NOTE: As of April 4, 2014, the original site and its individual profiles have been taken down; a new site with an apparently similar purpose is evidently being built to replace it, but it’s not yet functional. You can see an archived version of the site’s main page, and its list of “bigots” using the Internet Archive’s Wayback Machine, though you’ll need to manually edit the URLs of the “bigots” listed to see the archived profiles. (Replace each %20 in the URLs with an _ .)
Some of the women profiled on the site as “bigots” included:
Actress Katherine Heigl, who was put on the site after making a humorous public service announcement for the site Funny or Die promoting the spaying and neutering of pets. Register-Her charges her with “endors[ing] male targeted sexual mutilation.”
Feminist blogger Jessica Valenti, the author, most recently, of “Why Have Kids?: A New Mom Explores the Truth About Parenting and Happiness,” who was put on the site for several newspaper columns that the site misrepresents in an attempt to show that she is guilty of “an ongoing pattern of anti-male bigotry and advocacy for the eradication of constitutional rights based primarily on sex.” A Voice for Men has also labeled Valenti a “child abuser” for supporting feminist causes, and on one occasion posted candid photos it claimed were of her in an attempt to cause her embarrassment. If you look at the archived version of the site’s main page, you will see a picture of Valenti alongside photos of convicted rapists and murderers, all underneath the headline “Why Aren’t These Women In Prison?” Valenti has not, of course, committed any crimes.
A number of young women who attended a protest against Men’s Rights icon Warren Farrell at the University of Toronto. Register-Her used Twitter Tweets from some of the women, clearly intended as jokes, as evidence of genocidal intentions towards men. In an article on A Voice for Men, an anonymous writer even attacked one of these women for Tweeting a picture of a poster which declared “it is important to have someone’s consent before sexual activity.”
Site founder Paul Elam and other writers on A Voice for Men make no bones about their desire to ruin the lives of their foes. Indeed, the site’s much-referenced slogan is “Fuck Their Shit Up.”
In one post, Elam warned one critic of Register-Her that:
I find you, as a feminist, to be a loathsome, vile piece of human garbage. I find you so pernicious and repugnant that the idea of fucking your shit up gives me an erection. …
[Y]ou fucking moron. Your only real hope is to keep your mouth shut and pretend AVfM and register-her.com does not exist for as long as you can. Because, as you can see right now, anything you say or do will be thrown back in your face like holy water on a vampire.
We are coming for you, and we are coming for all the liars out there that have been ruining people’s lives with impunity. …
You are SO fucked.
Register-Her was clearly a major part of Elam’s program to “Fuck Their Shit Up.” The “registry” was heavily promoted on A Voice for Men, which linked to a number of “featured offenders” in its sidebar – all of them so-called “bigots,” none of them the criminals that Register-Her claims to really be about. A banner ad for Register-Her depicts a bloody knife. The tagline: “TRUTH is the real bitch.”
Elam’s idea of exposing the “truth” seems to involve publishing photographs and the personal information of his targets, whether these are alleged “false accusers” or simply feminists who have offended him. On the A Voice for Men internet radio show, Elam promised that:
If Mary Jane Rottencrotch out there wants to say that her husband beat her just for the sake of gaining leverage in a divorce he will now have a resource where he can come and post your name, your picture, your work telephone number, your address, perhaps even your route you take to get to work, if you bother to have a job.
While Elam has yet to make good on the threat of posting information on women’s routes to work, posts on A Voice for Men promoting the profiles of so-called “bigots” are filled with threatening language and vague intimations that further information will be revealed. In a post announcing the site’s campaign against the University of Toronto protestors, Elam wrote this about one of his targets:
We have her image and know her general location. We will identify her and profile her activity and name for public view.
We will not stop there, or just with her. And while we will not publish our complete intent, we are dogged in our efforts. …
We have no more sympathy for your agenda of hatred and exclusion than for a plantation owner’s rationale in the Antebellum South for justified ownership of another human being.
