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Register-Her was a Fake “Offenders Registry” Run By Misogynists, Designed to Vilify and Intimidate Women

Register-Her has accused Katherine Heigl of being a man-hating bigot who "endorses male targeted sexual mutilation."
Register-Her accused Katherine Heigl of being a man-hating bigot who “endorse[s] male targeted sexual mutilation” because she appeared in a Funny or Die video.
Register-Her was a bogus “offenders registry” put online by A Voice for Men, a notoriously misogynistic and hateful site that often targets individual women for harassment. Ostensibly a registry of female criminals, Register-Her was clearly intended to harm the reputation of feminist writers and activists whose only “crime” has been to offend those behind the site. These women were profiled as “bigots” alongside convicted murderers and child molesters.

NOTE: As of April 4, 2014, the original site and its individual profiles have been taken down; a new site with an apparently similar purpose  is evidently being built to replace it, but it’s not yet functional. You can see an archived version of the site’s main page, and its list of “bigots” using the Internet Archive’s Wayback Machine, though you’ll need to manually edit the URLs of the “bigots” listed to see the archived profiles. (Replace each %20 in the URLs with an _ .)

Some of the women profiled on the site as “bigots” included:

Actress Katherine Heigl, who was put on the site after making a humorous public service announcement for the site Funny or Die promoting the spaying and neutering of pets. Register-Her charges her with “endors[ing] male targeted sexual mutilation.”

Feminist blogger Jessica Valenti, the author, most recently, of “Why Have Kids?: A New Mom Explores the Truth About Parenting and Happiness,” who was put on the site for several newspaper columns that the site misrepresents in an attempt to show that she is guilty of “an ongoing pattern of anti-male bigotry and advocacy for the eradication of constitutional rights based primarily on sex.” A Voice for Men has also labeled Valenti a “child abuser” for supporting feminist causes, and on one occasion posted candid photos it claimed were of her in an attempt to cause her embarrassment. If you look at the archived version of the site’s main page, you will see a picture of Valenti alongside photos of convicted rapists and murderers, all underneath the headline “Why Aren’t These Women In Prison?” Valenti has not, of course, committed any crimes.

A number of young women who attended a protest against Men’s Rights icon Warren Farrell at the University of Toronto. Register-Her used Twitter Tweets from some of the women, clearly intended as jokes, as evidence of genocidal intentions towards men. In an article on A Voice for Men, an anonymous writer even attacked one of these women for Tweeting a picture of a poster which declared “it is important to have someone’s consent before sexual activity.”

Site founder Paul Elam and other writers on A Voice for Men make no bones about their desire to ruin the lives of their foes. Indeed, the site’s much-referenced slogan is “Fuck Their Shit Up.”

In one post, Elam warned one critic of Register-Her that:

I find you, as a feminist, to be a loathsome, vile piece of human garbage.  I find you so pernicious and repugnant that the idea of fucking your shit up gives me an erection. …

[Y]ou  fucking moron.  Your only real hope is to keep your mouth shut and pretend AVfM and register-her.com does not exist for as long as you can. Because, as you can see right now, anything you say or do will be thrown back in your face like holy water on a vampire.

We are coming for you, and we are coming for all the liars out there that have been ruining people’s lives with impunity. …

You are SO fucked.

Register-Her was clearly a major part of Elam’s program to “Fuck Their Shit Up.” The “registry” was heavily promoted on A Voice for Men, which linked to a number of “featured offenders” in its sidebar – all of them so-called “bigots,” none of them the criminals that Register-Her claims to really be about. A banner ad for Register-Her depicts a bloody knife. The tagline: “TRUTH is the real bitch.”

Elam’s idea of  exposing the “truth” seems to involve publishing photographs and the personal information of his targets, whether these are alleged “false accusers” or simply feminists who have offended him. On the A Voice for Men internet radio show, Elam promised that:

If Mary Jane Rottencrotch out there wants to say that her husband beat her just for the sake of gaining leverage in a divorce he will now have a resource where he can come and post your name, your picture, your work telephone number, your address, perhaps even your route you take to get to work, if you bother to have a job.

While Elam has yet to make good on the threat of posting information on women’s routes to work, posts on A Voice for Men promoting the profiles of so-called “bigots” are filled with threatening language and vague intimations that further information will be revealed. In a post announcing the site’s campaign against the University of Toronto protestors, Elam wrote this about one of his targets:

We have her image and know her general location. We will identify her and profile her activity and name for public view.

