort of reaction Register-Her seems designed to provoke.

I encourage readers to link to this piece on their websites, so as to make sure that people understand what Register-Her was really all about.

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BigMomma
BigMomma
11 years ago

having said that, I think I deal with the hardship pretty OK

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

The weather’s up and down like a ruddy yo-yo here at the moment. Mild and humid today, going to be ten degrees warmer by Sunday, then coming down again. MInd you, I’d rather upsy-downsy weather than consistent heat!

Diogenes the Dogturd wouldn’t know a red herring if one slapped him in the face.

http://youtu.be/IhJQp-q1Y1s

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

We once spent Christmas Day at the beach in Saudi, it was pretty weird.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

@BigMomma I am so jealous of your Christmas, I hate the cold.

Wanna swap? I hate Christmas in summer and I’ve always had a yen to experience a snowy Christmas. Probably comes from reading The Dark is Rising umpteen times. 😛

thenatfantastic
thenatfantastic
11 years ago

@BigMomma I know you are, I’d be half tempted to move myself if I wasn’t more scared of spiders than I hate the cold… but I really, really hate spiders.

Also, it has recently come to my attention that there are no videos or pictures of koalas and monkeys hugging anywhere on the internet. If you and some of the other Australian Manboobzers could get together and make that happen, the internet and I will be forever in your debt.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

Fish slapping spreads worldwide —

http://youtu.be/YLdK9zaLaG8

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

Possibly this is because koalas are actually kind of mean?

BigMomma
BigMomma
11 years ago

@thenat, before I came out here, I went to my local butterfly world and tried to stand next to the boxes containing the big hairy spiders. I broke out in a sweat and fled. It’s not that bad here, spiders are pretty rare and they tend to hide from you. The hunstmen are pretty scary looking but I’m a shocker and get Mr BigMomma to deal with them.

I went to a local koala natural habitat and saw nada. But I will try to figure out a way to make your monkey koala dream come true.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

natfantastic — I assume you mean non-human primates, as there are plenty of videos of humans and koalas. For example, here’s one —

http://youtu.be/4Vx7g16hEB4

lowquacks
lowquacks
11 years ago

Don’t see how they’d cuddle without leaving their trees either, and they don’t seem keen on that.

Cuddling echidnas are cute. I’ve seen an albino and more usually coloured echidna curled up into each other like a yin-yang symbol, that was beyond cute.

thenatfantastic
thenatfantastic
11 years ago

Maybe if you gave the monkeys a bath in eucalyptus essence and the koalas a bath in banana essence…

I’m overthinking this, aren’t I? I just think it would be cute and can’t believe it’s not A Thing.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

“I … can’t believe it’s not A Thing.” — considering rule 34, neither can I (hey, would furries count? that might be findable)

thenatfantastic
thenatfantastic
11 years ago

I don’t think furries count, I want adorabletimez, not sexytimez.

Oh and from your tea idea earlier – you should try black tea with a slice of lemon, shot of blackcurrant cordial and a shot of rum. Tasty and helps with colds.

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

Koalas can be grumpy critters, and you don’t want to mess with something with claws that big. Mostly they’re just sleeping or eating (or spaced out on eucalyptus leaves, methinks). They do get cuddly with people they know, though.

We had our first huntsman of the season the other night. 🙁

The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
The Kittehs' Unpaid Help
11 years ago

Re the monkeys – I can’t imagine a situation where a monkey and a koala would be in the same area, unless it was a sanctuary or zoo overseas somewhere. Monkeys don’t really live anywhere outside zoos here. I don’t think they can be kept as pets, at least I hope not, and they’re not native.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

natfantastic — while I appreciate the suggestion, I don’t do rum (it’s my alcoholic father’s drink of choice). And if furries don’t count, idk if you’ll find your request, maybe photoshopped?

*attempts to ignore the spider conversation, fails, crawls out of skin*

thenatfantastic
thenatfantastic
11 years ago

Sorry about that Argenti.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

The rum suggestion? Compared to the spiders it’s all good. Rum’s my not-an-ex’s choice of booze, I’m just not touching the stuff myself (and whiskey apparently “does bad things” to zir, so whatever).

BigMomma
BigMomma
11 years ago

I’m leaning towards a photoshop moment. But I’m utterly terribly with photoshop so I can’t help. or by the time I did something, the conversation would have moved waaaaaaay on.

@Argenti, sorry about the you-know-what conversation, here is a cute baby possum

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

D’AWWW smart little possom too!

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

This has been my brain bleach for the last few weeks. It’s a (subtitled) Korean reality TV show where they give a boy/girl band little kids to look after for 3 months. The ones with the boy bands make especially good anti-MRA brain bleach, since you get to watch a bunch of men cuddling and fussing over adorable children.

Check out the bit about 2:20 in, where a 5 year old boy says that he wants to marry one of the boy band guys when he grows up, and then check out the reaction from the guys. It’s just too cute.

Or this one, at about 0:38 when the little girl in the red coat realizes that she has to go back to her parents that day.

Kim
Kim
11 years ago

I had a strange spider catch a ride on my car the other day. It was fuzzy yellow with red legs. None of that boring brown huntsman stuff.

Here is a photo of it for the brave of heart

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

Anit-spider brain bleach.

(I would like a pet red panda, but I’m sure it’s probably illegal.)

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

0:12 = PAWS!! Omgs those are adorable

Kim
Kim
11 years ago

Not all cute animals make good pets. I am told though that Bilbies thrive in captivity while being threatened in the wild because of predation/competition from introduced species.

They need to lighten up on the “no native animals as pets” rule to allow the keeping of species that are domesticable. I find it ridiculous that people in america can have sugar gliders as pets and yet we can’t. They obviously do ok in captivity too.

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