A Voice for Men’s posts about the targeted women are also filled with bizarre and hyperbolic accusations. In a post about a college student who had jokingly Tweeted that her “political position” was “kill all men hail satan,” and who in another tweet suggested she might get a tattoo reading “misandry,” one of A Voice for Men’s many pseudonynmous “agents” wrote:
She doesn’t just hate men; doesn’t just want them dead or silenced or marginalized or ignored. She at least entertains the idea of permanently marking her skin with that hatred, like a convict signaling gang affiliation.
“Agent Mauve” makes clear that he hopes to ruin the life of the young woman by putting her on Register-Her:
[T]his will be the beginning of [name removed]’s real legacy; where she can revel in the full and permanent notice of her deeds, and the lesson she is providing to the world about the nature of feminism, and the etiology of hatred. And so that anyone who ever does an internet search on her name again will be aware of it.
So far, A Voice for Men’s campaign against the Toronto protesters seems to be having what one can only assume is the desired effect. On A Voice for Men’s Facebook page, a commenter refers to one of the protesters as an “evil twisted little piece of dogshit,” adding: “I hope she suffers a fatal injury before she can go out and ruin peoples’ lives like she seems determined to do.” This comment earned several “likes” from A Voice for Men’s readers.
In the Spring of 2012, Register-Her was profiled by the Southern Poverty Law Center, a civil rights organization that tracks hate groups, as part of a larger feature on the so-called “Men’s Rights” movement. Writing in the SPLC’s Intelligence Report, Arthur Goldwag described Register-Her’s modus operandus and its effect on one targeted woman:
Elam’s site can be frightening to its targets. In one case, he offered a cash reward to the first reader to ferret out a pseudonymous feminist blogger’s real name. In another, Elam singled out a part-time blogger at ChicagoNow who describes herself as a “vegetarian park activist with two baby girls.” The woman’s mistake was to write about her discomfort with male adults helping female toddlers in the bathroom at her daughter’s preschool. The blogger conceded that she was being sexist, but wrote that “I’d rather be wrong than find out if I’m right.”
After the woman was listed, she was widely attacked on men’s movement sites. “I don’t always use the word ‘cunt’ to describe a woman,” one poster raged, “but when I do it’s because of reasons like these.” Shocked, the “Mommy blogger” took down her original post and apologized for her “demonization of men.”
It wasn’t enough. “You targeted fathers, and just fathers,” Elam rebuked her. “It strikes me that you have never really been held to account for any of your actions in life. It is quite likely that the concept of complete, selfless accountability is just completely foreign to you.” Over at the Reddit Mens Rights forum, another poster fumed: “This entire episode should be a warning to all those male hating feminists out there who believe that they are safe screaming their hate messages on the web. Finally, they are held accountable for their hate messages and finally the rest of the world will find out exactly what type of depraved people they really are.”
That’s hate, and that’s precisely the sort of reaction Register-Her seems designed to provoke.
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I encourage readers to link to this piece on their websites, so as to make sure that people understand what Register-Her was really all about.
I’m making dinner for some friends who have a toddler and I need a recipe a ~18mo can (and will) eat on his own. But also something that is awesome because I love cooking and don’t want to just bring macaroni and cheese or something.
Another 38 minutes and I won’t have to be back at work til 29th January next year. bobby dazzler 🙂
Katz: I know less than nothing about what a toddler would eat. Meatballs? Lasagna?
I await registration by the pathetic maleing Paul Elam. If he is foolish enough to go spelunking anytime soon, he will be the sacrifice for my matron’s birthing party; surely he will draw our lady’s favor…
I hope it’s a girl.
@ Hellkell: Meatballs are less messy; Lasagne is too sloppy for wee hands.
Ah, I was right, it was this thread — there’s my longer reply about false rape accusations.
Hm… Most of the toddlers I know won’t eat anything more adventurous than buttered noodles and chicken nuggets, except for one who likes pork adobo. Maybe baked ziti? Chicken quesadillas? Enchiladas with diced zucchini and corn? I think lots of kids like spaghetti and meatballs; fun to play with. All of these could well get messy, but I bet the parents are used to it.
My ex’s nephew stole his mother’s caviar at about that age — I think they’ll eat whatever their parents are eating. Or maybe he just thought the round shiny things looked cool; he kept going back to her for more though, so he must’ve liked it!
Trick seems to be not even suggesting they try it, just eating it around them and enjoying it — curiosity gets the better of most toddlers.