We will not stop there, or just with her. And while we will not publish our complete intent, we are dogged in our efforts. …

We have no more sympathy for your agenda of hatred and exclusion than for a plantation owner’s rationale in the Antebellum South for justified ownership of another human being.

A Voice for Men’s posts about the targeted women are also filled with bizarre and hyperbolic accusations. In a post about a college student who had jokingly Tweeted that her “political position” was “kill all men hail satan,” and who in another tweet suggested she might get a tattoo reading “misandry,” one of A Voice for Men’s many pseudonynmous “agents” wrote:

She doesn’t just hate men; doesn’t just want them dead or silenced or marginalized or ignored. She at least entertains the idea of permanently marking her skin with that hatred, like a convict signaling gang affiliation.

“Agent Mauve” makes clear that he hopes to ruin the life of the young woman by putting her on Register-Her:

[T]his will be the beginning of [name removed]’s real legacy; where she can revel in the full and permanent notice of her deeds, and the lesson she is providing to the world about the nature of feminism, and the etiology of hatred. And so that anyone who ever does an internet search on her name again will be aware of it.

So far, A Voice for Men’s campaign against the Toronto protesters seems to be having what one can only assume is the desired effect. On A Voice for Men’s Facebook page, a commenter refers to one of the protesters as an “evil twisted little piece of dogshit,” adding: “I hope she suffers a fatal injury before she can go out and ruin peoples’ lives like she seems determined to do.” This comment earned several “likes” from A Voice for Men’s readers.

In the Spring of 2012, Register-Her was profiled by the Southern Poverty Law Center, a civil rights organization that tracks hate groups, as part of a larger feature on the so-called “Men’s Rights” movement. Writing in the SPLC’s Intelligence Report, Arthur Goldwag described Register-Her’s modus operandus and its effect on one targeted woman:

Elam’s site can be frightening to its targets. In one case, he offered a cash reward to the first reader to ferret out a pseudonymous feminist blogger’s real name. In another, Elam singled out a part-time blogger at ChicagoNow who describes herself as a “vegetarian park activist with two baby girls.” The woman’s mistake was to write about her discomfort with male adults helping female toddlers in the bathroom at her daughter’s preschool. The blogger conceded that she was being sexist, but wrote that “I’d rather be wrong than find out if I’m right.”

After the woman was listed, she was widely attacked on men’s movement sites. “I don’t always use the word ‘cunt’ to describe a woman,” one poster raged, “but when I do it’s because of reasons like these.” Shocked, the “Mommy blogger” took down her original post and apologized for her “demonization of men.”

It wasn’t enough. “You targeted fathers, and just fathers,” Elam rebuked her. “It strikes me that you have never really been held to account for any of your actions in life. It is quite likely that the concept of complete, selfless accountability is just completely foreign to you.” Over at the Reddit Mens Rights forum, another poster fumed: “This entire episode should be a warning to all those male hating feminists out there who believe that they are safe screaming their hate messages on the web. Finally, they are held accountable for their hate messages and finally the rest of the world will find out exactly what type of depraved people they really are.”

That’s hate, and that’s precisely the sort of reaction Register-Her seems designed to provoke.

I encourage readers to link to this piece on their websites, so as to make sure that people understand what Register-Her was really all about.

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CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

I got the photos to go along with an article about a band that a lot of people here really like. I also found this…

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

Also, man-who-lacks-a-dictionary, let me help you out here —

disingenuous, adjective
lacking in frankness, candor, or sincerity; falsely or hypocritically ingenuous; insincere: (example) Her excuse was rather disingenuous.

ingenuous, adjective
1. free from reserve, restraint, or dissimulation; candid; sincere.
2. artless; innocent; naive.
3. Obsolete: honorable or noble.

You’re both faking naivete, and actually naive, it’s really quite an adorable combination.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

“What other good things have happened to people this week?”

I’m apparently out of the likely time period for THE DEATH RASH! (Trust me here, that’s exciting news)

Diogenes The Cynic
Diogenes The Cynic
11 years ago

lowquacks

You want to preserve the Western tradition of public trials for the accused to the extent possible. But if one party does not want to be identified, I could understand a gag order on identity. And I don’t think it should be only for rape. I think people should generally not be tried in a court of public opinion before the real court.

And cassandra, go play in traffic.

lowquacks
lowquacks
11 years ago

@BigMomma

Nowhere near bitter enough for Man Boobz standards!

lowquacks
lowquacks
11 years ago

@Diogenes

Who is “you”?