But now I want you to make these, and post pictures. Not great in nutritional value, but kind of adorkable.
Hey, don’t diss spuds. Kept my ancestors alive. 😉
Aww! And bits of potato would totally be toddler-edible, too!
Oooooh! (Clearly, cloudiah was looking for a distraction.) Peanut butter noodles. You could make a batch of the sauce that is only lightly seasoned, and another version for the adults with more ginger & spice — throw in some protein & veggies, and you’re good to go. Even if the kid is picky, they can just pick out the protein and veggies and peanut butter on noodles is pretty nutritious.
Unless they have peanut allergies, in which case you’re a MURDERER. So you might want to ask, lest you end up on register-her as a feminist child murderer.
kitteh, I love spuds. I am scandihoovian by heritage, and we love ALL the white foods: cheese, root vegetables, tuna casserole… XD
::drool::
It was steak and mushrooms with boiled spuds at our place last night. ‘Taters in any form are good!
At that age, mine ate anything he could eat with his hands. So, boiled shrimp until I got tired of peeling them for him, any kind of “fries”, like oven-baked sweet potato fries (he probably would have eaten oven-baked polenta fries if I had known about them.) I would make pad thai and he’d eat the noodles and shrimp or baked tofu cubes with his fingers. I just had to keep the sprouts out (I gave him carrot sticks instead.)
How about toasted ravioli?
Toasted Ravioli
I like to use the oversized, restaurant-style ravioli that you get at warehouse stores like Costco, but any type will do.
18 ounces ravioli
2 cups soft bread crumbs (from 3 slices sandwich bread)
1 teaspoon Italian seasoning (or a blend of basil, oregano, thyme or marjoram)
1 cup marinara sauce
Preheat oven to 450.
Cook ravioli according to package instructions and drain. Combine bread crumbs and Italian seasoning in a shallow pan, such as a pie pan. Coat wet ravioli with bread crumbs. If ravioli gets too dry, just rewet with cool water.
Warm marinara sauce in a small saucepan.
Coat a baking sheet with cooking spray. Place ravioli in a single layer. Spray tops with more cooking spray. Bake for 5 minutes or until bread crumbs are toasted.
Serve with small bowls of marinara for dipping.
Serves 3 or 4 for dinner, more as an appetizer.
This is copied from my blog, by the way.
That sounds yummy, clairedammit. I’m a total non-cook but I’m tempted to try it. Even I could manage that. Probably.
Register-her is wrong.
I must say, however, that the Funny or Die video is wrong, too. How is it funny to talk about cutting off a guy’s balls? Would we defend a video that went on about how hideous labia are, saying it’s “just a joke?”
It’s one of the first things my son learned to make himself, when he was about 12. It’s also something that I nearly always serve houseguests.
He’s ahead of me in cooking skills, then, even if he’d never learned anything else! 😀
Not to derail the derail, but were you wondering how AVfM could “spin” Newtown to blame it on women? Wonder no more. TW for soulless douchebaggery,ableism, and victim blaming. Asshats; they are poopy asshats.
Translation: We have no idea what caused this young man to murder so many people, but obviously the responsible thing to do at this time is to speculate that a woman is behind it.
It’s going to be hard to top the baked potato mice.
Those mice are adorable.
Cloudiah, a woman was involved somehow. It’s obviously her fault. No evidence is needed.
Re: the derail of the derail — can anyone say refrigerator mother theory? Let’s revive decades old (disproven) psych theories and apply them to another type of dysfunction (I haven’t seen anything that says the shooter was mentally ill, besides the usual “must have been to do that”, but shooting up a school is definitely dysfunctional behavior)
And how baked potato mice are adorable — my grandfather used to make dinosaurs out of cut vegetables, but I don’t really know how he did it to explain the method. (Worked though!)
And I stand corrected on “another type of dysfunction” — AVfM is blaming his mother for his (assumed?) ASD and his ASD for his shooting spree. This would’ve been typical misogyny in the 50’s *sigh*
Paul Elam is a soulless motherfucker. So much for accountability and all the other shit he’s so into, that goes right out the window when he can just blame a woman. How misandrist of him.