BigMomma
BigMomma
11 years ago

@thenat, nothing particularly great has happened but I finish work for 10days on Friday and then I am off to the beach with Mr BigMomma and our 2 gorgeous kids. We will spend Christmas dolphin spotting and swimming in the sea and drinking wine.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

Hey cynical one? Idk what country you’re posting from, probably not the US given the time here, but public trials are written into the US’s constitution, gag orders do not exist.

“And cassandra, go play in traffic.”

Another one who thinks “I hope something potentially fatal happens to you” isn’t a threat…this should get interesting.

Diogenes The Cynic
Diogenes The Cynic
11 years ago

Argenti, I don’t need the girlsplanation. I used the phrase red herring correctly.

thenatfantastic
thenatfantastic
11 years ago

@Cassandra Daaaaaaawwww, I think I fractured something from Teh Cute.

@Argenti *no death-rash fives*

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

Who is “you”? = meta, like, whoa!

http://youtu.be/OT4B-NJUcZE

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

Aw, now he’s all angry. Do you need some ice cream, sulky kid?

You want to preserve the Western tradition of public trials for the accused to the extent possible. But if one party does not want to be identified, I could understand a gag order on identity.

Be careful that you don’t hurt yourself while jumping that shark.

Diogenes The Cynic
Diogenes The Cynic
11 years ago

thenat

Whats your education in?

lowquacks
lowquacks
11 years ago

Do you need some ice cream, sulky kid?

yes please

BigMomma
BigMomma
11 years ago

@lowquacks, i have some semifreddo flavoured with cinammon, nutmeg and cranberries (it’s a ‘christmas’ style recipe)

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

It’s probably hot in Aussieland right now, isn’t it? So unfair.

(I do have some of these in the freezer, though – http://melona.com.ar/images/387.jpg .)

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

“Argenti, I don’t need the girlsplanation. I used the phrase red herring correctly.”

Thanks for that misgendering, it tastes delicious at 5 am. I honestly don’t care which pronouns you pick, I’m just amused how defending rape victims magically makes me a girl.

And no, you didn’t. Red herrings are either irrelevant, or distract from the issue at hand. Discussing how one thing affects two groups makes the affect on either group relevant. Meaning that saying that false rape accusations are not likely // not life shattering // etc is relevant — narrowing the conversation to one group, however, is not a red herring.

Would you like to pick another fallacy? Because basically, what you’re doing is a red herring — claiming that a bunch of issues being brought up are not relevant. At the least, you continue to violate this fallacy —

(shifting the) Burden of proof (see – onus probandi) – I need not prove my claim, you must prove it is false.

We’re all waiting with baited breath for anything resembling a citation regarding how false rape accusations statistically differ from other false accusations — either in frequency of consequence.

“@Argenti *no death-rash fives*”

*high fives*

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

“either in frequency of consequence.” — of = or

Bad left hand, I don’t care how many times you had to press down violin strings, you’re pressing down keys now and you’d best get the proper keys!

BigMomma
BigMomma
11 years ago

@Cassandra…it’s finally dropped below 30 degrees here…and it’s 9.20pm. it’s also humid. Our ceiling fan are going full blast!

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

Is that where he is? Could someone explain how gag orders work then? I’m less familiar with English common law than I should be, and unsure if that’s even the ruling law in Australia.

I’ll take that ice cream, and contradict the claim that ice cream prevents the flu. (Come on cynical one, ask! You’ll get another statistics lesson out of it…)

BigMomma
BigMomma
11 years ago

@cassandra…are those….bitter melon icy poles?

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

@ bigmomma

No, they taste like honeydew melon. Amazingly like it, actually.

thenatfantastic
thenatfantastic
11 years ago

@BigMomma I am so jealous of your Christmas, I hate the cold. I finish my day job today (7 more hours to go…) then on Sunday I’m going to see my family in Yorkshire. So, you know, no dolphin spotting. They’re letting me cook Christmas dinner this year, which should be interesting if nothing else!

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

*just realized something* I sort of do have a bitter recipe — take a cup of tea, black or herbal, I’ve yet to find a combo that doesn’t work, add a shot or two of Irish whiskey, enjoy.

It’s a good kind of bitter though XD

BigMomma
BigMomma
11 years ago

@thenat, originally from Scotland so I am so over being cold. But I gotta tell you, Christmas in the sun with long days…it messes with my head!

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